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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by poweredcom(m): 10:17pm On Nov 29, 2022
DonroxyII:
Your Left Blokos, You be Brolosho too Na Brostitute dey parol prostitute!
Principle tongue

Even your gal friend is one of dem only that she is not stationed in a hotel

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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by ronicare: 10:55pm On Nov 29, 2022
Many men abandon there wife and children because of bill and disturbance too. It is vice versa.
How people forgets accountability to the creator. Seek God forgiveness, believe such marriage never existed and move on. Candid advice in which ever case if situations go gaga. Life is to short.
Rubbiish:

All these things u are saying happens in the movies. What do u mean by love & be ur friend? In marriage real stuff comes in, school fees, house rent, feeding etc. The word love is pure deception. Didn't u read a story of a guy on this section whose wife left him because he is unable to provide for the home? We should stop deceiving intending couples with love, it is misleading.
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by jelel6: 11:06pm On Nov 29, 2022
Maysdevices:
Honestly?

Most women feel they are queens that deserve the best from life. Cars, diamonds and vacations.

Most women get into a regular marriage with the notion that some day the man will be rich and they will live the lives of rich men’s wives. No woman who agrees to marry a regular man believes that the man will be average forever.

When the scales fall from their eyes, they become bitter at the sight of rich men’s wives in their expensive cars. So no matter what you, you haven’t began even doing.

It’s like a man who married an ugly woman because of status, infatuation or love, after a while you will become bitter when the scales fall from your eyes and you can’t show off your wife like other men.

The average man will keep getting asked that question until you give your woman the last drop of blood in your body.



These rules apply to only shallow people, but then most people are shallow.


Interesting take.

From a financial perspective, I can understand the frustration such women may have when they realized the dream of opulence is looking rather unlikely. But I don't think even stinky rich men are spared from such outbursts. Because how rich is going to be rich enough for such people?

Besides, the incident with that lady had nothing to do with money at all, neither was financial gains the basis for our friendship. And yet...THAT question came!


I just think THAT question is always coming when the entitled inevitably gets a NO to some demands or expectations. Simply a classic case of ungratefulness.

It just so happens that the majority of the time, the average human (women) demands or expectations are going to be financial.


Taking the cue from you, I'll go as far as saying Entitled people === superficial, shallow minded people.
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by AmuRubber(m): 11:10pm On Nov 29, 2022
CaveAdullam:
1. The chances of achieving your goal become impossible or ultra slim.

2. As a father you will hardly have time for yourself because you are bothered about family bills.

3. Your only joy as a father is that your kids are healthy, intelligent, and becoming responsible.

4. As a father, the love your family has for you is predicated on the magnitude of your food storage and the depth of your pocket.

5. As a father when things go sour, the respect from nuclear and extended family plummets.

6. As a mother, you must serve your husband and children. You don't have time for vacations or rest.

7. As a father you will have at least one child that will behave in such a manner that it is as if he/she hates the family and wants to ruin the family name intentionally.

8. As a father only loyalty to your vows will keep you from infidelity because your wife will become boring by the day. Ditto for the mother.

9. The flames that run the marriage don't burn on their own. To keep the marriage fresh and the union alive the husband and wife must fan the flames.

10. As a father you'll one day be shocked and remain long-standing with mouth wide open, eyes gazing far when you are being asked "what have you done for me that you are using to boast".

11. As a mother you'll be expected to lead and provide even though it is not within your jurisdiction.

Marriage is a dreadful but enjoyable journey and must only be engaged by men and women who will be accountable and deliberate enough to hold to their specific marriage vows. Because marriage is the building block of civilization. The man and woman must be buoyant in the financial, physical, and spiritual angles (not religious) with no emotional baggage.

Thanks.
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Bostin(m): 10:38am On Nov 30, 2022
Hassanmaye:

This is scary are they witches after marriage?
No exemptions my brother .
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Hassanmaye(m): 11:18am On Nov 30, 2022
Bostin:
No exemptions my brother .
shocked
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by oweniwe(m): 11:50am On Nov 30, 2022
What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage?

1. The chances of achieving your goal become impossible or ultra slim.

2. As a father you will hardly have time for yourself because you are bothered about family bills.

3. Your only joy as a father is that your kids are healthy, intelligent, and becoming responsible.

4. As a father, the love your family has for you is predicated on the magnitude of your food storage and the depth of your pocket.

5. As a father when things go sour, the respect from nuclear and extended family plummets.

6. As a mother, you must serve your husband and children. You don't have time for vacations or rest.

7. As a father you will have at least one child that will behave in such a manner that it is as if he/she hates the family and wants to ruin the family name intentionally.

8. As a father only loyalty to your vows will keep you from infidelity because your wife will become boring by the day. Ditto for the mother.

9. The flames that run the marriage don't burn on their own. To keep the marriage fresh and the union alive the husband and wife must fan the flames.

10. As a father you'll one day be shocked and remain long-standing with mouth wide open, eyes gazing far when you are being asked "what have you done for me that you are using to boast". The day you are unable to give some women N10 at her request is the day you'll know that the billions you have spent on her are waste.

11. As a mother you'll be expected to lead and provide even though it is not within your jurisdiction.

12. There's a world of difference between being broke as a single man and being broke as a married man.

13. Fine boy without money is endemic
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by DonroxyII: 12:43pm On Nov 30, 2022
poweredcom:

Even your gal friend is one of dem only that she is not stationed in a hotel
Your head dey Pain You Kwa ... You dey Carry Olosho dey Cap you don bang all Nigerian Ladies .... My Wife Na Hijabite tongue .. U never Chop Hijabite before
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by QuinModah(f): 11:19pm On Nov 30, 2022
STENON:
Live and love your life together. Don't listen to any motivational speakers or read any rubbish hacks on how to have a peaceful home because they are also dealing with their own marital problems which they won't tell you.
Is this coming from someone married to a white man shocked

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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by QuinModah(f): 11:26pm On Nov 30, 2022
ravensckar:
When person wey never marry drop quote, e no dey hard to know.

Well done Marriage Counsellor! cheesy cheesy cheesy
When are you getting married since Bisola has japaed?

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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Karlifate: 5:38am On Dec 01, 2022
Babastrong:
If you married your wife for the sole purpose of argument, don't be surprised when she drops a pot of hot soup on your head.

LMAO! grin grin grin
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Karlifate: 7:47am On Dec 01, 2022
Tor80:


Verbal abuse is not and can never be a norm to me.
One party can't keep being right while the other party keeps apologizing. No friendship will even survive that way.
You talk like someone who married a bad woman sorry to say

Exactly!

How can a sane individual see verbal abuse as a norm, especially in his marriage

So many toxic situationship everywhere cheesy

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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by ravensckar(m): 8:06am On Dec 01, 2022
QuinModah:
When are you getting married since Bisola has japaed?
Shey you dey whyne me ni? I got married 5 years ago. However, if she returns on time, I fit still or I still fit marry her join. cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Karlifate: 8:32am On Dec 01, 2022
Maross:
Good morning,
The topic should be "life in marriage" not "after marriage"...

Or

"Life after wedding ceremony."
grin grin
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Karlifate: 9:20am On Dec 01, 2022
Pharaoh4rin:


But family members most times look down on a wife that is not beautiful, just d way Kano people look down on ganduje because he's ugly and d best governor in Kano so far

Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by IyaTola: 5:47pm On Dec 01, 2022
sad
Karlifate:


Or

"Life after wedding ceremony."
grin grin
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by bluefilm: 7:47pm On Dec 03, 2022
Hassanmaye:
That's why married people cheat

Point of correction, that's why MARRIED MEN cheat.
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by virginboy1(m): 8:16pm On Dec 03, 2022
CaveAdullam:
1. The chances of achieving your goal become impossible or ultra slim.

2. As a father you will hardly have time for yourself because you are bothered about family bills.

3. Your only joy as a father is that your kids are healthy, intelligent, and becoming responsible.

4. As a father, the love your family has for you is predicated on the magnitude of your food storage and the depth of your pocket.

5. As a father when things go sour, the respect from nuclear and extended family plummets.

6. As a mother, you must serve your husband and children. You don't have time for vacations or rest.

7. As a father you will have at least one child that will behave in such a manner that it is as if he/she hates the family and wants to ruin the family name intentionally.

8. As a father only loyalty to your vows will keep you from infidelity because your wife will become boring by the day. Ditto for the mother.

9. The flames that run the marriage don't burn on their own. To keep the marriage fresh and the union alive the husband and wife must fan the flames.

10. As a father you'll one day be shocked and remain long-standing with mouth wide open, eyes gazing far when you are being asked "what have you done for me that you are using to boast".

11. As a mother you'll be expected to lead and provide even though it is not within your jurisdiction.

Marriage is a dreadful but enjoyable journey and must only be engaged by men and women who will be accountable and deliberate enough to hold to their specific marriage vows. Because marriage is the building block of civilization. The man and woman must be buoyant in the financial, physical, and spiritual angles (not religious) with no emotional baggage.

Thanks.

BabaCave always on point

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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Hassanmaye(m): 9:39pm On Dec 03, 2022
bluefilm:


Point of correction, that's why MARRIED MEN cheat.
Is it only men that cheat?
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by bluefilm: 9:47pm On Dec 03, 2022
Hassanmaye:
Is it only men that cheat?

Do men have worn out pussies?

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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by IyaTola: 10:58pm On Dec 05, 2022
undecided
bluefilm:


Do men have worn out pussies?
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by SMJay: 11:34pm On Dec 16, 2022
Okay
BluntTheApostle:


Life after wedding, not life after marriage.

Life after marriage means life after a divorce.

Life after wedding means marriage.

Now, what do you expect in a marriage?

It all depends on one thing -- YOUR SPOUSE.

Your spouse: your spouse can make or mar your married life. If your spouse is unwilling to grow, unwilling to be responsible, have unreasonable expectations of you or of the marriage, you are DOOMED.

As a former marriage counselor, I have heard many unreasonable expectations, especially from wives.

Remove that belief that there is a Zee World fairy tale marriage in reality. All those overdone love stories do not exist and cannot work in reality. You are only going to push your spouse to the wall.

Secondly, a spouse that is unwilling to grow will frustate the marriage. You can't enter into a marriage and still want to live like a single. Marriage is a life of compromises. It is not for those who are single at heart. This point goes well with responsibility. You now have a partner, and so you must always include them in many of your plans, unlike when you were single.

Some people will talk about money, and all that.

If you marry a bad spouse, money will not help you.

If your husband is richer than Dangote, that would not automatically make him a responsible man.

That is why marriages depend entirely on the type of partner you have.



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Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by SMJay: 5:53am On Dec 29, 2022
Noted
zomby:


There is no brutal truth about life after marriage if you’re determined to keep the fire burning.
It all depends on the 2 parties whether they want to make the best out of it.
Marriage is like a plant; you have to water it, nurture it and apply fertilizer from time to time.

Love and Respect each other… try not to stop what brings you guys together. Go on vacations, spend time together and enjoy each other as much as possible… laugh together.
Instead of talking at each other, trying to have a constructive discussions.
Marriage is not as bad as folks make it to be…It is actually a magnificent bond between 2 entities.
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by sofia21211: 6:47am On Dec 29, 2022
Raalsalghul:
Bills! Bills! Bills!
Lol who you marry

Less sex!
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by lavylilly: 7:35pm On Jan 06, 2023
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 11:26am On Jul 01, 2023
shocked
shabashola:
I regret been married, my hubby is making my life miserable...
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by IyaTola: 8:41am On Jul 02, 2023
grin
MufasaLion:
If you're not financially buoyant, you will regret it.
Re: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by IyaTola: 1:57pm On Jul 02, 2023
wink
Helpout12345:
All pretence will end from both parties. You will see each other in 3D.

You will be offended and re-offended. Your tolerance and forgiveness will be tested over and over again.

No marriage is perfect as no one is perfect.

If you marry for the wrong reason or married a wrong person, or if marriage is not for your type of person,
the marriage will be terrible.

If marriage is meant for you, you marry the right person for the right reasons, you have the compatibility, both of you truly love each other, finance is adequate for both of you, you will enjoy the marriage.

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