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1Sharon:
I'm not buying that! Just because he said he wanted to doesn't mean he would have.

Did his actions follow through from his words?

If that was the case, she wouldn't have left him

Ok, so how else would he have married a woman that left him? You're holding John to an unreasonable standards.

Of course they might end up not marrying each other, but to assume that the reason have to be John's fault? Lol.

Ok so the strategy now is to leave a man because you're sure he won't marry you. So how will women build a relationship then?

It can also happen that john won't marry her because he believed she is a feminist and cheating in the UK where she is. Should the girl suffer due to John's prejudice?

If no, why should john then suffer from her prejudice? Because you assume negative about a person (John in this case), doesn't makes it true. It also doenst makes the person guilty.

This your logic sha. Anyways, she is single. Up till now. Let her keep playing smart, without patience, searching and jumping from one rich man to the other. Reality will always be waiting for you when you're done.

Zupay:
Are you based in the UK?

Na 9ja I dey

Lexusgs430:
Till she kicks you out of your house, attempts to block access to your children, accuses you of rape, accuses you of DV etc etc


You go hear am hot....... Marry the wrong uk lady, your own don finish, completely ......... 🤣😭

Lol 😂😂😂 you even ended ya comment with 'completely'.

pansophist:
Ok, so how else would he have married a woman that left him? You're holding John to an unreasonable standards.

Of course they might end up not marrying each other, but to assume that the reason have to be John's fault? Lol.

Ok so the strategy now is to leave a man because you're sure he won't marry you. So how will women build a relationship then?

It can also happen that john won't marry her because he believed she is a feminist and cheating in the UK where she is. Should the girl suffer due to John's prejudice?

If no, why should john then suffer from her prejudice? Because you assume negative about a person (John in this case), doesn't makes it true. It also doenst makes the person guilty.

This your logic sha. Anyways, she is single. Up till now. Let her keep playing smart, without patience, searching and jumping from one rich man to the other. Reality will always be waiting for you when you're done.

Why are you taking his word for it? Because he's your friend. You're also assuming positives about him.

Like I said before, you know very well that men say all sorts to women and never follow through.

Why shouldn't the woman leave if the man won't marry her? Most women desire marriage. If their goals don't align, why should she stay and waste time?

Afterall, men tell women to make better decisions and chose better. If shit hits the fan, and the woman starts complaining, men would say we were a poor judge of character.

Your post is giving the impression that the Nigerian girl really missed out on something when it isn't confirmed she would have truly gotten that something.

I’ll stick to akatas if I were the men.

Kemadealadire:
The men keep avoiding while they miss out on the good ones too.

Did you say 'good ones' - what's actually good about the good ones if not tested?

uche87:
Often when single young people move to the United Kingdom, they are always caught between starting new relationships abroad or sticking to their old relationships in their home countries. This short article is aimed at guiding you to make the best decision on the basis of reality and not mere emotions and sentiments.

I will try as much as possible to make this piece less controversial. The aim isn't to break relationships and destroy the efforts of couples in their relationships.

Dating a good Nigerian woman in the UK is amazing. They bring happiness and increase your zeal to succeed by giving you strong backing.
Below are some of the reasons why dating a Nigerian woman in the UK is highly recommended.

(1) Nigerian women are appreciative:

Let's face it, there is no abundance of 'original' male suitors in the UK. Some coloured women even go for several months without anybody stopping them on the street to say hello. This adds value to men (law of demand and supply). So when single women ever meet their male counterparts, they value you like the pound note.

(2) Financial independence:

The UK creates an enabling ground and a level-playing field for everybody to succeed. As long as you are ready to work, you will make good money. UK-based Nigerian women have their own money and take pleasure in buying their own things unlike their counterparts back home, who are at the mercy of Tinubu and his APC friends.

(3) Beauty and fashion:

UK-based Nigerian women are not only beautiful, but they are so classy. They could be fashionable due to the extra cash and the affordability of clothes in the UK. I believe they have more 'packaging' than Amazon lol

(4) Better opportunities:

Nigerian women are doing really well in the UK. They are like the last piece of the puzzle you need to make your life complete. I have seen some men doing blue-collar jobs marry doctors and company management officials in the UK. This opens a door of opportunities and stability.

(5) Adaptability:

If you are in the UK, you are better off dating a Nigerian woman who lives in the country. This is because they have adapted to the system and have a strong knowledge of how it works. This is always as smooth as when Robin Van Persie moved from Arsenal to Old Trafford. He hit the ground running.

(6) Happy Ending:

UK women have very strong 'grips'. Legends in the house would understand. This is because of the scarcity of men and the busy nature of the country. You can't boldly say the same about Lagos-based women who are mostly 'sexually stressed' due to too multiple relationships running concurrently and marketing activities.

(7) Mental stability:

Due to the performing nature of the UK economy (compared to Nigeria), the women are generally happy to an extent because their needs are easily met via simple financial plans. Tinubu, back home has triggered an epidemic of mood swings amongst women with highly counterproductive public policies.

( Fiscal compatibility:

Nigerian women in the UK are largely transparent with their finances. They also contribute to the payment of bills. They know for sure that their spouses might develop hunchbacks carrying those responsibilities alone. This attribute isn't easy to come by in Nigeria where the women regularly say 'Your money is our money and my money is my money' to their men.

(9) Better exposure:

Traveling itself is a form of education. As you pass through places, they also pass through you. Nigerian women in the UK have mixed with different races by virtue of being in the country. This has also broadened their perspective on life and made them better people.

(10) Cooking:

Nigerian women are generally fantastic cooks. They don't just have the skill, but they also have the financial resources to explore new measures of making both local and foreign dishes. Inadequate financial resources impede the abilities of their local counterparts.

Osahon George Osayimwen writes from the United Kingdom.

Abeg I need a UK wife to marry. Can you help me?

Revolva:
Nigerian women lol e don red.....they have know themselves to be rude and ingrates and selfish from.naija to abroad

Naija men no need una o make una de marry foreigner de go ....we naija men need foreign ladies now wey go bring peace of mind

Look at you. Go to the UK and learn. You are naive and ignorant.

omooba969:
Lol 😂😂😂 you even ended ya comment with 'completely'.

That completely simply means...... It could take you about 5 years, to finally find yourself again (after all legal battles, court fees, lawyers fees, moments of insanity and depression).......

The man would be lucky, if he does not have a stroke, suffer a cardiac event or even kick his bucket.........

bonnyhope:
Can't someone stays here in Nigeria and date them?

When it works out then we can marry officially and join her there

When this works for you and you join her abroad, just ensure to behave yourself as there would be consequence if you do otherwise.

My 2kobo

Lexusgs430:
That completely simply means...... It could take you about 5 years, to finally find yourself again (after all legal battles, court fees, lawyers fees, moments of insanity and depression).......

The man would be lucky, if he does not have a stroke, suffer a cardiac event or even kick his bucket.........

You're right on the money mate!

omooba969:
You're right on the money mate!

USA is not any better....... My cousin took his wife to America from Nigeria.........

Years later she kicked him out, he had a stroke, was taken back to Nigeria, he died in Lagos a few weeks ago ........

SmartyPants:
Once i saw that "Nigerian women are appreciative" i just scrolled away.

😂😂😂

Lexusgs430:
USA is not any better....... My cousin took his wife to America from Nigeria.........

Years later she kicked him out, he had a stroke, was taken back to Nigeria, he died in Lagos a few weeks ago ........

Oh My....! 🙆 Sorry to hear that breh.

Good thing is that the good ones amongst them are well aware of how horrible these demonic wives are.

fxexperts:
And the ones who decived you in Nigeria, by the time you marry them and take them top the UK, wont they develop this same inflated ego. It is the same thing will igbo men going to their villages to marry village women and taking them to the city, only for the women to tear eye in the city and start sleeping around with different men. A bad woman is a bad woman, anywhere anytime.

👍👍

omooba969:
Oh My....! 🙆 Sorry to hear that breh.

Good thing is that the good ones amongst them are well aware of how horrible these demonic wives are.

Absolutely....... If you're lucky to have a good one....... Hold her tight and treat her right......

1Sharon:
If the woman has papers and he doesn't, he is very much a red flag.

A man that is doing uber can very much do uber forever. Why do you guys always make it seem like upcoming guys always eventually make it? You know well life isn't like that.

Women should date upcoming men as long as she sees the potential in him.

Even the red pill teaches men to be the best they can be and not remain average.

John eventually got married to an Ivorian woman, does that mean he intended to marry the Nigerian woman that rejected him?

You know well that men can date women for so many years and not marry them, they meet another woman and marry her within a year.

You just dey cap 🧢 anyhow.

ednut1:
even your fellow 9ja students will refuse to date you talkless of those with citizenship or permanent residency. Na men wey get good jobs and papers dem dey rush o. As a student you are probably starting from one room shared accommodation. Many 9ja babes here cant get wet for u in such accommodation when guys with cars and nice apartments staying alone dey. If you look good, black ladies from jamaica, other african countries or average looking white babes fit give you small nacks 😆.

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omooba969:
You just dey cap 🧢 anyhow.

Where's the cap? Explain

Lexusgs430:
Absolutely....... If you're lucky to have a good one....... Hold her tight and treat her right......

Every mallam with him kettle.

1Sharon:
Bullshit. If the property is in the man's name this cannot happen. Stop regurgitating what you aren't certain about.

have you traveled outside nigeria before? if you dont know something why not ask questions instead of arguing blindly what you know nothing about out of emotions?

Rayban25:
have you traveled outside nigeria before? if you dont know something why not ask questions instead of arguing blindly what you know nothing about out of emotions?

Lol you have no idea..

1Sharon:
Lol you have no idea..

its always the low budget feminists. you know nothing about divorce laws abroad go and sit down. seek knowledge before talking

1Sharon:
If the woman has papers and he doesn't, he is very much a red flag.

A man that is doing uber can very much do uber forever. Why do you guys always make it seem like upcoming guys always eventually make it? You know well life isn't like that.

Women should date upcoming men as long as she sees the potential in him.

Even the red pill teaches men to be the best they can be and not remain average.

John eventually got married to an Ivorian woman, does that mean he intended to marry the Nigerian woman that rejected him?

You know well that men can date women for so many years and not marry them, they meet another woman and marry her within a year.

@bolded - How's the man without papers a red flag? What if he's got genuine intentions? Is it also acceptable that a girl without papers is much of a red flag. Why the prejudice, why??

It's a reality that some people behave badly , just in it for the papers but stories abound of genuine couples as well. Come to think of it, it can be extremely impossible to be honest about intentions when in a dire straits. For example, I want to be honest and ask a lady if she can help me with regularising my status - do actually think she would find that reasonable? I can beat my chest that a man is more likely to help a sister in need.

Please let's stop the red flag prejudice, we destroy ourselves by doing so.

Rayban25:
its always the low budget feminists. you know nothing about divorce laws abroad go and sit down. seek knowledge before talking

Fvcking idiot, where do you think I live?😂 you think I'm in a village somewhere?

If I'm a low budget feminist, you're a low budget red piller.

1Sharon:
Fvcking idiot, where do you think I live?😂 you think I'm in a village somewhere?

If I'm a low budget feminist, you're a low budget red piller.

Who cares where you live?

Seek information before arguing blindly. Low budget feminist

Gerrard59:
But the majority of those men still don't marry UK bred Nigerian or black women. That's the koko. We're told Nigerian women bad, yet all of them dey think of moving to Nigeria to marry rather than marry Nigerian bred or UK bred Nigerian women.

At the end of the day, most of not all of men would marry Nigerian women. If na so Nigerian women in the UK bad , why are they not marrying foreign women, especially non-blacks?

It's more of a can't than don't.

Humans are tribal.

It certainly does not help that the vast majority of this wave of Nigerian emigres are grads and working class.

Second generation Nigerian American men do not have this problem. Through middle, junior high, and senior high, you'll have dated a smattering of gals and become attuned to rituals one must perform to become visible to the respective demographics. College years with all the spring breaks, random trips, 7/365 parties offer plenty of opportunity to get all the adventure out of your system and find your tribe.

With your blue passport and first draft picking of jobs, immigrant Nigerian women would not even be on your radar, especially if you are a teeny bit cute.

You cannot just make your entrance in middle age and think you'd be strolling through the vaj isle with your cart and just reaching for whomever catches your fancy. Who the hell do you think you are? The minority of non-Black women who are open to committed interracial relationships have had plenty of experience. The best specimens have been snapped up and you're left with basket cases.

Consequently, you'd still find your way around to the Nigerian women. Unfortunately, those ones don padlock their brains. They believe they're God's gift to mankind and chiseled, blue-eyed, Aryans should be in their DMs reciting Shakespeare. Barring that, where are the Black athletes, entertainers, and white collar professionals? Okay, Oluwa, I no greedy, mk e get passport.

Nobody don reason your break light for like 3 weeks, but you dey add new checkboxes to your wish list. No b ment? With your rubbish accent and frame that's an affront to Western beauty standards.

After all, they have vagina. Nigerian men in Nigeria have spoiled them rotten.

See G, on this abroad entanglements subject, everybody go dey alright las las.

This is a uniquely Nigerian problem. The Indians, Koreans, Persians don't have this problem. They prioritize members of their nationality and any hard-headed woman will be pressured by family to accept whomever is available. In fact, the family will do the screening themselves and share photos to choose from.

If you want to marry outside your ethnicity, the catch better be an over-achiever.

E get why sometimes when I write finish, e go b lyk say I get beef with Nigerian women. Home and abroad their matter dey irritate me.

Back to jamming Ngozi by Crayon ft Arya Starr.

-Lord

omooba969:
@bolded - How's the man without papers a red flag? What if he's got genuine intentions? Is it also acceptable that a girl without papers is much of a red flag. Why the prejudice, why??

It's a reality that some people behave badly , just in it for the papers but stories abound of genuine couples as well. Come to think of it, it can be extremely impossible to be honest about intentions when in a dire straits. For example, I want to be honest and ask a lady if she can help me with regularising my status - do actually think she would find that reasonable? I can beat my chest that a man is more likely to help a sister in need.

Please let's stop the red flag prejudice, we destroy ourselves by doing so.

Yes a woman without papers is also a red flag.

I don't know why people without papers don't sort out their situation before jumping on the dating market.

If you're making excuses for your lack of honesty, don't complain when someone isn't honest to you in return.

Why should people take the chance? Why should people take your word for it?

Women can help you, but what is the catch with you?

Rayban25:
Who cares where you live?

Seek information before arguing blindly. Low budget feminist

You don't care about where I live and you're very certain I don't know anything about divorce laws abroad?

Idiot.

Low budget red piller. You're bitter because your ugly and broke. You're not entitled to the affection of beautiful women.

Oya connect me! Osas

1Sharon:
You don't care about where I live and you're very certain I don't know anything about divorce laws abroad?

Idiot.

You're still arguing with emotions.

Admit you're wrong and shut up. If you dont know something seek knowledge. A village person person can seek knowledge about divorce laws and not say the bunkum you said

That's why where you live is irrelevant.

We know you dont live in UK for sure with your statement obviously

Seek knowledge. If you dont know something, ask questions or shut up.

Shalom.