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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by colestephan86: 3:53pm On Apr 02, 2023
[quote author=lavylilly post=122176579][/quote]
U need patience and not as much money is everyone thinks
It is marriage, you two will grow togethe
Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Irupetepete: 3:53pm On Apr 02, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
Yes, I have five kids already
and you keep constitute nuisance in a faceless forum jumping up and down threads sounding insensitive?
Wow

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by chiboycue: 3:54pm On Apr 02, 2023
[quote author=lavylilly post=122176579][/quote]

Thriving Marriage is all about mutual forgiveness, understanding and tolerance. You have to make effort to make your marriage work. You and your spouse have to be prayerful and be one in purpose.

The husband should love his wife as much as he loves his life. The wife should be submissive to her husband and see the husband as the head of the family. This is foundation on which marriage should be built on.

Marriage has its up and down. It is beautiful to share your bed, life, joy, pain, children, and responsibilities with your spouse. No body should discourage you from getting married

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Blueelf: 3:55pm On Apr 02, 2023
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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by greatiyk4u(m): 3:56pm On Apr 02, 2023
Ever since I married her for many years now,
I have been growing from glory to glory
In my finances
My health....never been hospitalized
My family....I have 3 handsome healthy boys at the moment
Peaceful and understanding plus prayerful,GOD Fearing humble and understanding wife and inlaws

Not even the Buhari bad policies has hindered the growth though it slowed it down a bit due to my line of career but my family is sweet.

If you see where we are playfully dragging meet and fish, ice cream, snacks etc with my wife and children, marriage go begin hungry you.

For now, no issues at all

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Nobody: 3:56pm On Apr 02, 2023
Irupetepete:
and you keep constitute nuisance in a faceless forum jumping up and down threads sounding insensitive?
Wow
How dare you address me in such manner? I'm sure you are not even the age of my last born. What is wrong with these kids of today? I demand an apology
Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by ofuonyebi: 3:56pm On Apr 02, 2023
As for me...it is not the tons of money a man has that determines the success of marriade
if you dont believe then ask from BILL GATES AND HIS WIFE about the cause of their unceremonious divorce

I dont either believe a man or woman MUST have a good job paying job like Dangote before he or Winfrey Okpra
before their marriage can stand the test of time

As for me...the medicine i used, like an Hausa man will ask you...is the magic of LOVE, TRUST & PRAYER
Prayer changes al things....a marriage built on the sincere love with honest affection towards GOD in prayers cannot fail

And a marriage devoid of trust for one another no matter all provisions of comforts of life available wil still crumble like pack of cards

i have tried it and it has worked so much for me and organizations invites me as marriage counsellor and seminars

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by buchiuzor: 3:56pm On Apr 02, 2023
Wow, it's been 12 sweet years. I just know that it can only be God. In this past 12 yrs, we have not had the first quarel, fight or whatever.... Do we have mis understandings, oh yeah. But we never allow it to sleep over the night as it MUST be trashed same day. We've not loved each other less. The truth is that we just depended on God from the beginning to date and till forever. If I'm to marry again, I'll still marry my wife

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by dododawa1: 3:58pm On Apr 02, 2023
NIGERIA leaders make sure marriage in NIGERIA disputed

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Dada4me: 3:58pm On Apr 02, 2023
Every thing works for us, we just need money to spice it up a bit.

Understanding is great, communication improving, love making great, trust 98% and spirituality is mutual and real.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by amazingspiderma: 3:58pm On Apr 02, 2023
I follow the model set by the Bible.
Ephesians 5:25
Husband love your wife, wife submit to your own husband.
The best thing I ever did.

You have to be a Christian to understand how to love and submit.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by funkmrflexx(m): 3:59pm On Apr 02, 2023
[quote author=lavylilly post=122176579][/quote]

We both have access to each others phones

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by BluntCrazeMan: 4:00pm On Apr 02, 2023
Anything can still happen in the future though
..



That being said,, so far, it's so good.

Understanding and Good Communication drives a marriage far far better than Love.

Love is the enjoyment part of a marriage..
But Understanding and Constant Communication is the work YOU BOTH have to be doing on a daily basis.

Understanding includes reducing adapting, flexibility, forgiveness, carefulness, and so on.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by spiritedtete: 4:01pm On Apr 02, 2023
Zonefree:
Any man under the age of 45 coming here to say he's enjoying a thriving marriage with his Nigerian wife is telling a big fat lie!

Let them pretend and deny it... they mistaken endurance for thriving..

They forget that under 45 is a phase of mid life crisis for men and it will affect a whole lot about their marriage.

I have been there 13 years going... they were times you want to walk away.. there were times you are glad you made a decision. in Reality kids play a big part of keeping the marriage.. and as they grow you grow then you understand somethings are not worth why you should be breaking up.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Irupetepete: 4:05pm On Apr 02, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
How dare you address me in such manner? I'm sure you are not even the age of my last born. What is wrong with these kids of today? I demand an apology
abi werey un se werey eleyi ni?
Who dash monkey banana?
Today alone, have seen your comments in about seven frontpage topics...
Abi to comment dey give u orgasm ni?

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by GeneralPulal: 4:06pm On Apr 02, 2023
JapaToDNext:
thanks for sharing

Some people are just naturally pessimistic

They want others to pass through hardship/wickedness, simply because they passed through it one way or the other
The percentage of people enjoying their marriage is not up to 1%. All others are just enduring & hoping for better. And, at least, if the better can't happen to them, it should happen to the kids. Kids is what is keeping majority of marriages together..

And it's always easier for a woman you didn't marry as a virgin to misbehave..

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Niyonice(m): 4:09pm On Apr 02, 2023
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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Annahh(f): 4:09pm On Apr 02, 2023
The only story I want to hear. I no wan hear stories of sad marriages. Keep it to yourself.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by BigYash: 4:10pm On Apr 02, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
Yes, I have five kids already
Already undecided Are you still planning to add more? Just die that thought .. Give those five the best life on earth.. No go dey jonz
Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Chetas81(m): 4:10pm On Apr 02, 2023
LIABILITY IS NOT MY CHOICE NO MATTER THE BEAUTY ____ SQUANDER IS AN ACCIDENT IN MARRIAGE
Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by 1Sharon(f): 4:11pm On Apr 02, 2023
Kobojunkie:
You tell me what you mean by thriving first then I can decide whether my case meets the criteria or not. undecided

You're not even married abeg keep quiet.
Noise maker!

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by YoungLionken(m): 4:13pm On Apr 02, 2023
That the best way to avoid a temptation is to fall for it...
Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Ijobaorun(m): 4:14pm On Apr 02, 2023
What of most celebrities marriages that crashed? Does it mean they don't have enough money to put on the table?.

My take: marriage should be seen as an empty glass cup, what you pour in, you will drink. Just ensure you pick a clean cup.

EriMma1:


I'm not being negative but realistic. Don't get me wrong.

Marriage can only be sweet when there's enough money to meet your needs. I don't know if that's what your definition of " thriving" is. A situation where it's "thriving" in lack of funds or not enough, just know that it's endurance. Many are smiling in the face of adversity hardship and hope against hope.

Again, I'm not being negative.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by ebenholer2(m): 4:14pm On Apr 02, 2023
Zonefree:
Any man under the age of 45 coming here to say he's enjoying a thriving marriage with his Nigerian wife is telling a big fat lie!
THE PROBLEM IS NIGERIA MARRIAGES LACK COUNSELLING. MOST NIGERIANS MARRY OUT OF PURPOSE, AND NIGERIA WOMEN ARE SO OBSESSED WITH GIVING BIRTH THAT THEY DONT CARE WHO WILL BE THE FATHER OF SUCH CHILDREN, AND THE KNOWLEDGE ABOUT NURTURING IS ABSOLUTELY ZERO.
ALSO, THERE IS ACTUALLY NO PERFECT MARRIAGE BUT WHERE THERE IS DEEP KNOWLEDG ABOUT HOME MANAGEMENT, THERE WILL BE ATLEAST 80% PERFECTION IN SUCH MARRIAGE.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Newnas(m): 4:14pm On Apr 02, 2023
EriMma1:


I'm not being negative but realistic. Don't get me wrong.

Marriage can only be sweet when there's enough money to meet your needs. I don't know if that's what your definition of " thriving" is. A situation where it's "thriving" in lack of funds or not enough, just know that it's endurance. Many are smiling in the face of adversity hardship and hope against hope.

Again, I'm not being negative.
According to you, money is the factor that makes marriage thrive.

If it's true, then folks like Jenifa shouldn't have broken marriages because money isn't their problem.

Your comment only shows you're wallowing in abject poverty. Your poverty is not only physical again but it's already mental and psychological. People like you will do absolutely anything for money. People like you will neglect family, values and friendship for money. Money is the deity you worship.

You need reorientation.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by BluntTheApostle(m): 4:16pm On Apr 02, 2023
ibechris:



Don't use your situation to think others are passing through the same thing u are going through. In fact, the problem with most Nigerians is that,during courtships, most intending couples don't discuss matters that are of concern to their future.


How did you come about this knowledge? Did you carry out a research or did you read the results of studies on marriages?



They often don't prepare for the future and that is why,many are in dire need of financial and moral uplifting in their marriage.



How do you prepare for the future? Is there a certain way you prepare against unforseen circumstances? Remember that in your first paragraph, you asked someone not to generalize a situation. But that is exactly what you have done in this paragraph of yours. You have assumed that anyone who has planned well for marriage would automatically have a thriving marriage.



In China,an average Chinese don't ever talk about marriage except they are able to acquire an apartment where he and his wife would live,but here in Nigeria,immediately a guy makes 5million naira he runs to marry and spend virtually all that he had acquired just to impress everyone.



Yet again, you contradict your first paragraph. China is not Nigeria. Realities are different. It is actually much easier for the average Chinese man to acquire an apartment before marriage. Perhaps, you don't know, but the average Chinese has a better standard of living than people from many of the Western nations, including the Americans. In Nigeria, a man who manages to get into a public university does not even know when he would finish. And even when he manages to finish, the competition in the labour market is so high that he might have to start contemplating a master's. In a country with little regards for education, he has to pay through his nose to get through his master's program. Despite the subsidy in education, I know how much I spent on seminars and mini projects to finish a master's at OAU. And that was after a 7-year BSc program (instead of 4 years).



That is why u see most marriage crashing on a daily basis.



If that is the case, why are billionaires divorcing as well? Dangote has divorced three times. Dino Melaye may not be a billionaire, but he is loaded. Yet, he has been married twice. FFK has been married four times. Oyakhilome divorced his wife. Pastor Chris married twice.


Even the China that you mention, divorce rate was so high until the government introduced a cooling off law that made divorce processes difficulty. Now, divorce rate has dropped, but guess what, the rate of marriages have also dropped. People are avoiding marriage in China.



Another reason is,most men marry liabilities and come back to regret ever making that mistake. I am not perfect,but I remembered asking my wife her financial role if we get married and what we would be investing our money into as time goes on. I also remembered,she once told me,that she would like me to take charge of whatever investment we shall be putting our money in since I was more versed in investment than her.


The only thing I can say is that you are lucky. Only a few people are lucky to find a truly compatible partner. In fact, the rates of divorce around the world (there is data for this) shows that many are unlucky in their marriages. And I am sure there may be those who did far more research than you did before agreeing to marry their spouse.


Many intended couples invest so much time in preparing for wedding than preparing for marriage and the future ahead.


Do you have figures for this claim?


Lastly, before u prepare for marriage,sit down with ur wife to be,discuss money matters with her,don't marry a man or a woman who has no job,no hand work or education. If he or her parents are not rich,pls be careful. Some may be lucky while others may not be.


While this advice is great, it doesn't guarantee anyone a thriving marriage. Even if your wife has a job, handiwork or education, if she lacks foresight, it would be a waste. And even foresight itself is still not enough without some bit of luck.


Note: many homes are enjoying their marriages and I am one of them,with this,i think I have made my points

Good luck.



Again, how did you know many homes are enjoying their marriages? You have yet contradicted your Paragraph 1.



The fact that you are enjoying your marriage does not automatically mean that MANY are enjoying theirs.



Remember that divorce rate does not even tell the whole story. There may be people who are unhappy in their marriages but are staying because of the children or because of the culture of shaming divorced women.

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Saintinoo(m): 4:18pm On Apr 02, 2023
ibechris:



I totally disagree with u.

Don't use your situation to think others are passing through the same thing u are going through. In fact, the problem with most Nigerians is that,during courtships,most intending couples don't discuss matters that are of concern to their future.

They often don't prepare for the future and that is why,many are in dire need of financial and moral uplifting in their marriage.

In China,an average Chinese don't ever talk about marriage except they are able to acquire an apartment where he and his wife would live,but here in Nigeria,immediately a guy makes 5million naira he runs to marry and spend virtually all that he had acquired just to impress everyone.

That is why u see most marriage crashing on a daily basis.

Another reason is,most men marry liabilities and come back to regret ever making that mistake. I am not perfect,but I remembered asking my wife her financial role if we get married and what we would be investing our money into as time goes on. I also remembered,she once told me,that she would like me to take charge of whatever investment we shall be putting our money in since I was more versed in investment than her.

We discuss a lot that i can't say here.

Many intended couples invest so much time in preparing for wedding than preparing for marriage and the future ahead.

Lastly, before u prepare for marriage,sit down with ur wife to be,discuss money matters with her,don't marry a man or a woman who has no job,no hand work or education. If he or her parents are not rich,pls be careful. Some may be lucky while others may not be.

Note: many homes are enjoying their marriages and I am one of them,with this,i think I have made my points

Good luck.

Oga it worked for you, not all women are like your wife, and don't be so sure that she won't change tomorrow.

All these discuss finance with your woman, Nigeria woman?

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Re: Couples With Thriving Marriages, Please Share Your Story by Dindondin(m): 4:20pm On Apr 02, 2023
lavylilly:
.
You just have to get the following
* Endurance. Una must endure each other's shîts
* Get empathy
* Hope that money go still dey in abundance
* Truthful to each other
* Patience for each other.

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