budaatum:
No police would arrest your father for saving your brother and for fixing your family home. They'd in fact see you as a bad and irresponsible child who yourself should be arrested, and you'd forever have a bad name in the community for having your father arrested.

You seem angry that your "father was a petty trader who hardly can provide adequate for the family", but you don't sound pleased that your father was not an armed robber who stole to provide you with lots. And that just shows the poverty of your mind, which you should consider rectifying pretty soon.

I actually understand him. Extreme poverty and suffering does things to one's brain.
That's the reason why he feels so bad about the issue.
I pray God should bless him richly. He will think back at this moment and just laugh

Hardtotrust:


Really? Please tell them to come and buy it. I'm serious. At least that would help me recover part of my money.

Is too late now.

Buy some more palm oil maybe your family will come up with a Part two of the story


Read the bible that book from the Middle East with funny stories like Jonah in the stomach of a fish


One story goes that a man wanted to marry a woman .
Her father said he must serve him for 7 years.After that on the wedding night they changed her. In the morning he discovered that it was her older sister they gave him

The father said the younger sister cannot marry before the older but if he does another7 years he an have the younger

So he did another 7 years to get the woman he wanted

So that Palm oil is your first seven years

Hardtotrust:
I am very very angry right now. I couldn't sleep last night. That is why I'm bringing this here this morning before I do something very bad. A father should be after the growth of his son and not after ruining him.

Please you guys should help me look into this matter. I understand that it was a matter of life and important concern.

I'm seriously struggling in the city to eck a living for myself and do the little I can for my family also. My father was a petty trader who hardly can provide adequate for the family. Some of us who come from a very poor background would understand this better. I mean coming from where absolutely nothing is kept for you. No support from the family and nothing, nothing and nothing. You are the one who die and same you would have to pour yourself water to come back to life. You, you and only you.

I buy fast consuming products and supply to people and make some gains from there. Sometimes I hawk the products. I was able to save up to N150k. Around May this year, I went to the village and bought some rubbers of palm oil and store them to sell around November/December and make gains.

Last week, I got a call that wind pulled off our house roof in the village. Since they are using small torchlight phone, I didn't get to see how serious the situation was. Even though I didn't have money, I sent N15k to help fix it. My father later called me and complained bitterly on why I sent just 15k, that according to the carpenter, that materials and workmanship would cost N65k. In my mind, I was just like, does this man even know how I survive here in the city?

For two nights, they didnt sleep in the house as the wind pulled off the rooof.

On Tuesday, I learnt my younger brother was being operated of Hernia. I know about the hernia but was under plan to raise money for it. And I knew there was no money to settle medical bills for operation. So I was shocked where they got the money to do operation.

As I traveled down yesterday to see them, dear Nairaland friends, all my rubbers of palm oil has been sold and the money spent on fixing the roof and paying for the medical bills for the hernia operation without my notice.

I am not taking this kindly with my father who engineered the whole thing and I want to arrest him to refund my money.

That is my life investment and it took me so much to raise the amount. Due to how things are now. I even wanted to sell two rubbers to invest back as the business is facing challenges now.

What should I do here to recover my money back? If I have another money, I would over look it but that is my life investment of my labour.

You posted it and want advice.

My 5 cents. You father has not done well.for himself to be relying on you. Is he disabled? How old are you? How old are your siblings?

This is an example of a never ending iterative loop of poverty. Even if you earn more, you have leeches to drain you.

It is a motivation for you to work hard so that even at 60, you are earning income for yourself and for your household and you rely on no one.

All the best.

Enculer2:


You posted it and want advice.

My 5 cents. You father has not done well.for himself to be relying on you. Is he disabled? How old are you? How old are your siblings?

This is an example of a never ending iterative loop of poverty. Even if you earn more, you have leeches to drain you.

It is a motivation for you to work hard so that even at 60, you are earning income for yourself and for your household and you rely on no one.

All the best.

So this is advice?

How does this bring back out oyel


#BBOO

Sirchiboy:
.
Thank you.
Opay account

Stop this please. You are trying to defraud someone on my thread. It's not good.

Hardtotrust:


Stop this please. You are trying to defraud someone on my thread. It's not good.

.
Na cruise.
How far you na

viceddy95:


I would have loved to send you small thing even if is 10k but I can’t guy,because you have a bad and deep mind….you want to arrest your father because he used your money to repair the roof over their head and pay for your brother’s treatment,…..your are selfish and self centered…

I will make a post withdrawing the intention very soon. I have read very meaningful and useful posts here and I have taken them to heart.

As for one sirchiboy quoting you with account details, please I am not the one. Don't send money to a fraudster.

HeroicMeastro:

Hmm
Pls where are you from?

You see why I didn't mention my location because of the kind of tribal war here?

Hardtotrust:


Can you put me through on the bolded? I am willing to learn.

Go throught every post,some people ask for your account number,someone ask to give you back half of the money,follow up,they might be genuine.

Gajagojo:

Just go into any bank and ask about conciliatory accounts and Treasury bills

Ok. Thank you.

Guy, just move on. Pray to God for more blessings and make you the bread winner of the family so that you can be able to continue providing. So sorry.

Hardtotrust:
I am very very angry right now. I couldn't sleep last night. That is why I'm bringing this here this morning before I do something very bad. A father should be after the growth of his son and not after ruining him.

Please you guys should help me look into this matter. I understand that it was a matter of life and important concern.

I'm seriously struggling in the city to eck a living for myself and do the little I can for my family also. My father was a petty trader who hardly can provide adequate for the family. Some of us who come from a very poor background would understand this better. I mean coming from where absolutely nothing is kept for you. No support from the family and nothing, nothing and nothing. You are the one who die and same you would have to pour yourself water to come back to life. You, you and only you.

I buy fast consuming products and supply to people and make some gains from there. Sometimes I hawk the products. I was able to save up to N150k. Around May this year, I went to the village and bought some rubbers of palm oil and store them to sell around November/December and make gains.

Last week, I got a call that wind pulled off our house roof in the village. Since they are using small torchlight phone, I didn't get to see how serious the situation was. Even though I didn't have money, I sent N15k to help fix it. My father later called me and complained bitterly on why I sent just 15k, that according to the carpenter, that materials and workmanship would cost N65k. In my mind, I was just like, does this man even know how I survive here in the city?

For two nights, they didnt sleep in the house as the wind pulled off the rooof.

On Tuesday, I learnt my younger brother was being operated of Hernia. I know about the hernia but was under plan to raise money for it. And I knew there was no money to settle medical bills for operation. So I was shocked where they got the money to do operation.

As I traveled down yesterday to see them, dear Nairaland friends, all my rubbers of palm oil has been sold and the money spent on fixing the roof and paying for the medical bills for the hernia operation without my notice.

I am not taking this kindly with my father who engineered the whole thing and I want to arrest him to refund my money.

That is my life investment and it took me so much to raise the amount. Due to how things are now. I even wanted to sell two rubbers to invest back as the business is facing challenges now.

What should I do here to recover my money back? If I have another money, I would over look it but that is my life investment of my labour.

DeTribalisedCit:


I think I finally have to agree wholeheartedly with the decision of NDLEA on ballons 🤔

Dirty dainty deity... See your head like that of Olamide/Olamide song..."...I Carry you for head like Afro"?... Or I carry you for head, like Mariah Carey...?...

Hardtotrust:


Ok. Thank you.

I meant conciliatory not sure why the spelling changed

UrPapa:
You need to act bro. This is cheating of the highest order. You should not look away from this act and make sure he’s prosecuted
First report him to soldiers. Let dem give him a very good beating
Then after, you can call the police so they take him to station for further interrogation and beating
From there, he’ll be charged to court and sent to jail

I hope this is sarcasm...

OP, this is an unfortunate situation, a huge betrayal of trust. My advice is that you forgive and move on. Talk to your Dad about how you feel, that you feel betrayed that he did this behind your back. In fact, this is stealing, but because you are family, you will let it go but you will never put yourself in a situation to be taken advantage of by him again. When I say forgive, I mean let go of any consequences he deserves like getting him arrested etc. But that doesn't mean you should put him in a position of trust again. Make this clear and move on. It is painful to feel betrayed by you own Dad, but put yourself in his shoes. Your brother needed urgent surgery and he saw a way out. He should have called and asked you first. Move on sir. Some folks have said they will potentially send you some financial compensation. I feel for you and may do so too.

dalass:


From your write-up, you are well educated. Thank your father and if it was by your own efforts, then kudos.

Now, don't get upset by your dad. By your own admission, your family had urgent needs and unfortunately for you, your "investment " was available to them.

Just kuku forgive your dad and let him pray for your hustle and destiny. You know he's a petty trader, he can't afford to pay you back. Arrest him and you will show an evil seed to reap later in life. Even police and all your village people can turn against you.

Keep up your legit business, your hustle will pay eventually

It depends on what you mean by "well educated". I'm just an NCE holder.

Hardtotrust:
Some of you are saying he did the right thing. Assuming the money I used to buy the oil wasn't even mine? What if it was contribution money or a loan somewhere?

You should be glad that God used you to save your family from a darring situation.....most of us started like you and carried family crosses with joy and gladness. Since your father didn't misuse the money from your investment, am sure God will make another way for you.

Gajagojo:

Is too late now.

Buy some more palm oil maybe your family will come up with a Part two of the story


Read the bible that book from the Middle East with funny stories like Jonah in the stomach of a fish


One story goes that a man wanted to marry a woman .
Her father said he must serve him for 7 years.After that on the wedding night they changed her. In the morning he discovered that it was her older sister they gave him

The father said the younger sister cannot marry before the older but if he does another7 years he an have the younger

So he did another 7 years to get the woman he wanted

So that Palm oil is your first seven years

Interesting story. Thank you for sharing.

Some people sef, you get mind wan arrest your papa, na waooo....where una dey see this mind sef

Namdeenero:
If I were you I’d turn that anger into thanksgiving. The money wasn’t squandered but used to save your own brothers life plus shelter your parents. Say a very emotional prayer and ask God to multiply that money a thousand folds then have faith and keep working hard. Then talk to your father calmly, tell him you’re not mad at him

Hernia is not a medical emergency though.

Sirchiboy:
..
Make me and you no get problem.
Request for his account number and send the money immediately

Yes daddy

KennethEnyi:




if he doesn’t have a home training, is it not the fault of the Useless father who cannot provide for them and now he’s stealing from his own children


you people are very poverty mindedon this platform. I need to get the hell out of this platform now for my brain.

If you leave Nairaland, me too go leave... Don't leave us oo

I really pity your condition but pray God to establish you soon. See, I want you to be happy for being the solution to the problem of your family. You need to do away with the kind mentally that you have now and see your self as the great provider for the needs of your family and the Lord will make you one. It is well.

Kill him. If ur brother were to die, u will be glad to buy a coffin. Ur dad did d right thing

Nyanabo:
Do you have a good relationship with your younger brother? If yes let the money go. If no oga better collect your money back by any means.

Just let the money go. Is for family.

Ekwensu

Thank God I didn't kill my father for him to be alive to enjoy the fruit of my labour
Most fathers are annoying make money and shut the bastard up

[quote author=Hardtotrust post=124326305]I am very very angry right now. I couldn't sleep last night. That is why I'm bringing this here this morning before I do something very bad. A father should be after the growth of his son and not after ruining him.

Please you guys should help me look into this matter. I understand that it was a matter of life and important concern.

Hello Bro, I chose to quote you so you can take note of my comment.

Let me first start by saying don't ever try to arrest your father.

Now to the scenario, none of you is at fault here, I didn't blame you for getting angry but just take it cool and maintain your sanity and good relationship with your Dad and your younger brother.

I didn't blame your father as well going by your explanation, the main issue here is lack of money from both sides.

Lot of people are willing that their father is alive today for them to be able to spend lavishly on them even me myself. I tried by best was my Dad was alive and I'm so happy for little I was able to do for him.

Keep hope alive and keep on moving.

DM me and let have some talk.

Anytime you DM me, come back to quote me so I can check my email to link you up.

If you be a compound fool if u arrest that poor man... so ur oil is more important than ur brother... if i have the opportunity to empty my account to bring back my immediate younger brother I will gladly do it.. stop complaining they sold it to save life what do expect.. u are bunkum to think of arresting the poor man

Oil marketer

stevups:


Yes Daddy

My son have you sent money to him?

According to your statement, he used the cash for the right purpose but courtesy demands that you must be informed first before your property is being tempered with.

Let's look at it this way, without your oil at home as at the time, won't he find a way sorting out the demand of his family

Hardtotrust:
I am very very angry right now. I couldn't sleep last night. That is why I'm bringing this here this morning before I do something very bad. A father should be after the growth of his son and not after ruining him.

Please you guys should help me look into this matter. I understand that it was a matter of life and important concern.

I'm seriously struggling in the city to eck a living for myself and do the little I can for my family also. My father was a petty trader who hardly can provide adequate for the family. Some of us who come from a very poor background would understand this better. I mean coming from where absolutely nothing is kept for you. No support from the family and nothing, nothing and nothing. You are the one who die and same you would have to pour yourself water to come back to life. You, you and only you.

I buy fast consuming products and supply to people and make some gains from there. Sometimes I hawk the products. I was able to save up to N150k. Around May this year, I went to the village and bought some rubbers of palm oil and store them to sell around November/December and make gains.

Last week, I got a call that wind pulled off our house roof in the village. Since they are using small torchlight phone, I didn't get to see how serious the situation was. Even though I didn't have money, I sent N15k to help fix it. My father later called me and complained bitterly on why I sent just 15k, that according to the carpenter, that materials and workmanship would cost N65k. In my mind, I was just like, does this man even know how I survive here in the city?

For two nights, they didnt sleep in the house as the wind pulled off the rooof.

On Tuesday, I learnt my younger brother was being operated of Hernia. I know about the hernia but was under plan to raise money for it. And I knew there was no money to settle medical bills for operation. So I was shocked where they got the money to do operation.

As I traveled down yesterday to see them, dear Nairaland friends, all my rubbers of palm oil has been sold and the money spent on fixing the roof and paying for the medical bills for the hernia operation without my notice.

I am not taking this kindly with my father who engineered the whole thing and I want to arrest him to refund my money.

That is my life investment and it took me so much to raise the amount. Due to how things are now. I even wanted to sell two rubbers to invest back as the business is facing challenges now.

What should I do here to recover my money back? If I have another money, I would over look it but that is my life investment of my labour.

Pls for God's sake, bear what has happened and don't take any action that you may regret in the future and before you know it

You will be reminded of this incident and by then it will be too late to apologize

Hence forth stop keeping things within his reach

Once again for posterity and for your own benefit
Move on and forget about it

Once there is life there is hope

God will replace it for you

INTEGRITYA1:
ok

I have sent you DM sir.