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Elkidz:
Please I need a good advice on this issue from matured minds.

A friend of mine called me yesterday and was seriously crying that she wants her daughter that just got married to come back.

REASON:
Last year, her daughter of 21 years got married. From the look of things, the marriage was contracted on falsehood.
The man( daughter's hubby) was introduced to the girl by another woman. The young man and his mother presented themselves as very good people. The young man claimed to have money and working in Abuja as "interior decorator" . He made the girl believed that he has money where's he was borrowing to do the the marriage rites.
After the first stage of the traditional rites, he lied to the girl that bank seized his money because someone from abroad sent more than the approved amount (ie. millions) into his account. The girl had to use the little money she received as salary to sort out certain things.

To cut the long story short, marriage was scheduled, on the eve of the wedding (the bridal shower night) , the young man beat the girl blue and black to the embarrassment of everyone present including his own friends, that was how the bridal shower ended with the poor girl crying all throughout the night. This is just because of flimsy excuse, to make matters worst, the girl was some weeks old pregnant which he's aware of.
To worsen the situation, after marriage, the man left the lady in the village with the parents, two days after marriage he travelled for a job, while the girl is left alone in the village without any pocket money and without any job since she's stopped the job she was doing before marriage. She's just Living at the mercy of the guy's parents with the mother treating her like trash.

Please Mod kindly push to the front page, I need matured advice.

Ashirioluwa:
Don’t believe the one sided story.

The alleged violence is merely a pretext for her to leave. She doesn't get beat up by the guy; she's just seeking for an exit strategy. The major reason she wants to leave is that her spouse is currently broke.

Elkidz:
I think the parents weren't aware. This happened in the hotel were they were doing bridal shower. The girl didn't tell the parents ( may be afraid that they will tell her that she wants to bring shame to the family) It was after the wedding that some folks told the mum who now called the guy to enquire why and that one slubbed the mother inlaw. No be small thing o!

1Sharon:
A greedy girl marries an asshole

Nebes:
We need the other side of the story.

Elkidz:
Please I need a good advice on this issue from matured minds.

A friend of mine called me yesterday and was seriously crying that she wants her daughter that just got married to come back.

REASON:
Last year, her daughter of 21 years got married. From the look of things, the marriage was contracted on falsehood.
The man( daughter's hubby) was introduced to the girl by another woman. The young man and his mother presented themselves as very good people. The young man claimed to have money and working in Abuja as "interior decorator" . He made the girl believed that he has money where's he was borrowing to do the the marriage rites.
After the first stage of the traditional rites, he lied to the girl that bank seized his money because someone from abroad sent more than the approved amount (ie. millions) into his account. The girl had to use the little money she received as salary to sort out certain things.

To cut the long story short, marriage was scheduled, on the eve of the wedding (the bridal shower night) , the young man beat the girl blue and black to the embarrassment of everyone present including his own friends, that was how the bridal shower ended with the poor girl crying all throughout the night. This is just because of flimsy excuse, to make matters worst, the girl was some weeks old pregnant which he's aware of.
To worsen the situation, after marriage, the man left the lady in the village with the parents, two days after marriage he travelled for a job, while the girl is left alone in the village without any pocket money and without any job since she's stopped the job she was doing before marriage. She's just Living at the mercy of the guy's parents with the mother treating her like trash.

Please Mod kindly push to the front page, I need matured advice.

Elkidz:
Please I need a good advice on this issue from matured minds.

A friend of mine called me yesterday and was seriously crying that she wants her daughter that just got married to come back.

REASON:
Last year, her daughter of 21 years got married. From the look of things, the marriage was contracted on falsehood.
The man( daughter's hubby) was introduced to the girl by another woman. The young man and his mother presented themselves as very good people. The young man claimed to have money and working in Abuja as "interior decorator" . He made the girl believed that he has money where's he was borrowing to do the the marriage rites.
After the first stage of the traditional rites, he lied to the girl that bank seized his money because someone from abroad sent more than the approved amount (ie. millions) into his account. The girl had to use the little money she received as salary to sort out certain things.

To cut the long story short, marriage was scheduled, on the eve of the wedding (the bridal shower night) , the young man beat the girl blue and black to the embarrassment of everyone present including his own friends, that was how the bridal shower ended with the poor girl crying all throughout the night. This is just because of flimsy excuse, to make matters worst, the girl was some weeks old pregnant which he's aware of.
To worsen the situation, after marriage, the man left the lady in the village with the parents, two days after marriage he travelled for a job, while the girl is left alone in the village without any pocket money and without any job since she's stopped the job she was doing before marriage. She's just Living at the mercy of the guy's parents with the mother treating her like trash.

Please Mod kindly push to the front page, I need matured advice.

grandstar:
■ 21 years is too early for marriage. A lady should be at least 25 years before marriage while a man should be 26.

Anything below isn't wise. There the bloom of youth to contend with.

Goodlady:
No mind am o. Greed was inside the whole matter at a point sotey the girl couldn't figure out the guy's a fraud. And what about the beating she got on bridal shower day?
A big red light that she should stop the wedding.
I ll never be a fool. Never!

Kajaard:
■ Kobo I blame the girl and her mum. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. They needed to ask deeper questions and find out about the man before committing to a marriage.

It won't have cost them much to travel and find out about the man. See his family or ask around about his family. I guess they were greedy and thought they were marrying into wealth.

That's stupidity at it's peak if you ask me.

Mindlog:
What is stopping the lady from ending the marriage, which starts by leaving the man's family house?

chris51:
The lady is pregnant

chris51:
The lady is pregnant

Nebes:
We need the other side of the story.

Nebes:
We need the other side of the story.

StPete:
This story is definitely one-sided and looks like something concocted to paint the guy in bad light. The most probable thing I see from the marriage might be that the lady married the guy because she thought he had money. The family of the girl was also drawn to the guy because they thought he had money


Lemme wait to hear from the guy because this story is embellished to draw pity toward the girl

Autobot05:
Didn't they date ??
They thought he had money ??

Ok

purples25:
What is bad is bad, deceiving someone to marry them, male or female, is bad. Let's call a spade a spade not supporting evil because of gender. We don't know the character of the girl nor her family, but certainly we know she was lied to and deceived. In that case the guy should be condemned for his action. Why not pick who agrees with you on your financial condition. If you want someone to suffer with you and they say no, its not right to deceive them into it.

Greedy or not, she doesn't deserve to be lied to. That's like saying a man deserves a woman who deceived him with surgery because he said he must marry a beautiful young woman.

Kobojunkie:
Of course she does not deserve to be lied to but she should have bailed on him after discovering the lie and particularly after the public humiliation she endured even during the marriage ceremony. Her family no help there at all either.

Elkidz:
Please I need a good advice on this issue from matured minds.

A friend of mine called me yesterday and was seriously crying that she wants her daughter that just got married to come back.

REASON:
Last year, her daughter of 21 years got married. From the look of things, the marriage was contracted on falsehood.
The man( daughter's hubby) was introduced to the girl by another woman. The young man and his mother presented themselves as very good people. The young man claimed to have money and working in Abuja as "interior decorator" . He made the girl believed that he has money where's he was borrowing to do the the marriage rites.
After the first stage of the traditional rites, he lied to the girl that bank seized his money because someone from abroad sent more than the approved amount (ie. millions) into his account. The girl had to use the little money she received as salary to sort out certain things.

To cut the long story short, marriage was scheduled, on the eve of the wedding (the bridal shower night) , the young man beat the girl blue and black to the embarrassment of everyone present including his own friends, that was how the bridal shower ended with the poor girl crying all throughout the night. This is just because of flimsy excuse, to make matters worst, the girl was some weeks old pregnant which he's aware of.
To worsen the situation, after marriage, the man left the lady in the village with the parents, two days after marriage he travelled for a job, while the girl is left alone in the village without any pocket money and without any job since she's stopped the job she was doing before marriage. She's just Living at the mercy of the guy's parents with the mother treating her like trash.

Please Mod kindly push to the front page, I need matured advice.

Kobojunkie:
1. Come on now...no be una dey glory omotola or what was her name who said she got married at age 19?

21 is not too early for marriage. The problem here is the gal saw the signs early that the man was lying and instead of dropping out, she decided to listen to her folks who rather than support her backing out of the deal pushed her to go ahead with it.

As for bloom of youth, some folks dey use am learn heavy lessons, while others dey throwaway am to suffering. Na dem choice.