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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by abobote: 1:23pm On Oct 16, 2022
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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Sleekfingers: 1:23pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.


Is marriage mandatory?
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by flakey94: 1:24pm On Oct 16, 2022
How about you just mind your business and let her live her life on her on terms! How do you sit on your high horse and judge her! It's not your place and feel free to destroy your family with your own hands "Mr Man of the house"

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by OgogoroFreak(m): 1:24pm On Oct 16, 2022
Pretend to sight a strand of gray hair on her head. grin

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by nedu2000(m): 1:24pm On Oct 16, 2022
You can do so by not telling her at all, she knows and isn't stupid

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by deavicky(m): 1:25pm On Oct 16, 2022
madridguy:
Since she has a good job with flourishing side business can you dm her number tongue
you are one of the kind of reason she is not married.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by peacettw: 1:25pm On Oct 16, 2022
Very foolish brother

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by casualobserver: 1:26pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Oga no be woman dey marry man, na man dey marry wife. Focus on your own life so you are not dependent on your sister. !!

"As a man in the family" you are being supported by your sister and you have the gall to write this nonsense....what is wrong with the men of today? shame no catch you?

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by phemmyfour: 1:26pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.
Let your sister be and mind your business.

Let me tell you some facts

Not everyone is destined to marry

Not every marriage will be divorce free

Not every couple is destined to have children
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by eseelvis: 1:26pm On Oct 16, 2022
How is that your business
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by voltron14: 1:26pm On Oct 16, 2022
madridguy:
Since she has a good job with flourishing side business can you dm her number tongue

Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Onyii2222(m): 1:27pm On Oct 16, 2022
Her number please.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Honchoslim16(m): 1:27pm On Oct 16, 2022
Nothing so special about Marriage!
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Shawl001(m): 1:27pm On Oct 16, 2022
Do you think you need to remind her? Are you thinking she doesn't know? What if she does know about the situation, but she refused not to allow it dictate the flow of her life. She chose to be "intentially negligent" of it...for the sake of our peace, joy and sanity.
So do you want her to start thinking about it and end up into depression, and other evil vices?
What I will suggest is to consciously start praying for her in that aspect, and see the wonder working power of prayer.

Shalom!

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by SLOVFO(m): 1:27pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.
Since you are a "church man" you would have read about eunuchs. Not all of us will get married. Not all us will have that desire. If your sister belongs to that category, let her be. But then, talk to her and find out her reasons for not been interested in marital relationships. Also, pray for her, in case...na spiritual matter.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by blaise26abj(m): 1:27pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.
You want to beat up your 32 year old elder sister because she is not interested in marriage .? You don’t fully respect your sister just some respect ? Yet she helps you financially .

You are a huge disgrace to manhood . You should be thinking of how to make money and be successful like your sister . You want to be beating her . Shame on you .
I think the story is made up though .

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by deltateam: 1:28pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Don't be silly. Everyone have their path and destiny in life. Let her be.

Marriage is not the ultimate. Don't push her into trailer.

Besides because you have beard you think you can threaten your benefactor abi?

You must be ungrateful.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by shedy03(m): 1:28pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.
She is doing well and do support you, right?
You and your other siblings should get married and give your parents grand children.
Your sister will get married when the time is right.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by SeriouslySense(m): 1:29pm On Oct 16, 2022
You write like a child, as a man of the house you will beat your elder sister to teach her some lessons. grin grin grin

What kind of brain were you given.

Better face you life, you will end up causing problems, why should you be angered by her response. Was it not a honest discussion, or you think she will live her life to please you.
Whenever you are discussing with any person and they are open, don't be a child, by becoming angry by something they said that you do not expect or want, they are not even talking about you, they are talking about their live.

Anyway, what do I know, go ahead and do as you think.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Evilblackman(m): 1:29pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:


Then let her at least take the guys approaching her serious. What is hard in that?

Could be trust issues
Could trauma from former relationships
Could be she’s homosexual
Maybe she’s just a patient person
But who knows what she wants?
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by CheapHomes1: 1:31pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

What is this one even saying?

Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Rubbiish(m): 1:31pm On Oct 16, 2022
Latty88:
I can categorically tell you that your sister has not seen her kind of man that is why you think she is not serious about getting married.

I was like her until I met my man. I squarely focused on my career and other important things that my mum would not let me rest. In fact several people tried to connect me with suitors but I never liked any of them.

You and your mum should just let her be and keep praying for her, when she meet her man Na she go tell una say she wan marry.
When will she meet her man?
How old were u when u met your man?
Once a lady cross 35 yrs, chances becomes slim. When u take her home as a man, ur people will start questioning u about her age.
The older she gets, the slimmer her chances becomes. Op & his mom are just being concerned because it is natural for them to be concerned.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by StrafordSTONES(m): 1:31pm On Oct 16, 2022
A lot of you guys are disrespecting women.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Evilblackman(m): 1:31pm On Oct 16, 2022
patjane:
If only she could see this nonsense you wrote about her.. Seriously are you Alright ?

I swear and he thinks he is making sense
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by emmy091(m): 1:31pm On Oct 16, 2022
Mind your business, I'd say
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by mmsen: 1:31pm On Oct 16, 2022
Why is it your business OP?

Why are you people so obsessed with marriage but nothing that would help support a marriage such as a stable environment?

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Emperor88(m): 1:32pm On Oct 16, 2022
Your elder sister have sense, bigger and better ambition than you. She should marry and become a liability to a husband or become despirate and encounter a wife bitter just because she wants to marry.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Nobody: 1:32pm On Oct 16, 2022
Please for the sake of God don't tell her anything she is an adult and knows what is good for herself.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Evilblackman(m): 1:32pm On Oct 16, 2022
StrafordSTONES:
A lot of you guys are disrespecting women.

You are right
This whole thread degrades women
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by dohyn(m): 1:32pm On Oct 16, 2022
Who the Bleep is this idiot?

Threatening to beat his sister because she's not married? I swear some sperms should have ended up in the condom..

He's even not ashamed to say she still caters for him financially. Idiot
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by maziude: 1:32pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

That’s how you folks push people to their early deaths all in the name of ‘they must marry’.

This myopic and archaic behaviour needs to stop and change.

Leave people and let them live their life as they deem fit.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by ugodson(m): 1:32pm On Oct 16, 2022
[quote author=IntelChief post=117589065]My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.[/quote

From your write up, u sound worried which is normal, but ur sister knows time is going but she herself doesn't like it. If she is currently dating she cant bring d guy home until she is sure to a point, than introducing him to the family and some months later they breakup would u like her to get into marriage and leave in a couple of years?

To answer your question, how can you tell her? There is no way you can tell her that it wont sound like an insult take my word for it. Let her be! (NA YOUR ELDER SISTER SHE BE NOT YOUNGER)

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