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Yoighaman:
Bro.

Sure you weren't the backup plan?

Never trust this gender o.

I like the OP's style though, no time to check time.

Lol don't stress yourself. That Poster Is definitely Mr Simpson. Mumu too plenty among Men when It comes to Women Matter. It's very easy to Spot them. Generally Most Nigerian Men have Scarcity Of Women Mentality.

My fellow Men dey tell me something, I no dey ever believe 100% but Na "Female Gender wey be say to them Tellings LIES and FAKE LIFE Is like Absolute Truth and Right Thing" na hin I go come believe

He will definitely learn as time goes on..

xxxtedyxxx:
Op..you are the problem.

Most of your Convo is too logical. You don't do logical with women.

Go emotional and act like a boyfriend from day one...even from Twitter.

Peace

bestdudes:
My assessment beyond their physical attribute is why I decided to leave them alone. If an adult doesn't know how to be decent in their engagement, I can't help them.

You fail to realize that an average Nigerian woman have been spoilt to the point they do not often know when they misbehave because men like you will be there to tolerate their rubbish.

Kobojunkie:
1. Do you collect numbers strangers in order that you remain strangers even as you chat/call each other?
2. Observation has more than proven a better way of learning about anyone as rather than feed on the lies the person tells you, you can instead Observe that person's actual real life interactions with their environment and neighbors to get an idea of who they really are and what they truly stand for.

ArcFresky:
Not all contacts are for romantic relationships…

You are right about Observation,

2Radii:
That kobojunkie of a woman is a damaged feminist, u dont need to reply her.


Even as cool as ur story sounded, if u had talk that one of the ladies physically attacked u and gave u a deep cut without you touching her, she would claim u were at fault that why would you greet her, that it was the greetings that infuriated her to cut u cutlass.

Initially I use to take whoever Is behind that Moniker Kobojikie or whatever serious. Not until I realize the person has Mental Issues

I started avoiding the person since that day..

bestdudes:
Sorry but the thread is about basic human decency and basic human interactions. These girls lacked it. They lack courtesy and that is why I pulled out.

I am aware that nobody is perfect and I can manage some things but what I can't stand is when an adult lack basic human decency...

dmgr:
The boss has spoken

Omoh i remember your thread that year

Basalt:
I think I am going to adopt this method. I was chatting with a very pretty girl I met on Facebook and somehow got attracted to her. We moved from Facebook to Whatsapp, then she told me of her birthday coming up and complained earlier that her phone was very bad and she might take it to the repairer and might not pick my calls incase she was not with the phone. I was planning on how to surprise her with a brand new samsung phone on her birthday (she uses Techno and it hangs alot).
Then few days to the birthday, I saw her upload a handsome guy on her status and wished him happy birthday with kisses and love emoji (something she never used for me), I jokinly asked her if the guy is her boyfriend and she said YES.
I started withdrawing myself and the communication died off. That was how I wasted my time for 6 months.
I need to start being direct and more straightforward about my intentions.
Honestly, I fell in love with this girl and even planning of marrying her not knowing that she has a boyfriend.

bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

Aaaaarghmed:
From experience..most pretty Naija ladies want you to worship them.They are no even good communicator and expect you to always bring topic,they want a man with good sense of humor but they are sadists.ive met ladies from Zambia,Botswana and some Afrincan countries and it was really fun talking and dating them.Their Beauty and level of intelligence is top notch.If I japa..I will not touch A Naija lady with a 20feet pole.The want to feel in charge always.Am too stubborn for them.lol

Calibrator:
Nobody The Female Gender are never single..... You are still naive in the ways of the dating world.

Kobojunkie:
I strive to be correct all the times because foolishness is not an option for me.

Tenrack:
continue.

Zonefree:
The 3rd lady discarded you after getting information about digital marketing and social media marketing free from you. That's where you loose-guard.

You don't give your intellectual property free to people, not to Nigerian girls.

Kobojunkie:
Even without your urgings of course.

Kobojunkie:
Here's reality ... those very same woman OP rejected are likely to be accepted by some other persons out there. The world, especially that of women, does not revolve around you because you have a dick. Learn this and obtain wisdom.

Aaaaarghmed:
I met a lady on fb ,we dey talk and I asked her what she studied,she said the question is unnecessary that wether I wan give her job.I just blocked her immidiately abeg,I cant shout.

HilcomTech:
I'm not responsible for your inability to keep a man. So take your BITTER&FRUSTRATED self elsewhere.
SIMPS may lick the feet of those razz women but the OP is not under any obligation to take their crap hence the reason why he dumped them into the waste bin where they rightly belong.

Kobojunkie:
Now you are just rambling.... let me leave you to it then!

charleoj:
@bestdudes You seem like a good guy and the three ladies seemed like good ones too. Good Girls don't like Good Guys. They like guys that will treat them like thrash. And Vice versa

jeromestarks:
Mumu Op. Instead of you to all go straight to your point.
Hi girl, you look beautiful.
*Thank you.

Where do u live?
* (She says location or blah blah blah)

I really like the way you look. I will would like to date u.
*Ok ( you go ahead and ask for number. Don't do unnecessary call. Call only to arrange location for meeting)

And if she's gave excuse, ask her if u can be FWB.
If she said No. leave her.
If she said Yes. Arrange with her and fvck her.

No time for long story.
You dey dey form man in suit. Ewu like you.

Ijb11:
Only a simp man will take girls of those age range serious seriously

Those girls of those age range are immature look for a lady whose eyes have seen hell you will never regret it

xxxtedyxxx:
Op..you are the problem.

Most of your Convo is too logical. You don't do logical with women.

Go emotional and act like a boyfriend from day one...even from Twitter.

Peace

Princess80:
No entirely true.

Appreciating someone's beauty is enough to brighten up their day and get u a cheap score for a date.

Except the lady needs your validation for a job, You cant treat her like an asshole and still get royal treatment.
Ladies are naturally drawn to circumstances which makes them feel comfortable

BRATISLAVA:
Lol.
Sometimes you're like this

lastburn:
All this only apply to 9ja girls or women! You need to leave that country to realize that ladies are different everywhere else but 9ja. I swear!!!!!!

BRATISLAVA:
Your first paragraph is the true heart of your needless thread.

Did you think all 3 of them didn't notice you're a misogynist? A lot of you actually think that gender can't judge you accurately and see through you. Later on, you turn around and look for how to vilify them in long half-cocked threads.

Kobojunkie:
I am an introverted soul from time to time myself and I have not called more than 2 people on the phone since the beginning of 2022. I don't chat either yet I am on Nairaland forum much of the time. We are all of us different for good reasons.