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| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Shattuck(m): 9:07pm On May 23, 2023 |
The best you can do right now is to focus on your life and your younger ones, once one person or two don make am for your family your mum would have kids to brag about with,. Just try an be the best you can be to live up to that expectation. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Sirchiboy: 9:10pm On May 23, 2023 |
Who go help me too secure a job |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by OkoRemi2023(m): 9:11pm On May 23, 2023 |
alaye relocate and let only your mom and other responsible know your relocation and warned them not to disclose it devil can use anyone to cause you distractions |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by reiddecuti: 9:12pm On May 23, 2023 |
You can't help a man who is not ready to help himself. Another thing that might make him behave the way he did is if he's a pride person. If he is then it might not go well with him that his younger brother he's supposed to help is the one helping him. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by bikefab(m): 9:13pm On May 23, 2023 |
Village people are playing draft with his destiny... |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Acidosis(m): 9:16pm On May 23, 2023 |
Many firstborns are like that, they find themselves struggling. Go and study the life of Reuben (if you're a Christian), you'll realise that your brother needs more prayers and intense mentoring than grumbling. Do not give up on your brother....and please encourage your mom. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by superCleanworks(m): 9:20pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:when I saw the first story, I told my wife that this is exactly what would happen and here it is. How can someone spend a full year to be looking for conductor job? Even if you take him to europe he will disappoint you. Till he stands up to fend for himself. That your brother will soon be looking for how to kill you. He will blame you for all the problems in his life. He is the type of person that can beat his mother and kill her when one drunk pastor tells him that she has been the one blocking his destiny. Just watch out. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by luckedesiri(m): 9:21pm On May 23, 2023 |
Don't let your brother kill you.... Not everyone will do whah u have done already. Face your life and your mum and other siblings Ignore him totally for now. When God bless u and u Don stand wella.... U fit come back to him case if he's still alive. But for now... Its either you or him. Choose wisely so u don't lose both yourself and him together. Save yourself. Respect him but ignore the things u used to pay attention to such as his welfare or wellbeing. God bless and save us all... Amen |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by seguno2: 9:22pm On May 23, 2023 |
ahnie:Please what happened to your sister after she was ignored ![]() Did she straighten up? And how long after ignoring her did she straighten out? |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by bbode1(m): 9:22pm On May 23, 2023 |
VTJN:He is possessed. Like he need spiritual deliverance. I suggest mountain of fire if u are a Christian. Or an Alfa well known in a mosque if u are a Muslim |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 9:23pm On May 23, 2023 |
Acidosis:Op's mother has been praying for the brother from since when he was born and you want to subject OP to the same mental slavery for how much longer? ![]() You see, Scripture states that God does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous; the pleas and requests and every petition, praise, offering, work, plea, sacrifice, etc., of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins(disobedience/unholiness) and are hence an abomination to God. So, what is definite is that even your many pleas for the forgiveness of sins are not answered by God given that God made no special exemptions for that kind of plea. No amount of praying can cause God to change His mind regarding that which concerns the unrighteous by the way. So if you are thinking of prescribing more prayers that only means you really don't understand or know God at all. ![]() God, however, openly bragged about how He only answers the prayers of the righteous; He delights in granting them the desires of their heart meaning that they are those who he loves. For this very reason, Jesus Christ urged His followers to seek first the Kingdom of God and God's Righteousness in order that all things— the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(holiness), answers to prayers included—shall be added on to them. And as Jesus Christ explained in His Gospel, the only way to become Holy, and then also Righteous, is by way of continuous submission and obedience to the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ, god's Truth and Law in the Kingdom of god - John 8 vs 31 - 36 & John 14 vs 15 - 23. Jesus Christ is the only way. Obedience to the Truth of God is the one and only path to righteousness. No amount of praying and other religious rituals can accomplish that. ![]() God deals indirectly with the unrighteous, the same way He deals with the unbelievers including the wicked and the ungrateful and that is by pouring out His mercy and kindness on them daily. So every time as an unrighteous you feel that God has answered your prayer know that at that same moment, or moments before that, God also provided the same mercy or similar to someone else across the world — or maybe just across from you— who does not even believe in God, nor asked God for anything. So, if answers from God are what you seek, then do what Jesus Christ said you should, which is to seek first the Kingdom of God(holiness), and then God's righteousness, in order that all these things —the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(including answers to prayers) can be added to you. ![]() |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by osazsky(m): 9:23pm On May 23, 2023 |
Ur bro is depressed and no one notices...pls help him see A tharapist.this is d worst form of depresión he is insecured thats y he left the job..the more u blame him and insult him d higher the depresión.. look for his interst and pik it up from there..it will be dificult to mánage considering ur background..a sessions with a good tharapist in govt his fit chop like 16k..he may need this once or twice a month depending on d severeity |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 9:24pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:OP, your mother has done enough praying abeg! Make she go rest and sort her own life and other children out. Tell her it is time for her to live her own life abeg! ![]() |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Tadeus(m): 9:24pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:It's painful but it's your cross, you have to carry it . To all those people advising you to forget everything about him, they are kids or possibly don't have family members. Please exercise patient with your brother. What he actually need is rehabilitation not work. He was a former motor park boy(conductor) he was used to the life of smoking and drinking all sort of things. According to you, he has been doing this job for almost 2 decades, it will be very difficult for him to switch without proper rehab. How do you expect a bank staff of over a decade to jump on conductor job, and be comfortable with it? Samething applies to your bro. Please keep praying for him, and assure your mum that all things will be fine soonest. The thought of poisoning him, please erase it totally from your mind. If you try it, I can assure you that you will live the rest of your life regretting your action. Let him be for now, and advice him to move closer to pastor if he is a Christian or Alfa . Everything will be alright. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by seguno2: 9:24pm On May 23, 2023 |
sisisioge:Tough love therapy? Hmm maybe that’s what the problematic brother needs. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 9:25pm On May 23, 2023 |
bbode1:So, upon all the spiritual deliverance him mother carry am go since when he was born, you still need op and the mother to remain shackled to that delusion endlessly? This na wickedness abeg! ![]() |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by seguno2: 9:25pm On May 23, 2023 |
osazsky:Excellent advice but are there free therapists? |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by BadEnglish(m): 9:26pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:Since he's decided to be useless in life, make him useful by ritualising him. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Snowx: 9:26pm On May 23, 2023 |
All I can say is .God will be your strength. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 9:27pm On May 23, 2023 |
Tadeus:Even after the mother don pray since he was a baby, your advice is that OP too become enslavement in praying and seeking deliverance too? Why do you give this wicked advice abeg? ![]() |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by tommy589(m): 9:27pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:*The reality just dawn on him. Conductors upgrade to drivers,but stealing of daily passengers fare and fear of their own conductors also visiting same on them led some not to learn driving* Above is my response to your previous post about your brother. Your familial relationship blinds you not to notice your brother is a crook. He won't be able to work in an environment where he won't be able to earn extras by the side. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kingbuhari(m): 9:29pm On May 23, 2023 |
If this is 16 to 17 centuries I would've advise u to arrange boys tie him up and auction him to slave ship going to Brazil so he can go and farm in their sugarcane plantation. The money u made from him u use it no take care of ur little one's |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Evestar200(f): 9:29pm On May 23, 2023*. Modified: 10:37pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:Guy ignore him, I have two younger brothers like this, they refused to go to school, learn skill, or work. One ran to Ghana to do Yahoo after wrong advice from his friends, I was the one that transport him from Ghana back to Nigeria when he was suffering there. I always tell them that whoever chooses to live a bad lifestyle should have the body for it because I care less about anyone. I have ignored both of them and even tell my mom not to give me any bad reports about them because that's the lifestyle they choose to live. I only care about my mom and last born and I told my mom that if I send her money for feeding and she uses it to feed those grown up boys, either I stop sending her money or she will choose between me and those two boys. You better wise up now because if anything happens to you, your Mom you are thinking something bad will happen to because of your brother will live her life. Put yourself first in anything you do. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 9:30pm On May 23, 2023 |
Kingbuhari:
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| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Onyinyechiugly1(f): 9:30pm On May 23, 2023 |
Focus on building yourself.....be selfish about your own growth. Life is too short to be burdened about a grown ass man. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by one4GOD(f): 9:32pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:pls never engage in physical combat with you sibling not to talk of an older brother is evil. You have done your best just stop offering him anything, hinger gontwavh am sense. Leave him alone and focus on ursef and ur mom |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Olarewaju89: 9:33pm On May 23, 2023 |
DownTime44:I told you your brother situation is spiritual you did not listen to me even someone here insulted me.
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| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by ezechi242: 9:33pm On May 23, 2023 |
elder brother from hell.... ![]() |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Bfly: 9:33pm On May 23, 2023 |
Focus on your life. You come here alone. When you are capable. You can lift your mom and probably put your brother on stipends if you really love him this much. Most of the things you fear won't happen. Man is a very complex creature. Many psychological changes must have happened to him that couldn't easily be reversed, having been a bus conductor for some long time. He needs to either be rehabilitated without him taking most of the responsibilities or spiritually delivered. The latter is undisputable. Focus on your life. You, yourself needs help. |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by osazsky(m): 9:33pm On May 23, 2023 |
seguno2:nope...a sessions is abt 16k or 10k depending...then he will b placed on specific drugs |
| Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kobojunkie: 9:34pm On May 23, 2023 |
Olarewaju89:Stop lying to him.! ![]() |
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