JASONjnr:
I don't know how you go about it...Bit I've never started a conversation with a lady I like and have interest for, without asking her of she's in any relationship....

If she said yes....I stop the communication



Is she said, the guy isn't serious and she's holding on to break up... I will equally stop communication.

But if she said No...I will write out my intentions, I mean, I will speak it out. She will have to accept me or say reject me...

I will not give room to, "Let's be friends first"....

I just want to be serious and if you can't be serious, then we have to move on.

OP, you devout so much time and attention to get a woman.And you consider so many rules. If she asked you, if you have money to spend on her head...That wasn't supposed to be a turn off....Ask her how much and check your pockets...

If you're not financially strong, why going to look for ladies that's as pretty as Rita Dominic....Abi you no see girls weh resemble James Brown?

You do not understand... There are some things you should not say or do when you are just getting to meet someone. Well, I am broke and I even borrowed money to buy data to come online

Kobojunkie:
1. You are kidding, right?

2. Some of you are truly resistant to learning. So at your age, you think the only way you can learn anything about a woman or even a man is only when you are in a relationship with her or him?

You have not realized at this age of yours that your can assess a person past the physical attributes before deciding whether to even engage such a being or not? You don't know that you can look around that person ...at relationships around them to learn some substantial information about their makeup and personality? You think it is only when you directly interact and engage the person that you learn what, truth? ...LOL.....

do you get paid for trying to be correct all the time, or is this just a bad habit? Shey dem dey pay you ni? Must you be correct all the time?? Nawa o.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are kidding, right?

2. Some of you are truly resistant to learning. So at your age, you think the only way you can learn anything about a woman or even a man is only when you are in a relationship with her or him?

You have not realized at this age of yours that your can assess a person past the physical attributes before deciding whether to even engage such a being or not? You don't know that you can look around that person ...at relationships around them to learn some substantial information about their makeup and personality? You think it is only when you directly interact and engage the person that you learn what, truth? ...LOL.....

My assessment beyond their physical attribute is why I decided to leave them alone. If an adult doesn't know how to be decent in their engagement, I can't help them.

You fail to realize that an average Nigerian woman have been spoilt to the point they do not often know when they misbehave because men like you will be there to tolerate their rubbish.

Tenrack:
do you get paid for trying to be correct all the time, or is this just a bad habit? Shey dem dey pay you ni? Must you be correct all the time?? Nawa o.

oh, na so him dey do? wahala

AbujaMenFashion:

Chairman is attracted to big nyash, popping skin, and big breast

wrong...

Mercury12:

You don't even know lady 1 enough to judge her the way you just did though lol. . .

Yes, I do not but I could infer she is unstable based on a few tweets on her status. The same person who talked about not liking calls or chats, complained that sometimes her phone would ring for some days and some other times, she does not get any calls. Do you see the problem?

Always pay attention to how someone treat other people.... very very important.

DaddyCK:



so you be GAY....corrřrrect? (no oofencsse)

Why are you this dumb?
This one you go about asking random people if they're gay, you must be a hardened gay.

You're justified for the number 2 and 3 ladies ...you see the first one, you take the blame.

People have rules regarding the general populace ...people have exceptions to those rules also. You should have found out whether you're an exception to her rule of no calling, no WhatsApp etc.

IMO, the lady is trying to protect herself (men can be beastly when chasing women at time). You see the second lady, she's looking for food, the third one is looking for a tool. Both of them are manipulators.

traihit:
You're justified for the number 2 and 3 ladies ...you see the first one, you take the blame.

People have rules regarding the general populace ...people have exceptions to those rules also. You should have found out whether you're an exception to her rule of no calling, no WhatsApp etc.

IMO, the lady is trying to protect herself (men can be beastly when chasing women at time). You see the second lady, she's looking for food, the third one is looking for a tool. Both of them are manipulators.

hmmmm I was just trying to save myself as well bro. I do not want insults on my person at this stage of my life.

Why do y'all pay this much attention to relationship shit and all?
For ffucks sake, focus on yourself, go to work, come back watch soccer or hangout with responsible guys then come home smoke a joint or two

bestdudes:


Yes, I do not but I could infer she is unstable based on a few tweets on her status. The same person who talked about not liking calls or chats, complained that sometimes her phone would ring for some days and some other times, she does not get any calls. Do you see the problem?

Always pay attention to how someone treat other people.... very very important.

Some people don't like calls and chat especially if it coming from people they not very close to.
You could had at least get a date for a face to face type of conversation. Multiple time out together in real world. That is how you know people ...
But if she is not returning your calls or agree on a date with you then I guess its safe to say she ain't really into you and it is also okay for you to move on to the next

bestdudes:
oh, na so him dey do? wahala

nawa o. Be like dem dey pay am to argue on Nairaland. Tsk

akwesenana:
Why do y'all pay this much attention to relationship shit and all?
For ffucks sake, focus on yourself, go to work, come back watch soccer or hangout with responsible guys then come home smoke a joint or two

I love you for this. No homo.

.

Mercury12:

Some people don't like calls and chat especially if it coming from people they not very close to.
You could had at least get a date for a face to face type of conversation. Multiple time out together in real world. That is how you know people ...
But if she is not returning your calls or agree on a date with you then I guess its safe to say she ain't really into you and it is also okay for you to move on to the next

Thanks.

akwesenana:
Why do y'all pay this much attention to relationship shit and all?
For ffucks sake, focus on yourself, go to work, come back watch soccer or hangout with responsible guys then come home smoke a joint or two

Been doing that since the beginning of the year and I have been heavily rewarded.

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This is why I prefer local dating to, online dating

Someone within your neighborhood, church, mosque, bustop, grocery store around, work place, local mall

You can’t Walk Away from this One

WantsandMore:
I observe you didn't bother to confirm their age, rookie mistake and ought to up game fam. The reason most women go out with men who do not have their interests is because those men have got game & it has nothing to do with with wether or not dey got Ego as in kudi. You have to be ruthless sarcastic when it comes to speaking with women, cos women are always in their imagination & you have to find a way to stimulate that imagination to suite your agenda, call it manipulation or whatever, everyone consciously and unconsciously do it. You have to find balance between humor, been serious and sarcasm with women. That way, you flow to whatever tide you want. Personally, I have turned down proposals from women who aren't virgins and have a body count beyond 5,cos in my experience dey turn out to be emotionally and psychologically unstable in the long run.

how you take get proposals from women, what’s the secret

Kobojunkie:
All this writeup here is give us a glimpse into your ability to reason the world around you and the kind of relationships you get yourself into.

Those girls are not your problem at all. You are and you should look into yourself to realize why these are the kind of people you continue to attract even at your age.

People like you are the enemies of women. You want to blame the OP for the razz attitudes of the ladies.

this Op. that posted ..... going through all his write-up it's shows he doesn't have patients concerning women .....

when I was 17yrs some senior bros where discussing and I overheard them saying to get a responsible lady or woman ,, you have to make ur self responsible ,,,,,,,, since then I stamped it in my heart to live my life with that mentality

Well my biggest problem now is how to expand my business

In all these, where is your seriousness

R

NO ONE WANTS TO KNOW WHY

All these fake story writers sef..

You sound like you are doing them a favor by trying to get in a relationship with them, have you considered the possibilities that you don’t meet their expectations?

Just because she’s single doesn’t mean she needs a man to fill her lonely space, some ladies actually do prefer being single.

Ladies need to understand that not all men have the courage to talk to a lady so when a man do approach you be polite and friendly, even if you want to turn him down do it subtly, also men should note that nature treated us just, there's no clock ticking for any man to get hitched, with or without finances there's always a lady out there for us, even when you old die with money you can marry a young pretty girl of 19-20. FACT


I Agree with you OP there's no way a decent guy hasn't approached a lady by 30

What were you thinking going for Twitter girls I can't advice even my enemy to pick date there. Most of them are clouded with attention. As you dm, so are other guys doing the same.

If you want to meet a reasonable girl, look into professional places, someone with value not a tramp on social media.

bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

From your write-up, I could deduce that you don't drive or own a car, and that's one of the first thing that matters to an average Nigerian girl.
You even get mind dey approach girls from Twitter... Most girls that are active on those advance social media are mostly runs girls, very rude and very wayward.

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