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Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

Then stay single, is not by force

All I need is someone I can build my business with.. Or a woman who has her own vision that I will support... Should I marry hard working woman I don't love or marry a beautiful woman that is not too good in businesses?

SeeItSayIt:
Then stay single, is not by force

Not the option

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...

I have no experience with marriage.

My own is comman teach me how to be seeing 600k a month 🥺

Albertone:
I have no experience with marriage.

My own is comman teach me how to be seeing 600k a month 🥺

Buying and selling goods

Hmmmmm!
Woman matter again?!

My hand no dey o.

Britishcoins:
Not the option

Then be a man to make choice from your current girlfriends.

A real man doesn't seek this kind of advice.

Britishcoins:
Buying and selling goods

Which goods?

You don't know what you want upto now and your not ready to marry comparing two different women pick one and focus on making the person who you want her to be.

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SeeItSayIt:
Then be a man to make choice from your current girlfriends.

A real man doesn't seek this kind of advice.

Thanks

If it is your desire to settle down or marry, stop being too picky or else no one will date you but you. This message is for those who are too picky with dates, there is always a flaw sha. No one is good for them. He get stomach or she no get nash. No one is never good for them especially abroad based and those with career. If you want to settle down or get married, stop being too picky except If you are planning to remain single like a Catholic Priest or Nun.
No one is perfect for them, he is broke or she is ugly or he is short or she is too black. Kuku manufacture the person who you want

brightakas:
You don't know what you want upto now and your not ready to marry comparing two different women pick one and focus on making the person who you want her to be.

This is exactly what the first one told me too... Even my uncle. May God help me

Hmmmmm!

I got myself in, i got myself out🙄

Britishcoins:
Thanks

You're welcome.

Riches is not guarantee for peaceful & successful marriage but prayer, boldness, confidence & ability to take responsibility does.

Especially in our settings today, very few women (female) are ready to give majority are out to take. So, be prepared & reduce complain when you eventually get married to your choice.

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

YOU ALREADY MADE YOUR CHOICE.

SeeItSayIt:
You're welcome.

Riches is not guarantee for peaceful & successful marriage but prayer, boldness, confidence & ability to take responsibility does.

Especially in our settings today, very few women (female) are ready to give majority are out to take. So, be prepared & reduce complain when you eventually get married to your choice.

Thanks so much for your ur advice is genius.. I have been praying too

Use genotype test to decide. Except you are AA in genotype, it is the only deciding factor.

Albertone:
Which goods?

Boutique

GOFRONT:
Use genotype test to decide. Except you are AA in genotype, it is the only deciding factor.

I am AS and both girls are AA. that has always been my first question to them

Bros there is nothing like love/beauty in marriage, you see that beauty wey dey enter ur eye, u go get tire of it after marriage, after marriage u no longer see beauty alone but the character in the woman u married bcomes very important, the beauty bcomes valueless . the real life drama go enter, am not saying u shud marry ugly woman o, marry a woman that is hardworking and a little beauty, not all human beings is 100%, if u only fall in love with beauty hmm after marriage u go understand why some people marries girl u see as ugly girl.

gfelo:
Bros there is nothing like love/beauty in marriage, you see that beauty wey dey enter ur eye, u go get tire of it after marriage, when the real life drama go enter, am not saying u shud marry ugly woman o, marry a woman that is hardworking and a little beauty, not all human beings is 100%, if u only fall in love with beauty hmm after marriage u go understand why some people marries girl u see as ugly girl.

Hmm,thanks... Exactly what is disturbing me here.. The nsukka girl seem so hard working, each time she visits my shop she is always willing to help.. Though the other girl has never visited and she does not look like someone who can work.. Her major commodity to offer is beauty.. I am not even interested in it..

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

The issue I can understand here is that

You have not dated any one of them and that's why you are having indecision on who to get married too

Your focus is more on a woman who will hustle in trade than an educated woman who will have her own career

Distance is not an issue when love is involve

Education and its timing is not an obstacle when when love is involve

I think you need time to study these people and spend times with them on their visits to understand better who among the two ticks your box

But remember beauty doesn't make a woman a good wife but character does in a lot of ways

Good luck

frozen70:
The issue I can understand here is that

You have not dated any one of them and that's why you are having indecision on who to get married too

Your focus is more on a woman who will hustle in trade than an educated woman who will have her own career

Distance is not an issue when love is involve

Education and its timing is not an obstacle when when love is involve

I think you need time to study these people and spend times with them on their visits to understand better who among the two ticks your box

But remember beauty doesn't make a woman a good wife but character does in a lot of ways

Good luck

Wow thanks, this is more than a motherly advice to me

Go for the hard working virgin bro 😎
The one you think is pretty 😍 remember beauty fade away with time . Don’t marry because of beauty

kunkelhanspeter:
Go for the hard working virgin bro 😎
The one you think is pretty 😍 remember beauty fade away with time . Don’t marry because of beauty

The virgin girl is truly in love with me... I am the first person she has felt in love with..

Britishcoins:
Wow thanks, this is more than a motherly advice to me

You are welcome dear

Then keeping single, bomb not by force

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

@ the bolded ... clap for yourself sir
😂😂😂

Britishcoins:
The virgin girl is truly in love with me... I am the first person she has felt in love with..

Go for the hard working lady.. . You see that one doing beauty contest, is not on same league with you... She'll never settle for less and would be likely to cheat on you.

You see Virgin for this Nigeria make virgin don turn gold and you dey complain... Please grab her sharp sharp... Na better wife material go come dey help you in your shop.

Why do you want to teach Judith the language of hardship.

She's already in nursing school, how come she still have four years to spend there.

Ifeoma, might just be a pretender.