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Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Homagain: 5:13pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
What do you expect |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by FahBuLous: 5:14pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
The good man knows that if he lets you take any decision about the marriage that you will use your entitled mentality and wreck him financially, he may even go bankrupt.. Very wise man if you ask me. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by DigitB: 5:16pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
It's just for the wedding arrangements. Women are known to be frivolous in Wedding spendings. He's only helping you... He won't be too controlling in the marriage. Believe what I say. Don't listen to some of the miserable bästârds on this forum that'll want you to miss this good opportunity. May you find fulfilment in your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by GboyegaD(m): 5:17pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
pansophist: The bolded is so hard for both sexes as it is difficult for a man at that age to also learn to compromise and amend his ways towards what gives his partner happiness. At that age, both sexes are set in their ways. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Mom007(f): 5:18pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
There are worse things than being single sis... Don't make a mistake. Ask yourself why that 40yr old man is single n never married. Don't carry a load that will have you singing "had I known " few days into your marriage o. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Chikebranny123(m): 5:18pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Talk to your spouse... Whatever the choice communication is key... He might not know he's doing what he's doing... They might be besides you say it just started... Honestly, I don't know Do what you see is best |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by OBTOREPA(m): 5:19pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2:This same attitude of nonsubmissiveness kept you single till 35,but still you have not learnt anything yet. Continue 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by GOFRONT(m): 5:20pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
First off, I hope say una Genotype match eachother?? |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by tochi8888(m): 5:20pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
If you are not ready to be submissive, do not marry. Wife has to be submissive to the husband 100% Husband has to be submissive to the wife 150% |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by pansophist(m): 5:21pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
GboyegaD: Exactly, hence I sugggested compromising. Thats all they can do. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by OBTOREPA(m): 5:21pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
adetunrayo:Please Auntie help her with that |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Saintinoo(m): 5:22pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2: In your mid twenties, there was a young man, who was loving, always let you have your say in matters that affected you both, but I guess you saw him as a weakling and immature, now you have the controlling man at 35, what can I say. Dump him if he is controlling. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by fakados(m): 5:23pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2: Did he cheat on you? Ans --- No Do you really want to get married? Ans --- decide Is there any man born perfect? Ans --- No In the end, it seems he is taking some work off your hand. You should try to see if he would also CONTROL some works in the kitchen. Wahala. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by luminouz(m): 5:31pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
GboyegaD: Jesus!!! Gboyega!! This is what you advise her to do? |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Tayorshd87: 5:32pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Toscarel: God bless you because not having kids too might kill her emotionally during old age .. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by HoneySwag(f): 5:32pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2:Dear sis, don't run away. He knows your age has gone far and that's why he's doing all that nonsense to scare you away. My dear play along, after the marriage ceremony deal with him by standing your ground on anything you want to do or wear as his wife. After the wedding, don't allow him detect for you but for now play along. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by ManillaPropertz: 5:34pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. I feel like crying for some young people who saw fire and went ahead and put their hands in it all in the name of they're getting old and age is not on their side. Is it your parents that will live with your husband when both of you are married? Is it them or you? There are red flags and there are red flags but this your own too much!!! It is excess. Even if it is a day to your marriage, you can still change your mind and say you're not tying the knot again when you have cogent reasons. Use your head. Many 40 plus women are testifying on NSPPD about miracle marriages. Trust God. Do the right thing. Join NSPPD or any Bible believing church of yours and keep praying to God. The right man will come. Even if he doesnt come quickly, it doesnt mean God has failed you. There is more to life than feeling you're a failure because all your friends have married and you're still single. Life no be competition my sister. Singlehood is better than collecting steady slaps, being beaten and bullied, not allowed to voice your opinion in your own matrimonial home. A man who listens to his mother and siblings and disregards the opinion of the woman he wants to marry, will NEVER EVER listen to her in marriage. I think I've said enough. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by GboyegaD(m): 5:34pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
luminouz: Se ko si ooo. You wan turn monitoring spirit for my mata? Advice her your own na abi no be man you sef be? |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by komzy589(m): 5:35pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
OChimex:Try to ask yourself this question. If she was the one footing the bills or sharing the bills with the man, do you think the man will make such decision? To me, this is not an issue of submission. That’s why I encourage women to make their own money before getting into marriage. It will attract respect from the man. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by luminouz(m): 5:35pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
GboyegaD: |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by ehay(f): 5:36pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
[color=#006600][/color] NAC1666: Keep deceiving yourself. Most of our mothers complained about cheating, but when the man refused to change the restrategised and waited for pay back in our fathers old Age. Never keep quiet when he is cheating, make sure he knows you know,so that when the day reckoning comes he won't deny it. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by GboyegaD(m): 5:37pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
HoneySwag: So you would rather encourage a union of deceit? He's shown who he is and if she chooses to go along, then she should be able to be submissive and his folks. This you are advising is not in anyway beneficial to her as the world doesn't end if one is single past 35. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 5:40pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Caleycash: And the man? Oh, only the woman has faults? The man being single at 40 most likely has a problem – just like what he’s presently displaying. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by meritadavize1(m): 5:40pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
First, how much u contribute to the wedding.? When e reach money una keep quiet, to make decisions una go suddenly get voice .... At ur age u still get pride Fineman2: |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by kwasoly(m): 5:41pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2: Your role is just to be submissive, before you agree to marry him you no tell us oh. Now the man is leading ur complaining, be grateful nne. Has he ever beaten you? If No calm down and be grateful to God that He has taken away your reproach. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by isabi2lof: 5:43pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Marry him oooo Then in marriage, anybody wey do anyhow, make una give una selves wotowoto 😅😅 As long as you sha don wed before, Nigerians no get problem. Where dem get problem be say , if dem never do small thing for your head. Nobody dey see the 40yrs old pikin , wey still dey do like mumu . Age is not by maturity, if guys don dey near 37yrs to 40 yrs without marriage, na so some of them their sense of reasoning dey drop , while the women their sense dey increase. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by johnson8213: 5:44pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
[quote author=Fineman2 post=123528172]My name is Dora. I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side. My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon. My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married. The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be. From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge. He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring. He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married. I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding. Are these not red flags I should run from? I am confused, please advise me. It appears you are not ready to face it, even at 35 years. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Ndipe(m): 5:45pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Ladies and gentlemen, this story is FAKE. Read this story created by OP earlier on. https://www.nairaland.com/7691434/married-woman-needs-advice |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Nobody: 5:47pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
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Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by bluefilm: 5:47pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Women don suffer. Nothing humbles a woman in this life like age, in other words, mother nature. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by verybadmouth(m): 5:48pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2:I'm even more controlling than your fiancee, yet my wife loves me even more than her mom. Deal with the situation with wisdom. Nobody is perfect. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Shantyken(m): 5:50pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2:Be loyal, get married, have atleast a child then show him the other side of urs too. Since he is stupid. |
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