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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by pargelenis(m): 10:02pm On Feb 20, 2023
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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by jesmond3945: 10:03pm On Feb 20, 2023
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Wow wow... I love this advice too much....
Infact I don't have any feelings for her but the other girl is like my best friend... We understand each other very well, my only fear is just that I don't know if she can be capable to be humble in future... But we loved each other so much
not true. Cheating doesnt depend on beauty. You can have the most beautiful babe and still cheat on her. You think the butterfly in your mummy would be forever. A time will come when beauty is only a resourceful wife. Once there is money you can always love-vendor a lady to your taste. Why not test both, tell them that you lost some money or you were arrested and see their reactions. Marriage is a serious business, if you dont get it right, you would forever be in regrets

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by asobo1: 10:03pm On Feb 20, 2023
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This is pics of Judith though not real name
So you are the one my Sarah Chukwu has been talking to me about.
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Evergreen4(m): 10:03pm On Feb 20, 2023
Abeg just marry the two of them. Biko I'm interested in this your line of business. Can you throw more light on it maka na frustration egbug'm na obodo'a
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Kobojunkie: 10:03pm On Feb 20, 2023
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Virgin is not even my problem, I just need a woman who is humble and just like buying collora vehicle with low fuel consumption...
I need someone who will build and not destroy
You are definitely preparing yourself for a life of regret. undecided

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Atticusxsz(m): 10:04pm On Feb 20, 2023
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This is pics of Judith though not real name

That's Sarah Chukwu's cover photo on The Sun newspaper.
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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by somad: 10:05pm On Feb 20, 2023
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Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?
Bro introduce me to that ur business wet Dey give u at least 600k every month abeg
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by MasterTeeUSA: 10:05pm On Feb 20, 2023
who told you that you have to pick? Why dont you marry both of them....or like KING SOLOMON, talk to them about what they think about you marrying for beauty and business...the one that supports and respect your decision as the HEAD, you should marry. So if the beauty one says, I dont know business but you can never marry a 2nd wife...then she will want to control you and if both of them dont agree to your position, PAUSE and WAIT for 2-3yrs make you no marry wrong...ask those in it...MARRYING WRONG is WORSE than being SINGLE



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All I need is someone I can build my business with.. Or a woman who has her own vision that I will support... Should I marry hard working woman I don't love or marry a beautiful woman that is not too good in businesses?

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by karnap(m): 10:06pm On Feb 20, 2023
SeeItSayIt:
Then stay single, is not by force
You first me to say this grin cheesy
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by dannykares: 10:08pm On Feb 20, 2023
Marriage is not about beauty or background , first u must consider certains characters
Her behaviour
Her plans
Her reasoning
Understanding
Her inward not outward
Then u talk about luv, yes u can marry a woman u don't luv but can build it up, marriage is a lifetime investment not a short term unless u want to die young.
Remember u re de family hero and ur silblings re counting on u, so if u married someone who is not ready to treat u as a mother n wife then I pity ur siblings n future b4 u.
Marry who u know better n spend times with not bcuz u av known or just met her (No) that's not was u dream for, u need someone who can stand by u in business, pains, hardship, health , taking some of ur responsibility , also cover ur shame not gossiping u outside
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by fof1: 10:08pm On Feb 20, 2023
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This is pics of Judith though not real name

Don't be Confused by d outward Beauty of a Woman... it will Fade with time...She will be a Serious Distractions for a Serious Business Man. I will advise you to go with Ifeoma. Don't Invite Judith to spend Day with you...You may Regret ur Actions later Pls.

Be a Man and Understand what You Want Now. Don't Truncate Judith's Career by seeking to impregnate her...Go for Humble Ify
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by jesmond3945: 10:09pm On Feb 20, 2023
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In terms of financial background... She is from average background too... Both of us are not born with silver spoon...
MY major concern is a woman who can stay with me weather rich or poor... Her education and beauty competition should never make her to disrespect me.. I am just confused the more.. The nsuka girl is totally unexposed...
Imagine a girl who has never been in shop rite
like i said, you can always love-vendor a lady to your taste once there is money. What is shoprite?lol. It seems you dont really love this girl, thats why you are looking for excuses. However, like a said marriage is a serious biz, dont marry a lady that would dump you when the going gets rough. Let me give you my own example.
I tested my wife by living in one room with cockroaches in europe. This is what a woman will never do. My wife stayed with me there without problems for years, I didnt need a prophet to tell me that this woman is for me.

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by WantsandMore: 10:10pm On Feb 20, 2023
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All I need is someone I can build my business with.. Or a woman who has her own vision that I will support... Should I marry hard working woman I don't love or marry a beautiful woman that is not too good in businesses?
Marry both of them if you want to eat your cake & have it, but mk sure you'll treat both of them with equal respect & dignity..
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Titogbanski: 10:10pm On Feb 20, 2023
Ifeoma
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by sonssyo: 10:10pm On Feb 20, 2023
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Hmm,thanks... Exactly what is disturbing me here.. The nsukka girl seem so hard working, each time she visits my shop she is always willing to help.. Though the other girl has never visited and she does not look like someone who can work.. Her major commodity to offer is beauty.. I am not even interested in it..

Believe you me,that is the one you are dieing for,her beauty dey enter your eyes,be very careful
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by buscojnr: 10:11pm On Feb 20, 2023
Young man, don't put ur self under a pressure and also don't limit ur self to the options that put u in a dilemma.

Am a married man and will advice based on experience..

Firstly, never attempt to marry any lady who u don't have feelings for, u may not feel fulfilled or enjoy ur stay with her .

Secondly , waiting for Judith for 4 years is not wise.u may think u can wait for her , spend for her all thru 4 years and later tells u she has got someone else. What will u do? Age not really on ur side and u have what it takes to get a good partner .

My advice for you is not to limit your self to the 2 ladies .

Keep ur search open, don't be too picky. Get someone u feel compatible and contented with .

Warning!!!! , Don't marry someone u are not attracted to.

Wishing u the best in ur journey.

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Britishcoins(m): 10:11pm On Feb 20, 2023
akreest:
Las, Las just marry the one with the biggest Ikebe grin grin grin grin
Unfortunately both of them are slim, though they will add weight after childbirth.. Nyash does not attract me self... I just want to marry my friend not stranger
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by aniblue(m): 10:12pm On Feb 20, 2023
Go for hardwork and character.
Beauty fades with time.
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Nobody: 10:13pm On Feb 20, 2023
Britishcoins:
All I need is someone I can build my business with.. Or a woman who has her own vision that I will support... Should I marry hard working woman I don't love or marry a beautiful woman that is not too good in businesses?

Bro

First of all

Imsu and unizik girls na turn off

But here, invite judith over and let her spend time with you even if na for 2weeks, do this for a year in order to know and understand who you want to spend your forever with

Know both of them, I prefer to marry a community borehole who truly don change and gives me peace of mind than a virgin whom I prefer to sleep on the road than sleeping in the same house with.....

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Britishcoins(m): 10:13pm On Feb 20, 2023
buscojnr:
Young man, don't put ur self under a pressure and also don't limit ur self to the options that put u in a dilemma.

Am a married man and will advice based on experience..

Firstly, never attempt to marry any lady who u don't have feelings for, u may not feel fulfilled or enjoy ur stay with her .

Secondly , waiting for Judith for 4 years is not wise.u may think u can wait for her , spend for her all thru 4 years and later tells u she has got someone else. What will u do? Age not really on ur side and u have what it takes to get a good partner .

My advice for you is not to limit your self to the 2 ladies .

Keep ur search open, don't be too picky. Get someone u feel compatible and contented with .

Warning!!!! , Don't marry someone u are not attracted to.

Wishing u the best in ur journey.
Wonderful advice, thanks Boss
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Oju4190: 10:13pm On Feb 20, 2023
My spirit tells me that the second one is okay for u.... The first one will reck u dry with her high taste
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Nwaotu10(m): 10:15pm On Feb 20, 2023
Go f0r the virgin, britherly. grin
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by MrDelima(m): 10:16pm On Feb 20, 2023
Sarah Chukwu...Nnamdi Azikwe University
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by STOICREALIST: 10:16pm On Feb 20, 2023
Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?


Share your dreams with both of them and see which of them will be excited to play a role in the future you decide to create for yourself. Which one will let you lead the way and she follows, offering you full and total support?

Listen, beauty will fade. And a virgin can become a rascally slut tomorrow. However it is very important to understand the fundamental mentality of these two ladies when it comes to :

-being Respectful
-being Submissive
-being Loyal
-being Modest
-being Chaste/Faithful
-being Agreeable
-being Industrious
-Trusting your leadership and
-Supporting the family structure
-Staying with you in a ride or die manner

There are numerous indirect ways of knowing a woman’s and human’s mentality.

Know now that Marriage is like a business. You are CEO, and the woman you marry has to be the MD. Liken your kids to Staff Members. (No.. You cannot have two CEOs. Leave that nonsense mentality that both the man and woman are equal for the Europeans). Now Ask yourself, that in this Company or organization of marriage that you want to set up/register with the government(yes you register it and even have a certificate), which of these two ladies will be a better MD? Which will be loyal to the company even when things aren’t so good? Which will ensure and give her possible best to make sure the company grows and the staff flourish and are happy? Which will jump ship to another company( another man) or complain and develop animosity towards you if things go bad?

Everyone can love you when things are comfortable. True test is when things are hard or challenges come. I do not want to encourage you, I would have given you examples of tests of loyalty. But these tests while they reveal true motives of women and individuals, they fail to account for the fact that people change for better or change for the worse in future.

Personally, I would go for the Virgin and see if I can fall in love with her. I like sexual purity in a woman. Many women like that have handled temptation and overcame. Being chaste is something I truly like. I take pride in knowing that no one will see my woman and smile to himself thinking and recalling how he bleeped her like this and flipped her like that in his bed. I do not fancy women who do not mind having their “business” out there and being carried in Magazines. My younger sister,funny enough, was “Sun Girl” too some years back and back then they usually printed their phone numbers and emails with their photos. Her phone number didn’t rest for Weeks back then. Men kept calling and emailing and offering gifts etc.

But you are not me. So take your time and make a choice. A choice that will best suit the type of family establishment you want to have, run and maintain. Some men want wild girls they can flaunt. Some of us want simple ladies to live a quiet life minding our business. Choose wisely. As you will have to live with the good and bad sides of ANY CHOICE YOU MAKE.

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by bigman001(m): 10:16pm On Feb 20, 2023
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All I need is someone I can build my business with.. Or a woman who has her own vision that I will support... Should I marry hard working woman I don't love or marry a beautiful woman that is not too good in businesses?
Love is a gradual process , with time you will love Ifeoma.
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by BigYash: 10:16pm On Feb 20, 2023
This one want to marry someone who won beauty contest. cheesy You go hail my guy.. Since you don't like the other one.. You never see wife o.. Keep searching till you find
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by damoobaba: 10:16pm On Feb 20, 2023
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Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?


Baba, you see VIRGIN and you still dey ask question. Marriage is who gives you peace of mind. Dont come here years from now to tell us that your wife's ex is disturbing her or she's been chatting up her ex lately or you want to do DNA test for you children because you dont trust your wife anymore. I no go pity you that time O, make I tell you my church mind. If a lady could be disciplined enough to keep herself from men up till marriage, she deserves alot of respect. Character also matters too.

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by Britishcoins(m): 10:17pm On Feb 20, 2023
asobo1:
So you are the one my Sarah Chukwu has been talking to me about.
Pls who are you, don't go and gossip... It may not be me
Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by raphemmanuel(m): 10:18pm On Feb 20, 2023
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The virgin girl is truly in love with me... I am the first person she has felt in love with..
Bro no one is ugly, na money dey insult pesin.
That girl you are seeing as ugly, if you spend money on her, you will see her beauty. (Though I don't know what she looks like).

In a relationship choose that person that loves you more than you love her, because since her love is greater than your own, she will try to keep the relationship going, and also find a way of loving her back so you both can enjoy the relationship.

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Re: I Am Confused In Choosing A Wife Partner by BOBBYNIGUESZ(m): 10:18pm On Feb 20, 2023
I stick with this. I had many options before i stuck with my Hausa queen. (Ps: I’m Igbo) she had my daughter for me ❤️
SeeItSayIt:


Then be a man to make choice from your current girlfriends.

A real man doesn't seek this kind of advice.

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