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Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

And you still in the marriage?

Rest in Peace in advance!

dreamangel:
Then don't do it. Don't waver.You will regret it. You have a right to be happy in life. Do all you can for a peaceful and happy life. A better man will come. Keep praying on it.

Exactly what I'm doing, thanks for your care .

Try marry 2nd wife

Zulum:
I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

Won't you guys miss eachother forever if her wishes (God forbid) come to pass?

Run for your life!

But wait sef, didn't you see any signs of these diabolical trait while you were courting? I know devot muslims rarely date, and I know some women can be deceitful, but you must have noticed some red flags before your wedding. There are some traits that are deal breakers for me, I perceive them in you, I walk.

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Oga OP divorce her ass and japa. Run away from your family in the meantime. Sometimes you need to stand your ground as a man. Go and rent somewhere else

Counter it whenever she pronounce death sentence on you. Example, ' I shall not die by your pronouncement in Jesus name ' Do not anger her anymore. She will love you as never before.

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Get a divorce…. There’s nothing special about her… you can’t live your life in bondage … anything that doesn’t make you happy. Do away with it.. same goes to the women…. You can’t endure Anger,hatred et.Al . You could die any minute. So stay happy . Marriage na bondage . No Cap💯

Zulum:
I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

If you die in the process, who will you miss
Take your son from her and set her free. I'm sure she would even be happy to give the boy up to you, so she can return to her preferred partner with no baggage. If you stay with her, I'm afraid your days are numbered.

B4 further actions,(1) try to check are chat secretly and see who she do often chat with (2)do she frequently reject you when you are about having sex with her (3) has she ever appreciated your efforts after sex and thank you, if not be very careful, a similar case was brought to this forum when A married man was poisoned by his wife in Bauchi State, marriage that is not up to one year

Parents forcing who to marry on the wards which Islam preaches against, this is the result.

This is forced marriage, she's asking for divorce please give it to her.

Divorce is the most resentful action to Allah but you just have to.

She said she needs new marriage, wishing you dead already, don't let her commit grievous sin.
You should also value your life, your son will be okay or what would the love you have for your son amount to if you're no more?

Zulum:
I have divorced her once, and returned her back...

Also send her home back after some months, when we were called she boldly told her dad that she don't want the marriage that I should divorce her....but the dad sent her away and begged us to return her back which I did

Zulum:
If it's easy to run for my life, I would have done that since....i have a 3yrs old child with her, I love that boy....when we separate I know definitely I will miss him.....thats my fear

ok, wait for the boy to miss in.

Life is simple, play with your life at your own peril. You are more important to your son alive than dead.

We all know God hates divorce but Your life is at stake here, remember other people s story and learn, if you die , you won't see your son again but if you stay alive you will always see him, if she doesn't love you, leave

Zulum:
I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

I'm married with three beautiful kids. I love my kids and my wife. But any day my wife wishes me death, we will never sleep on the same roof again. It's better to act now before it's too late. What kinda carelessness is dah.? If you die, your son will leave the rest of his life to miss you and he will never forgive you.

I have a friend that his wife always give beta wahala, they always fight. The guy don't want to divorce his wife because of his four kids. The guy is late now, the wife dropped the four kids with their grandparents and traveled abroad to continue her life.

Be wise

Zulum:
In fact I suspect she doesn't love me

Because I have to struggle before we get married....its like a forced marriage, but not from me but from her parents

She is in love with a guy before, my mum asked me to check her.......i have seen many thing that I supposed to do you turn but I insist and married her...

It's like she is trapped in my office, she doesn't appreciate me, she tells me whatever she likes, she insult me....and be telling me I am not doing anything to her apart from the house rent I am paying.

Walhy I loose weight, loose appetite, confused depressed.....

And I am doing very well financially, I am spending more than 300k in my house with 30days

Compare your life now as with when you were a bachelor, which one do you prefer ?

RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For now forget say u get pikin ooo.
Later you can get court for custody of the child. Your safety is the number 1 priority now

Since you are a Muslim ,handle the matter in your faith way.

Prepare your second wife or die soon

Zulum:
I am a public servant, working in an office from 8am to 5pm, so I don't think leaving her alone will be possible, and considering the environment and how thing are going here in the north....



What do u think about not eating her food, sleeping in different room locked....for the 2 weeks?

Infact I dey fear to eat her food or sleep near her, I always slept eyes opened

From everything you have explained here it seem you don't have peace in your life but you are not bold enough to leave her, you have to make a drastic move, divorce her again then it will remain one and she will be very careful. Your son will always come for you.

cococandy:
Run

From?

He just admitted to wife battery on this same thread. Something that's being ignored. He conveniently left that part out when he began to tell us about his "bad" wife who he conveniently divorced and had returned back to him, as "bad" as he says she is. Could it be there is more to that claim of divorce, and the reasons for reconcilation? Who knows.

It will always be amusing how he began to tell us how terrible she is, and without preamble. No background. Just everything but calling her out as a devil. As usual, he's a blameless lamb to get slaughter.

One should never believe saintly stories from men on this forum. They aren't designed that way. Their truth is yet another play designed to sway the opinions of readers. Just like strungup79 and that guy whose age changes whenever he wants to tell bloated porkies. When men make such threads, they will always withhold the truth. They know how to make outrageous topics, too.

We need to hear from his wife.

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Marry second wife

Anybody speaking negative words into your life should be avoided. Even if the person is your mother

Adachizzy:
OP, I've read your replies to some comments above.
1. You already know she doesn't love you. You made mention of the struggle to marry her, even when she was with someone else.
2. She doesn't respect you. Using those dangerous words each time you have an argument? Nahh
3. She doesn't appreciate you. You do your best as a man, yet no appreciation from her.
4. You're not a blind man. You already see these things yet you're still there.

Men have emotions too. You have one life as well. If eventually something happens to you tomorrow, that boy will live, even without you.
Marriage isn't a do or die affair. If it isn't working out, LEAVE TO LIVE.

I love the way you reason, some people are too emotional for my liking, op should have divorced her already or get another woman as a Muslim and in the north, she adjust. I hate what I don't like.

Thank God your child he’s a guy, don’t let too much attachment shorten your life and never enjoy nothing. He’ll grow to see and understand

Zulum:
I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

Oh really. Well I only read the original post.

BRATISLAVA:
From?

He just admitted to wife battery on this same thread. Something that's being ignored. He conveniently left that part out when he began to tell us about his "bad" wife who he conveniently divorced and had returned back to him, as "bad" as he says she is. Could it be there is more to that claim of divorce, and the reasons for reconcilation? Who knows.

It will always be amusing how he began to tell us how terrible she is, and without preamble. No background. Just everything but calling her out as a devil. As usual, he's a blameless lamb to get slaughter.

One should never believe saintly stories from men on this forum. They aren't designed that way. Their truth is yet another play designed to sway the opinions of readers. Just like strungup79 and that guy whose age changes whenever he wants to tell bloated porkies. When men make such threads, they will always withhold the truth. They know how to make outrageous topics, too.

We need to hear from his wife.

Thankfully some people have pointed out the gaping holes in your subsequent stories. What other things are you not saying?

Zulum:
Yeah when she insult me I do touch her small, also she saw me chatting with a girl, and some call history too....

She's suspecting me of having an affair, but I am not doing any

I have been providing very well

cococandy:
Oh really. Well I only read the original post.

He actually posted it after you did, I think.

He's masked how he used to "touch her small" with his topic and subsequent complaints describing how terrible she is. He's drinking up the sympathy.

Reminderz:
Zulum, I'm sorry but you're fvcking weak... She says those things to you, and you're here still talking about love, whining like a child... she might have even be wobbling another cock right now... your wife doesn't respect you, shouts at you in your own house, wishes you death, and you're saying you still don't know what to do, until she carry knife shook you for belle when you sleep abi? don't worry, I hope don't carry your news yet because even your enemy sef gan nor do pass this one...

divorce her dirty ass, take back your son, if the wahala too much on the son's custody, leave the child for them, go live your life in peace, your life is already full of problems, you still allow a problem live under the same roof with you... are you even sure the child is yours? smh... when we talk about red flags day in day out, you guys think it's just words, who's now crying and suffering for it now??

if you're not the owner of that space, leave there, divorce her, cease contact with her and her parents, take your child with you, but before ceasing contact with her parents, make sure they know what she did and don't tolerate nonsense... live your life in peace, your life expectancy is already short as a man, don't let a woman whom you're feeding and adding absolutely nothing to your life make it shorter... don't be a fvcking pvssy..

I just hope is not hovering around like a vulture waiting patiently for the news that we are afraid of.
Be wise oga.
Better alive and divorced than alive than dead

BRATISLAVA:
He actually posted it after you did, I think.

He's masked how he used to "touch her small" with his topic and subsequent complaints describing how terrible she is. He's drinking up the sympathy.

So he was beating her and chatting up with another girl but acting innocent

cococandy:
So he was beating her and chatting up with another girl but acting innocent

Guess he wanted posters to demonize her in order for him to feel justified about whatever it is he's doing to her. Rich and handsome guy like he is, going by translations from his language.

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

Divorce her and have peace

Zulum:
Don't mind my English pls

Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....

I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....

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I hope you hide all the knives in your house when you go to sleep. I already know how this will end if you continue in the marriage.

/

Zulum:
If it's easy to run for my life, I would have done that since....i have a 3yrs old child with her, I love that boy....when we separate I know definitely I will miss him.....thats my fear

Alaye save your fvcking life 1st!

That woman will grow bold enough to poison you on one faithful day. Jeez!