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Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Anger!!!! Then again,some words shouldn't be taken lightly before they are backed up by actions....Chebi she get family members na? Why don't you report her to her family?.......Death wishes aren't something one should joke with.....

When marriage which is meant to be enjoyed is being endured,then quitting it should be one of the major option one must consider..

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Divorce her or die soon

Oceanjagaban:
Divorce her or die soon

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Peace is often mistakenly defined by what it is not: the absence of war, the silence of gunfire, or the cessation of open hostility. However, true peace is a much more robust and active presence. It is a state of equilibrium that exists when justice, empathy, and security intersect. To understand peace, one must view it not as a distant, unreachable utopia, but as a practical framework for human coexistence that requires constant maintenance and deliberate choice.

Zulum:
They aren't serious, they always complain that I am impatient....they told me that I don't have to report everything about my marriage, that I should be able to solve it as a male.

You know here in the north parents don't want their girl child been divorced, it's like a shame to them....so they don't care what is going on in the house...they just want her to stay

. Yh I know,cuz I've been there once,up north......

But bro,on a more serious note,na you wear the shoe......So you're the one who knows where it's pinching you..........but have you tried talking to her one on one?

Flee Mr Man
You are living with your number one enemy

She will kill you one day bro.. and most times it's because of another dick who is confusing here.

Leave the bitch. You don't even need a divorce. Wake up one morning. Tell her you want to buy Peak Milk and vamoose. Them no go see you again

Sonnobax15:
. Yh I know,cuz I've been there once,up north......

But bro,on a more serious note,na you wear the shoe......So you're the one who knows where it's pinching you..........but have tried talking to her one on one?

Not atall

Something is fundamentally wrong somewhere.......

Run for ya dear life.

Peace is often mistakenly defined by what it is not: the absence of war, the silence of gunfire, or the cessation of open hostility. However, true peace is a much more robust and active presence. It is a state of equilibrium that exists when justice, empathy, and security intersect. To understand peace, one must view it not as a distant, unreachable utopia, but as a practical framework for human coexistence that requires constant maintenance and deliberate choice.

GOFRONT:
Something is fundamentally wrong somewhere.......

Run for ya dear life.

If it's easy to run for my life, I would have done that since....i have a 3yrs old child with her, I love that boy....when we separate I know definitely I will miss him.....thats my fear

This is neither a new or recent sentiment amongst married women.Many married women do not really like their husbands.All they do is manage their presence.When managing their presence becomes too difficult a task and they feel trapped in the marriage,they start wishing death on their husbands

Just leave her run for 2-3 weeks

If she calls you, fine
If she no bother call you... You must have been dead to her.

Battlefield2:
Flee Mr Man
You are living with your number one enemy

Did u know why she said she wish I am dead...

It's just an argument.....normally every two days I use to visit my mum.....so Saturday afternoon I dressed up and carry my car key and she asked me where am I going to, I told her that I am going to visit mum....then she said she is also going to her mothers house since I am going to mine too....i told her that not today.

She started shouting insulting me, wishing bad bad wishes, that when I am driving something will happen to me, she's tired, she want to do another marriage......

Zulum:
In fact I suspect she doesn't love me

Because I have to struggle before we get married....its like a forced marriage, but not from me but from her parents

She is in love with a guy before, my mum asked me to check her.......i have seen many thing that I supposed to do you turn but I insist and married her...

It's like she is trapped in my office, she doesn't appreciate me, she tells me whatever she likes, she insult me....and be telling me I am not doing anything to her apart from the house rent I am paying.

Walhy I loose weight, loose appetite, confused depressed.....

And I am doing very well financially, I am spending more than 300k in my house with 30days

Maza ka kwashi wahala pa.

Ta yah zaka aure mace da ba wai sonka takeyi ba? Kai ba bahaushe bane?

Baka tabajin Karin magana Kaso Mai sonka ba?

Anyway, the deed has been done.

addua na shine, Allah ya Kara maku fahimta da juna

vincenteger:
Just leave her run for 2-3 weeks

If she calls you, fine
If she no bother call you... You must have been dead to her.

I am a public servant, working in an office from 8am to 5pm, so I don't think leaving her alone will be possible, and considering the environment and how thing are going here in the north....



What do u think about not eating her food, sleeping in different room locked....for the 2 weeks?

Infact I dey fear to eat her food or sleep near her, I always slept eyes opened

Naijatask:
Maza ka kwashi wahala pa.

Ta yah zaka aure mace da ba wai sonka takeyi ba? Kai ba bahaushe bane?

Baka tabajin Karin magana Kaso Mai sonka ba?

Anyway, the deed has been done.

addua na shine, Allah ya Kara maku fahimta da juna

Walhy kaddara ne.... Walhy kafun na aurenta babu bala'i da ban gani ba......amma dashike Allah ya kaddara saida akayi auren, and kuma fa bawai mace na rasa ba, i am young and hansome walhy, mata dayawa are dreaming of my type....infact inada kudi Alhmdlh.....

Sau daya na ganta na amince, ban sake ganinta ba sai ran aure, dashike bana zama a garin ina aiki a south....

Ni bansan ya zanyi ba...walhy bata burgeni yanzu, saboda tayar min da hankali da tayi, she affected me mentally and psychologically...

traware:
This is neither a new or recent sentiment amongst married women.Many married women do not really like their husbands.All they do is manage their presence.When managing their presence becomes too difficult a task and they feel trapped in the marriage,they start wishing death on their husbands

Exactly....its like she's managing but not enjoying

OP, I've read your replies to some comments above.
1. You already know she doesn't love you. You made mention of the struggle to marry her, even when she was with someone else.
2. She doesn't respect you. Using those dangerous words each time you have an argument? Nahh
3. She doesn't appreciate you. You do your best as a man, yet no appreciation from her.
4. You're not a blind man. You already see these things yet you're still there.

Men have emotions too. You have one life as well. If eventually something happens to you tomorrow, that boy will live, even without you.
Marriage isn't a do or die affair. If it isn't working out, LEAVE TO LIVE.

If u say such words to me...I will rather pack out and leave u to marry yourself.

But as an African,endure.

Na u know where u see am marry.

She has exhibited the complete traits of a dangerous wife who might stab or poison u one day.

Adachizzy:
OP, I've read your replies to some comments above.
1. You already know she doesn't love you. You made mention of the struggle to marry her, even when she was with someone else.
2. She doesn't respect you. Using those dangerous words each time you have an argument? Nahh
3. She doesn't appreciate you. You do your best as a man, yet no appreciation from her.
4. You're not a blind man. You already see these things yet you're still there.

Men have emotions too. You have one life as well. If eventually something happens to you tomorrow, that boy will live, even without you.
Marriage isn't a do or die affair. If it isn't working out, LEAVE TO LIVE.

Sir you understood me well

She's kinda confusing some times doing good like nothing was wrong, but must times am not happy



Her dad said some womens have done jazz to separate us, is that possible?

But really she loved someone before I married her

Threaten her ass with divorce and her brain will reset

compton11:
Threaten her ass with divorce and her brain will reset

I have done that on several occasion

Her reply will be do the worst

Zulum:
I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

Ok,I understand your plight.you can still divorce her and have custody of your child.The woman is not worth living with.its not good for your mental health.you can't succeed in life with such negative energy.

Zulum:
I have done that on several occasion

Her reply will be do the worst

Zulum, I'm sorry but you're fvcking weak... She says those things to you, and you're here still talking about love, whining like a child... she might have even be wobbling another cock right now... your wife doesn't respect you, shouts at you in your own house, wishes you death, and you're saying you still don't know what to do, until she carry knife shook you for belle when you sleep abi? don't worry, I hope don't carry your news yet because even your enemy sef gan nor do pass this one...

divorce her dirty ass, take back your son, if the wahala too much on the son's custody, leave the child for them, go live your life in peace, your life is already full of problems, you still allow a problem live under the same roof with you... are you even sure the child is yours? smh... when we talk about red flags day in day out, you guys think it's just words, who's now crying and suffering for it now??

if you're not the owner of that space, leave there, divorce her, cease contact with her and her parents, take your child with you, but before ceasing contact with her parents, make sure they know what she did and don't tolerate nonsense... live your life in peace, your life expectancy is already short as a man, don't let a woman whom you're feeding and adding absolutely nothing to your life make it shorter... don't be a fvcking pvssy..

Zulum:
I have done that on several occasion

Her reply will be do the worst

then divorce her and see what will happen.

If she repent, take her back.

Zulum:
Sir you understood me well

She's kinda confusing some times doing good like nothing was wrong, but must times am not happy



Her dad said some womens have done jazz to separate us, is that possible?

But really she loved someone before I married her

There's no jazz. You probably assist the family in one way or another other hence, they don't want to lose you and the assistance, yet. They most probably know their child doesn't love you.
Papa is just giving excuses.

Btw, I'm a lady.

Zulum:
Sir you understood me well

She's kinda confusing some times doing good like nothing was wrong, but must times am not happy



Her dad said some womens have done jazz to separate us, is that possible?

But really she loved someone before I married her

lmao, okay let's go with your sob story and assume you've been jazzed, so you will wait until you get stabbed or killed by poison before the jazz commot for your eyes abi... lmao...

those who are jazzed won't be the one saying they are jazzed... don't end up the same way Samson ended his life..

I no dey chuk mouth for weak men matter, this dude is weak and is on a highway.
Allah ya shirye ku ya kuma ba ku ikon gane da juna.

compton11:
then divorce her and see what will happen.

If she repent, take her back.

I have divorced her once, and returned her back...

Also send her home back after some months, when we were called she boldly told her dad that she don't want the marriage that I should divorce her....but the dad sent her away and begged us to return her back which I did

Ahmed0336:
I no dey chuk mouth for weak men matter, this dude is weak and is on a highway.
Allah ya shirye ku ya kuma ba ku ikon gane da juna.

Walhy i am weak, I know that I am.....i am too gentle, too quiet to cold, to calm., too forgiven.....infact I always wanted to be rugged