| Re: I Am Depressed by Kobojunkie: 12:14am On Jan 14, 2023 |
searchlight:
■Lol the opp is wrong for being verbally abusive but you see that phone stuff and changing of his name meant that the marriage was already over even before she came back to the house. If it wasn't a clearly thought out plans why do you think she packed of her belonging at once?
■ You are meant to be the most important person to your wife
■and courtesy demands that when she misses your call she had to call back as soon as she sees your calls but she answered another person and still told the opp that there was no power in his phone. The story get as en be 1. I already addressed the phone stuff in my other response to you. As for changing the name, again, not everyone carries these things on their heads like you and OP apparently. People have a right to be mad at their spouses. This OP for instance angered his spouse. She didn't stab him or throw hot water on him. She packed her bags and changed the name that his number was saved under. Why make an issue of that when the bigger issue is the fact that OP verbally abused her for an extended period in the marriage?  2. That's not true at all. You are a spouse does not mean that you are the most important. You are important but not necessarily the most important, not even by law. 3. Also not true. There is no law that stipulates this and so it is up to individuals to decide whether to respect each other or to impose these ideas on themselves in their relationships. Look, you don't just make things up as you go along and think it will make sense for everyone because you feel it should. Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman and each couple is allowed to define for themselves what they will allow or not allow, as a couple. Letting your ego and anger impose rules on your partner makes you a bully and not a husband. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Toks2008(m): 12:20am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22 believe me, she was planning to leave before, she was only waiting for a good opportunity.
I can't cociude that her leaving has to do with another guy in the picture but if that is the case, I pity her cos any man with the moral decedence to do a married lady is a terrible choice for any woman.
But just relax and let her be, you will get over it... And eventually she will come back. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Nobody: 12:21am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
So if there was power outage as u claimed, how come the phone rang? It could be that she was charging the phone somewhere and was not close to take your call. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Depressed by obainojazz(m): 12:21am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Shouting like she’s your junior sister… You yourself need to go back to your parent’s house for training 5 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Omodua(m): 12:25am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,
I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .
My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .
She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .
The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.
Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .
That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.
I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.
To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .
Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .
I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .
Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.
Please what do I do?I am devastated .
Some of her chats this night ..
[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
Yours could be one those marriages not properly consummated. Marriage out of infatuation. Package your life again and forget about her. She has found another love outside. You didn't do anything bad to her. It's a lesson to young men who goes for marriage without good background check. She is spoilt and not ready for marriage. |
| Re: I Am Depressed by dmostcheerful(f): 12:26am On Jan 14, 2023 |
WhoDeyHause:
Just forget about her. She has found someone new. Most times it is not someone new, it is a woman who have tried and tried and doesn't get appreciated, most times it's a woman who is used to insults and isn't ready to take them again. Most times it's just nothing at all. 4 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Kobojunkie: 12:26am On Jan 14, 2023 |
obainojazz:
Shouting like she’s your junior sister… You yourself need to go back to your parent’s house for training I can't even do that to my own junior sister talk less of someone I am married to. Craze dey do me? 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Kobojunkie: 12:27am On Jan 14, 2023 |
dmostcheerful:
Most times it is not someone new, it is a woman who have tried and tried and doesn't get appreciated, most times it's a woman who is used to insults and isn't ready to take them again.
Most times it's just nothing at all. |
| Re: I Am Depressed by naijamerican: 12:30am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Your wife doesn’t respect you because you’re a b*tch 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Depressed by tk4radi: 12:33am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,
I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .
My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .
Oga.. I hate to tell you this. But then.. I must tell you the blunt truth. Meanwhile..,, even in this write-up,, I can still sense the stressful, nonsense, fake love which you made the woman to pass through. You love her. But she's just being treated like a slave. You have never abused her physically, but the things you tell her with your mouth in the name of “nagging” is far worse damaging to her emotions. Now, you wanted to tell the story, you just painted only her own flawed parts of the story, and forgot to paint the whole story.. You even went ahead to show us chats, but you just showed us only the things she typed. YOU'RE THE MAIN CAUSE OF WHATEVER THAT IS HAPPENING TO YOU RIGHT NOW.I will advise you to stop thinking you love her, and that the “Love” you think you love her matters. NO,, it doesn't really matter any longer. She's not seeing any atom of such “fake” love, so you should just die the “Love” matter for now., and forget about her too. WORK ON YOURSELF FIRST. Discover yourself first. Love yourself by yourself first. What are those things you love doing? And what are those things you don't like doing?
What are those behaviours in other people that would always make you very happy? And what are those behaviours in other people that would always make you sad and/or angry?
What are the types of physical things you truly love (apart from women and sex), and the things you deeply hate?Learn a lot of things about yourself, and make sure you can communicate all those things to anyone who asked. If you know all these about yourself, then try and keep yourself happy by yourself by applying those things you knew, and also, try to avoid getting yourself angry. By the time you have succeeded in keeping yourself very happy and peaceful for up to a year or two at a stretch, you can go back to her and tell her that you have changed. You then tell her all those things you love, and the things you don't. And she would know those things, and start trying her best to do those things you love, and avoiding the bad ones too. She herself would also tell you similar things about herself too, which you should also be acting upon in order to be making her happy always too. As for your son, she told you what to do so that you won't lose your son too... Do it.. At least, for now. If you refuse, and she files for divorce, you won't like the outcome of the Judgement when it comes to the custody of the baby. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Depressed by ngwababe(f): 12:33am On Jan 14, 2023 |
tonididdy:
What’s his mistake ?
Why will his wife leave the house for several days until the point the husband will start begging her to come home ?
He got angry and asked her to sit in her fathers house and she gladly obliged.
E don tey wey the marriage tire her and her parents support her
@OP enjoy your life .
You not come this life for anybody but yourself.
The first few days and week are the toughest alone but you will get your mojo back 4 sure Did you actually read to the end of OP's post? Haba na! That lady is suffering in the husband's hands. Pray you don't live with a narcissist. They manipulate and feed on your emotions, knowing fully well you can't do without them. But once you leave them, they start playing victim's card. See him now playing depressed, all because the wife has shifted her ground alittle. But when you endure their manipulation, they feel you're nobody. Calm down and read all that was posted please. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Depressed by dmostcheerful(f): 12:37am On Jan 14, 2023 |
emmanuelbrown26:
I always feel ashame of sharing dis generation with idiots like op. It's high time we start asking some fathers the kind of training they gave to their male child/children.
We now hv too many weakling, boys in men skin, girls in boys skin. Where did we get it wrong? Is it civilization? Or social media?
Just take a very good look at what a so called boy wrote up their, being depressed bcs of ur wife? Damn damn damn Unfortunately, you are the untrained one. Lol, muscularity has nothing to do with being strong headed and stupid. For someone who emotionally abuses his wife with his utterance he deserves far worth than depression. Emotional violence is much more worse than a physical violence. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Depressed by tk4radi: 12:41am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Jashub:
Op, forget her and move on . When hunger and shame torture her she'll come crawling back. Secondly , it won't be easy for her to find someone willing to marry her and bear the burden of carrying the financial responsibility of her son .
Lol...Infact , I pity this woman . She's deluded and doesn't know that being a single mother is the worst sentence a woman can give herself in this harsh economy. The man himself is not also financially stable too (evident in the write-up). Then also, the woman preferred to suffer being a single Mon, than to suffer again under this man |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Sleekfingers: 12:42am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,
I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .
My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .
She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .
The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.
Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .
That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.
I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.
To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .
Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .
I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .
Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.
Please what do I do?I am devastated .
Some of her chats this night ..
[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
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| Re: I Am Depressed by EastAlchemist: 12:46am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,
I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .
My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .
She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .
The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.
Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .
That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.
I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.
To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .
Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .
I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .
Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.
Please what do I do?I am devastated .
Some of her chats this night ..
[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
She will come back begging Focus on paying your sons fees and focus on your life If you are rational here she is trying to manipulate you instead of addressing the issues in your marriages Don’t beg You have a vision |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Petyprince: 12:54am On Jan 14, 2023 |
tonididdy:
Ooohhhh…. Treating your husband like he’s an admirer.
What an insult! I swear some men dey try, my gf won't try that with me talkless of wife! 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Depressed by EricSmallz(m): 1:00am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Jashub:
Op, forget her and move on . When hunger and shame torture her she'll come crawling back. Secondly , it won't be easy for her to find someone willing to marry her and bear the burden of carrying the financial responsibility of her son .
Lol...Infact , I pity this woman . She's deluded and doesn't know that being a single mother is the worst sentence a woman can give herself in this harsh economy. So, in a bid not to be a single mother, she should stay and live with all sort of rubbish abi? How do some of you even think? So, she cannot make her money outside marriage? Marriage is her only breakthrough? What if she decides not to get married again and get something good doing with her life instead of continually living with an ingrate? 9 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by EricSmallz(m): 1:06am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .
Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them And she will file for divorce and the court will order you to pay child support. Then, I will see how Stubborn you really are 5 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by MWTH(m): 1:09am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Young man, we've heard your part of the story and haven't the opportunity to listen to your wife.
To this effect, I'd say you've done a little bit of justice by telling us a few things you've done and gladly you're able to post a conversation between both of you.
If I'm allowed to draw my conclusion from this evidences alone, I must confess that you deserve more monitoring before you send that woman to her early death.
It's no secret that you love her so much but again, from your tone and submission here, it shows you're a womanizer.
You don't really care about that lady except your son.
Again, I really don't see why as a man you'll be complaining about weight of financial implications in your home.
No normal woman like your wife is wasteful.
It's you that's having a problem managing your finances.
No matter what, ensure that 90% of your income goes home first before having fun with friends and your babes.
You deserve a good wife like your wife but if you don't show it to her, she'll never give it in return.
You will never enjoy her respect.
At this point, you need to manage your anger especially as it bothers on the situation now.
Go back to work harder.
Make your plans to bring her back next month.
Once you're done, go to see her father to counsel you first.
Confess to him that you need his guide as a father not a father-in-law.
Speak to the brother about your mistakes.
With the brother, open up to him that you're love drunk and financially pressured hence your madness towards the sister. And that you've turned over a new leaf.
Walahi, if you were close, I should have allowed boys to hold you first.
So, I can give you like 250 lashes before giving this advice to you.
As a married man and father of many, with a few life's challenges, that family thing has never been out of sight for me.
Hold that one first.
It's where your peace can come from no matter the challenges out there. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by EricSmallz(m): 1:14am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Power outage and the phone was ringing ?
It is ok. THANKS for the advice When there is power outage in my hood, and I don't have fuel, I do plug my phone in my Nieghbors whose gen is on. If she was really doing something stupid, what stops her from putting the phone off? I am not saying anything is not possible, but we should think logically. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Moz22: 1:16am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .
Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them agidi yi naani.. u will never learn 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Depressed by mrdino(m): 1:24am On Jan 14, 2023 |
1. I don't think the OP has anger issues, as purported by some members of this forum, if not it would have been in record that he's physically assaulted her before. I think his problems are that he's emotionally insecure and having a habit of saying hurtful words to his wife at the slightest provocation.
2. In these days where adultery/fornication is on the rise, I don't think it's too much for him to demand explanation from her for not picking his several calls, what matters is the manner in which he did it (this is where I think he went wrong).
My advice:
1. Work on your emotions, self-esteem and stop/reduce drastically that habit of always saying hurtful or demeaning words to her at the slightest provocation. But still have it at the back of your mind to quietly investigate why she didn't pick your calls for that long duration of time, that day. She gives the impression of someone who has a plan B, I wonder what that plan B is/was.
2. For posterity sake, try all you can to bring them (your wife and son) back. Also be careful not to lose your dignity in attempt to do that - I mean, do not let her or her relatives give you unrealistic conditions before she can return, if you do, they will use it against you in the near future.
3. After making genuine effort to reunite with your wife and son, if it doesn't work out, be prepared to move on, in my own little understanding, letting go is also part of loving.
If you love someone and you can't let go, after having genuinely proving to them that you love them, then that person has become your god, and she has the power rule/ruin your life.
May God Almighty guide you. |
| Re: I Am Depressed by mosaicafrique: 1:28am On Jan 14, 2023 |
She found someone else. |
| Re: I Am Depressed by flyingdutchman(m): 1:56am On Jan 14, 2023 |
At least, you have a conscience. Gk for counselling. Then return to beg for her return with all sincerity qmd honesty |
| Re: I Am Depressed by occfx: 2:00am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,
I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .
My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .
She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .
The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.
Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .
That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.
I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.
To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .
Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .
I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .
Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.
Please what do I do?I am devastated .
Some of her chats this night ..
[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
Anger management is important. Look at the words you told another person because you are feeding her. Na see finish do you, if she had not left you would have done worse than this. Everyone has values no matter their present condition. You should learn to respect anyone who is breathing. It is not easy to be alive. Again, have it at the back of your mind that with or without you the world will go on. Don't think any human being was created for you. However, we are all human beings, you didn't kill anyone yet, nobody is above mistakes. Beg her on phone, and tell her you missed her. Tell her the steps you have taken to manage anger and bad utterances. After a week, and she did not consider, stop and cut communications. Give her one month of no communications to heal. Then take the next step of visiting the parents. Note. It is also possible she cheated on you and claiming victim. Use the one month of no communication to monitor her movements if possible. If she is seeing another man, just forget about her, get yourself together and look for another woman. |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Zico777(m): 2:10am On Jan 14, 2023 |
WhoDeyHause:
Just forget about her. She has found someone new. Why the sudden conclusion? 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Depressed by elipheleh(m): 2:11am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,
I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .
My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .
She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .
The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.
Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .
That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.
I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.
To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .
Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .
I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .
Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.
Please what do I do?I am devastated .
Some of her chats this night ..
[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
Young man let me tell you the truth. Your wife is cheating on you. She went to Bleep someone else this christmas. She never went to her fathers house. But she dropped your son with her parents at her parent's house this xmas and told them a lie that you wanted to beat her and that was why she came back. Its possible that the guy she spent the 26th dec to January 12th with is abroad based. You asked her to come back on sunday over the phone. But her lover refused her from leaving the hotel from Sunday, monday, tuesday till this Friday. She overstayed for 5 days. Her lover made her not to pick your calls all the time they were together on that sunday for 6 hours outside grooving. She saved your name as your son name because she is even lying to her lover that you are just a friend who is pestering her. The lover doesn't even know she is married. She hid her son at her family house while she went fucking her lover at the hotel. But OP you caused all these. Your crime is you are poor. From your wife's chat, she gave you expo, she mentioned that you are not even financially ok. That is a sign to tell you she secretly lusts after money and rich guys. Her lover boy has really even lied to her that he will establish business for her. That is the money she is boasting about that she will soon start making. And trust me her parents are only aware of all the chats she has been storing. She stores all your chats as proof of excuse when the time comes. And the time has come. No spouse that loves one another stores chat message so they can use it against one another. I can tell you she has been planning all these her cheating escape for long. Even before her lover came back. These are my convictions of what happen. But why are men of these days very weak? You son won't hate you when he grows up. He will become a man and learn the truth. Trust me. Show him a manly example and ignore that woman. While growing up, the men and fathers I saw, sent back their misbehaving wives packing and nothing happened. Now, I can authoritatively tell you that their sons who are all my age mates does not hate any of their fathers. They are now family men and know the truth. They know the real nature of women, their mothers. As you rightly said, give her till February 1st. If she doesn't come with her family elders to apologize, kindly forget about her and enter back street. Find small sweet girl and remarry. Move on. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Rollitout: 2:23am On Jan 14, 2023 |
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| Re: I Am Depressed by 2016v2017: 2:32am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Jashub:
Op, forget her and move on . When hunger and shame torture her she'll come crawling back. Secondly , it won't be easy for her to find someone willing to marry her and bear the burden of carrying the financial responsibility of her son .
Lol...Infact , I pity this woman . She's deluded and doesn't know that being a single mother is the worst sentence a woman can give herself in this harsh economy. |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Risingsunn: 2:39am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Op come and tell us the truth. You seem to have very bad attitude and your wife has being coping. You better change.
If we have the opportunity to hear from your wife, may be na koboko we go flog u.
Your story no follow, go and apologise to that innocent woman 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am Depressed by Sanchez01: 2:42am On Jan 14, 2023 |
breakthrough22:
Tell me what you would have done if this happened to u .
I [/b]just want to learn from you .The fact that my wife is not someone who like saying sorry .
See ehn, ordinary SORRY would have saved all these dramas .She didn't accept she was wrong [b]Your problems: 1. Demeaning and humiliating your wife at almost every given opportunity. 2. Short-fused. 3. Distrust. 4. Disrespect towards your wife. Your mistakes1. Losing your grip on your household such that your father and brother in law have the balls to yell at you. 2. Meddling. Whatever led to your wife’s family members meddling in your marriage says a lot. 3. Distrust. Whatever led to thinking your wife is with another man is quite something. My One CentYour wife deserves every respect you can muster. She’s human and YOUR WIFE. It just doesn’t make sense to demean or treat her lesser or talk her down just because you are the husband. You need to work on your emotions. Granted, she overstayed, but there are better ways to handle such as a family man. That you told her to move is even more worrisome. Whether your threats were empty or serious, she has a family where she came from. If you are tired, walk up to her family and tell them so. You have a bigger problem which is your in laws. They are much more in control right now and will dictate to your wife. And because she is tied and attached to them, she’ll listen to them before she does you. I don’t want to join those who think your wife is cheating but changing your name on her phone before coming home pretty much suggests she is done or acting on emotions…or instructions. I personally think you carry the larger fault here. Don’t overreach, she’ll come back on her own. 1 Like 1 Share |
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