Cheasystickylov:
but she said 9 weeks naaaaa

Don't mind me. I am just too angry

ontarioache:
Hello all,

A mutual friend has drawn my attention to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/7357845/complex-marital-issue-thoughts-please/15#117128240

MY RESPONSE.
First let me thank our mutual friend Imelda for drawing my attention to this.

Well, I am here to set the record straight.
I did not see any need to respond, but some commentators really got me laughing hard so let me indulge you all.

To kick start, I am in touch with my 2 kids on almost a daily basis, and the event she described is not the first time. Hanging up on me is a routine since we married, it has happened un-countable times. Also the guys that said I am childish are right, when they finish reading they will truly know that, no man will behave the way I have, except a child. Lastly, I am fully responsible for the upkeep of my family, every penny and not much age difference between us. I have never hung up on her for one day. She has even blocked me on phone over some arguments while we live in same house. (LOL)

For the readers, what happened is this :

You called me that you were going to made some budget and you will be spending … amount of money on that plans- you know the plan. I told you it was okay and we kept on talking about It. ( I did not raise any issue immediately to avoid conflict) so after some days, I told you that next time, it will be appropriate that we ought to discuss such plans together and that it was not the best for you to decide all by yourself and only informed me of what you have chosen to do for a decision that affects the both of us. You flared up immediately that I do not have the right to tell you that, and THAT YOU ARE ALONE WITH THE CHILDREN (like you always say) and furthermore, you said you have many things that you are doing at the same time. I then replied you that I also have many things going through my mind. ( I replied you this way because you always say this, anytime I want to have a discussion with you. You even say this even while we were together, and I will just be amazed). You flared up and insulted me then hung up.

I called you immediately many times. I called you again at night, I sent you several messages, although I did not apologize directly but the messages I sent reflected that I was sorry. In one of the messages, I explained that I was critical of the amount you intend to spend , because you do know we have other more pressing plans that we needed funds for, and that what your budgeted was a bit too high. But you refused to let go like you have always done for these 8 years. Every week for 6 weeks I sent you messages that you never replied to.

In this period, you also changed apartment without even deeming it fit to tell me. (Yes I know before this misunderstanding, it was already the plan that you will be changing apartment. But the anger still did not allow you tell me as at when you finally moved to the new apartment, till now, it has been more than 3 months that you moved, you still did not inform me although the children told me about it, you know they did, but I expected that at least you should tell me about it by yourself.)

I did not just stop picking your calls because I wanted to stop, I did it for my self respect and sanity. It is the first time I am refusing to pick your call, or even not to talk to you after 8 years of marriage.

Have I ever held any grudge against you for more than 24hrs ?, have you ever had to apologise more than once on anything without me accepting your apology immediately, that is even if you choose to apologise at all. ? !. Rather you are the one that reminds me at every giving opportunity that I know you can decide not to talk to me again and stay on you own, and that I am the one that will suffer. In precise terms, you always do this, while I was at home. You can stay on for weeks and months without talking to me for the slightest misunderstanding, I am always the one that will try and make peace, and each time you either humiliate me by refusing to make peace till whenever you are satisfied. It has been like this for these 8 years. Even if I want to hold a discussion with you at home, it is either you are busy on the phone, and If I try to ask you to focus you just tell me I should summarize and that you listen with your ears, and not your phone or your hands. However, sometimes ( like 20 per cent of cases) you do listen to me.

Even when the children are being difficult, you threaten them by telling them to go ask their father the kind of person you are, and that you do not tolerate nonsense from anyone.(lol, when I was young, our mothers threathen us with our father) Yes, you are right, I wonder why you are so proud of these difficult attributes of yours.

Recall that before that very day that you hung up on me,( in fact also since the beginning of the union), you have been insulting me on each time I call, If we are discussing and I ask you a question about what you have said, you always say that I don’t pay attention. You accuse me of not caring about how you managed the children alone by yourself. I understand it is hard to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 all by yourself, however like I have always told you, lets thank God, it could have been worse- not having children is hard, having children is also hard.Remember at home, your mother and your sister once said that, I show too much care for the kids and that is the weakness that you are using against me. This is from your own family. Imelda was also there !

I can barely talk to you on phone, each time I call you, you tell me you are busy with the kids, and most times you just ask me to summarise and then you hang up even while we were at home together, you say the same thing.

Recently before this sad event you even said if I do not call before 9.45pm, I can no longer reach you, few times when I have to call like few minutes to your deadline, no matter how important our discussion is, once it s 9.45 pm, the phone disconnects and that will be it.You can not even bend that rule for me. You barely return my calls, if you see my missed calls, sometimes it may take you days and most times you do not return them at all, if I ask, you are quick to say, you are alone managing the children and that your are already too stressed up to be bothered about missed calls.

Much earlier than this incident that you hung up on me, you asked me never to wish you any kind of good wishes like happy birthdays, Christmas, mother’s day and all those. Because you said I do not care that it is all lip service. I thought it was just frustration, but for the last 1 year, you have consistently refused to respond to my Christmas, New Year and even your birthday wishes.You ignored all my wishes!
5 months before that faithful day that you escalated your disdain for me to a whole new level, you talked to me on the phone with reckless abandon, even on my birthday, you managed to call me around 11 pm and your birthday wish to me was this “ I WISH YOU WHAT YOU WISH YOURSELF”, I told you it was not a fair wish, and the next thing, it led to outburst again and that was that, and you hung up.

Remember, you forgot my birthday for the past 3 consecutive years.

Obviously, in the preceding 5 months, you have been looking for what I will do so that you can cut me off, the opportunity came and you took it like a Viking.

How often can a married woman stay without getting in contact with her husband for this long over a matter as simple as that, and she is not bothered at all.

I needed to let go for once. I am tired of fighting for the advancement of this union. It has been 8 years of this gruesome treatment. You think everyone is wrong apart from you.

Please if there is any FALSEHOOD in what I have written, I will be glad that you tell your audience. IMELDA YOUR SISTER IS READING THIS AND SHE CAN TESTIFY TO ALL THESE. Moreover, this is just one small aspect of all that has happened these past 8 years. I just decided to skip a thousand others.I only choose to focus on this alone. You know there are a thousand things that are worse than this that you have done.

I am glad that the vast majority of your audience could not be manipulated by your story.

Maybe I would have just stayed back home in Nairobi 7 years ago, may it could not have been this bad. This is my Canada reality!

I would be a liar if I say it has not been daunting and I do not miss you. However, I have since come to the realization that no matter what , no man should dine in the table where love, respect and dignity are not served ! This is my new reality!

Dear Wife, Enjoy your own reality that you created for yourself and stay blessed...!

Oga for the sake of your kids, please be open to forgiving her. I'm sure with the comments hereunder, she must admit her wrong doing. If she ever shows remorse by apologizing, please forgive her.

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

You better change your bad ways. You are a bad wife I swear, so hard hearted.

Madam, you are troublesome, immature and disrespectful. You hung up on him, ignored him and you're wondering why he isn't taking your calls. He's simply serving you a similar dish but his is better than yours. Grow up and realise that you're a wife, not a girlfriend.

Something tells me this OP is one of the famous "misandrists" calling themselves "feminists" in Nairaland but opened a new account to open this thread.

Her aim was to get encomiun from her comrades here for being "a strong woman" who does not tolerate "nonsense" from men.

ontarioache:
Hello all,

A mutual friend has drawn my attention to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/7357845/complex-marital-issue-thoughts-please/15#117128240

MY RESPONSE.
First let me thank our mutual friend Imelda for drawing my attention to this.

Well, I am here to set the record straight.
I did not see any need to respond, but some commentators really got me laughing hard so let me indulge you all.

To kick start, I am in touch with my 2 kids on almost a daily basis, and the event she described is not the first time. Hanging up on me is a routine since we married, it has happened un-countable times. Also the guys that said I am childish are right, when they finish reading they will truly know that, no man will behave the way I have, except a child. Lastly, I am fully responsible for the upkeep of my family, every penny and not much age difference between us. I have never hung up on her for one day. She has even blocked me on phone over some arguments while we live in same house. (LOL)

For the readers, what happened is this :

You called me that you were going to made some budget and you will be spending … amount of money on that plans- you know the plan. I told you it was okay and we kept on talking about It. ( I did not raise any issue immediately to avoid conflict) so after some days, I told you that next time, it will be appropriate that we ought to discuss such plans together and that it was not the best for you to decide all by yourself and only informed me of what you have chosen to do for a decision that affects the both of us. You flared up immediately that I do not have the right to tell you that, and THAT YOU ARE ALONE WITH THE CHILDREN (like you always say) and furthermore, you said you have many things that you are doing at the same time. I then replied you that I also have many things going through my mind. ( I replied you this way because you always say this, anytime I want to have a discussion with you. You even say this even while we were together, and I will just be amazed). You flared up and insulted me then hung up.

I called you immediately many times. I called you again at night, I sent you several messages, although I did not apologize directly but the messages I sent reflected that I was sorry. In one of the messages, I explained that I was critical of the amount you intend to spend , because you do know we have other more pressing plans that we needed funds for, and that what your budgeted was a bit too high. But you refused to let go like you have always done for these 8 years. Every week for 6 weeks I sent you messages that you never replied to.

In this period, you also changed apartment without even deeming it fit to tell me. (Yes I know before this misunderstanding, it was already the plan that you will be changing apartment. But the anger still did not allow you tell me as at when you finally moved to the new apartment, till now, it has been more than 3 months that you moved, you still did not inform me although the children told me about it, you know they did, but I expected that at least you should tell me about it by yourself.)

I did not just stop picking your calls because I wanted to stop, I did it for my self respect and sanity. It is the first time I am refusing to pick your call, or even not to talk to you after 8 years of marriage.

Have I ever held any grudge against you for more than 24hrs ?, have you ever had to apologise more than once on anything without me accepting your apology immediately, that is even if you choose to apologise at all. ? !. Rather you are the one that reminds me at every giving opportunity that I know you can decide not to talk to me again and stay on you own, and that I am the one that will suffer. In precise terms, you always do this, while I was at home. You can stay on for weeks and months without talking to me for the slightest misunderstanding, I am always the one that will try and make peace, and each time you either humiliate me by refusing to make peace till whenever you are satisfied. It has been like this for these 8 years. Even if I want to hold a discussion with you at home, it is either you are busy on the phone, and If I try to ask you to focus you just tell me I should summarize and that you listen with your ears, and not your phone or your hands. However, sometimes ( like 20 per cent of cases) you do listen to me.

Even when the children are being difficult, you threaten them by telling them to go ask their father the kind of person you are, and that you do not tolerate nonsense from anyone.(lol, when I was young, our mothers threathen us with our father) Yes, you are right, I wonder why you are so proud of these difficult attributes of yours.

Recall that before that very day that you hung up on me,( in fact also since the beginning of the union), you have been insulting me on each time I call, If we are discussing and I ask you a question about what you have said, you always say that I don’t pay attention. You accuse me of not caring about how you managed the children alone by yourself. I understand it is hard to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 all by yourself, however like I have always told you, lets thank God, it could have been worse- not having children is hard, having children is also hard.Remember at home, your mother and your sister once said that, I show too much care for the kids and that is the weakness that you are using against me. This is from your own family. Imelda was also there !

I can barely talk to you on phone, each time I call you, you tell me you are busy with the kids, and most times you just ask me to summarise and then you hang up even while we were at home together, you say the same thing.

Recently before this sad event you even said if I do not call before 9.45pm, I can no longer reach you, few times when I have to call like few minutes to your deadline, no matter how important our discussion is, once it s 9.45 pm, the phone disconnects and that will be it.You can not even bend that rule for me. You barely return my calls, if you see my missed calls, sometimes it may take you days and most times you do not return them at all, if I ask, you are quick to say, you are alone managing the children and that your are already too stressed up to be bothered about missed calls.

Much earlier than this incident that you hung up on me, you asked me never to wish you any kind of good wishes like happy birthdays, Christmas, mother’s day and all those. Because you said I do not care that it is all lip service. I thought it was just frustration, but for the last 1 year, you have consistently refused to respond to my Christmas, New Year and even your birthday wishes.You ignored all my wishes!
5 months before that faithful day that you escalated your disdain for me to a whole new level, you talked to me on the phone with reckless abandon, even on my birthday, you managed to call me around 11 pm and your birthday wish to me was this “ I WISH YOU WHAT YOU WISH YOURSELF”, I told you it was not a fair wish, and the next thing, it led to outburst again and that was that, and you hung up.

Remember, you forgot my birthday for the past 3 consecutive years.

Obviously, in the preceding 5 months, you have been looking for what I will do so that you can cut me off, the opportunity came and you took it like a Viking.

How often can a married woman stay without getting in contact with her husband for this long over a matter as simple as that, and she is not bothered at all.

I needed to let go for once. I am tired of fighting for the advancement of this union. It has been 8 years of this gruesome treatment. You think everyone is wrong apart from you.

Please if there is any FALSEHOOD in what I have written, I will be glad that you tell your audience. IMELDA YOUR SISTER IS READING THIS AND SHE CAN TESTIFY TO ALL THESE. Moreover, this is just one small aspect of all that has happened these past 8 years. I just decided to skip a thousand others.I only choose to focus on this alone. You know there are a thousand things that are worse than this that you have done.

I am glad that the vast majority of your audience could not be manipulated by your story.

Maybe I would have just stayed back home in Nairobi 7 years ago, may it could not have been this bad. This is my Canada reality!

I would be a liar if I say it has not been daunting and I do not miss you. However, I have since come to the realization that no matter what , no man should dine in the table where love, respect and dignity are not served ! This is my new reality!

Dear Wife, Enjoy your own reality that you created for yourself and stay blessed...!

The way you describe her as cold-hearted and disrespectful is shocking. She acts like she truly hates you and that is very deep. But if she were that way when you met her, would you have married her? Except you want us to believe that your wife has gone completely mad, because there is no smoke without fire.

Also, raising young children abroad alone can be very very depressing. Unfortunately, some women also take out that depression on the kids and that’s the sad part, and your wife sounds like she is going through severe depression. No one in their right mind will keep to themselves for 9weeks. That’s a big sign to let you know that something is wrong.

When people act irrationally it’s easy to assume they are evil, when in reality they may be very sick and need mental and emotional support.

You may work hard too, but being responsible for young children all on your own, and working as well is very very difficult. I know because I’ve experienced it. And yes it can lead to depression and a lot of resentment for the spouse.

Your wife is very sad and resentful. She is a very unhappy person and I bet my 10 cents she wasn’t born that way. Being married to you made her into that person.

We all talk about love but the truth is that we know nothing about it. True love is sticking through it, and being there for someone when they are at their worst.

It’s okay if you want to leave her. It’s your life, your decision. But she’ll get better someday, and remember how you let her down in time of need.

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

I think for now you should concentrate on yourself and your kids. Focus on your mental health and happiness.

If I were you, I’ll let the man be for now.

Get yourself in a state where you are sure of what you want. Do you even want to be married and share your life with a man? Or would you rather raise your kids by yourself?

Is the presence of your husband in your life bringing you joy or turning you into a bitter person?

Do you love yourself enough to find the joys in your life, beyond another human being?

Only when you heal and find happiness will you be able to find the joy in raising your children.

Ujujoan2 read Her story and the husband's rebuttal THEN come back to comment with sense

Wande22:
Ujujoan2 read Her story and the husband's rebuttal THEN come back to comment with sense

Hahaha

I hate it when people hide under the guise of mentally down to act anyway they want.

If you suddenly get mentally unbalanced or depressed is it not OK or better to lay it all to your partner instead of making their life hell..

Are you trying to tell me that the husband is against getting nanny or live in help to assist with the kids.

A woman that loves her husband and he is far away will always want to keep in touch.

My brother's wife then if she wants the kids to calm down she will report them to their dad in front of the kids and give the kids phone(video) they can talk for 1hr plus..

She has always been riding that guy from her own narrative but the mad side of it is that that guy knew but kept telling himself she will get better..not knowing that uncomfortable situations only bring out the worst out of bad people

UjuJoan2:


I think for now you should concentrate on yourself and your kids. Focus on your mental health and happiness.

If I were you, I’ll let the man be for now.

Get yourself in a state where you are sure of what you want. Do you even want to be married and share your life with a man? Or would you rather raise your kids by yourself?

Is the presence of your husband in your life bringing you joy or turning you into a bitter person?

Do you love yourself enough to find the joys in your life, beyond another human being?

Only when you heal and find happiness will you be able to find the joy in raising your children.

Please don't scatter their union. Every sensible person will not support how the lady has treated her husband for WHATEVER REASON. She should admit her mistakes, apologise and the man should also be man enough to accept the apology. In fact, he should man up and take the first step of reconciliation.

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

I think both of you went too far in arguing on such minor thing as who does most work in the family. Needless to say that you crossed the redline by dropping the call on him and giving him cold shoulder for 9-weeks even after he tried to reach out for reconciliation. Haba, is this how you dey vex or is there sth else going on. Well the marriage is nearly ruined. This is kind of shooting oneself on the foot. If you still love him, go and get relatives or friends to intervene as I can see he's upto sth.

babajeje123:

Please don't scatter their union. Every sensible person will not support how the lady has treated her husband for WHATEVER REASON. She should admit her mistakes, apologise and the man should also be man enough to accept the apology. In fact, he should man up and take the first step of reconciliation.

Did you not read the husband’s rebuttal? This goes way deeper than the single incident she narrated here. The marriage is dysfunctional and if what her husband says is right, I don’t thinks she loves him or wants to stay married to him.

But society tell us women that there’s something wrong with us if we don’t stay married, even when we are very unhappy in the marriage.

I just want her to be sure that she is staying married for the right reason. For herself and for her happiness.

Xmen149:


Hahaha

I hate it when people hide under the guise of mentally down to act anyway they want.

If you suddenly get mentally unbalanced or depressed is it not OK or better to lay it all to your partner instead of making their life hell..

Are you trying to tell me that the husband is against getting nanny or live in help to assist with the kids.

A woman that loves her husband and he is far away will always want to keep in touch.

My brother's wife then if she wants the kids to calm down she will report them to their dad in front of the kids and give the kids phone(video) they can talk for 1hr plus..

She has always been riding that guy from her own narrative but the mad side of it is that that guy knew but kept telling himself she will get better..not knowing that uncomfortable situations only bring out the worst out of bad people

So you don’t believe that mental health is a serious issue?

From what the husband narrated, do you think a woman acting that way is in her right mind?

Was she riding him before they got married? Why did he marry her in the first place if she was so wicked and mean to him?

Your brother’s wife is very different from this woman. Let’s not go down the road of comparison. Or if you want to do that, remember your brother is not this woman’s husband.

We get what we give, it’s a fact of life!!

UjuJoan2:


So you don’t believe that mental health is a serious issue?

From what the husband narrated, do you think a woman acting that way is in her right mind?

Was she riding him before they got married? Why did he marry her in the first place if she was so wicked and mean to him?

Your brother’s wife is very different from this woman. Let’s not go down the road of comparison. Or if you want to do that, remember your brother is not this woman’s husband.

We get what we give, it’s a fact of life!!

Go through the guys thread you will see she has always had a touch(traces) of this from beginning. The way they say money shows true nature of a man its same for a lady..after a woman feels she has arrived (with kids to show for it ) they will come out fully.

Where that stress part would have made sense is if the couples are so pour they can't afford help or nanny..I know several families that the man of the house goes onshore/offshore,data center turnkey installations (these usually take months upon months) so their wives should now be encouraged to run out of the house?.

See,.i have even been around a lady that was used to having everyone in her house do everything for her,guess what anything she does to her is a stress and she pretty.guess what if that kind of lady marries e don be for the guy.

I even blame guys that says "don't worry she will get better over time" ,"she will learn" "being a mother will make her change " then you jump in..hello! It gets worse when they gain grounds by then it will be much difficult for one to make changes.

I know signs of trauma and depression,this here ain't it,.either that lady has terrible character or she settled for that guy because she couldn't get someone she wants. and that guy must have seen that from start but hanged on..(lolz she probably fine wella,na Na fine girls dey get this kind craze pass..)

UjuJoan2:


The way you describe her as cold-hearted and disrespectful is shocking. She acts like she truly hates you and that is very deep. But if she were that way when you met her, would you have married her? Except you want us to believe that your wife has gone completely mad, because there is no smoke without fire.

Also, raising young children abroad alone can be very very depressing. Unfortunately, some women also take out that depression on the kids and that’s the sad part, and your wife sounds like she is going through severe depression. No one in their right mind will keep to themselves for 9weeks. That’s a big sign to let you know that something is wrong.

When people act irrationally it’s easy to assume they are evil, when in reality they may be very sick and need mental and emotional support.

You may work hard too, but being responsible for young children all on your own, and working as well is very very difficult. I know because I’ve experienced it. And yes it can lead to depression and a lot of resentment for the spouse.

Your wife is very sad and resentful. She is a very unhappy person and I bet my 10 cents she wasn’t born that way. Being married to you made her into that person.

We all talk about love but the truth is that we know nothing about it. True love is sticking through it, and being there for someone when they are at their worst.

It’s okay if you want to leave her. It’s your life, your decision. But she’ll get better someday, and remember how you let her down in time of need.

seems you are not getting the plight of this man. The attitude of his wife is not a out raising the kids alone. She has been like this for the past eight years in the marriage. It's just her attitude and disposition to life.

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