adelcole:
Hmmm, my sister, This is my life experience. My late Sister was in your shoe then. Quite unfortunately she dead. And i will tell you she did enjoy her marriage because her husband is just who you described here.
I still grief her because I personally saw it on their wedding day I prayed for her. But I can't change anything. I loss her. A very terrible experience.

Please draw a clue from my story. Run for the family or wait for another man who will marry you.

luckyz4rea:


Let me make things clear. You can seek the face of God to get a wife, did you do what he says to keep the marriage? So don’t make seeking God’s face regarding marriage look like evil. You should refer to millions of marriages that failed without seeking God and those that sought other gods.

freshkpomo:



Oga shut up with your Nigerian society. Any small thing una don mention Nigerian society, yet 90 Year old oyibo woman still dey tinder and POF dey hustle for gbola. Ask slawomir because me nor fit argue with all this awon woke gang when dey always like talk down Nigeria. Come Benin come see wetin small boys dey use those women desperation achieve even you go faint. I dey talk some amount when dey run enter billions yet na Nigeria own catch you. Women globally need prick, it's their medicine.

Enemyofpeace:
Medically dangerous to conceed baby and, if she managed to conceed baby, it is also dangerous for her to deliverance the baby becourse of her age

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Excellentmind:


I don't believe that women are treated like slaves by men. Men have always taken risks to satisfy women in the name of love and yet many get nothing in return for it. Love must be reciprocal else it will fail. Responsibility to make a successful marriage lies in the hands of the parties. When one person bears the burden of making the marriage work, it will get to a point where the person won't be able to carry it anymore, and that will mark the begging of the end of the marriage.

visaclick:
all men are scum

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Kajaard:


Who says a woman cannot live without being married? Why is the Nigerian society so toxic towards single women?

Look if you have noticed these signs before marriage, just know that it will continue after marriage as well. If you are really saying the truth about him being very controling and domineering, as well as always listening to his family and you having no say in any decision making, then lady you have a serious decision to make. Cheers.

Kajaard:


You must be extremely stupid. Bloody illiterate.

biafranrealson:
Are you an asset or a liability?
The one you are will determine the limit of your control.
If at 35, you are not an asset, know that the guy is doing you a favor and maybe his money comes from his family.

OChimex:


Until you live out of Nigeria you will understand how badly women have been treated in Nigeria. I am not telling you to believe but I tell you from experience. I have seen countless men control their wives and refused them to get a job all because they are afraid of losing that control.
Beside what people call love in Nigeria is actually a bribe to get something in return.
The one an only act of real love in marriage as a man is to be a servant, serving your wives and kids happily. And this is hard in Nigeria
Peace out.

OChimex:


Until you live out of Nigeria you will understand how badly women have been treated in Nigeria. I am not telling you to believe but I tell you from experience. I have seen countless men control their wives and refused them to get a job all because they are afraid of losing that control.
Beside what people call love in Nigeria is actually a bribe to get something in return.
The one an only act of real love in marriage as a man is to be a servant, serving your wives and kids happily. And this is hard in Nigeria
Peace out.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

adetunrayo:
Did you seek the face of God before getting this far? It is never to late to ask God before you tie the knot.

Let God direct your choice not your age. Marriage without seeking God's direction before proceeding is baba ijebu.

God is the foundation of marriage. Seek His face before it's too late.

steeltrust:
my friend shut your mouth
Why say marriage is not important

This is Africa and procreation is important to continue our lineage

Family is key to everything we do in this part of the world

If you have western mentality go and stay there and stop yarning dust

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Caleycash:
Nigeria is a patriarchal country first of all, secondly the economy is messed up, western men won't bear half the burden men bear in Nigeria, most times women are still treated right just that they want to absorb authority and lead the home, which is prevalent whenever they're taking outside Nigeria, next thing is divorce, they don't even consider men that married and sponsored them abroad, it's a give and take world

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.
Nothing will happen in the marriage my dear. In his own eyes, he believes that he his doing you a huge favor by getting married to you because, he thinks that age is no longer on your side so therefore, you cannot be chooser. Wait and allow him and his family to conclude with the marriage of a thing and then, you will let him know that it is the woman that owns the house not the man.

Kajaard:


You are a fool.