Caleycash:
Nigeria is a patriarchal country first of all, secondly the economy is messed up, western men won't bear half the burden men bear in Nigeria, most times women are still treated right just that they want to absorb authority and lead the home, which is prevalent whenever they're taking outside Nigeria, next thing is divorce, they don't even consider men that married and sponsored them abroad, it's a give and take world

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

If you run who will now marry you

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Kobojunkie:
You see red flags all over the place yet you dey ask for advice? For what? If to wear Mrs. title dey hungry you so much, who can stop you?

ryfoz:
Boss how u take reduce those text size u quoted, I've tried this function many times but doesn't reduce on this platform. Pls help a broda

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

tremilatre:
Typical Dear Joro to Joro post 🤣🤣🤣, it didn't take me 2mins to deduce that, cos I'm a 2mins man 🤣🤣🤣.
Na you still create topic last month about a 35-year-old married woman with trust issues.

https://www.nairaland.com/7691434/married-woman-needs-advice

This time you're also 35yrs but never married.

I don't waste precious advice on fictional characters.

teekay213:
You can marry him cos age is not on your side but keep talking to him and be a good wife,cook his best meal,clean up for him,do well in za oda room, pray for him and together.he might change when he sees how you care for him

OChimex:


Western men and women can bear more. There are so many stay at home moms here in America, bro, as well as stay at home dads too. And some split bills, it’s just what works and the situation. They apply common sense
Guy whites are more reasonable and common sense individuals and that’s why their countries work.
There are bad eggs although in women, but there are much more good ones that have been destroyed.
Africa can only grow if they change their stupid mindset and always apply common sense.

babzlim:
seat him down and have a one on one talk with him if possible tell him how scared you are concerning his new attitude and how much he has changed, after the talk if you still don't see any changes my sister the advice I will give you is same I will give my own biological sister.

RUN IN CAPITAL LETTER.

Trust me is better to live a single life and be happy than to be in an abusive marriage either male or female.

teekay213:
You can marry him cos age is not on your side but keep talking to him and be a good wife,cook his best meal,clean up for him,do well in za oda room, pray for him and together.he might change when he sees how you care for him

Kajaard:


You must be extremely stupid. Bloody illiterate.

freshkpomo:



Try nor dey disgrace yourself. Europe, Asia and all have their women running after men but this buzu dey look for means to always trash talk black man. Where u don travel go for life? How many countries you don visit? I be Benin man and I don Waka places. I know how many women dey die of loneliness for uptown and you dey here dey abuse Africans. Our culture still remains one of the best in the world and I pity women who will listen to people like you because na Love Machine go be their portion.

OChimex:

Nigeria is patriarchal, yet they call themselves educated, civilized and modern. They better refer to themselves as cavemen.
Again the economy is messed, because they wallow in ignorant and stupidity which drags their country behind.
Again, by their genetic makeup, women are designed to yearn for the love of their husband, that’s why the desire of every woman is to find love and marry and have a home, but it’s the men who turn them to beast and make them want otherwise.

Pakwel:
Please do not listen to this people hear oh.. abeg you with God. Most of the ladies here after given you bad advice they will locate that your man and submit to him. You think men are scum,? Ladies hates ladies progess. Especially marital progress

komzy589:

Did she mention anything about abuse!

What is the problem with women and being submissive to most likely, the man that is footing all the bills for the marriage!
To me it’s nothing but pride.

Kobojunkie:
She said he is controlling, a sign of a potentially violent being.

Pakwel:

Devil has started using you to spoil your own wedding. Wait a minute what business do you have with the wedding rings ?
Your village people deh give you ideas abi.. go ahead. Your age is not far from 40 ..

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

OChimex:


Western men and women can bear more. There are so many stay at home moms here in America, bro, as well as stay at home dads too. And some split bills, it’s just what works and the situation. They apply common sense
Guy whites are more reasonable and common sense individuals and that’s why their countries work.
There are bad eggs although in women, but there are much more good ones that have been destroyed.
Africa can only grow if they change their stupid mindset and always apply common sense.

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.