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Another SIMPle chronicle 🥱

Na reverse psychology u go use for am....she go bow

SenecaTheYonger:
This has nothing to do with dream man. Many women don't marry their dream men, because their dream men don't even consider them as spec, so they marry who is available, but still don't starve them of sex because they too enjoy sex.

The OP's wife doesn't like sex.

@OP, it could be hormone, especially if it happened after she had kids. Pregnancy can really mess up a woman. Go to a hormonal doctor let them tell you the test to run.

That is part of the issue too. Hormonal imbalance.

Rainbow10:
OP
Did you marry your wife as a virgin?
Give me an answer
Got a remedy for you..............

She was not a virgin before I MARRIED HER. Infact I know her ex. Though she doesn't cheat on me. She loves to be alone, make money, cruise, vibes with her friends, family. But not with me. Dont cuddle her, don't tickle, don't laugh with her. She gets angry with every little thing. Doesnt apologise. I once cheated on her but apologised. But now, she's starving me of sex, coupled with the height of disrespect from her. Last time I CALLED her elder brother about our frequent quarells. He just said he would talk to her. But he never did. Her mother shouted at me, if i wanted to divorce her, i should go ahead. So much quarells. I am tired. She even left the family prayer whatsapp group i created. OMO, I don't know what to do. I am just tired.

Lanmonfishery:
Na reverse psychology u go use for am....she go bow

Can you please explain what you mean? What do I do?

The SIMPlest way to solve the problem is to go bring all your village people to come and kneel down to beg her.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

I suggest you discipline your sexual urge to the minimum. Don't pressure her concerning sex and be mysterious with where u go and the things u do.
Secondly, take good care of ur personal hygiene and focuss on building a more attractive version of ur self.
Buy new clothes and put expensive colognes.
Ignore most of her existence and also flirt with young ladies around.

The reason why women loose attraction of their husbands sometimes is because of the above mentioned.
You became less attractive, less mysterious, unhygienic, and u make her position look too secure.

Brandiebird:
Another SIMPle chronicle 🥱

Bro I am not a SIMP. I just try to respect the boundaries of marriage and my family. But I am being pushed. i JUST HAVE TO CRY OUT. I have reported issues so much to my pastor, her parents - no one wants to listen to us again.

Evilstorm:
I suggest you discipline your sexual urge to the minimum. Don't pressure her consigning sex and be mysterious with where u go and the things u do.
Secondly, take good care of ur personal hygiene and focuss on building a more attractive version of ur self.
Buy new clothes and put expensive colognes.
Ignore most of her existence and also flirt with young ladies around.

The reason why women loose attraction of their husbands sometimes is because of the above mentioned.
You became less attractive, less mysterious, unhygienic, and u make her position look too secure.

Brother, I have a personal GYM in my house. I am well built. I A full bearded man. I don't want to describe myself much. But by Gods grace, I look really great.

If you're not a Christian, just get like two side chic.
Don't even initiate anything sex with her for a whole year. She will come begging you.

Advice only applicable if you're not a child of God.

addmole:
Bro I am not a SIMP. I just try to respect the boundaries of marriage and my family. But I am being pushed. i JUST HAVE TO CRY OUT. I have reported issues so much to my pastor, her parents - no one wants to listen to us again.

Report to the sister, brother, parent and Pastor and nothing is changing. And the funny thing is ur not seeing the clearer picture

Offpointng:
Reason why I tell young men like myself, Dont allow Love becloud your senses of reasoning. Trust me the sign were always right there, you were just blind to it

I used to have what you'd call an Ex then, Same way OP describe his wife was exactly who she is. Twinkling annoys her and she immediately changes it for you, hugs from the back esp when she's in the kitchen immediately changes her mood and get her so angry, Simple romance like hugging (common hugging) she'd push you away, You can't have a healthy and Intelligent talk with her, Always defensive and hardly apologises, Any Play other than the use of mouth to call each other Big head is a No No for her, Loves sleeping like some descendants of Koala, So boring and everything bored you can think of. Firstly, I thought all these happened cuz she's still a Virgin at that age, but I've got Virgin friends that we play and have lotta fun without having sex and are not so boring like she is. Later Got to find out that's just who she was, not cuz she's a virgin or something

So that faithful night we were all loved up on chat and we chatted till she wanted to sleep and told me we'd chat the next day, so we said the lovers Good night and went to bed. But before I got to sleep, I told myself I'm so done with this girl. Normally, she always expects I do the Good morning text first or the Good morning call all the time. But this time, woke up and din call her or text her Good morning, I went bout my normal day activities like she never existed. All those time till in the evening she never call or texted until I uploaded a picture of Myself and my guys chilling bfr we replied the status and of cuz some Rude Bullshit text, I read and din reply.

She called me that night bout twice and I din pick nor returned the call, of course she took to WhatsApp again forming boss lady, I made sure i read and din reply and went to sleep putting my phone on flight mode incase she wanna disturb my sleep with calls.

Oooboy I dabaru that girl head cuz we had no fight the night bfr, we chatted so cool and was even talking bout marriage plans next day she kept calling and calling, pick for where. took her sis phone to call me unknown to me I picked, my people come see cool broken voice that I've not heard in months. I immediately cut and blocked. Any she took to crying on VN telling me if she's done anything forgive me bla bla, But nigga man's mind was made up. She got into depression and every effort her, her friends, her family made to reach out to me, I blocked em all. I moved on. Well after so many months I'm glad to let y'all know she's still single cuz I doubt any guy can be patient with her like I was

So Op the signs were always there, you just turned blind eyes to em.

The only reason I haven't blocked my ex is that I want to see that unfortunate guy she will end up with. I go put am for my prayer.

advanceDNA:
Which kind yeye sex are u having 3 times a week... U no dey go work..?? U no dey hustle??

No kee the woman abeg??

Guess, you just read the title, jumped to respond. I live comfortably and take good care of her. Dont want to brag here. But everything is by Gods grace. Read the post and make constructive comments.

addmole:
She was not a virgin before I MARRIED HER. Infact I know her ex. Though she doesn't cheat on me. She loves to be alone, make money, cruise, vibes with her friends, family. But not with me. Dont cuddle her, don't tickle, don't laugh with her. She gets angry with every little thing. Doesnt apologise. I once cheated on her but apologised. But now, she's starving me of sex, coupled with the height of disrespect from her. Last time I CALLED her elder brother about our frequent quarells. He just said he would talk to her. But he never did. Her mother shouted at me, if i wanted to divorce her, i should go ahead. So much quarells. I am tired. She even left the family prayer whatsapp group i created. OMO, I don't know what to do. I am just tired.

OP, You don't need a sooth-sayer to tell you that she's not into you.
You were just available for her getting married.
Her ex which am vividly sure dis-virgined her
Has the highest share of her honey-pot
IF TRULY SHE LOVES YOU, YOU WON'T BE PASSING THROUGH THESE SHIT.

ALWAYS MARRY A VIRGIN................
E GET WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Offpointng:
Reason why I tell young men like myself, Dont allow Love becloud your senses of reasoning. Trust me the sign were always right there, you were just blind to it

I used to have what you'd call an Ex then, Same way OP describe his wife was exactly who she is. Twinkling annoys her and she immediately changes it for you, hugs from the back esp when she's in the kitchen immediately changes her mood and get her so angry, Simple romance like hugging (common hugging) she'd push you away, You can't have a healthy and Intelligent talk with her, Always defensive and hardly apologises, Any Play other than the use of mouth to call each other Big head is a No No for her, Loves sleeping like some descendants of Koala, So boring and everything bored you can think of. Firstly, I thought all these happened cuz she's still a Virgin at that age, but I've got Virgin friends that we play and have lotta fun without having sex and are not so boring like she is. Later Got to find out that's just who she was, not cuz she's a virgin or something

So that faithful night we were all loved up on chat and we chatted till she wanted to sleep and told me we'd chat the next day, so we said the lovers Good night and went to bed. But before I got to sleep, I told myself I'm so done with this girl. Normally, she always expects I do the Good morning text first or the Good morning call all the time. But this time, woke up and din call her or text her Good morning, I went bout my normal day activities like she never existed. All those time till in the evening she never call or texted until I uploaded a picture of Myself and my guys chilling bfr we replied the status and of cuz some Rude Bullshit text, I read and din reply.

She called me that night bout twice and I din pick nor returned the call, of course she took to WhatsApp again forming boss lady, I made sure i read and din reply and went to sleep putting my phone on flight mode incase she wanna disturb my sleep with calls.

Oooboy I dabaru that girl head cuz we had no fight the night bfr, we chatted so cool and was even talking bout marriage plans next day she kept calling and calling, pick for where. took her sis phone to call me unknown to me I picked, my people come see cool broken voice that I've not heard in months. I immediately cut and blocked. Any she took to crying on VN telling me if she's done anything forgive me bla bla, But nigga man's mind was made up. She got into depression and every effort her, her friends, her family made to reach out to me, I blocked em all. I moved on. Well after so many months I'm glad to let y'all know she's still single cuz I doubt any guy can be patient with her like I was

So Op the signs were always there, you just turned blind eyes to em.

EVERYTHING you just put up is exactly how she does. Dont hug her, she's so defensive. You cannot have a healthy discussion with her. Yes, I saw the signs, but I always told myself she should change.

OP sorry o

addmole:
Brother, I have a personal GYM in my house. I am well built. I A full bearded man. I don't want to describe myself much. But by Gods grace, I look really great.

Wow...this one weak me...I have no meaningful contribution to give b dat cause I'm not even married.

addmole:
2 days ago, it was the day set for the 1 round we were supposed to make love, she just said, something is on her face. I wish I can describe it. I was like, why Is it that anytime its when we want to make out is when you must have en excuse, she just shouted at me, that I should go that i dont care. I was like, this was the same person who was jumping and telling me she wants to fix a nose ring. Very healthy and bouncing all over the place, but when it comes to my usual 1 round on the old timetable. She would look for an excuse. Her mother shouted at me that if I want to divorce her, I should go ahead that she's tired of settling our differences.

I totally feel your pain , everything you've said i can relate sounds like we have the same girl. No timetable yet for me yet, but , I have a feeling she might get there soon. Although in her case she had some childhood truma. Her own is so bad that if you touch her at night while sleeping she unconsciously start fighting you. Of recent she said it was homonar in balance that was making her to run from sex

I take solace in the fact that I know she won't cheat on me, sexually at least ,... I pray we can work it out cos the issue has made me question so many times if she loves me at all. I feel miserable most times... I have talked to her uncountable times she only changes for a week or 2 and she is back to her old self.

SenecaTheYonger:
They don't respect him because he doesn’t have the balls to cheat, he doesn't have the balls to walk away. They know anytime they beg him, he will come back like a cow.

Get a side chick for one year to relive your tension. Treat your wife like a room mate.

I love these bold words. Thank you. SO DIRECT. You hit the nail. This is exactly what they feel. The mother tells me to my face, that if I want to serve her daughter divorce papers, I should bring it. My wife also says she's ready. They don't care. I cannot even pick phone to report my wife to them again. Even with her sisters. I cant try it. The elder sister doesn't listen to me when I try to talk about issues of my wife. I have stopped visiting them since 3 years. Omo, a lot of things to say, be like I go delete this thread.

Ixodes:
OP sorry o

Thank you. LOL

Newdawn30:
I totally feel your pain , everything you've said i can relate sounds like we have the same girl. No timetable yet for me yet, but , I have a feeling she might get there soon. Although in her case she had some childhood truma. Her own is so bad that if you touch her at night while sleeping she unconsciously start fighting you. Of recent she said it was homonar in balance that was making her to run from sex

I take solace in the fact that I know she won't cheat on me, sexually at least ,... I pray we can work it out cos the issue has made me question so many times if she loves me at all. I feel miserable most times... I have talked to her uncountable times she only changes for a week or 2 and she is back to her old self.

You and OP sopose sit down and discuss…

Over a bottle of beer or something.

Share help full tips to each other. Cry on each other’s shoulders- that kind of stuff.

You just found your partner.

You both are comrades!

addmole:
Guess, you just read the title, jumped to respond. I live comfortably and take good care of her. Dont want to brag here. But everything is by Gods grace. Read the post and make constructive comments.

Bros i nor jump .....i read ur post.. u said she reduced it from 3 times to twice a week.

See...only rare breeds of women that over-like sex or are used to fvcking for money will be open to sex more than 3 times a week, no matter how good u are...

Once a woman has good orgasm today..before she go enter naturally become hoŕny again...e go take a while....

baba...twice a week is not a bad ........ i dont know how ur body is ooo...but most guys say frequent/next to everyday sex nor dey sweet ...a short period of absteinance, like 3 to 4 days makes the climax sweeter.....

advanceDNA:
Bros i nor jump .....i read ur post.. u said she reduced it from 3 times to twice a week.

See...only rare breeds of women that over-like sex or are used to fvcking for money will be open to sex more than 3 times a week, no matter how good u are...

Once a woman has good orgasm today..before she go enter naturally become hoŕny again...e go take a while....

baba...twice a week is not a bad ........ i dont know how ur body is ooo...but most guys say frequent/next to everyday sex nor dey sweet ...a short period of absteinance, like 3 to 4 days makes the climax sweeter.....

You do not understand the post. You didn't read where I said, she does only 1 round and its missionary style and that's it. She pushes you to get up and leave her. She would even hiss at you. She would complain that you last so long that I should cum and get up. Omo, I don see things. LOL How can 1 round of sex be enough. Someone who hates kisses, just knack 1 round missionary and go. How would that satisfy me. Then I have to do that just twice a week. Anyway, thanks for your comments.

My wife doesn't care about orgasm. Cant remember when last she had one. Just missionary, 10 to 15mins. that's all. There's no intense sex and all wanting me. Nothing.

addmole:
You do not understand the post. You didn't read where I said, she does only 1 round and its missionary style and that's it. She pushes you to get up and leave her. She would even hiss at you. She would complain that you last so long that I should cum and get up. Omo, I don see things. LOL How can 1 round of sex be enough. Someone who hates kisses, just knack 1 round missionary and go. How would that satisfy me. Then I have to do that just twice a week. Anyway, thanks for your comments.

My wife doesn't care about orgasm. Cant remember when last she had one. Just missionary, 10 to 15mins. that's all. There's no intense sex and all wanting me. Nothing.

I feel your pain Bro......
Such a pity

In life, As a Man
1)Always marry a virgin.
2)Never marry who you love instead Marry that lady that loves you more.

But OP if it happens that your wife ex is the person that took her virginity.
Trust me there's a high tendency of them making out in private.
MONITOR HER CLOSELY BUT ON A LOW

orisirisi. I don't know if you are joking or you are actually serious. If you are actually serious,then she needs to see a therapist. Very soon, young men will resort to polygamy. I don't understand why some married women see sex with their husbands as a big deal.

Saintinoo:
The only reason I haven't blocked my ex is that I want to see that unfortunate guy she will end up with. I go put am for my prayer.

Lmao. had to run for my dear life. Not like I'm not also stubborn to match her madness but a home with kids will weaken you as a man/husband which ion want

I guess she now feels me valuable now

Lonestar124:
Move to which frontpage, the responses you have received so far, so you can make use of it...

I hate men that can make a self decision without listening to others opinion....

Thanks. I have receieved great responses.

Rainbow10:
OP, You don't need a sooth-sayer to tell you that she's not into you.
You were just available for her getting married.
Her ex which am vividly sure dis-virgined her
Has the highest share of her honey-pot
IF TRULY SHE LOVES YOU, YOU WON'T BE PASSING THROUGH THESE SHIT.

ALWAYS MARRY A VIRGIN................
E GET WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marrying a Virgin is not enough bro. A well grown/loved virgin is what you should have typed.

I don't believe she would willingly choose to withhold sex from you. You both need to have a discussion. I suggest you ask if she experiences any discomfort or pain during sexual activity, it's possible she has a medical condition that affects sexual activity.

Merry100:
I don't believe she would willingly choose to withhold sex from you. You both need to have a discussion. I suggest you ask if she experiences any discomfort or pain during sexual activity, it's possible she has a medical condition that affects sexual experience.

Dont be unwise. Dint you read where he wrote he has discussed and discussed and now he's tired? Nothing is gonna work for em both mate, and nothing will work until he put her in her place

Evestar200:
Maybe You are not her dream man

That Woman Married you because of Marriage pressure not because she loves you.

There is no way a woman who loves, Cares and has feelings will not like to do anything with you no matter how angry she is.

Thank you. The wife no love am shikom, no emotion. She’ll open her legs and get wet just looking at the person she loves