Poten111:

I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

OGHENAOGIE:
what way if I May ask??

opicgif:
so many years ago
i chased a woman for 4 years
she told me she wants to keep her virginity till she got married
and that she cant marry me because i don't go to her church (she is a strong christian girl)
i believed!!
we stayed celibate for 4 years
she cooked for me
she did everything for me
i thought she loved me


she lost her virginity to a muslim, married man, with two wives, who wasn't a graduate !!!
1. a muslim
2. a married man
3. who had 2 wives
4. wasn't a graduate

guess who she called to cry about breaking her vow?? guess who?


this was 2010. that was how i learnt my own lesson
your own is small

Poten111:

I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:

I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

MISTAICEY02288:
Lol.. You're obviously the problem MR. I am a Man too and I will tell you the truth. Since that lady has told you she is in a relationship and she stands by her words, why not let her be and keep it moving? Also, You don't have to be bitter towards her all because she turned down your advances. If you are to be the other guy she is dating and wants to get married to, would you be happy someone, especially your soon to be Wife's Colleague snatches her away from you? Do you know how much the guy has invested in the relationship and how far they've gone together? Leave that lady alone and look for your woman elsewhere! It's not even advisable to get involved in Workplace romance. I find it cringy and believe me, most of such relationships don't end well. How do you have relationship with someone you see at home daily and still see each other at work? Na wah!

Since she has made it clear she doesn't want you, you don't have to be cold to her for her nice gestures towards you. Its fine if you reduce your closeness with her a bit, at least for you to get over whatever you're nursing in your mind towards her, but don't be harsh or cold to her regardless, especially when she still tries to be nice around you. You should balance the situation...

shedy03:
Can't woman be friendly to a man without the man reading wrong meaning to it?

LORDKing001:


Keep quiet sir

EconomistXplain:
simply turn her sexual patner... that's what sh wants not relationship...u are the one needing something very serious..sh can never leave an abroad based man for u...women can kill demselves for abroad based guyz

Georgejeez:


Then if he or him own crew plan you , light you Kala , fall you down in retaliation ,, you don Lego all because of woman when go still go marry another Man.

Na wao .

I can't imagine myself fighting over or beating a fellow man because of a babe (not wife).

Poten111:

I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Poten111:

I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?

Xkale1996:
see mumu
If na Bleep
She for don give am signal

Not all girls are loose mumu

Akwukalia:

I had to login because I am in a similar scenario. I seek your wise counsel & that of others.....
After over 3 weeks of WhatsApp & calls, we went on a date, spent over 3hours there. Told me because of her mom's pressure, she recently started a new relationship (distant one) after 2years of singlehood & she doesn't double date, never did & never will, but she likes me blablabla. Told her I appreciate her sincerity & wouldn't want to be an asunder that I wish her good luck. She got angry & said we are still friends, she likes me & that man propose but God have the final say. Told her thanks for liking me but I cannot be an option or a fallback plan. Discussed with my friend & he said I should play along & pipe.
Here is my dilemma, in the cause of our discussions, I found out this girl is loaded with ideas, her entrepreneurial drive is top notch. She opened my eyes/brains to some money making opportunities I never knew existed or I looked down on. We discussed alot of things & she is very current. Stylishly asked about telemundo, bbnaija & the likes, but she told me she is not a fan of any, if it's not about making money & expanding her brand she doesn't bother. The only 2 category of ladies I can really want is either a career lady or a business minded lady. What's your advice senior ?

MISTAICEY02288:
Lol.. You're obviously the problem MR. I am a Man too and I will tell you the truth. Since that lady has told you she is in a relationship and she stands by her words, why not let her be and keep it moving? Also, You don't have to be bitter towards her all because she turned down your advances. If you are to be the other guy she is dating and wants to get married to, would you be happy someone, especially your soon to be Wife's Colleague snatches her away from you? Do you know how much the guy has invested in the relationship and how far they've gone together? Leave that lady alone and look for your woman elsewhere! It's not even advisable to get involved in Workplace romance. I find it cringy and believe me, most of such relationships don't end well. How do you have relationship with someone you see at home daily and still see each other at work? Na wah!

Since she has made it clear she doesn't want you, you don't have to be cold to her for her nice gestures towards you. Its fine if you reduce your closeness with her a bit, at least for you to get over whatever you're nursing in your mind towards her, but don't be harsh or cold to her regardless, especially when she still tries to be nice around you. You should balance the situation...

Poten111:

I have fallen in love with my colleague. She has been so helpful and close to me. We hangout a lot and she creates time for me. She dots me. She is always in a hurry to help and support. If i have a complaint she scampers to look for solution. She buys me lunch and surprises me with snacks and gifts.

I a have a place to go and I impromptu tell her. She volunteers to drive me there. She has a car and I don't. E speak at length every day. Morning and night.

In all this, I reciprocate the gestures. I show her love and respect.

After about a year. I came to the conclusion that I want to date her against my principle of dating colleagues. We once lodged in a hotel where i made my intentions clear. She said she was in a relationship. A distant one but the guy is ready to marry her. He has met her parents.

I know women love to keep their options open to avoid disappointment but i felt betrayed because how is she making out time for me.

I have re-emphasized my interest on two more occasions. She is thinking about it. I feel she wants to go ahead with the marriage plans.

So i have moved on. Cut off consistent communications with her. I rarely respond to her message especially if they are not work related. I have subtly told her that we cannot be having a subtle affair.

She doesn't seem to keep off. She has maintained her fake interest in me.

What do i do?