jelel6:


This brought back memories and got me hysterical.

I was very recently close to a girl for about a year, not romantically but quite close and good friends. Naturally, we both did help each other out as our capacity permits.

We had a week-long quarrel once and as we both sat down to talk things through, she said with a straight face that I don't ever help her with a particular "issue". worse thing, she said that in passing without any prompt from me. I was so shocked I said goodnight and went to sleep. I just had to pretend that was never said so we could both move on.

Guess what cause our initial quarrel? At the course of me helping her with THAT same particular "issue". Something I've been helping with every now and then for over 8 months. Rude awakening!

I was shocked. I thought I was in cuckooland. I don't easily get flustered but she easily did got me that day. It'd much easier for you to convince me 2 + 2 = 0 than make me understand why she said what she said.

I can only imagine how a married man (woman? hardly) must feel if their loving wife just bloat out "what have you ever done for me?" in the middle of an argument.

Our sisters, and wifeys them, that are guilty of the above in the heat of the moment, why Una dey yarn that talk. I would truly like to know?

ibkayee:

Lmaooo this is why I believe in separate rooms for married couples

frozen70:


Finance is not the major problem of marriage, the main problem is the attitude of the person you are married to

aimmoney9:

It is because Women only truly appreciate those who satisfy them in bed, as in back to back orgasms and making her cum and squirt.......

If you buy a woman many houses, cars, with huge cash gifts, and even give her the whole world without sexually satisfying her, she will ask u dat question......

If you are sexually satisfying her without giving her shi shi, plus even beating her and treating her bad, she will never ask u dat question...

Women don't use fvck to play......

A woman can't ask a guy sexually satisfying her dat question, sex is something else for women .........e.g the cheating wives on nairaland can never ask der side boyfriend's this question.......

xynerise:

This is what my problem is

Somebody always want to cuddle you and make your hand uncomfortable

Miyachi:

Children. I personally know of a case where the father is going through hell from his own children.
His daughter claiming independent business woman under his roof, even converting one of the rooms in his house to a chicken coop. But still she does not respect this man.

Rubbiish:

All these things u are saying happens in the movies. What do u mean by love & be ur friend? In marriage real stuff comes in, school fees, house rent, feeding etc. The word love is pure deception. Didn't u read a story of a guy on this section whose wife left him because he is unable to provide for the home? We should stop deceiving intending couples with love, it is misleading.

OgwuEgo:
You are too pretty to be separate from any guyman at any point in time

MufasaLion:
If you're not financially buoyant, you will regret it.

mediclife1987:


I think they intentionally do that, and they do that when they feel you have nothing left to offer them.

They prolly don't want to make it look like they chop and clean mouth, so they just reverse it, and scatter everything by saying you never did anything for them.

Even my elder sister don do am for me too before.

Women are all like that.

faithfull18:
If you marry the right one who truly understands what marriage is about, truly loves God and keeps his commands, doesn't cheat or sleep around, is 100% honest and transparent about everything, is diligent and you both can work together to achieve common goals, you will enjoy heaven on earth

Sweetvie:
Marriage is not easy
Marry someone who's ready to stand with you. Someone who is ready to help you achieve ur dream. Marry a woman that see things in same view as you.
As the head of the house be ready for challenges. Yeah, no marriage is perfect... No person is perfect so don't be surprise if there's little changes in ur partner be mature enough to handle the situation.
Lastly, communication is the key to every relationship. It for better for worst so don't be ashame to share secret, don't keep things from each other it do cause a lot of misunderstanding in marriage. Let your wife/ husband be ur best pal

poweredcom:


They wont hear , all of dem can lead a struggling man to his early grave

Uselesss piece of creatures

searchlight:
Lol, So you mean that with all your wisdom you believe there is one sky papa that sees to the day to day happening in the lives of over 9 billion people in the world? The brainwashing is deep that you will die without living your natural life. There is nothing like God, stop deceiving yourself and stop giving yourself false hope. No one fights forn you. You are a product of your actions or inactions. Know this and know peace

ravensckar:
Is this really who I think it is?

Emaprince:
Anyway any man getting married should be very sure that he is financially capable of taking good care of his wife and kids. No man should be out there looking for what a woman brings to the table. A womans gift sef is like the devils gift. If she do anything for you today, it will be used against you tomorrow. So pray against becoming a man that may, at one point, need a woman as your helper..rather be the helper of women. You really have to work your socks off to make sure your wife and kids are well taken care of. Pray as well that God bless the works of your hands. Do not make any sacrifices for your wife which will make your only means of income which place s you as the provider slip away. I have heard of men quit their jobs just to join their wives who are working abroad or in another state..only to get their and become a house boy.

Never ever trust a woman!!!.... not even your wife. This will help you cushion the effect of the heart break or heart attack you might get on finding out that becoming a wife doesn't make any woman a saint. In todays world of social media..where women will do anything for validation. she won't even need to move out. Just indoors posting sultry pics on tiktoks..IG etc getting likes and the consequent advances and hence may end up sneaking around. Just know your wife is not exempted from wanting attention from other men. Every women wants a piece of the attention from the wolves out there.

If you are igbo ..prepare to have your wives siblings coming over to stay regularly. Your own siblings will be distanced from you cos they will never be comfortable in your home anymore. Thanks to your wife's hostility towards them. Women that makes their inlaws comfortable are 1 in a million. Do not stop rendering help to your siblings, but they don't have to come to your place to get it. If you have the capacity, you can set them up to stand on their own.

Do not beat your wife. Never ever do it. See eh..silent treatment pains women more than physical abuse. If she annoys you to a point you feel like hitting her, give her the silent treatment and stay the Bleep away from her for a while. But she will only feel the effect if you are financially important o..cos she can't stand thinking of another woman giving you peace of mind and possibly snatching you. A rich man is a jewel to his wife...you see as E money wife dey praise the guy? If you no get shi shi... she may not care. This means in all you do, strive to get your pocket phat.

Lastly. NEVER fall in love. You will be acting like a fool in the name of love. Treat your woman well provide for her. But run from falling in love, so you won't be applauding her for behaving badly. Or commit suicide if you find her chat with another man. Every woman is replaceable.

CaveAdullam:
1. The chances of achieving your goal become impossible or ultra slim.

2. As a father you will hardly have time for yourself because you are bothered about family bills.

3. Your only joy as a father is that your kids are healthy, intelligent, and becoming responsible.

4. As a father, the love your family has for you is predicated on the magnitude of your food storage and the depth of your pocket.

5. As a father when things go sour, the respect from nuclear and extended family plummets.

6. As a mother, you must serve your husband and children. You don't have time for vacations or rest.

7. As a father you will have at least one child that will behave in such a manner that it is as if he/she hates the family and wants to ruin the family name intentionally.

8. As a father only loyalty to your vows will keep you from infidelity because your wife will become boring by the day. Ditto for the mother.

9. The flames that run the marriage don't burn on their own. To keep the marriage fresh and the union alive the husband and wife must fan the flames.

10. As a father you'll one day be shocked and remain long-standing with mouth wide open, eyes gazing far when you are being asked "what have you done for me that you are using to boast".

11. As a mother you'll be expected to lead and provide even though it is not within your jurisdiction.

Marriage is a dreadful but enjoyable journey and must only be engaged by men and women who will be accountable and deliberate enough to hold to their specific marriage vows. Because marriage is the building block of civilization. The man and woman must be buoyant in the financial, physical, and spiritual angles (not religious) with no emotional baggage.

Thanks.

Helpout12345:
All pretence will end from both parties. You will see each other in 3D.

You will be offended and re-offended. Your tolerance and forgiveness will be tested over and over again.

No marriage is perfect as no one is perfect.

If you marry for the wrong reason or married a wrong person, or if marriage is not for your type of person,
the marriage will be terrible.

If marriage is meant for you, you marry the right person for the right reasons, you have the compatibility, both of you truly love each other, finance is adequate for both of you, you will enjoy the marriage.

tensazangetsu20:
You will know that there's a world of difference between being broke as a single man and being broke as a married man.

CaveAdullam:
1. The chances of achieving your goal become impossible or ultra slim.

2. As a father you will hardly have time for yourself because you are bothered about family bills.

3. Your only joy as a father is that your kids are healthy, intelligent, and becoming responsible.

4. As a father, the love your family has for you is predicated on the magnitude of your food storage and the depth of your pocket.

5. As a father when things go sour, the respect from nuclear and extended family plummets.

6. As a mother, you must serve your husband and children. You don't have time for vacations or rest.

7. As a father you will have at least one child that will behave in such a manner that it is as if he/she hates the family and wants to ruin the family name intentionally.

8. As a father only loyalty to your vows will keep you from infidelity because your wife will become boring by the day. Ditto for the mother.

9. The flames that run the marriage don't burn on their own. To keep the marriage fresh and the union alive the husband and wife must fan the flames.

10. As a father you'll one day be shocked and remain long-standing with mouth wide open, eyes gazing far when you are being asked "what have you done for me that you are using to boast".

11. As a mother you'll be expected to lead and provide even though it is not within your jurisdiction.

Marriage is a dreadful but enjoyable journey and must only be engaged by men and women who will be accountable and deliberate enough to hold to their specific marriage vows. Because marriage is the building block of civilization. The man and woman must be buoyant in the financial, physical, and spiritual angles (not religious) with no emotional baggage.

Thanks.

SMJay:
What is the brutal truth about life after marriage?