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My prayers daily

Nairobi37a:
Dear God, thank you so much for bringing us together as a couple. We know that you have a plan and a purpose for our marriage, and we invite you to forgive the past self-centeredness, and come into our lives and relationship. Direct our steps from now on. Please give us the grace to put You and each other first every day. Make our relationship a blessing to others. But most of all; make it a blessing to You. Amen.”
This would help

God bless you. This gospel must be preached by any means

Fiscus105:



Go and involve in serious relationship first, meai, go and learn how to interpret statement correctly

I try to buy with words like "Meai" how can I ?

It is wellIt is well...

Crestine:
Please guys, if you have a little kindly share with me. I haven't eaten anything since yesterday and am very hungry and sick please. Am having typhod fever but due to lack of money I can't buy drugs. I live with my mom who is retired and my Dad is late. pls help me with any little you can please I beg you in the name of God. May God's show you mercy as you have shown me, amen. Thank you
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Hello, I want to help but how do I confirm your claims? Don’t send dm. Just quote and respond. Thanks

Rubbish!

U failed to note that if ur a celebrity ur bound to lose ur senses.

U put everything out for public consumption.

So what do they expect when the bad happens?

The public will consume it too.

Most celebrities don't apply sense.

So ur thread is null and void.

If na pastor divorce now we no go hear word.

Let basket mouth enjoy the troll too. He's a celebrity.

Besides he didn't tell us why they broke up so what lessons do ubwant us to learn?

Celeb or no celeb in as much as one of the couples or both don't have the fear of God, they will never last!

Did you know about Job in the Bible that faced trials? Does it occur to you that it wasn't recorded about that woman that she left Job despite the fact he lost everything?

Now that is a wife, and until the ladies of today are ready to be like that, they will continue to get things wrong.

What about Sarah whom is the wife of the father of faith? Did she leave Abraham because of impotency or predicament? He calls him my "master" and "husband". Hmn.. Not what is obtainable in the life of the women out there today.

They call themselves Finster following the life of Queen Vashti who was divorced and replaced with a girl that was a victim of war...

If you want your marriage to last as a lady, you must be like Sarah and Esther not like Queen Vashti. I rest my pen!

eddie7:
OPINION

Failed Celeb Marriages: Stop the Trolling, Take the Lessons .

May Ebute

Most couples don't get married with the intention to divorce. I doubt that a couple that is very serious about marriage gets into it with the mindset of getting divorced at the end of the day.

Except of course for those fairweather types that know right from the beginning that they are in only for the good times, everyone hopes for a "till death do us part" and an *I wanna grow old with you," type of marriage. They talk it, live it, dream it, walk it. Unfortunately, life does not always go the way we want.

I am not married yet but you think I am planning to go into marriage with a plan B? An "If e no work, I go comot" mentality? One of my deal breakers in marriage, the one I can see right now, is abuse. Physical, emotional and mental abuse. Anyone who knows me off facebook knows that I am ride or die but not when abuse is involved. You hit me, even on the night of our wedding, I am calling my mum to tell her I am leaving. Except she wants to find herself a new daughter, she knows better than to tell me to stay. I can't stay with a man who abuses me in any form. There is no telling what I would do if I stayed and got hit on constantly, physically or emotionally. There is no telling what I would do if l married a man who stands by and watches while his mum and siblings abuse me. Rather than be turned into the proverbial goat that was pushed to the wall and turned back to bite, I would rather take a walk. That way, we can all have peace.

Other than a case of abuse and two others I won't mention, I don't have any plans to divorce when I get married. If you asked me, I would tell you all the mushy mushy things a couple would say about their significant other when they are in love. I would tell you that I am going to be married forever and forever, in this world and the next, to my significant other. That's what couples say when the going is good. With their heads in the clouds, It's hard to envisage otherwise.Really hard.

Ordinary boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, how e dey be? Let alone marriage. If people can think forever with a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, it's not out of place to think forever and a day with a spouse.

I think it's rather stupid for anyone to be trolling Basketmouth and other celebrity couples with failed marriages, over the things they said when the going was.good. Been seeing some of the people on my list, going to their old posts, where they spoke highly of their spouse, to drop comments that reek of mockery. Ironically, the people doing this are unmarried themselves. They don't have an idea what their marriages would be like yet but there they are, making a fool of themselves over another's calamity.

Most married couples do not go into marriage with the mind to become divorced later on. If you are one of those that has been trolling Basketmouth over his recent news, let me tell you something for free. That's a rather silly thing to do. Why not use that energy to learn some lessons and pray to God that when you finally get married, your marriage won't be one of those that will be added to the statistics of failed marriages.

For example, I have since learnt that that a couple gushes over themselves all over social media, is not an indication that all is well behind the scenes. That a man praises his wife to the Heavens and back or the wife does the same, is not an indication of a healthy relationship. Sometimes, it is just to hide the true state of their marriage.

FFK's ex wife, the beauty queen, said something in her interview with Chude.

"Whenever he beat me, he would arrange for us to take lovey dovey pictures that would be splashed all over the internet the next day."

Paraphrased of course but you get the idea, yeah. For everytime FFK posted her pictures and wrote lengthy essays extolling her virtues, he had just finished beating her up. But guess what? I was one of those who would awwww and oooooh and ahhhhhh and "God when" over those lovely pictures. Who would have known that behind those pictures, were untold stories of abuse? I was shocked when the news of their troubled marriage hit the stands.

Same way I felt about Korra and Dean. I had always admired their marriage. I did date a white man at some point and wished that if we eventually got married, we would be like Korra and Dean ( not the naked, twerking part). How was I to know that the marriage I so much admired, had stories of emotional abuse and pain borne from years of hurt? For every time they made a lovey dovey video that got the rest of us awwing, there was a mess going on in the background that we couldn't see.

I am not ashamed to admit that the failure of Korra and Dean's marriage hit me really hard. I loved that couple. My favourite content on social media is one that is family oriented. I can burn data just to watch a happy family do their thing. Away from her dance which eventually became very monotonous to watch, Korra and Dean had that "IT" thing for me when it came to family related content. When they got separated and eventually divorced, I lost interest.

A lesson I have learnt is that successful marriages are not built on social media. The real work of marriage is done off social media. Of course by now, you should have known that you should not let the razzmatazz on this space fool you. So instead of trolling failed couples at your old age, do yourself a favour. Use that time to learn the things to do and not to do when you eventually get married.

Use the time to also pray for your marriage. Those of us that are still single, still have a chance to make the right choice. We do know that who we decide to marry is what determines whether the rest of our lives will be heaven or hell on earth. We have a choice to walk away from a shitty situation now, rather than take the risk to walk through that shit into a marriage that we want to later run out of. Knowing how manipulative our hearts can be, We can't do it by ourselves. We need all the help we can get from the one who created the institution of marriage in the first place.

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May Ebute is a writer who is passionate about expressing her thoughts on contemporary societal issues. She is based in Jos, Plateau State.



#C O P I E D.....

In marriage like everything in life, there is a period wherr you just naturallybecome bored, you are used to doing the same thing with the same person, tou have tried so mamny other spices, to ginger ypyrself up (if you have been married for at least 10 years you will know). It happens to work environment, same job, same house, same environment... .but unlike others, in marriage it is just a phase that will soon pass. But you see all these celebs that sees the values they will enjoy if they separate, will rather jump on the divorce train.

Sadly, after a while, 2 - 3 years they begin to realise the phase is past, and they begin to desire themselves again. I am talking about divorces that does not involve abuse, something triggered by incessant misunderstanding that refuses to go overtime, where each partner would be thinking the other person Is tired of the relationship. Most atimes, it could be a hormonal-triggered misunderstanding, deep inside you, you will know "but this person no really do me anything o" but you won't want to agree for calmness, not because you don't want to though.
Most women naturally gets bored even after a child bearing experience called PTSD) even while she tend to stay in the marriage, if things are not taken care of properly, it does not go away easily then another child, another child....she gets bored of the whole process overtine but keeps staying put just so she would enjoy all the good thing marriage offers.
The dangerous part is, that withdrawal is easily noticed by a man, and he translates it to you giving attitude, no longer caring, no longer interested (we all know how men lover pampering,sometimes like a baby. But what the woman is going through makes her draw near to the baby or kids more. Most women will begin to sue words like "my children are my husband, for mo reason. Then, she begins to suspect the husband on everything, everything that once was covered or overshadowed with love becomes glaring, and you begin to hear, "my eyes have now opened, he is a cheating bastard, he has been doing it for long".
A man loves a peaceful environment, these attitude begins pushing him away. That's most likely the end. Now this can span between 1 to 10 years.

I know a couple, when they got married, for 10 years, they deliberately stayed without a child, they kept enjoy themselves until there is no ore to enjoy and they decode they are having a child. Now, even after the child, PTSD may set in, but, the effect will be minimal, and the experiences they have learnt and bonding overtime will help them navigate through as long as there is no abuse in a relationship.

Successful marriages are not built on social media.

Baddosqqi:
Celeb or no celeb in as much as one of the couples or both don't have the fear of God, they will never last!

Did you know about Job in the Bible that faced trials? Does it occur to you that it wasn't recorded about that woman that she left Job despite the fact he lost everything?

Now that is a wife, and until the ladies of today are ready to be like that, they will continue to get things wrong.

What about Sarah whom is the wife of the father of faith? Did she leave Abraham because of impotency or predicament? He calls him my "master" and "husband". Hmn.. Not what is obtainable in the life of the women out there today.

They call themselves Finster following the life of Queen Vashti who was divorced and replaced with a girl that was a victim of war...

If you want your marriage to last as a lady, you must be like Sarah and Esther not like Queen Vashti. I rest my pen!

Dnt you think your sermon is one sided?

In every marriage that collapses or successful, two of them are involved, though percentages of their involvement may differ.

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Husbands don't ever cheat on your wife if you don't want her to resent you.

There is no tenable reason whatsoever to lay your hands on someone's adult child.[/quotle].



If you cheat on your husband, be ready to go to your parents house.

wwwihy:
“When people divorce, it’s always such a tragedy. At the same time, if people stay together it can be even worse.”


God Bless Incoming President Bola Tinubu

Cassava, Corn , moringa waiting for you.

Fiscus105:




Dnt you think your sermon is one sided?

In every marriage that collapse or successful, two of them are involved, though percentages may be differ.

True it.

irijuola:


Hello, I want to help but how do I confirm your claims? Don’t send dm. Just quote and respond. Thanks

that guy is a fraudster. His real name is Anthony munachi okeke

Dogalmighty17:
Marraige is a conscious day to day decision. It is not magic, it is not luck. It is a daily choice to choose to remain married. It is not the easiest of things to do. As a matter of fact, marrying and staying married is one of the hardest undertakings in life.
May God help us all!

I agree with this, its amazing that almost everyone wants to get married.