| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by livinbygrace: 2:03pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
ogunsbanjul:
Please don't commit sucuide because she will marry another man and both will make mockery of you when you die. Instead consult her family, reveal everything to them if the parents are still alive and if not seek for divorce and live you life. More importantly seek for spiritual solution by going for MFM deliverance in prayer city at Mowe Lagos/Ibadan express way which holds on every week starting from 7:00 a.m on Mondays to Fridays (please don't eat or drink while embarking on the programme). You will give thank to God after doing that bro. Person talk say him wife no Dey give free am Bleep You say make he go pray for MfM,which kind advise be this Na ? |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by na2016: 2:04pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
AntiWailer:
Calm down. Sit her down and talk to her.
Let her know how frustrated you are about this, Give instances and what your expectations were.
Hear her out too and try to work things out. As for sex drive, it is normal ladies lose their sex drive because of several factors. Just sit her down and hear her out.
Let divorce be last option, suicide is not an option at all.
This doesn't work. Some women are just terrible nowadays only wants to slay. 1 Like |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Nonexisting1: 2:04pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Is there any law that says you must remain married? I don't understand this nonsense. Oya go and commint suicide make we rest. Mtchew |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Denko2721987(m): 2:06pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Moh247:
Na wa oo, there is always a way out, don't let her fustrate you...
While you have it at the back of your mind that divorce is inevitable in the nearest future, due to incompatibility
Limit your investment on her, both emotional and financial... Just see her like a room mate, or someone under your care
Try and avoid having kids or more kids, infact deliberately push for a family planning, so that in case of divorce, the billing won't wreck you
Ditch your wedding ring when you are out of the house and start looking for a younger side chick., You'd be amazed at how young girls love married men .
The intresting part is side chick are cheaper than all this lability housewife, and they are always humble and caring, because they hope to get married to you some day and turn monster like your wife.
A low budget small girl side chick with just 10k weekly and some urgent 2k, would knack you, cook for you and practically adore you
Once your wife start noticing you are more lively and less miserable, you are chatting all through the night with your side chick and you are looking good, she would panic and have a change of heart
Ohh!! And remember Polygamy is perfectly normal in Africa, the white man only decieved you with the idea of one man one woman just to turn you to simp and also turn you to Bobrisky
. Oh boy, you're a real Gee abeg.. I wish I fit buy you better chilled beer now.. Op shey u done see and take this advice  If you like they there make pant they wear you.. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by OkoRemi2023(m): 2:07pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
please feel free to commit suicide, I hate to see timid and coward men in the society
see as a lady you paid her Bride price hijack your Ctrl and you're here crying like a sissy, dumb fúck
no lady can even try any shit with me because I dey give problem wahala myself
motherfúcker Op, mumu boy in Man's look |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by GlobTrotter: 2:09pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Moh247:
Na wa oo, there is always a way out, don't let her fustrate you...
While you have it at the back of your mind that divorce is inevitable in the nearest future, due to incompatibility
Limit your investment on her, both emotional and financial... Just see her like a room mate, or someone under your care
Try and avoid having kids or more kids, infact deliberately push for a family planning, so that in case of divorce, the billing won't wreck you
Ditch your wedding ring when you are out of the house and start looking for a younger side chick., You'd be amazed at how young girls love married men .
The intresting part is side chick are cheaper than all this lability housewife, and they are always humble and caring, because they hope to get married to you some day and turn monster like your wife.
A low budget small girl side chick with just 10k weekly and some urgent 2k, would knack you, cook for you and practically adore you
Once your wife start noticing you are more lively and less miserable, you are chatting all through the night with your side chick and you are looking good, she would panic and have a change of heart
Ohh!! And remember Polygamy is perfectly normal in Africa, the white man only decieved you with the idea of one man one woman just to turn you to simp and also turn you to Bobrisky
. haba, all these advise of doom for a small issue. Every marriage goes through this sometimes. Abeg grow up if everyone should throw away their marriage because if small issues, no one would be married 1 Like |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Premiumwriter: 2:09pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.
Suicide for freedom Or divorce for freedom? Please, married no be do or die affair. If you can no longer bear it, seek for divorce. Life will go on. Please don't talk about suicide. Life is more important than anything |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by LaSenior: 2:09pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Chai 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by aspabay(m): 2:10pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
You made a mistake, agreed.
Now it is time to own up and correct your mistake.
Do everything to make your marriage work.
It will require forgiveness, forbearance, sacrifice and building lots of love. 1 Like |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Piptocoin: 2:13pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Octopusssy:
They are all over my mentions giving me reasons why it is not important to pray well before choosing a spouse, and I'm ignoring all of them. They think they are wise, but are actually the opposite. hahahaha...am sorry, but, the bolded...it's so funny. Like seriously? Quite true that folks like this are real but it is still almost difficult to believe people reason like this...that it is not important to ask God to know whether an intending union has His approval. The God who created every soul on earth. Please keep ignoring them. Your question is the very foundation of stability and durability or their absence in any marriage. Their attacking you is blatant display of ignorance....as clear as day. 2 Likes |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by BreconHills(m): 2:13pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Octopusssy:
Did you consult God when you chose your life partner? Sister it is not easy to consult God for a life partner when consulting him has not been a life style. How do you want to hear? If you hear how do you distinguish between your desires and God? Outside of Eve there are very few examples of God giving clear instruction on who to marry. What is more common is recognizing divine providence and knowing how he is connecting the dots. And when you get it, flow with it. In any case there are so many variables in marriage that I suspect God is more likely to point one towards the principles laid out in his word. There is no magic bullet and that's from someone who has been happily married for over sixteen years. We are so unlike. I like reading, she likes doing, I come from oldish money, she is from a very very modest family, difference of age is at least 12 years. Our friends and background are completely different - she CAC pray till you drop, me i take God at his work and rest. I used to like outgoing women, she is quiet conservative. Yet we have been so happy together though we still cannot understand why we did it! But when I prayed God did not tell me to marry her - he only told me to put him first in all I do. Five children later, she is utterly precious to me. But maybe others are far more spiritual than me to hear God. Its a distinct possibility. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by jeromestarks: 2:13pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.
Hahahaha! Who send you to marry? Divorce her shapaly. |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by kingsleyabu(m): 2:13pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
We are too judgmental in this country and nairaland king of them all.
If you want to be a very good judge listen from both side of the story. This is a single part of it.
Have we heard of the wife.
It is possible he is at fault. 1 Like |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Dudeforall(f): 2:14pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
It is not all men claiming to be pastors that are real men of God, fake pastors plenty pass real pastors. Even if he's a real pastor, that doesn't automatically mean he consulted God before choosing his partner, some pastors choose wives because of beauty, because she sings well, because she's active in church activities etc. Pastors are human too, they are bound to make mistakes. ibechris:
God is the one choosing wives for Nigerians right?
Haven't u seen pastors beating and battering their wives...shall we now say they too didn't consult God too?
On the issue of marriage,most men and women are overwhelmed by nonsense love and failed to look out for things that matters.
A bad marriage is a bad marriage,the only thing is to accept her the way she is and live with it that way.
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| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by DonroxyII: 2:14pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Moh247:
Na wa oo, there is always a way out, don't let her fustrate you...
While you have it at the back of your mind that divorce is inevitable in the nearest future, due to incompatibility
Limit your investment on her, both emotional and financial... Just see her like a room mate, or someone under your care
Try and avoid having kids or more kids, infact deliberately push for a family planning, so that in case of divorce, the billing won't wreck you
Ditch your wedding ring when you are out of the house and start looking for a younger side chick., You'd be amazed at how young girls love married men .
The intresting part is side chick are cheaper than all this lability housewife, and they are always humble and caring, because they hope to get married to you some day and turn monster like your wife.
A low budget small girl side chick with just 10k weekly and some urgent 2k, would knack you, cook for you and practically adore you
Once your wife start noticing you are more lively and less miserable, you are chatting all through the night with your side chick and you are looking good, she would panic and have a change of heart
Ohh!! And remember Polygamy is perfectly normal in Africa, the white man only decieved you with the idea of one man one woman just to turn you to simp and also turn you to Bobrisky
. African All time Wisdom! The Scorn of a Woman is enough to Kill Mummy's Boy ....! 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by NOETHNICITY(m): 2:15pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
AntiWailer:
Calm down. Sit her down and talk to her.
Let her know how frustrated you are about this, Give instances and what your expectations were.
Hear her out too and try to work things out. As for sex drive, it is normal ladies lose their sex drive because of several factors. Just sit her down and hear her out.
Let divorce be last option, suicide is not an option at all.
I hate men like you enh. Even women don’t like your type |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Wuppdex: 2:15pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
And what will he (God) do ? Black man and sense of divinity, sometimes common sense in making long life decision helps better than imaginary prayers and beliefs Octopusssy:
Did you consult God when you chose your life partner? |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by NOETHNICITY(m): 2:17pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
aspabay:
You made a mistake, agreed.
Now it is time to own up and correct your mistake.
Do everything to make your marriage work.
It will require forgiveness, forbearance, and sacrifice.
Who needs to forgive who? |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by writeprof(m): 2:17pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Richy4:
God is not in the business of choosing a life partner for people anymore..U can bring anyone, and he will bless u. 
The Bible says he who finds a wife finds good thing and obtained favour from God.. the key word is HE,.
The last time he found a partner for a human being (Adam), he was blamed for it...
"The woman whom you gave to me... Made me do it"... He is no longer in match making business 
What OP need is couples therapy...no two ways about it... That might help to restore those Sparks he saw before taking her to the altar...As for bedroom matters, that is also teachable... hormone induced pills that boost sex drive might help also.. I guess nurses and doctors in the house can throw some light in that...
Killing oneself because he/she felt they made the wrong choice is old school in my opinion.
GOD IS STILL IN THE BUSINESS OF GIVING WIVES OR HUSBANDS TO HIS CHILDREN & THOSE WHO ASK HIM. I am a living proof. Many proofs exist to back it up. The fact that God gives one a spouse does not eliminate challenges at all though. |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Dudeforall(f): 2:18pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
It is not all men claiming to be pastors that are real men of God, fake pastors plenty pass real pastors. Even if he's a real pastor, that doesn't automatically mean he consulted God before choosing his partner, some pastors choose wives because of beauty, because she sings well, because she's active in church activities etc. Pastors are human too, they are bound to make mistakes. MALIGNANTGuest:
And the pastors and General overseers whose weddings are hitting the rock did not consult God abiiii?
Learn and Learn it today
NUMBER ONE thing in marriage is Chemistry.
If chemistry wasn't there from the beginning or the chemistry was weak ab initio, then the marriage is heading for the abyss. |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Desusi: 2:19pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
ibechris:
God is the one choosing wives for Nigerians right?
Haven't u seen pastors beating and battering their wives...shall we now say they too didn't consult God too?
On the issue of marriage,most men and women are overwhelmed by nonsense love and failed to look out for things that matters.
A bad marriage is a bad marriage,the only thing is to accept her the way she is and live with it that way.
So you meant all pastors sought after God before their marriages? Capital no.Many who do not seek God face would regret it till eternity. |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Mrmb: 2:24pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.
The same thing I am experiencing in my marriage just that she prefers me sleeping by her side. But she lacks respect and is never wrong, she's so arrogant and never takes to corrections... Don't let that bring you down, you are a man, if you don't want a divorce, you can search for joy somewhere else, there are many ladies out there who would be submissive and never disobey you. I am seeing my ex again and whenever my wife starts her troubles I turn to the other lady for joy.... |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by nahzyla: 2:24pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
If this story is true and not figment of a crazy misogynistic man's imagination.
Op, do you have sex with her in a loving way or you just dive in and dive out as if you are sleeping with a prostitute, thereby making her feel like she is being used and causing her to hate intimacy with you?
You said she is always right and she doesn't take corrections, what about you? Do you regularly make stupid decisions or are you a terrible decision maker? It might be possible she is always right because she is smarter than you and has more common sense. It doesn't make her a bad person. Examine yourself.
As for the money making skills you claim she is not willing to learn, what skills exactly have you introduced to her? Some people are not entrepreneurs naturally for instance and if you introduce entrepreneurship to them they lose interest, some people are not naturally good programmers so if you try to teach them programming they shy away.
Many boys on this thread will advice you to divorce your wife simply because you said she isn't giving you sex, men are just obsessed with sex, as if it's life and death something, I no understand una. Don't rush to divorce, look inwards and be objective and see if you carry any of the blame instead of pointing fingers at your wife, then have an objective discussion with your wife to let her know you are not happy with the lack of intimacy (I know that's the most important thing to you among all the flaws you listed) and other things you are not happy about. |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Lama70(m): 2:24pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Moh247:
Na wa oo, there is always a way out, don't let her fustrate you...
While you have it at the back of your mind that divorce is inevitable in the nearest future, due to incompatibility
Limit your investment on her, both emotional and financial... Just see her like a room mate, or someone under your care
Try and avoid having kids or more kids, infact deliberately push for a family planning, so that in case of divorce, the billing won't wreck you
Ditch your wedding ring when you are out of the house and start looking for a younger side chick., You'd be amazed at how young girls love married men .
The intresting part is side chick are cheaper than all this lability housewife, and they are always humble and caring, because they hope to get married to you some day and turn monster like your wife.
A low budget small girl side chick with just 10k weekly and some urgent 2k, would knack you, cook for you and practically adore you
Once your wife start noticing you are more lively and less miserable, you are chatting all through the night with your side chick and you are looking good, she would panic and have a change of heart
Ohh!! And remember Polygamy is perfectly normal in Africa, the white man only decieved you with the idea of one man one woman just to turn you to simp and also turn you to Bobrisky
. You too much! 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by ford101: 2:24pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
ufotty2001:
I don't just know most ladies are not interested to learn what generates money.. I have forced my girlfriend to learn online skill she refused.. she is so comfortable with this her 30k job that do not take her to anywhere. That is why I want to break up with her can you mention the online skill that can generate money? |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Brunosamel(m): 2:25pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Moh247:
Na wa oo, there is always a way out, don't let her fustrate you...
While you have it at the back of your mind that divorce is inevitable in the nearest future, due to incompatibility
Limit your investment on her, both emotional and financial... Just see her like a room mate, or someone under your care
Try and avoid having kids or more kids, infact deliberately push for a family planning, so that in case of divorce, the billing won't wreck you
Ditch your wedding ring when you are out of the house and start looking for a younger side chick., You'd be amazed at how young girls love married men .
The intresting part is side chick are cheaper than all this lability housewife, and they are always humble and caring, because they hope to get married to you some day and turn monster like your wife.
A low budget small girl side chick with just 10k weekly and some urgent 2k, would knack you, cook for you and practically adore you
Once your wife start noticing you are more lively and less miserable, you are chatting all through the night with your side chick and you are looking good, she would panic and have a change of heart
Ohh!! And remember Polygamy is perfectly normal in Africa, the white man only decieved you with the idea of one man one woman just to turn you to simp and also turn you to Bobrisky
. Top notch 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Pat081: 2:25pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have a sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone because she doesn't want someone's body to touch her.
She is not serious about anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regret. I am seeing myself going down slowly.
if you commit suicide she may end up marrying your best friend or who is not your age mate call a family meeting for her and if she fail send her away only if she is not the husband ooooo |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by SUNNINO(m): 2:26pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
Please, don't do kill yourself. Call her plead to her and make know how you feel. If no changes,tell her parents, tell your family and church authority,if nothing happens. Brother, divorce her straight up. You can die for her sake. |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by ariesbull: 2:27pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.
Mumu You wan commit suicide because of woman.... Well use your head |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by 9jamyhomee: 2:27pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.
This is a real e be thing...you've married the wrong person. I feel your pain bro. |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Mrmb: 2:27pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
shortgun:
You are a weak man, women hate weak men.
Them never born any woman well that will enter my house and detect how I'll run my home.
Men like you are the reason we have alot of spoilt girls all over.
Any man that dates any of my exes will be thankful to me for the way I groomed them.
Until you become the man and take charge of your home you will continue to whine n suffer It's easier said when you are not in the same situation, I am a man of my home but bad influence is what causes all these. Women are mostly dumb, they take crazy advice's from those who's aim is to destroy their peaceful homes and don't see it as destructive. My wife was never like this while we dated, but as soon as she came in, many things changed |
| Re: Regretting My Marriage. by Nursepepeye(f): 2:28pm On Nov 20, 2022 |
nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.
I sell sniper #200, since they glue your life to her, is she the only woman left in the world? Yeye talk |
