Lubbish

tonididdy:


Says a woman who has no idea how hard it is to earn money.
Not just earning money but earning money that will be blown away before the next salary comes in.
The hard work every man puts in just to maintain the house.
Prices of everything have skyrocketed and you expect a man who isn’t dangote to smile always.
This is the time Nigerian men need the support of their wives the most but no Una go complain if your needs are not met in full.
Meanwhile if the tables are turned and you women become richer, you will become pompous and treat your men like rags

Your first sentence is flamboyant ignorance and indicates that the rest of your write-up will be nonsensical.

Bye.

BRATISLAVA:


Your first sentence is flamboyant ignorance and indicates that the rest of your write-up will be nonsensical.

Bye.

Preacher!
Preaching about anger but you can’t take the heat in the same kitchen.
Anofia!

That's fair, men should not be over-worked very important, but he was ranting over a phone, or phone calls, which indicates his insecurities.

He was stressing over phone or just calls, which can be tending to some kind of insanity.

And probably they had a good thing going on, until he became very unsecured and lacked control of his tongue.

tonididdy:


Says a woman who has no idea how hard it is to earn money.
Not just earning money but earning money that will be blown away before the next salary comes in.
The hard work every man puts in just to maintain the house.
Prices of everything have skyrocketed and you expect a man who isn’t dangote to smile always.
This is the time Nigerian men need the support of their wives the most but no Una go complain if your needs are not met in full.
Meanwhile if the tables are turned and you women become richer, you will become pompous and treat your men like rags .

A woman who cannot differentiate between anger and hate in a marriage, deserves to be single

tonididdy:


Preacher!
Preaching about anger but you can’t take the heat in the same kitchen.
Anofia!

Says a man who doesn't know what it's like to use his brain. A man who works with or for women.

More nonsensical spewings are to be expected from you. After all, you're a man. Your ego is the opposite of your IQ. It's an XY chromosome thing.

Anuofia yourself.

She has had enough of your emotional abuse.


So it's time for her to get her sanity back, by giving you space.

Use this period and work on yourself.

SeriouslySense:
That's fair, men should not be over-worked very important, but he was ranting over a phone, or phone calls, which indicates his insecurities.

He’s ranting because she dose t appreciate him, she’s disrespectful and his in laws too make matters worse by supporting her actions.

Kobojunkie:
Start by going for professional anger management counseling to at least deal with your anger and trust issues. You don't sound at all like a man in love but a man who has anger issues and trying to keep up an image at the same time but that hasn't been working well for you has it?

Give your wife and her family time to marinade in what has taken place and maybe decide on what could come next. You will only be a liar showing up to beg for her back at this point this since there is no way these problems only started back with the December 26th story you fed you here. Start asap by getting yourself help for your anger problems, and then when you go see her at her folk's place — when you receive permission to— you can at least show her you have made progress and will likely not panel beat her again.

You just spilled rubbish. Did u say When he received permission to get the woman she married legally back ? This how you turn men into mumu in the hands of in-laws. Her packing out was also encouraged by her parents. It means they have control over the marriage. I pity the woman who isn't wise enough to manage her home.

breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.

See the way ladies are insulting this guy , to me the woman has something she’s hiding, maybe she started talking to her old time friend who she used to be intimate with or found a new guy who may be using her head by playing her dream movies in her head.
Well guy, if you don’t let emotions to lead you and put all the blames on yourself, she will return but…. she fit don mess up by that time.

My advise to you… explain to her your insecurities, how you felt with her not responding to your calls ( even though she won’t value your explanations) let her know you spoke out of anger. She will want you to cry or fall on her knees , don’t do it…

The last, don’t let emotions move you to do what you will regret bro

Big stomach man. You should be blamed also. But fear women o. It could even be that she was actually with someone else... Bcus they have chicken � brain

How did she insult him, She is probably the type that does not hold unto her Phone so much, some people dont like phones. If i am understanding correctly according to you, her missing his calls is a disrespect.

She is probably not tech savy, and she explained that she was charging it, and she did not say, she heard calls and saw it was his and ignored it.

tonididdy:


He’s ranting because she dose t appreciate him, she’s disrespectful and his in laws too make matters worse by supporting her actions.

op try to resolve the issue with your wife at all cost before the beef get protracted and complicated. go to her fathers house and iron out tins with the man. man to man then tel urwife tha your are vry sorry. that it is not Anyone's fault. am sure she give peace a chance to reigh. after that, take her home .

BRATISLAVA:


Says a man who doesn't know what it's like to use his brain. A man who works with or for women.

More nonsensical spewings are to be expected from you. After all, you're a man. Your ego is the opposite of your IQ. It's an XY chromosome thing.

Anuofia yourself.

Yen yen yen
Clearly you have even worse anger issues than you are advising the OP

Marriages are breaking up every second since the last 1yr the pace has being alarming
Any surviving marriage is the one that has got true love and respect
Any one that is broken was just a pretending woman who has run out of pretense.

Ulunne777:
You told her to go ,she obeyed her husband and you still came here to rant.

Let her go where she is valued.My ex had caustic mouth like you and I showed him my back.
Ppl like you kill self esteem until their partner hates their self and feels worthless

Tueh

U no tell full version o... May be he dumped u because of ur toxic character. By their fruits...

Jashub:
Op, forget her and move on . When hunger and shame torture her she'll come crawling back. Secondly , it won't be easy for her to find someone willing to marry her and bear the burden of carrying the financial responsibility of her son .

Lol...Infact , I pity this woman . She's deluded and doesn't know that being a single mother is the worst sentence a woman can give herself in this harsh economy.

Oil dey ur head bro.

tonididdy:


Yen yen yen
Clearly you have even worse anger issues than you are advising the OP

Marriages are breaking up every second since the last 1yr the pace has being alarming
Any surviving marriage is the one that has got true love and respect
Any one that is broken was just a pretending woman who has run out of pretense.

Take your feminine energy elsewhere.

If you're the hardworking man of your myth up there, you wouldn't be releasing all your stereotypes that defy reality.

SeriouslySense:
How did she insult him, She is probably the type that does not hold unto her Phone so much, some people dont like phones. If i am understanding correctly according to you, her missing his calls is a disrespect.

She is probably not tech savy, and she explained that she was charging it, and she did not say, she heard calls and saw it was his and ignored it.

From 2pm up until 8pm.
…and we she finally picked, she said she doesn’t want her batt3 to run down as there is no power available

.
My guy that marriage don tire the woman since.
Period!

okay, now i am seeing something. That's probably true, She could be tired, but why, He should talk to the wife, to know if she is tired and it could be something else, is she losing desire and drive and its now boring to her.

tonididdy:


From 2pm up until 8pm.
…and we she finally picked, she said she doesn’t want her batt3 to run down as there is no power available

.
My guy that marriage don tire the woman since.
Period!

BRATISLAVA:


Take your feminine energy elsewhere.

If you're the hardworking man of your myth up there, you wouldn't be releasing all your stereotypes that defy reality.

… and there lies the problem ladies and gentlemen.
Naggers !
So only the dangotes are allowed to get married?

E clear say you go tey for mkt

tonididdy:



… and there lies the problem ladies and gentlemen.
Naggers !
So only the dangotes are allowed to get married?

E clear say you go tey for mkt

Preach to yourself.

SeriouslySense:
okay, now i am seeing something. That's probably true, She could be tired, but why.

Ooohhhh…. Treating your husband like he’s an admirer.
What an insult!

No, i am referring to her lack of interest in her husband. She seem uninterested or tired.

tonididdy:



Ooohhhh…. Treating your husband like he’s an admirer.
What an insult!

breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.

Man up, go to get father's house and apologize to your wife... Stop regretting and go and get back your family!!!

Op, I pity you.. If you begged her to come back, trust me,you will also beg her to remain in the marriage. Why did she disobey your instructions in first place? Did she apologize?So she honoured her people more than you.

Leave her jare.. by the time she hear am there her brain go reset. That's when she will value her husband house.

breakthrough22:


If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .

Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them

no. This is not thr best approach. I know you have ego. I would advised you otherwise if you didnt have a son. Dont let your son be estranged from you, it would be your worst nightmare. I thimk your wife is the emotionally manipulative type, thats why she doesnt say sorry.

Your wife lying to you leaves a lot of questions unanswered. Wife saw her lovers missed call she didn't make returning the call a priority, she was now receiving late hours call while in her father's house. If she was receiving the call under your roof, the excuse would have been maybe her parents called. Maybe your wife has found a soul mate.

Oga op, your very st^pid, it seems like you have bad mouth. How can you be raining insult on her? What kind of home are you trying to build and legacy for your son.
No matter how angry you are aways wait to hear first. You made her less of a human being and now.

In all my brother OP, don't be depressed o. If you kill yourself, life will continue and you're the loser like that o.

breakthrough22:


Power outage and the phone was ringing ?

It is ok. THANKS for the advice

Yes, someone can drop their phone somewhere to charge. I don't touch women but If na my sister, i fit tear am blinding slap if to say she try apologise to you then as you were abusing and humiliating her.

You are the one that is unrepentant. You are busy here looking for replies that'll sooth you.
Also, you are a spineless phul casting ur inadequacies and insecurities on her to make yourself feel good and macho. That is bullying and domestic abuse(emotional).

If i were your wife i'd leave.

If i were you, i'd give 4market days to allow tension subside and then ask the father what can be done by you to remedy the situation. After at least 7 attempts (through you, your family, una pastor, your village people, her village people, titled chiefs, colleagues etc) If they continously insist that she's not coming back, move on. Start finding love by february 14 marry & have kids.

Skyview01:
I love my wife so much but if she parks out of my house.

I am changing the keys and locks in the house immediately and it will be a long distance relationship until she request to come back.

Op, you have a lot of work to do on yourself and self esteem.

I dey gbadun guys like u. Oil dey ur head jare.

SeriouslySense:
No, i am referring to her lack of interest in her husband. She seem uninterested or tired.

Obviously
She has just be pretending in the marriage.

Kobojunkie:
1. Is the phone meant to be some sort of leash on her? Phone etiquette is that if you try to reach someone and the person is unavailable, you allow the person to call you back when the person is able to. According to your story, she explained that there was a power outage, and she couldn't charge the phone. So what exactly what she supposed to apologize to you for?

2. Is the name she saves your number on her phone part of your marriage agreement or something? Why does it matter if she saves your number under "Douchbag"?

3. You need to get yourself to a professional anger management class first. This new year, please endeavor to get a book on logical/critical reasoning/thinking so you can grow your mind and as such become able to logically analyze your decisions, and the world around you, including your relationships for yourself. I recommend the book Being Logical. However, any other text that sufficiently teaches you how to critically reason day-to-day issues out will work too. the key is to put into regular(continuous) practice what you learn so you become a more logical being than you are today.

terrible advice as always

Its not really about just sex or having a good time, i also meant, their over-all relationship. She might be very sensitive, or reserved or looking for something, or feels depressed, He knows what is going on.

However, he should have more self control and take some time to understand what's going on.

tonididdy:



Ooohhhh…. Treating your husband like he’s an admirer.
What an insult!

breakthrough22:


If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .

Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them

God will disgrace you by making her life happier than you could ever have made it in your whole life if she decides to move on.
I wonder what you men think you are. This habit is why you all can't stay married abroad because your women take advantage of the sane clime in the abroad. You won't accept her back yen yen yen. God will Shame you. A better man will pick up from where you stopped and take her to higher ground
You made her life a living hell with your nagging and emotional blackmails and then act as if you are the best thing that has ever happened to her. Her biggest mistake in life is marrying you.