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Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by oluwaseyi0: 9:32pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787: You are definitely not seen as a partner by your wife, and I dont blame her she knows you you are a good partner in time of peace and a terrible one in time of war This is the time your wife needs your emotional support the most, but you failed her completely for your mind she doesn't love her daughter right, you are the only one that love your daughter She grow lean because of this issue, but you arrested her because you feel she was celebrating see Mr Man go and release your wife, heal yourself, look for how your wife will heal from the trauma and most importantly how the baby will heal With this foolish tantrum of yours you will damage your little girl life even more or when people ask her why her parent divorce, what do you want her to say, that she was raped when she was two? a matter you kid is meant to forget while growing up you want to be remembering her everyday your daughter will even end up hating you Wisdom is profitable to direct 3 Likes
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Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by sweetman2022: 9:33pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Your wife is a very selfish person, as her hubby you are now her primary objective with the child inclusive. This her acts shows she will always choose her family first ahead of you even if threat to life is involve. Deal with her any way you deem fit. Covering the acts alone is tantamount to aiding the rapist that is why she is guilty, considering we are talking about 2 years old child. Go ahead and arrest the rapist even though he is a minor, let the law takes it cause. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by maasoap(m): 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787: Two years old! This is really sad. Don't let her stay back. Like you said, she has lost weight because of the incident. That tells you how this impacted negatively on her physical and mental health. She's going through a lot, she was torn between sibling and daughter. Please, let her return with you. Divorce or separation is not needed at this time. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by IamAsiri: 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
NezzyMike: Are you one of the brothers? |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Eurolander: 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Sit her down and give her two options. Either you keep the marriage and prosecute the evil brother or You divorce her and keep your daughter. The choice she makes should give your next line of action. And please, let your daughter see a psychologist. She needs to heal psychologically. God is your strength. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by namexyz: 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
if you get to see you, Release your wife as soon as possible. Get the help your daughter need for the trauma she has gone through emotionally, medically, psychologically. The last case we handled on this, we had to change the girls environment, if you can do so for her self esteem and to avoid depression tendencies. for the culprit, you need to handle this with wisdom. Juvenile delinquency centre is an ideal place for him. What is more important now is your daughters recovery and ensuring that your family regains it face. You may need to relocate to another location and please cut ties with the so cold prophet. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by co787: 9:36pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Aguogba: She was only 2 years 1 months when it happened how can she confided in me when she was a baby and still a baby ? 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by co787: 9:37pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Eurolander: I don't need her approval to prosecute her brother whether she and her mother likes it or not the boy will be prosecute and the divorce will still take place 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by grandstar(m): 9:37pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787: Your wife's weight loss is due to immense guilty and the anguish of the abominable deed done to your daughter, her daughter. She does feel bad. Divorcing her isn't the answer The real enemy is that teenage rapist and his mother thats covering him. She spoilt him and thats wht he is that way and others now have to shoulder the burden. He should be taught the lesson of his life. A lesson so harsh that it would send a message to other rapists in the neighborhood. For him to act so brazenly is a strong indication of how bad things are. There's apparently no retribution ,hence he has become emboldened. (Eccl 8:11). He needs an iron hand. It's best you do the opposite of covering it up. It's time people learn to bear the consequences of their action. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Slurity(m): 9:42pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787:this is so heart breaking. Please, take it easy. May God heal you, I can't imagine this happen to me or anyone I know but you need to be strong. If it is possible which I know its hard,please forgive her, I am sure, she must have learnt her lesson. You can not take care of that girl alone. Just give her space for now and please forgive her when you heal more. Please be strong |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by maasoap(m): 9:43pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Neddstark: Lol. On top arrest? The wife knows the gravity of the incident. Better you divorce her and have nothing to do with that sick family. Divorce is not necessary at this point. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 9:45pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
You just talked like your Wife never shared any bitter experience with you before from the way you went arresting and detaining your wife in Lagos State when the real act was done in the Village.... This your daughter you just mentioned , is she not the one that gave birth to her? Or she is a foster mother to her? I understand her part in trying to hide the abomination from you, she failed woefully from acting like that, inshort you should have been the first person she should have called and be in total support with you since the child here is from both of you....but Alias the mother confused and convinced her to die the act... But atimes, we use past characters to know the extent people can go and why they went that far.. Let her just come out from that cell that will rather make her commit suicide once she is out of there plssssssss...... |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by SocialJustice: 9:45pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
DarkJeddi:And tearing his family to pieces is good? Abeg shift. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by SocialJustice: 9:46pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Mindlog:I was consciously blaming a baby for getting raped? Abeg shift. Go figure your frustrations elsewhere. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by owunabastard: 9:50pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Klass99:you are exactly my kind of person, I detest any ill treatment against children. What is your horoscope to know if it's part of our personalities 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by spartachico(m): 9:53pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
na catholic church priest you mention without putting bros majority of us were catholic bor but as we enter lagos or open cities ,we don join redeem and co BRATISLAVA: |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by fluffybaby(f): 9:55pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
I would divorce a spouse who tries to hide such a traumatic abuse on my child too. The r.apist should rot in jail. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by jacobjamie(m): 9:56pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
mens83:When I read your comment , I just knew u can do the same thing the boy and his wife did ,how would he B a wife keep such a sensitive matter from her husband ? The father of the child ? And u are here talking foolish , u also need to be arrested oh . Why would she hide it ? That’s a very big deal and should be taken seriously , I had similar experience and I can tell what this man went through and still going through , it’s heart breaking , irritating seeing such act coming from her family and a cover up , the mother should also answer to it |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by pafo(m): 9:56pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Mindlog: What you are suggesting is experimental at best for a 2 yr old. There's no guarantee in it working at all. From 4 years is a much realistic age to work with. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Fearyourcreator: 9:59pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
mens83:The wife should have informed him instead of an outsider... Imagine how the man would have felt getting the info from outside |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by SAD007(m): 10:00pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Iswear get the village youth,tye am for stick, buy water wey he go dey drink, beat Jupiter out of his Neptune Promotions: 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by pimplucious: 10:01pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
wirinet: Well you are right but detaining someone for days without court order is violation of the persons right. To avoid this he should take the wife to court instead else if the wife takes it up with him he won’t be having a good day about it trust me |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by thedio(m): 10:01pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
U over-react,if it is ur bro that raped ur daughter are u going to arrest urself? With this ur reaction I can't blame ur wife cos if the told u, u would behead her. Her only fault is she told a stranger while keeping it away from u. I can assure u that no matter how painful this case is to u,she is passing through a more severe pain. Infact her own is trauma. My bro u arrested the wrong person and add to her pain. On the issue of divorce,I don't know ur compatibility b4 this case but if she is the type u can give like 65 and above mark pls don't allow that nonoentity to separate u. Though this is a very complicated family issue but ur strength as a man is put to test here. My advise for u is to keep it wife if and only if she is good. Don't allow ur daughter to move an inch close to her family again and that boy should stay far away from ur home. Her other siblings can later be welcome but there should be a room for them to sleep no matter the condition. Her mum,u can't stop her from coming to ur house but she should stay away from ur sight till the tension is doused. Please go and bail ur wife |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Fearyourcreator: 10:03pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Klass99:I don't know family when it comes to bad things... Nothing like na my brother for my dictionary... Man is man... All this blood is thicker amd family is everything na pain dey end am... The wife messed up there... Not telling the husband... What the boy did na big rubbish... He needs to be punished well well |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Lakeview: 10:05pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787:arresting and detaining your wife is not a wise move bro. It Seems you are determined to destroy your marriage completely, and that won't even stop the stigma already attached to the little girl, The news is spread everywhere. Solution is what is needed. The rapist should be the one you should unleash your anger to and have a family dialogue. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Fearyourcreator: 10:05pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
jimmychang:Exactly |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by SocialJustice: 10:06pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
wirinet:What did I say the very first time. None of this will happen if mindful parents had that baby. Most kids these days get married just for the sake of marriage and title. They are not ready for family life or the responsibilities. Carelessness has resulted in their baby being defiled, some others were less fortunate and lost their baby all together. I understand the pain and frustrations of the op but this mindless fire he has set will burn everyone including him. What case does he even have against his wife? Criminal negligence? Even the 14 year old male does not have a case to answer as he's not up to age. He may not even fully understand the consequences of his action. It won't be long before police makes op see bringing them into the matter was a bad decision. I trust Nigerian police force. They will eat his money well until he sees there's no case. This whole thing was an unfortunate mistake, or was his wife giving their baby to rape intentionally? I wish him the best sha but nothing meaningful will come from this. If he's fed up with his wife and in laws, let him divorce and go his way. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by BRATISLAVA: 10:06pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
spartachico: But you can see why the wife would go to a prophetess for help. It's a common thing for christians, Catholics and other Orthodox religions to seek forgiveness through leaders. Especially knowing her husband's temperament. |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Waynesteave: 10:09pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Human being and hypocrite are 5&6, If you as my wife the mother of my supposed child can't tell me your family member disvargin and molested my 2yrs old daughter then the wife is a devil, a devil I should run away from. I see so many of y'all saying he did bad by locking the woman up hmmmmmm, pray this man should not go to court cuz both the mother, the teenager and the wife will end up in prison. Did yall know for the fact that she came back and refuse to divulge the information to her husband is enough for the husband to chase a divorce in a court of law, and be rest assured he will get his divorce without hassle. How on earth would she keep that important thing to herself, and all of you saying she is sorry and feeling guilty that's why she didn't tell the man are bunch of fools. Did she impregnated herself, or if it where to be from the father's side will heaven not have fallen Op, I understand ur pain but believe me arresting her alone won't solve this issue, the trust in your marriage has been broken immediately she came back and decided not to tell u anything. Go to that village, arrest the mother and the boy.....there is a juvenile correctional facility for teenagers. And after everything if you feel like you can still forgive your wife and trust her again fine but just know, that family and you can't trust each other again and this bad blood won't clear soon. After this issue I'm sure there is no way you will allow your daughter back in that village again and pls give your daughter the best treatment...I just feel sooo weak. co787 God will heal you sir. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by spartachico(m): 10:13pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
bro im a married man with kids,and i do talk with my wife to never bring people into our personal affairs no matter how bad it is and she kept to it and even when my son got injured at her place of business it only took couple of hours to inform me after getting him treated at the healthcare center , the matter na issue between husband and wife ,if wife too dey fear husband and cant confide in her husband ,then church, and friends and prophet are the next people they confide in and forgetting this prophets are also human being BRATISLAVA: |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by blackboy2star(m): 10:15pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Number 2 sound funny and stupid. Asking why he's offended.... Someone am married to kept such secrets from me... The hardest part was, her brother raped her daughter meaning she likes her brother than her own daughter for her not to confide with her husband. The wife and the rapists should rot in jail DaInferno: 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by spartachico(m): 10:15pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
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