OP, your heart is in a good place. Do not allow people put you down for your past life choices. At 35, the man should have been more circumspect since the burden of circumspection is more on him than you at just 19!
My advice to you on this is not to help her anonymously as it might not get to her considering economic situation in this country. Even if it does, it might not be as life-changing as you intended it to be as a lot of it can be withheld.
So, I would advice you to contact her directly and tell her your intention. If she rejects, move on with your life and face your family. If she accepts, then you can go ahead and help out. To tell you the truth, considering her situation you painted, there is no snowball's chance in hell that she will reject your generosity. Poverty has a way of resetting people's high horse meter back to default settings.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please[/quote] i dont think how you do it really matters since she is urgently in need!disclosing your identity may be risky though!mixreactions on the motive may not be in your favor!do it anonymously since you dont want to be paid back!!

mariahAngel:


Honestly!

Chineke e kwela ka onye ozo nyetu'm na ihe kwesiri I wu ihe'm.

Hot prayer .

Ike gwuru o.

Her karma is still on the way..The man don collect his sha..
The thing is, if the said wife is pure, OP'S karma should have happened quick quick..If she isn't, the Karma will delay..But must happen.

And the now husband would be thinking he found a good wife ? hmmmm what a 304 lifestyle

Carcholce:


See what you did here, Women are very crafty. See the way you condemned the man and removed the OP from every faults. What will you teach your daughters?

At 19 She was more than matured to turn down the “married” man’s advances but She accepted to ruin his home, used him to travel abroad and eventually contributed to his death.

Yes o, she has already started by using the current husband funds to finance her sugar daddy's family and the music goes on, WOMEN

Carcholce:


The man is dead, he has already faced condemnation for his wrong life choices.


But the OP here must have subjected the man to make the poor choices that one way or the other must have led to the man’s demise. The question and condemnation should be directed at the OP because many years have passed and who knows how many more married men are going to die in the near future because of her.

Bridget95:
You have a good heart. Do it and all your sins will be forgiven.

I love you .

lol

Munzy14:

Hot prayer .

Ike gwuru o.

Her karma is still on the way ..The man don collect his sha..
The thing is, if the said wife is pure, OP'S karma should have happened quick quick..If she isn't, the Karma will delay..But must happen.

My mum would say "Chineke e kwela ihe'm wuru ihe onye ozo"

There must be a reason why she's looking to make amends.
O gahu a gbalaha ya.

Omo. Some men dey really mumu o. Kai.

She won't reject it even if she knows it's coming from you. We are Africans, our pride no reach that side

FuckTheMod:

The truth is bitter and your conscience will always judge you.
In whatever you do in this life,
DON'T BE STUPÍD!
DON'T BE A WHÓRE! If you're one already, embrace or wait for your retributions and stop being wayward.
A girl who decides to be a whóre, slǔt and sleep around is not hurting any man but HERSELF, her parents. Especially her FATHER and future children.

SHe dated a man makes her a whor’e and a slut You are just STUP!D
The one you are dating is not a whor*o and slu”t
, if a girl tell you marriage before sex you will still call her stup!d and she open leg for your broke ass you still call her a whor’e and a slut.
She choose to use her stupidity wisely and you are condemning her. Hypocrite Everywhere
You will soon join bob risky

mariahAngel:


My mum would say "Chineke e kwela ihe'm wuru ihe onye ozo"

There must be a reason why she's looking to make amends.
O gahu a gbalaha ya.

Hahahahaha as in eeh..

O ga enwe rila ihe o ji na monitor the family..Ujo ga ju zi ya..

O napuru nwaanyi ibe ya nri ya
Ihe nke ya no na uzo abia ga sha..

Ma o na emehu ya na ndu, ya eme ya na onwu..Idi sure na oburu hu ego Nwoke ahu gbaala Europe sef..

Pray to God for forgiveness cuz you cause him not to support his family financially though he get his fault too but he already use death senior you...

Don't forget if you help the wife no reward for you


Peace ✌️

Please do my dear sister. May God reward you.

It's like i know you in ilorin. That man had Toyota. You both fought over your phone. If yes, remember you called me to report him that day asking me to intervene.
Anyways both of you were guilty but he was more.
I wonder how he'll expect you marry him even when you witness what he was doing to his family.
Probably if he'd been sincere and shown you how good he could ever be to his wife, you might have considered that.

Anyways, help the family anonymously but after they are through, make sure you tell her it's from you. You might find forgiveness from there.

Munzy14:

Hahahahaha as in eeh..

O ga enwe rila ihe o ji na monitor the family..Ujo ga ju zi ya..

O napuru nwaanyi ibe ya nri ya
Ihe nke ya no na uzo abia ga sha..

Ma o na emehu ya na ndu, ya eme ya na onwu..Idi sure na oburu hu ego Nwoke ahu gbaala Europe sef..

Ihe m ma wu na onye gbaroo mmiri mmadu ibe ya, onye ozo ga a gbaroo nke ya.

Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

it's a good thing to give back,God bless you as you render the help back

mariahAngel:


Ihe m ma wu na onye gbaroo mmiri mmadu ibe ya, onye ozo ga a gbaroo nke ya.

Ofor na ogu ka ndi mama..

Ihuru gi eeh

Munzy14:



Ofor na ogu ka ndi mama..

Ihuru gi eeh

Op e deactivatiala sef.

mariahAngel:


Op e deactivatiala sef.

Reminds me of that funny song shey you they whine mi ni...

She can't run from karma...Same with guys banging married ladies..

Sacrilege

sihamey:

SHe dated a man makes her a whor’e and a slut You are just STUP!D
The one you are dating is not a whor*o and slu”t
, if a girl tell you marriage before sex you will still call her stup!d and she open leg you for your broke ass you still call her a whor’e and a slut.
She choose to use her stupidity wisely and you are condemning her. Hypocrite Everywhere
You will soon join bob risky

You're just plainly stup !d and I perceive you to be a damaged, frustrated and pained SL*T.
SHE DIDN'T JUST DATE A MAN, SHE DATED A MARRIED MAN!

What's your problem?
What is your bodycount?
ARE YOU PROUD OF YOUR BODYCOUNT?

How many married men have you dated too?
Do you want to get married and enjoy your husband to yourself after dating married men? DO YOU DESERVE LOYALTY, COMMITMENT AND FIDELITY? Judge yourself e-diot. You want to date a clean and decent person, when you're not one. In which world does that happen?

For your stupid question about no sex before marriage, HOW'S THAT A BIG DEAL AND WHAT'S THE PROBLEM WITH THAT?
Even if you've lost count of your bodycount, won't you like your daughter (s) to marry as a virgin?
The problem with most of you that usually request this no sex before marriage is that, most of you are slǔts and whóres and have fucƙed your life away with numerous men. While you ask one to wait for you until marriage, you'll secretly be engaging others in the same sex you lied you don't want. Many guys have learnt their lessons this way and that's why most won't agree to such terms. IF YOU'RE NOT A VIRGIN, YOU DON'T HAVE A RIGHT TO ASK FOR NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Not being a virgin before marriage means that you're a SLÚT (except in the case of rape). A SLÚT does not deserve any respect, because you lost that already.
In every culture around the world, sexual purity is very important. Even in christaindoom. This is why you have reverend fathers and mothers.
EVEN GOD DOESN'T LIKE FILTH. THIS IS WHY HE CHOSE MARY, A VIRGIN TO BIRTH JESUS, AND NOT A WHÓRE.

Munzy14:

Reminds me of that funny song shey you they whine mi ni ...

She can't run from karma...Same with guys banging married ladies..

Sacrilege

Oh my god!
So damn funny!

maasoap:


Chill. The man is not alive anymore, not like anyone is taking side with him.
The man was silly. We're only trying here to downplay his foolishness and stupidity. Lol

i was talking as in general not direct to the dead man

FuckTheMod:

You're just plainly stup !d and I perceive you to be a damaged, frustrated and pained SL*T.
SHE DIDN'T JUST DATE A MAN, SHE DATED A MARRIED MAN!

What's your problem?
What is your bodycount?
ARE YOU PROUD OF YOUR BODYCOUNT?

How many married men have you dated too?
Do you want to get married and enjoy your husband to yourself after dating married men? DO YOU DESERVE LOYALTY, COMMITMENT AND FIDELITY? Judge yourself e-diot. You want to date a clean and decent person, when you're not one. In which world does that happen?

For your stupid question about no sex before marriage, HOW'S THAT A BIG DEAL AND WHAT'S THE PROBLEM WITH THAT?
Even if you've lost count of your bodycount, won't you like your daughter (s) to marry as a virgin?
The problem with most of you that usually request this no sex before marriage is that, most of you are slǔts and whóres and have fucƙed your life away with numerous men. While you ask one to wait for you until marriage, you'll secretly be engaging others in the same sex you lied you don't want. Many guys have learnt their lessons this way and that's why most won't agree to such terms. IF YOU'RE NOT A VIRGIN, YOU DON'T HAVE A RIGHT TO ASK FOR NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Not being a virgin before marriage means that you're a SLÚT (except in the case of rape). A SLÚT does not deserve any respect, because you lost that already.
In every culture around the world, sexual purity is very important. Even in christaindoom. This is why you have reverend fathers and mothers.
EVEN GOD DOESN'T LIKE FILTH. THIS IS WHY HE CHOSE MARY, A VIRGIN TO BIRTH JESUS, AND NOT A WHÓRE.

All I can see is nothing but TRASH

Carcholce:
.
You must have contributed to what killed him.
.

You are not a man of peace

The bitch give am heart attack

May you remain blessed for remembering his family.
We all fall short as human beings, no one is perfect.

Yes

Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

Invariably, you cannot go to your grave in peace without paying the debts you owe that man. You were a wicked soul. If you help his children you stand a chance of escaping retribution. The best help you can offer yourself is to help his children (better anonymously, lest you gain glory for the "help" and forfeit your liberation)

Kobicove:


Seun, I think you need to create an "Unlike" button for comments like this!

Yes please.

it seems I know you.

Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

You contribute to his death..... instead of you to continue communicating with him when you get Europe, you cut all means of communication with him you're a wicked soul. Moreover, your sister is a friend to your late sugar daddy wife..... your sister is also wicked family friend to the late man. It's a very very big lesson.

deavicky:
why can't you see that a 35 years old married man deceived her

This is not a good reason for her to date a married man, and a husband of her sister's close friend.

I am also sure the man was not her only toaster then when she was 19 and she must have rejected some men and accepted some then.

Why did she accept the 35 years old married man of her sister's close friend and rejected some other men?

If other side-Chicks atleast have this kinda of small Conscience to even think of helping at the first place the world will be a better place to live. Help them Anonymously, they will know later.
God's ways is really not our ways