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Sweetplum:
I v given you red card. You mouth is too long n saucy

franchasng:
Deep.


There is a reason I want them to have the second passport as kids then when they have turned adults.


There is a close friend's uncle who used to be stinkingly rich like today's Cubana and co. He believed there was no need to send his kids and wife abroad since he could afford it when they finish secondary school and send them there to study and find their path.


Yes he succeeded in doing that, he even owned houses in the US, his kids did their universities in the US, but you know rich kids lol, they always go for useless courses since whatever they study don't matter as Daddy's money will fill the gap.


The kids graduated and cant find work to get sponsor to file for them to become PRs then Citizens, and now the old man is no longer as rich as he was then, though he is still okay, his company is no longer doing excellently like it was back then.


Only one out of his 4 kids have been able to become a US Green Card holder via marriage to a US citizen. Two have went back to school to study nursing, something they despised some years back when they felt Daddy is too rich and that they are too Ajebo to study such stressful courses.



So as a young man, I learn from people around me and from real life stories I hear or even read, while praying not to make any mistake that will lead to had I known tomorrow.



I have another close friend whose dad was rich when they were kids, the dad had opportunity of getting them British birth certificate in those days but the old man felt it was useless since he is very rich and can afford to send his kids to study or live anywhere in the world.


Today the man is very old, 86plus, though he tried in investing in landed properties and building rented house, those are the only things left now but his last child who is my friend isn't doing so well after he lost his job during covid-19 and now he is desperately searching for ways to Japa to US or Canada, he doesn't like UK, just like me and most of my friends anyway.

LordAdam16:
I would not quote your main details, we get quarterback FBIs for NL.

You make very valid points. And sure enough if those kids had citizenship, there'd be an added layer of security when life threw a curveball.

That said, whether you are in the 1% of the 1% or very comfortable, always plan for the worst about your kids futures and try to be involved in their big life choices by making them value your opinion strongly. Even the ones that are very brainy can make atrocious decisions.

Here's what I mean by planning for the worst. For those kids that don't study stressful or economically viable courses; try to establish the connections so someone can take them under their wings or co-create vehicles that will sustain them. This is one reason why the ultra rich establish foundations, art organizations, and stuff. They'd fix their or a friend's kid which should keep them busy and take some of the financial burden off your holdings.

HCA Healthcare co-founder Massey had just one daughter. Her career is managing the foundation he started. Miele doubles as an employment scheme for members of the two founding families--Miele and Zinkann.

Or fix them in public, civil, and supranational institutions. You have to establish the connections so if they're not economically ambitious, they'll be able to live a very comfortable life should the worst happen. All those rich kids going to Bowdoin and liberal arts colleges (aka Little Ivies) spending six figures a year (when you include tuition, rent, vacays, cars and shit). They're not going to work for Google, Goldman Sachs, or Novartis; but there'll be one state government position, ACLU or some other civic institution, or UNESCO job waiting for them. Compensation and benefits are lit. Hours and working conditions are soft.

The ones that are ambitious, you call every favor to give them the best foot forward.

As for your concern about Nigeria's future, even if it was brighter than a supernova, you need to have a contingency plan. A Western citizenship is a good contingency plan. Lawan (Senate President) and Femi (Speaker) are both dual citizens. You cannot be more Catholic than the Pope. So if our present crop of leaders got dual citizenship when the country never too spoil, e kon b now wen gasoline jor touch N400.

Convince your wife to start in earnest. It can take some time to complete the process. But you do have to assuage her concerns about the marriage. Na man no dey mind cross country go hustle. You talk to family for night, you dey ok. You know say you dey sacrifice for their comfort and future. It is very different for women. They are not biologically programmed to live unperturbed without their partner. All these women wen their husband dey offshore, frequent flyers, or deployed, na when the men show you go start dey hear dem dey hum, face go bright. E get why. You better go join the loyalty program of your fave airline and/or plan get business interests for North America.

But you can convince her, she's smart. Sacrifices have to be made for the kids. And when you have an empty nest (kids are in college), you both will have more time to yourselves.

-Lord

Godbpraised:
This one of the best advise i have seen, God bless you really Good.


My advice.

Tread softly with a woman either dating a woman Nigeria or abroad, alternatively look for a lady in Nigeria give am belly and keep sending her money and take care of her and the child , if she like make she dey Bleep up and down. na she sabi I would not advise a man to bring a lady to abroad even though the lady is an Angel, they always Change.

My Two cents.

Sixfeetbelle:
He wasn't physically attractive to me. That's all.

Plus, also, I wasn't ready for marriage when he approached me.

That was years ago, before Buhari and APC turned Nigeria upside down

ElijahIme1992:
looool so right now are u married or single?

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmmmm

Nice write up.

You can never be more catholic than the pope …….Hmmmmmmm

Have been thinking of recent also to relocate my family abroad because this nigeria wey I dey see so, e no get shock absorber.
If man enter tight corner lasan, nobody go help you. People hardly pull out of financial struggling in nigeria if they encounter one after years of good life.
Most enter their graves faster than a thunder will do.

Hmmmmmmm

Really thinking

SyrusdeHansome:
I hope u won't come back nd cry of betrayal cos i see no reason why a guy dat has the means to travel abroad nd improve his social nd economic status is planning to gamble with the money. It's even better to send our sisters abroad than to send some women we call our wives not to talk of sending a total stranger. Those who gets help on a platter of gold rarely value the help nd i hope ur case will be dfrnt.

Akwaokukuo:
Thanks so much for your wonderful advice.
I never even see the girl physically, she was recommended to me by a relative.
If I bring her to the abroad without legally marrying her, it is more risky because it means that she can marry someone else and abandon you.
Sponsoring someone to the UK is around 20million naira , I have the money actually but I don't plan to waste it on someone who would abandon me for someone else after investing almost all my lifesavings on her. It could be suicidal.
As for the sex part, it will also be bad because abroad is really very lonely and depriving me of sex is punishment because I have only had sex once since I moved to abroad and currently sexually deprived. Na masturbation I dey use relieve myself here while focusing strictly on myself and on money.
No lovelife, no funlife, strictly hustle and personal development for many years now

LordAdam16:
That too.

Safety net for Massachusetts and Rivers no be the same thing. But everyone hopes for the best sha. Either home or abroad you do need a reliable support system. Abroad, the society helps in a way; here you rely entirely on the contacts you've made. If dem fall your hand, sorry.

It's all about insurance. You don't insure hoping the worst happens. You insure so that if the worst happens, you'll be good.

So even if you do not relocate them, make moves so your family will be well taken care of whatever happens. No form Superman, life no balance.

-Lord

Sixfeetbelle:
I'm neither

simplepee:
So you don’t care how your child will turn out after being raised by a mum who dey Bleep up and down?? All these brainless men with baby mama talks.
If you don’t want to get married, please don’t. My own is you people should stop messing the society up with poorly/improperly trained kids.

Akwaokukuo:
Hey guys, this question goes to the men in this thread who are married to medical doctors, especially those working in the UK or any other western country.
What are your experiences?
Judging from the busy schedule of medical doctors, how do you guys take care of the children?
What are the biggest challanges you face in your marriage?

I am currently dating a medical student and plan to send her abroad immediately after her studies.
I would appreciate hearing from those with the experience or those whose relatives are married to medical doctors and both of them live in any western country.
Thank you.

Godbpraised:
I do not expect anything good from a hoe. especially if the hoe like u is such a punk. Let it be my cross, if u went through half the sheet i want through u would not be talking this way. Idiotic slowpoke.

Firstly, see her as a human being and a partner in the union, away from her profession.
What you put in is what you get out of the relationship.

Enjoying quality family time depends on the nature of her job. If she's a Medical Officer (government appointment), she would most definitely work shift, which isn't a situation that can't be managed.

Residency on the other hand demands a lot, and that's where making time for the family may be a challenge, and if she is unfortunate to either find herself in a unit with very few resident colleagues couple with huge patient work load or finds herself under the supervision of a very difficult and lazy Consultant, you must force yourself to understand that you JUST MUST Fill the gap for her.
Little things like managing the kids and taking care of certain home/family situations without having to wait for her coming home late in the might to attend to such goes a very long way in making her feel blessed getting married to you.

Importantly, don't forget that scaling through the hurdles of Part 1 and Part 2 exams, whether National or West Africa (depending on her area of speciality) is critical for you guys to know if you are both in for a short or Very Long Ride.

The beautiful thing is that once she's done with the residency training program and becomes a consultant, relief comes and you guys can enjoy quality time together, plus a rise in her paycheck (please, don't rely on this, but if you have always been a responsible husband and father, plus you treating her well, you just might get her to constantly show appreciation in ways that may be very special to her.)

On a lighter note, pandemic period is a bad time to be married to these people

simplepee:
Do no mistake me for your mother. It is clear that all the women in your life “bleep up and down” like you said earlier. So careful and don’t mix us up . Last response, if e pain you, e sweet me so do the needful by hugging transformer.

SyrusdeHansome:
I hope u won't come back nd cry of betrayal cos i see no reason why a guy dat has the means to travel abroad nd improve his social nd economic status is planning to gamble with the money. It's even better to send our sisters abroad than to send some women we call our wives not to talk of sending a total stranger. Those who gets help on a platter of gold rarely value the help nd i hope ur case will be dfrnt.

Godbpraised:
This one of the best advise i have seen, God bless you really Good.

My story

Where can i start from it is tough. I was married in Nigeria for 6years my wife of 6years did not bare a child, i propose we went abroad for more medical support since we decided to go abroad for support (Australia) when we got abroad after about 2 years we started having issues , one night we had a misunderstanding and boom she called the police. I never hit this woman or touched her, bro luckily for me i just cooled down, when morning reach i parked my load and moved out from the house. Guys, i left her for good, my people to date no dey hungry me again because i am strongly traumatized, i see every woman as a potential threat.

My advice.

Tread softly with a woman either dating a woman Nigeria or abroad, alternatively look for a lady in Nigeria give am belly and keep sending her money and take care of her and the child , if she like make she dey Bleep up and down. na she sabi. I would not advise a man to bring a lady to abroad even though the lady is an Angel, they always Change.

My Two cents.

ElijahIme1992:
Ok, so wat happened to the guy, is he married now?.... Cos for ur family to have wanted you to marry him, I guess he is a family friend...

jogsman01:
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Akwaokukuo:
I was just going through my Facebook around 4am and noticed that someone tagged my so called girlfriend and her husband and congratulated them on their wedding which happened on 7th January.
She wasn't the one that posted, she was tagged to the post.
This is the highest shock of my life this year.
As in, is this happening? or am I dreaming?
How could she be in a serious relationship and still kept on acting along and toying with my emotion?
She was recommended to me last month around 15th December, what is the big deal in telling me that she is not single so that I move on with my life as fast as possible?
She was chatting romantically with me all these while and giving me all the green light and even sending hug and kiss emojis and my head was swelling.
Thank you all for your wonderful responses

ifihearam:
Ori baba e buru

Akwaokukuo:
I was just going through my Facebook around 4am and noticed that someone tagged my so called girlfriend and her husband and congratulated them on their wedding which happened on 7th January.
She wasn't the one that posted, she was tagged to the post.
This is the highest shock of my life this year.
As in, is this happening? or am I dreaming?
How could she be in a serious relationship and still kept on acting along and toying with my emotion?
She was recommended to me last month around 15th December, what is the big deal in telling me that she is not single so that I move on with my life as fast as possible?
She was chatting romantically with me all these while and giving me all the green light and even sending hug and kiss emojis and my head was swelling.
Thank you all for your wonderful responses

SyrusdeHansome:
I hope u won't come back nd cry of betrayal cos i see no reason why a guy dat has the means to travel abroad nd improve his social nd economic status is planning to gamble with the money. It's even better to send our sisters abroad than to send some women we call our wives not to talk of sending a total stranger. Those who gets help on a platter of gold rarely value the
help nd i hope ur case will be dfrnt.

Akwaokukuo:
Hey guys, this question goes to the men in this thread who are married to medical doctors, especially those working in the UK or any other western country.
What are your experiences?
Judging from the busy schedule of medical doctors, how do you guys take care of the children?
What are the biggest challanges you face in your marriage?

I am currently dating a medical student and plan to send her abroad immediately after her studies.
I would appreciate hearing from those with the experience or those whose relatives are married to medical doctors and both of them live in any western country.
Thank you.

We4all:
She wanted to weigh her options. Probably she wasn't so sure about the other guy and wanted to test the waters. Instead of you to propose, you were busy chatting up and down. Babe knew it would take at least 2 years before you make up your mind. She quickly grabbed what she had been offered by the other guy to avoid stories that touch. End of story!

Akwaokukuo:
I was just going through my Facebook around 4am and noticed that someone tagged my so called girlfriend and her husband and congratulated them on their wedding which happened on 7th January.
She wasn't the one that posted, she was tagged to the post.
This is the highest shock of my life this year.
As in, is this happening? or am I dreaming?
How could she be in a serious relationship and still kept on acting along and toying with my emotion?
She was recommended to me last month around 15th December, what is the big deal in telling me that she is not single so that I move on with my life as fast as possible?
She was chatting romantically with me all these while and giving me all the green light and even sending hug and kiss emojis and my head was swelling.
Thank you all for your wonderful responses