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piecuntie

My friend, carry go.

Instead of the UK, I would suggest Canada unless you're going to the UK legally. When you don't have work papers, you won't get a befitting job. Also learn a skill here that can be bringing you income there like hairstyling and so on.

pocohantas:
First thing I do now is to check the age of the account. They create these topics to start gender wars and have opportunity to spill their bile.

I don't check profiles on here, i no dey even look name to know who is who but their way is always easy to tell. This one even tried to balance the story but the intent is very clear.

Klass99:
I like a kindred spirit, as well as folks with critical thinking and independent thinking, who don't do herd mentality.

You are an ass for saying JP is a good writer, he is beyond good. He's an excellent and legendary author.

I'll always love him for exposing my mind to a world of possibilities and helping to mould me into the woman I am today.

Critical thinking is an important element in my life and if I should have an offspring, he/she must be a critical thinker, no religious bullshit or indoctrination.

Sorry, James is truly a legend. Did you know he graduated with summa cum laude ? It was the book he co-authored with President Bill Clinton that made me like him. Bill Clinton has a special place in my heart; I've always liked him and followed his life ever since I became conscious of things.

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
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I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

This is the typical Igbo man's template.
Sorry for your gullibility.

what has happened has happened "what has to be done has to be done.









Life goes On

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

My dear, ur happiness and mental health is paramount pls. U've to be there for ur kids. If u feel it isn't working, Jappa! After u've settled in, u can keep in touch via phone calls because of d kids. Na only u fit define ur happiness.

Ok12345:
Na wa oo

What does men want?

See this aunty married someone that sponsored her in school and she is still seeing shege.

Why did he lie about his age? Why did he lie about his qualifications? It's despicable. Those are bad foundations for any relationship (Read Matthew 5:37)

She simply shouldn't be his slave because he sponsored her to school.

i wil advice u to stil give him some time to change. Be patient with your mariage . there are people in unhappier relationship but they stayed and fought for it. some stayed becos of their children, some for other reasons and won at last. if u pesevere endure, pray. things wil get better. it is better than going out there to live a life of uncertainty.

Your eyes dey outside.

Why do some men love listening to friends instead of listening to their hearts.

Sometimes na friends dey scatter home.

Today is Saturday. Nights like this, some men are at Beer Parlour with friends drinking, smoking and eating catfish/goatmeat pepper soup listening to bad advices and talks from so called friends who are home breakers instead of being at home with their wives and kids.

These husbands use their own hands to destroy the beautiful marriages God gave them.

Shame.

Abeg let me go and bath my night bath jare.

Rubbiish:
It is very interesting when u are young, but no longer interesting as you get older. Family is extremely important. The society is built out of the family, those things u see as important won't exist in the first place without a family unit.

Without being married or have kids, you will live a fruitful life, even when you're old.

It's wrong to have kids because you want someone to care for you at old age.

OLOKOESHIN:
Listen tO this cOrrect guy
You need to do what makes you happy AsaP.

She also cheated with the rich guy

Hmmm

its really dificult to take care of kids wihout the second partner abroad.People abroad work very hard to survive, even up t0 10 hours or more in Uk.The best bet is to leave the kids behind depending on their age or if u have relations abroad who canhelp lokk after them,no one will do that free.The kids can be collected if they are not well taken care of.Those ladies who bring their husband to Uk are very smart and know that they can t survive alone with young kids and paying monthly bills,not as if all of them love their husband so much ,Its to escape paying bills and also to be able to do small work to survive .The both party work and also share responsibility of kids.If the man really maltreat the lady, i may say tey should seperate but i am not an adviser in such matter.just my little contribution,which may not 100% right

ibechris:
Two kids abroad na hell Fire straight.

Where is ur nanny...is like u want the govt to collect your children for negligence.

Stay back and establish yourself...for divorce,I don't advice people on that at all.

I don't say yes and I don't say no also.

Good luck to u.

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

Safe yourself and get out of that place called marriage. How can he be beating you and you remain there until he kill you begore

franchasng:
lol, the op's story is so emotional I can feel her pains.



She was honest enough to mention that she cheated, majority of ladies would cover that part and act all saintly to draw pity.



Any man that beats his girlfriend or fiance' or wife is a mad man. Why should you beat or lay your hands on a grown up person to start with?



I really don't understand why some useless men beat their wives, it reeks of stupidity and lowlife

She should leave the man but must have a discourse on the custody of the kids. But with the emotional and physical abuse she stated to be suffering from him, she should involve the law. She can't take those kids out of the country without their father's consent.

Princedapace:
Lol
This is her own part. What of the man shares his own part?

I sensed she started feeling too big for the man and started looking down at him.
I sensed she started cheating or showing acts of cheats.

Sensiima.

Sensory board

The woman admitted to cheating on him to secure a job, even before they married. If this man had any regard for himself, he would never have married her to begin with. But he married her, and she too has made sacrifices in the marriage in her own rights, so, ojoro cancel ojoro.

If his only crime was even cheating, shebi she will know how to handle herself? But a cheat and an abuser, who is also a loafer?

A man that decided not to further himself, despite how many times his wife urged him to, but just passed off the reins of provider and nurturer to her, while he enjoyed the company of other women, is just the kind of man so many of you come here to make excuses for.


It is well, tomorrow, when his kids refuse to identify with the mess he has made of his life, it is still people like you that will come and blame the wife for turning the kids on him.

You will continue to sense that the man cannot be wrong, because you people must always blame women for men's irresponsibility.

GoooodHardDick:
True talk. the girl sef has been looking for a way she will cheat ever since she.

Noticed how she immediately went to the other guy and she was even collecting dick, a so called married woman for that matter?

Exactly. See how she said it so nonchalantly, as if it is nothing.

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.


I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

Don't even think about doing that, you don't stand a chance getting a visa, traveling with those kids without his support or surviving in the UK as a single mum with two kids

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

1) Why ?

2) Do You already have Someone Else ?

As usual most people would be quick to judge without hearing from the other party....

udeh3:
I went through her narration, and I didn't see where the man lied. He was a civil servant. Many things are really wrong with Africans, and one is the lack of proper education. Do you know there's dignity in labour. Why pressuring him to go to school? In UK or US, a plumber makes more money than a medical doctor. Non is inferior to the other, only in Africa

This is somebody that didn't look back, but sacrificed for you to go to school without thinking it twice. He preferred her going to school than training himself. Can this lady do same if she was in this guy's shoe? You finished and dated a rich dude... If not love for money, why do that? You went back to him and married him this time. Money came, yes, through you! Did her altitude changed or not when the money came?

She attested that the guy never raised a hand on her even when they were suffering... Suffering should bring in anger and not the other way round. Now, he's beating you, so, what changed in you? What were the things you were saying to him now that made him hit you?

When I condemn hitting your partner, are you also free from bad behaviors?

The Mistake has been done, she can't cope with him again

Do I nned to tell you that her status changed and she felt she need a better partner

When people are feed up with their marriage, don't beg them to stay behind because they already made up their mind before bringing it out

Marriage is a place of joy and love not a place where your mind will be else where

Instead of them fighting and maming themselves let them separate

Secondly she is better of dating another man as she has done while alone, instead of doing so in the man's house

The bottom line is that she is feed up, understand that aspect

People do get tired of their marriage, only few get tired and still stay in the in there

Julius Agwu wife said she separated from her husband because she is tired of the marriage, do we blame her
Are we in their shoes

They are matured adults and can take responsibilities for their actions

Once a woman starts acting this ways, she has already made up her mind and the best is to let her go

Did you read where she said she us going abroad for schooling, what does it mean

It means that she has long ago planned this, she just want us to know not that we should advice her not to separate

Until she leaves that man she won't be happy

So what's the essence of her staying

kay29000:
Exactly. See how she said it so nonchalantly, as if it is nothing.

No mind the coded olosho, I wondered if she really thinks she can emotionally manipulate us here. Rich dude dey enter the Werey eyes, she dey here dey cap rubbish

Hmm..
Ten years of marriage

May the almighty God have mercy on his people with this issues of divorce is getting out of hand

UNDFTD:
If a man ever raises his hand the first time to beat his spouse, you better believe that he would NOT stop. That's just the beginning of a cycle of abuse. I am not going to sit here and advise you to leave or NOT to leave your spouse. The decision is entirely yours but remember that an abusive relationship does NOT get better rather it gets worse. You have to think of your well-being and that of your children. Do NOT let yourself become a statistic!

Na lie. If some drug addicts can change, a woman/man beater too may change with good counselling and personal will to change his or her ways.

MessiahMARLIANS:
1) Why ?

2) Do You already have Someone Else ?

The olosho that has since been collecting Dick from another guy, na she u dey asked if she has someone else?

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

Safe yourself and get out of that place called marriage. How can he be beating you and you remain there until he kill you before you get sense?
Follow this page on intagram GNOSIS_HELP, yhe owner is a barrister who deals with relationship matters, he also conduct a show on 99.3 NigeriaInfo FM Lagos called 'Relationship 360' every Saturday from 7am-9am. On todays program, he discuss on a similar case to yours were men sponsor some ladies and expect the ladies to marry them which most times doesnt work.

ransomed:
You met a rich man? Haba?

Exactly. Na the rich man she wan go leave with.

Toks2008:
If a guy beats you, leave him.

Simple. No long story.

When your television remote, phone or any of such misbehave, you go hammer on it for factory reset, soon ladies needs to hammer on them for their factory brain to reset.

When he was stupidly working day n night to help her have a bright future, taking alll sorts of rubbish from people just to help someone who will help him in future to get brighter future, what her so called father or family didn't do for her, and now she don see road and for her mind you are wise as serpent.

You now see him as a common illiterate, thinking you're untouchable, nne?!! nemesis will always come back to you, if not from him, then it will come from your kids but surely know this nemesis will surely come, na time e go take. No where is safe not even your grave yard.

Cuz you now make millions so easy and you think everything will be easy for you and you now forget yesterday because of social media, right? Well, I'm not a lawyer so why will I judge you. Social Media go deceive you, bite yourself hard and see how it pains.

MufasaLion:
Without being married or have kids, you will live a fruitful life, even when you're old.

It's wrong to have kids because you want someone to care for you at old age.

U won't understand till u get there, I still believe u are under 45 yrs & there is no explanation I will give that will make u to understand, till u get older. I quoted u because I was once like u. One thing u should know is if it was better to live without kids or get married, ur parents wouldn't give birth to u, the society would have adopted this approach of singleness, moreover nobody wants to suffer, raising kids. But as u start approaching 50 yrs without a family or child, u will understand...

Arizoner:
abadie

Idioko

Those saying i want to go back to the rich guy,
It is not like that, After breaking up with him, he cursed me and blocked me everywhere. he is married with kids.

i dont intend to remarry anymore. I just wan to start a business or have an hobby.
I started having sex with him since i was 19. i am fed up with sex pls.

my husband was my bestfriend, i dont have friends.

I feel i should start afresh with my life but i cant leave my kids because i am an introvert.