Kobojunkie:
1. Please at least check What is a compassionate Marriage so we can at least get on the same page as far as what is understood as companionship in marriage.

2. You continue to make my point which is that Nigerians tend to approach the issues of marriage from a Sex-is-alpha-&-omega point of view that it pretty much makes no sense to even attempt to cause them to see that it shouldn't be that way. Out in the rest of the world, there are couples who have comfortably existed without sex for a period of years with the relationship and bond between them going stronger than ever. There are spouses with sick partners who have altogether had to give up on sex altogether because for them there are more important things in marriage than sex. Trying to convince a Nigerian of this is like trying to break down an iron wall with a fork in hand and a bowl of water.

Thank you jarre

SonOfEl:
Thank you jarre

Just so you know, when I say Nigerians are obsessed with sex as alpha-&-omega in marriage, I mean both men and women. A Nigerian man automagically shifts into panic mode when his wife begins not to respond to his sexual advances, even when he is being serviced by many side-chicks outside of his marriage. Why? Because society-wise sex is worshipped and in marriage, it is pretty much "do or die".

scottyoloye:


Simple!!!!

Even if I'm tired and he wants it, I CAN BEG HIM TO TENDER JUSTICE WITH MERCY.
And if I'm hot and he wants it, HE BEGS ME AND IT COMES WITH LOADS OF MOUTH WATERY PROMISES.
I am not even a sex freak!But I enjoy sex with my husband so much so that I don't look else where.

THIS IS ONE OF THE MAJOR REASON I MARRIED HIM ANYWAY.

On a normal, I get easily tired with a man.
I rarely last in relationship as a spinster.

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! It isn't that they don't want it. Instead, they don't prioritize as you do. It is not a thing of obsession for them as it is for you. That is the difference, plain and simple. They can have sex when they are both in the mood for it, otherwise, they wait.

@bolded.
Are you married ?

HeroHero:

I used to hear this word KPEKUS only here on nairaland but is like I am beginning to understand the meaning.

Hehehe
Kpekus is the ultimate word
Some call it puna
Some kitten
Some duri
Some obo
Some toto
Some horney pot
Some glory hole
Some kitty cat
Some Vjay
Some kitten
Some pleasure hole
Some giut
But we call it kpekus


Damn... nasty... I'm out of here

SonOfEl:


Na so.....audio husband abi? Lol. Speak for yourself not for other women.

Lol.
Husband no scarce .
Na mumu girls no no how to carry una put inside house, lock key throway!

LadyRosa:
@bolded. Are you married ?

Why? You think it has to be like your marriage or it isn't real at all?

LadyRosa:


I dey enjoy my brother .

I am not your brother oh.... As long as you're not my sister, you're free to shake body with different men.

JasonScoolari:
I am not your brother oh.... As long as you're not my sister, you're free to shake body with different men.

You are my brother as you get mind quote me.

LadyRosa:


Sex is very important to loads of people!
Marriage may not be, but sex is!Many who dont indulge because of some convictions, still fall out with nature.
You just have to speak for yourself !
Like me, I started CLEARLY in my subsequent post that I love se.x! and WILL not stay long weda as WIFE it not to be tormented for it.

I definitely will 4$Ck!
And I say these things EXPLICITY to my husband .
I don't cap bulkshite.There is a reason why the pussy gets slimy for several days in a month!Its nature way of telling us that the best time to get laid is now.
I URGE WOMEN TO USE IT WELL.

We all love sex, but (penetrative) sex is only one of the arms of intimacy. Despite all the noise about sex, why do couples who live together still cheat outside? That says a lot

A man who marries a decent woman still make her drool for him only if he plays his card well. Which is:

1. Make regular visits (whether once in 3 months or at worst once in 6 months) and ensure you stay with her for at least a month.

2. Ensure she isn't idle (she must have a job and responsibilities)

3. Send her love messages and gifts regularly.

4. Engage in long video calls DAILY or regularly.

5. When you visit, give her the knacking that will make her orgasm at the thought of she seeing your naked body. Knack her ruthlessly so that she will crave for you and look forward and plan elaborately for the next visit

Kobojunkie:
Why? You think it has to be like your marriage or it isn't real at all?

You know you folks actually think 'loose' women don't get married .

I have friends who wrap weed and smoke like furnaces.Some stilk share weeds wiyh their husbands.
Hey, they are married and with strong smart kids.

I'm so fuc'King married and heavy!
Yes! my husband married a CRAY CRAY!

LadyRosa:


You are my brother as you get mind quote me.

Nah dear... You're mistaking.

My sister is not foolish to come online and start talking about her sex life with strangers.

Kobojunkie:
Just so you know, when I say Nigerians are obsessed with sex as alpha-&-omega in marriage, I mean both men and women. A Nigerian man automagically shifts into panic mode when his wife begins not to respond to his sexual advances, even when he is being serviced by many side-chicks outside of his marriage. Why? Because society-wise sex is worshipped and in marriage, it is pretty much "do or die".

I agree with you.

JasonScoolari:
Nah dear... You're mistaking.

My sister is not foolish.

That should be make you worry less about foolish .
You spent miserable time still quoting me.

LadyRosa:
1. You know you folks actually think 'loose' women don't get married . I have friends who wrap weed and smoke like furnaces. Hey, they are married and with strong smart kids.

2. I'm so fuc'King married and heavy! Yes! my husband married a CRAY CRAY!

1. What has that to do with this discussion?
2. And so? Should we all somehow become like you and think as you do, or what?

SonOfEl:


We all love sex, but (penetrative) sex is only one of the arms of intimacy. Despite all the noise about sex, why do couples who live together still cheat outside? That says a lot

A man who marries a decent woman still make her drool for him only if he plays his card well. Which is:

1. Make regular visits (whether once in 3 months or at worst once in 6 months) and ensure you stay with her for at least a month.

2. Ensure she isn't idle (she must have a job and responsibilities)

3. Send her love messages and gifts regularly.

4. Engage in long video calls DAILY or regularly.

5. When you visit, give her the knacking that will make her orgasm at the thought of she seeing your naked body. Knack her ruthlessly so that she will crave for you and look forward and plan elaborately for the next visit

So you get sense like this
If this is your position, it's doable for many.
But the years of loneliness is just bulkshite

LadyRosa:


That should be make you worry less about foolish .
You spent miserable time still quoting me.

I quote you just to encourage you to continue in your cheating adventure since you're not my sister.


That's how I help foolish people dear.

JasonScoolari:
I quote you just to encourage you to continue in your cheating adventure since you're not my sister.


That's how I help foolish people dear.

That's why you're my brother

LadyRosa:


So you get sense like this
If this is your position, it's doable for many.
But the years of loneliness is just bulkshite

I have been there, so you guys should listen and stop making all the noise. No big deal.

LadyRosa:


You spoke my mind !
I have not travelled out of the country for years because of my husband.
It's painful because even when I tried, after committing monies I changed my mind because I realise he wasn't comfortable with it and even though is quiet and gave me the go ahead eventually I declined .
The highest I will do is to birth and come back.

My husband is still very young, in fact in his early thirties.And so he needs to be knocked when he wants it.IT IS HIS RIGHT BY THE LAW OF THE LAND, OF HEAVEN AND OF THE CONSTITUTION .

your profile picture says it all.. are you a nymp?

SonOfEl:
We all love sex, but (penetrative) sex is only one of the arms of intimacy. Despite all the noise about sex, why do couples who live together still cheat outside? That says a lot

A man who marries a decent woman still make her drool for him only if he plays his card well. Which is:
1. Make regular visits (whether once in 3 months or at worst once in 6 months) and ensure you stay with her for at least a month.
2. Ensure she isn't idle (she must have a job and responsibilities)
3. Send her love messages and gifts regularly.
4. Engage in long video calls DAILY or regularly.
5. When you visit, give her the knacking that will make her orgasm at the thought of she seeing your naked body. Knack her ruthlessly so that she will crave for you and look forward and plan elaborately for the next visit

So, let me get this straight! You expect a woman who you married for sex to be satisfied with just what you listed above while the man goes out to get his own knickers serviced, the real deal, ou there by other women?

Kobojunkie:
1. What has that to do with this discussion?
2. And so? Should we all somehow become like you and think as you do, or what?

You see this your penis, yes the third one hanging in between your legs.

It's for us, the women to use, un-use, re-use till to our utmost satisfaction .
Though it belongs to you, but it's not for you.

Reflect on that!
And if you are the type that will stay years without touching the wife, pray you don't end up with a "WOO-MAN" like me!

LadyRosa:


That's why you're my brother

Nah, you're not worthy to be called my sister, na just to furck you dear....

LadyRosa:
1. You see this your penis, yes the third one hanging in between your legs. It's for us, the women to use, un-use, re-use till to our utmost satisfaction . Though it belongs to you, but it's not for you.

2. Reflect on that! And if you are the type that will stay years without touching the wife, pray you don't end up with a "WOO-MAN" like me!

1. I suggest you stop thinking you speak for all women in this or anything else. Let people have their say and learn to move on when you no longer have anything vital to add abeg!

2. Nah! I have better things to do with my time!

Kobojunkie:
So, let me get this straight! You expect a woman who you married for sex to be satisfied with just what you listed above while the man goes out to get his own knickers serviced, the real deal, ou there by other women?

1. I am married.

2. I know my wife's sex and love language.

3. We both are practicing christians (we pray regularly whether online or offline)

4. I satisfy her other needs asides sex

5. I tantalize her with my progress by putting her at the centre of it.

6. Sir, sex is sweet, she and I know we can get it outside if we choose but guess what we have a code we live by and so, we make our sex special.

SonOfEl:
1. I am married.
2. I know my wife's sex and love language.
3. We both are practicing christians (we pray regularly whether online or offline)
4. I satisfy her other needs asides sex
5. I tantalize her with my progress by putting at her centre of it.
6. Sir, sex is sweet, she and I know we can get it outside if we choose but guess what we have a code we live by and so, we make our sex special.

And you think all of this means that if you ever leave your wife for an extended period of time, she will never look outside of your marriage for someone who can also understand her sex language?

You say you are practicing Christians, so are we to somehow believe that means Christians don't sin, or have Churchians some how resolved that problem while I was not looking?

Wiseandtrue:

It's those that are morally bankrupt that cheats

You have to learn to control yourself and not your body controlling you!

Haba!

Joke of the decade. Sexual needs are inherent in human. It doesn't matter the sex of the fellow. As long as the fellow, is medically and psychological ok. He/she MUST feel the need to have sex. If you decide to supress the urge, you will keep having wet dreams. That is basically tantamount to having sex.

Kobojunkie:
1. I suggest you stop thinking you speak for all women in this or anything else. Let people have their say and learn to move on when you no longer have anything vital to add abeg!

2. Nah! I have better things to do with my time!

I'm not speaking for women.
So many times in my post if YOU are observant, I used MYSELF as an example .

Kobojunkie:
And you think all of this means that if you ever leave your wife for an extended period of time, she will never look outside of your marriage for someone who can also understand her sex language?

You say you are practicing Christians, so are we to somehow believe that means Christians don't sin again?

The fact that you singled out the spiritual part of my post attests to the many ugly things happening in marriages because of sex.

Christians do sin, but that's because we don't 'watch and pray' as christians. My wife knows my stay overseas alone can bring in temptations and distraction for we both, so guess what? We had to arm ourselves psychologically and spiritually against infidelity.

JasonScoolari:
Nah, you're not worthy to be called my sister, na just to furck you dear....

&*+So you like "fuc*$k like this so?
So why you dey argue ?

LadyRosa:
I'm not speaking for women. So many times in my post if YOU are observant, I used MYSELF as an example .

You, are you, and we have already dealt with and moved past that.

Creativity22:

Joke of the decade. Sexual needs are inherent in human. It doesn't matter the sex of the fellow. As long as the fellow, is medically and psychological ok. He/she MUST feel the need to have sex. If you decide to supress the urge, you will keep having wet dreams. That is basically tantamount to having sex.

Dude stop shifting the goal post. Wet dreams is not infidelity.