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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Jamie1000: 2:18pm On Jul 30, 2023

You need to also acknowledge the fact that you're a single mother of two. How many tall men with money will want to make you thier first wife? Or are you thinking of a single tall father to marry? Life is all about sacrifices. You can never have it all.

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by NaijaNaWaa: 2:18pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

The man sef na mumu. Of all the tear rubber babes out there looking for made-men, na on top 30+ you with 2 kids he dey waste his energy and emotions. Original mumu na him de man be.

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by jayAjoku(m): 2:19pm On Jul 30, 2023

This one done come with her own set of lies just say na the money dey sweet you for the man side finish which one is he is sweet and caring.

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Discreet90: 2:20pm On Jul 30, 2023

Why are you not considering that be may just want to chop and clean mouth. The way you believed his story is funny. One of men's anthem is that I want you to have my baby so as to get sex. What if oga himself is the one with fertility issues. Not everything is straight forward

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by jayred: 2:21pm On Jul 30, 2023

Well your siblings are right and want the best for you, there are too much red flags and it will be unwise to ignore them, different religions, he is still in a marriage, you are not physically attracted to him and this might lead to you cheating on him if you find a guy you are attracted to, does he even know your kids, how does he treat them? does he like them? I feel he is just desperate to have a child in my opinion, I might be wrong though but the morally right thing to do is not go into that union.

TheUnsure:
You are right. My siblings don’t even want to hear about it, we are pretty conservative. But I have some friends telling me to go for it, so I decided to put it out here to hear opinions from different perspectives.

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Omoawoke2(m): 2:21pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

A single mother of 2 in early 30s still looking for six packs, fine boy

Lmao, wetin musa no go see for gate

Madam, you yourself, don’t you know your market value don crash, the man is taking lots of sacrifice to marry you when many single hot babes whey never born dey outside ! Lol

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by jeromestarks: 2:21pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

I don't blame you. I blame the foolish man. How can a foolish man like him become a king?
Which kingdom please?
I want to know the people that idiot who can not dump your stupid ass and find a very sensible woman wants to rule over.
Mtchewww !
Something he should have moved on away from a wasted single mother. Nonsense!

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by talented321: 2:22pm On Jul 30, 2023

My g''' don't open fowl yansh o

crismark:
Audio doing well

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure(op): 2:24pm On Jul 30, 2023

Discreet90:
Why are you not considering that be may just want to chop and clean mouth. The way you believed his story is funny. One of men's anthem is that I want you to have my baby so as to get sex. What if oga himself is the one with fertility issues. Not everything is straight forward

Sure, there is that possibility too but I think he’s serious…I mean, I was not born yesterday, wetin we never hear.

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by jackmrandy: 2:24pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

Drop he contact make we link him to someone that's more ready and will make him happy.

As for your dream man that you are looking for, drop your contact too you will get it ASAP.

This is the reality of life we are all in now..

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure(op): 2:25pm On Jul 30, 2023

jeromestarks:
I don't blame you. I blame the foolish man. How can a foolish man like him become a king?
Which kingdom please?
I want to know the people that idiot who can not dump your stupid ass and find a very sensible woman wants to rule over.
Mtchewww !
Something he should have moved on away from a wasted single mother. Nonsense!

Lol, who hurt you?

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by hardbody: 2:25pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

Read your post again. You provided answers to your ALL your questions.

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure(op): 2:25pm On Jul 30, 2023

Omoawoke2:
A single mother of 2 in early 30s still looking for six packs, fine boy

Lmao, wetin musa no go see for gate

Madam, you yourself, don’t you know your market value don crash, the man is taking lots of sacrifice to marry you when many single hot babes whey never born dey outside ! Lol

You are funny, oya clap for yourself.

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by tonicyril: 2:26pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

Wait madam, the guy na cripple??
Abi why will a able bodied man be begging SINGLE MOTHER OF TWO for marriage.. I don't get.. but women sara na, women yapa naaa.. huh

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by jayred: 2:27pm On Jul 30, 2023

Never say never when it comes to issues of love, you can't speak for billions of singles guys all over the world. If she has a good character and all the attributes a single guy desires who says he can't marry her. Her mental health and happiness is more important than her desperation to be with a man,afterall it is not compulsory he remarried, with all the red flags that is so obvious, it is better she gives it a critical thought than make a decision she will regret in the future.

Jamie1000:
You need to also acknowledge the fact that you're a single mother of two. How many tall men with money will want to make you thier first wife? Or are you thinking of a single tall father to marry? Life is all about sacrifices. You can never have it all.

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Blitzking: 2:28pm On Jul 30, 2023

Everything was fine until you mentioned 2 kids...you think his first wife will allow you rest..u better face front no cos problem for your children.

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by studM(m): 2:28pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

It is very important as well as d spiritual attributes, speaking from experience,pls don't play down on it for Ur peace of mind

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by QueenDima47(f): 2:28pm On Jul 30, 2023

You can't get everything in one person. If you can't manage or accept or cope with the young man's small stature, I will advise you leave him.
Your peace of mind is vital.

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by crismark(m): 2:33pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I can feed your whole family for a year with what I make in a month, akushe

Naso

Abeg come feed only me..
I dey find food.
Make i send acct?

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by DonBenny77(m): 2:33pm On Jul 30, 2023

You and the man are a bunch of lowlives.... Yuck!
The kind of foolery people share online these days sef, you should have told us how you ended up a single mother of 2

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by crismark(m): 2:34pm On Jul 30, 2023

talented321:
My g''' don't open fowl yansh o

Lol.
Make i just shut up sha.
Na only for social media dem dey do well financially

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Treasure17(m): 2:35pm On Jul 30, 2023

For me, physical attraction is a thing. Infact I consider it as my number one criteria.

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by MyAmericandream(f): 2:35pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I've been on my own since I was 27, so I'm supposed to live the rest of my life alone When I didn't kill anybody

You’ve already made your decision, so why bring it to NL for people’s view? You know how some guys behave here to single mothers.

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by crismark(m): 2:35pm On Jul 30, 2023

BabaIbo:
You get the point, that one na adjective to give herself hope and make it look like she is not after money.

Dey can make mouth ehn grin

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by bukkysam(f): 2:36pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

You have made up your mind last, so why are you here again? For what? We should hold your legs for him ? Bcs I don't just understand

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by obaidan: 2:36pm On Jul 30, 2023

they are important but they are not the most important

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by modernWays: 2:37pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
Lol, i dont think so. The package is juicy (promise of landed property and a lot more) but the main subject...physical attraction is very important for me. I love money and the good life but genuinely wanting my partner is also a big deal for me.

As a single mother of 2 children, 90% of men that will accept to marry you would either be married or widowers. The other 10% are broke adults who want to use you to start their own families. If you see a generous rich man that still beg to settle down with you, aunty please count yourself lucky.

Maybe because you are already single mum, because a woman above 30 normally focus on qualities other than physical attributes. Let me tell you a bitter truth, you can only get the kind of men you described as boyfriend and fu-ck mate, A mature guy that is tall, handsome, rich and caring, and ready to take a wife won't settle for single mother but fresh single.

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Maynman: 2:37pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

You are not a body, you have a body.

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by franchasofficia: 2:38pm On Jul 30, 2023

TheUnsure:
I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

Hehe, this life no balance oh, look at me a beautiful damsel, tall, fine face, have slim body, flat tummy with killer hips and ass and a good job yet no reasonable guy is asking me out with seriousness, but here you are a single mother of 2 turning down a caring, rich, loving, soon to be king man, hahahaha life e no balance walai, ire oh shocked

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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Jefferyhi86(m): 2:40pm On Jul 30, 2023

Eyah come luv me let me grease that place n u feel like a complete woman again, am tall n good looking but the money never de like that cry

Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure(op): 2:40pm On Jul 30, 2023

DonBenny77:
You and the man are a bunch of lowlives.... Yuck!
The kind of foolery people share online these days sef, you should have told us how you ended up a single mother of 2

No, I don’t need to tell you anything but your unfortunate mother needs to tell us how she ended up with a brainless mofo like you. Poor woman cry

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