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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Leilami: 9:07pm On Feb 24, 2023
Generalwoodz:
I made you a wish list for the perfect woman.

If your woman don't have these qualities then rest assured you're clearly waking down the aisle of stupid matrimony.

If you're going to spend the rest of your healthy, sickly, and wealthy life with her then you look out for these.

Intelligent.
Witty
Sense of humour
Loving
Caring
Loves kids
Warm
Accommodating
Supportive
Attractive

However, if you don't want something permanent; a marriage that won't last the taste of time, a marriage which may kill you, a marriage that could turn you into a wounded beast, embittered, depressed and shadow of your own self then chose these qualities clearly motivated by lust.

Gorgeous
Sexy
Cute
Athletic body
Loves sex
Dresses sexy
Looks great and has minty breath when she first wakes

Xoxo




In other news: before HUNGER shift my womb pls come and buy my Facebook account. Danke, !


He can have both worlds and she will still be God-fearing to crown it all but the issue is he might not be her spec.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by kingsceemark(m): 9:13pm On Feb 24, 2023
dollyjoy:
what made you think a Nigerian woman would even consider you worthy of spending a better part of her life with ? grin grin

See one of them, very lazy people grin grin grin no single wife material in them grin grin grin Na their Kpekus be only thing them get to offer grin grin Ghana or Togo babe dey for my mind

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Beautiful94: 9:17pm On Feb 24, 2023
tensazangetsu20:



This is very true. I told gerrard59 to consider converting to islam when he's ready to get married and he can convert back after finding a Muslim wife. I might do the same if the marriage thing ever tickles me. It's not easy getting married as a Christian at all.
Make marriage no ever tickle you, let us see who will be miserable without a family.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by MichaelSokoto(m): 9:21pm On Feb 24, 2023
Divija:
Probably Because most of us ( wife materials 1000 yards🤪🤪)are introvert who stays indoor 24/7… nobi our fault… na papa God run am for us like that… your soulmate fit dey inside dey pray make she find you
Taah!
comot here! angry


post ya pix mek we find out!
grin
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by MichaelSokoto(m): 9:33pm On Feb 24, 2023
Emdebby2:
Pray about it and ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to be able to see what you are looking for. There's no perfect man or woman out there. Once you are able to get 70% qualities you will cope.
Holy spirit nor dey intervene 4 dis kyne tinz!

Ask Pastor Chris!

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by dollyjoy(f): 9:34pm On Feb 24, 2023
kingsceemark:


See one of them, very lazy people grin grin grin no single wife material in them grin grin grin Na their Kpekus be only thing them get to offer grin grin Ghana or Togo babe dey for my mind
see your mouth like Ghana or togo babe dey for your mind. You don leave the shores of Nigeria before? Werey grin grin grin

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Xpol: 9:37pm On Feb 24, 2023
franchasofficia:
Do not ever make the mistake of marrying for romantic love, love is a fallacy, its a tool used to manipulate weak minds.



If you want to marry without regrets, marry based on the qualities and things that will ensure the growth or expansion of your financial wealth, sustainability of your success and lineage. Marry like the Royal families.



Before you pick any lady to marry, consider her:


personality; is she respectful?

Is she reliable ?


Does she enjoy working and earning?

Does she have a career prospect?

Does she have clear plans to grow on her own with little help from you?


If something happens to you and renders you incapacitated, can she sustain your family success without resorting to begging and turning miserable?


Does she have luck on her side? If she is not lucky, its a risk marrying her cos her ill luck will mar your life unless your destiny is too bright to outshine her ill luck.


Who are her immediate family members ? Are they leeches or people you can run to for help if need be?


Watch her utterances about life and money management.


Is she a money maker or a money spender?


What's her belief? Does it align with yours?

Will her profession, career, business, handwork or craft help you grow or mar/distort your own growth?


Don't marry for sex, sex is overrated, you will bet tired of sex in marriage even if your wife fine pass mami iwota, especially as a man, so forget about romantic vibes or sex vibes.




Love is not enough to marry anybody, it will expire when financial lack sets in.
well said

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by MichaelSokoto(m): 9:38pm On Feb 24, 2023
dollyjoy:
see your mouth like Ghana or togo babe dey for your mind. You don leave the shores of Nigeria before? Werey grin grin grin
OP search no more!

see 17 yaaaards wife material here! grin

Jez giv me my 20% & big bottle of action bitters then am guud!
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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by kingsceemark(m): 9:40pm On Feb 24, 2023
dollyjoy:
see your mouth like Ghana or togo babe dey for your mind. You don leave the shores of Nigeria before? Werey grin grin grin

I pity the gentleman wey go carry you put for house, see as you dey display wetin full your mind before the public, marry a Nigeria girl at your own risk, high blood pressure and stroke
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Corea4king(m): 9:40pm On Feb 24, 2023
Karlifate:


I am (present tense)

or

I was (past tense)
Whatever ur name is,we are not for Cambridge exam ,fuk u with ur correction.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Xpol: 9:43pm On Feb 24, 2023
chccho:
I have been seriously searching for my soul mate and wife but this has been a herculean task so far.

I have met in the past some very suitable and wonderful ladies who we were deeply into each other but I was either too naive at the time or wasn't ready for marriage so they had to move on.

Now that I am ready and able, no show!!!
I don't want to just get married anyhow to anyone, I want someone who's God fearing,my soul mate, someone who I'm attracted, loving, peaceful and so on.

I'm so confused!! Is true love this hard to find??!
my brother you won't get all those qualities in one women, if you're not careful you'll end up with a pretender. Men are searching for near perfect woman to marry, women too same thing.

You want her to be respecting you: that won't last for long bro once "see finish don enter" you will start seeing her red eyes.

God, fearing, loving,caring,peaceful, etc. 😃 women too know what men are looking for that's why some of them will come and be showing all those qualities, till after marriage.

Don't look for too much qualities. Just marry the person both of you will be able to manage each other. There's no 100% happy home anywhere so don't expect too much else you'll be disappointed.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by dollyjoy(f): 9:55pm On Feb 24, 2023
kingsceemark:


I pity the gentleman wey go carry you put for house, see as you dey display wetin full your mind before the public, marry a Nigeria girl at your own risk, high blood pressure and stroke
Ooooh you can air your mind but I am not supposed to angry grin

I pity the lady that will meet you and tag you the absolute love of her life. She go see shege grin

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by haybee2018(m): 10:05pm On Feb 24, 2023
Fairview1:
Over analysis is all am seeing here. How prepared are you? How much work have you done on your own self character and husband wise?

Oga, go and make money. Get more responsible in your community and ladies of character will notice you immediately. When they do, they will get closer, and when you notice them, you will make your point known.



SIMPLY THE BEST ADVICE SO far!!!
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by ycat: 10:19pm On Feb 24, 2023
You are either searching in wrong places, don't make enough money or lying. Though women are looking for the unrealistic 6 packs, 6 figures & 6 ft, if you are short and are not good looking but have some change, you are good to go.
chccho:
I have been seriously searching for my soul mate and wife but this has been a herculean task so far.

I have met in the past some very suitable and wonderful ladies who we were deeply into each other but I was either too naive at the time or wasn't ready for marriage so they had to move on.

Now that I am ready and able, no show!!!
I don't want to just get married anyhow to anyone, I want someone who's God fearing,my soul mate, someone who I'm attracted, loving, peaceful and so on.

I'm so confused!! Is true love this hard to find??!
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Truvelisback(m): 10:22pm On Feb 24, 2023
Nosa111:
And you would wanna make such woman a wife?? Nor try am bro
Many guys(SIMPS) out there don't see anything wrong abt it.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Pedyson: 10:54pm On Feb 24, 2023
chccho:
I have been seriously searching for my soul mate and wife but this has been a herculean task so far.

I have met in the past some very suitable and wonderful ladies who we were deeply into each other but I was either too naive at the time or wasn't ready for marriage so they had to move on.

Now that I am ready and able, no show!!!
I don't want to just get married anyhow to anyone, I want someone who's God fearing,my soul mate, someone who I'm attracted, loving, peaceful and so on.

I'm so confused!! Is true love this hard to find??!

Same here Bro !
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Afolue(m): 12:00am On Feb 25, 2023
Yes, fact is that the older one becomes, the more selective one will be. Just never be scared to approach Ladies, be bold, inside you will definitely see your choice.

But hope you don’t mast… too much.? If you do at all…, stop it now that you’re searching…. Some guys like me like b**ty, some na b**bs, some na fine face dey turn them on, never be discouraged letting your spec. that turns you on pas you bye just like that when you come across them. Approach str8 up.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by carsuperman: 2:38am On Feb 25, 2023
Bro most Nigerian women are spoilt and whores right now.they have slept with more than 20 men and drink sperm like water.careful on your search. The quiet ones are he worst pls be careful even church girls.be careful
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by ufotty2001: 3:27am On Feb 25, 2023
chccho:
I have been seriously searching for my soul mate and wife but this has been a herculean task so far.

I have met in the past some very suitable and wonderful ladies who we were deeply into each other but I was either too naive at the time or wasn't ready for marriage so they had to move on.

Now that I am ready and able, no show!!!
I don't want to just get married anyhow to anyone, I want someone who's God fearing,my soul mate, someone who I'm attracted, loving, peaceful and so on.

I'm so confused!! Is true love this hard to find??!
am passing through the same thing. Am seriously looking for a wife
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by yinkeys(m): 3:34am On Feb 25, 2023
Soul mates do not exist
Fairy tales aren’t real
You’d simply be lucky to find a few good woman with low drama that fit into your life structure
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by ufotty2001: 3:44am On Feb 25, 2023
Isabi4lov:
You're not alone in this , even as a lady to see a guy that's ready for commitment is hard to find except she's eager to be a baby mama.

One most important thing that hinders people from getting married is money .
What about we that have made some Reasonable amount of money but still searching
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by nkemjacob2(m): 7:36am On Feb 25, 2023
D chance of searching for husband and wife material is slim.

The guys of ladies and guys we re seeing this days ain't mature to go into relationship
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Afolashade00(f): 8:22am On Feb 25, 2023
chccho:
I have been seriously searching for my soul mate and wife but this has been a herculean task so far.

I have met in the past some very suitable and wonderful ladies who we were deeply into each other but I was either too naive at the time or wasn't ready for marriage so they had to move on.

Now that I am ready and able, no show!!!
I don't want to just get married anyhow to anyone, I want someone who's God fearing,my soul mate, someone who I'm attracted, loving, peaceful and so on.

I'm so confused!! Is true love this hard to find??!


True love is hard to find for someone that doesn’t want to marry just anybody aside their soul mate. I thought I was the only one going through the stress. Anyway, I wish you the best.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Tboymessiah(m): 8:25am On Feb 25, 2023
citytv:
Op if you based in Ibadan let's connect

Have sent u D.M
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by chccho(m): 8:36am On Feb 25, 2023
Afolashade00:



True love is hard to find for someone that doesn’t want to marry just anybody aside their soul mate. I thought I was the only one going through the stress. Anyway, I wish you the best.
I wish u the best too wink

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Isabi4lov: 8:55am On Feb 25, 2023
ufotty2001:

What about we that have made some Reasonable amount of money but still searching
You've to be careful in your search because marriage is a life time commitment .
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Isabi4lov: 8:57am On Feb 25, 2023
ufotty2001:
am passing through the same thing. Am seriously looking for a wife
I don't Nairaland guys are serious about this marriage of a thing .
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by pansophist(m): 9:31am On Feb 25, 2023
tensazangetsu20:



This is very true. I told gerrard59 to consider converting to islam when he's ready to get married and he can convert back after finding a Muslim wife. I might do the same if the marriage thing ever tickles me. It's not easy getting married as a Christian at all.

He doesn't need to convert to Muslim. You can marry one with out conversion. Is it not Nigeria again?

But if multiple wives na your calling, then conversion might be a good strategy grin

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by Karlifate: 9:35am On Feb 25, 2023
Corea4king:

Whatever ur name is,we are not for Cambridge exam ,fuk u with ur correction.

Your toxicity will NEVER make you see a good wife.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by pansophist(m): 9:35am On Feb 25, 2023
ciencee:

You are spot on.
The society we lives and the culture we practiced, produces the kind of people we meet.
Here in the southern part of Nigeria, the possibility is higher that the available men you meet that will be a possible husband to you is a cultist, and the ladies you meet that would be a possible wife is a coded runs girl.
This is the society we have found ourselves in, and it's just too bad.

Yes.

As someone that have traveled far and wide, I always observe the social and gender dynamics of every society. Only Muslim societies I've seen that have a strong family cohesion.

Christianity has become a religion of clowns. You can be gay and a pastor. Even bobrisky will be made a pastor if he settle the right person in some church. You see girls dressing almost naked in some churches, and pastors regularly bless Yahoo boys and corrupt politicians.

Criminals steals with gun, Yahoo boys steal with computers, but pastors steals with the Bible. Christianity is in free fall, that as it seems, it's better you just pray in your house with your family.

Christianity have been bastardized, monetized, and commercialised, that with money, you can always get your ways. The level and extent of degradation churches tolerate, you won't get it in Islam. When you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.

And this directly affects the society through the destruction of families.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by ibiso1986: 9:36am On Feb 25, 2023
Truvelisback:
Yes, true love is very hard to find. However, just hit big, have a well furnished apartment, a nice car, and see these ladies hovering and perching on u like flies, striving hard to be in ur life. grin
I have all this but still find it hard to find someone.. especially the flashy ones
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find My Wife/soul Mate? by pansophist(m): 9:38am On Feb 25, 2023
ibiso1986:
I have all this but still find it hard to find someone.. especially the flashy ones

You don't know where to look for, na why. Comot for South, go North. Or go Cotonou, a stone throw from Lagos. Or enter mali or Niger. grin

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