Emaprince:
I understand you better now.

I wish you well and peace in your union.

labake1:



The society supports whatever actions a man do whether positive or negative. It's not the same with women that's why women are starting to talk down on men's actions. I am sure if she should report him to his parents, they will advise her to endure it or even tell her that he is capable of marrying another wife. African culture doesn't favour women, men thinks they can do anything they like

Yugoslavia247:


Your marriage is about to see shege.

Do you bother about your husband sexual feeling the same way you bother about him cheating on you.

Most times that's what you all do.

Like you don't know it is the sex he needs.

Focus on understand his sexual appetite.

If Vicky leaves the scene
Antonia
Anabel
Cinderella
Senorita

Are waiting in line.

Now he would become smarter or furious.

She must have worked so hard to satisfy your husband for her to ask such questions.

Who is sweeter between me and your wife?



Imagine the kind eyes she go dey use dey look you.

Anytime you are at peace with your husband she go dey vex.

Better up the game and claim your husband not just from Vicky but others.





Be insightful.
Observe him
Know why.
What if na the gal give am green light.

You don't need to rush.

If you rush you no go fit borrow oven.

Sit your husband down and discuss it.

It might be difficult but try. Don't try and fight the gal. You go embarrass yourself, your husband and the family.



Call his family instead.

If possible make una go out and settle the issue because you na go too shout.

You need to be smart.

Imagine that you know and act like you don't.

Even your husband go fear.

Leave the gal and face your husband.

Na im get problem.

E Kon be neighbors

Kaya mata self fit dey work.

Maybe the gal dey wear braless cloth and pantless.

The thing he want the gal understand

U want use Vicky hook up play.

She go Sabi suck dick

When last u suck him dick.

That alone go make am never leave Vicky hook up.

dkidd:

Okay but the western culture does support women over men. In fact it suppresses the man. So allow us enjoy our privileges in Africa in peace and besides even our society here is also biased towards women. There are things so many things a woman can do and get away with for free and a man can't dare it. Make we still breath small. Let men breathe

Versitee:


She is the one. I saw their telegram chat. It was awful

labake1:


I wonder what does things are

Kobojunkie:
If you were to find out your wife has been cheating on you with your next door neighbor, are you telling us that you will hold your peace as long as she is a doing what she is supposed to do as a mother to your kids? Would you also forego confronting her because you know it won't stop her and consider yourself lucky to know say na only Victor for next door she dey boing?

countryman13:

Keep us posted after the confrontation! All the best

adelafe2019:
■ VERSITEE, Do not bother yourself unnecessarily. A typical African man especially a married Nigerian is polygamous /promiscuous in nature I.e. apart from his wife he will have at least one girlfriend or concubine except
1.HE Is broke and so poverty prevents him from having a sidekick.
2.he is a 100% born again Christian.l do not mean a pastor because that is just a mere title.
3.He has low sexual drive and can hardly satisfy his wife sexually.

If you find out that he is cheating on you you can run hiv test.lf the result is negative do not worry and do not confront him to avoid altercation.

If you want to confirm the identity of Vick hangout use a new sim or another person's sim to do that.Otherwise she is likely to know you are the caller.

Assuming you and your husband reside in different towns would you know whether he cheats?
Do you know that some women have their husbands in diaspora and have not travelled home for the past 3 or 4 years or more? Do you want to tell me that they do not know that their husbands have s*x with ladies over there?
I know that some readers asked you to divorce your husband if the allegation is true but how are you going to be sure that the man you will marry again will not do the same thing?
Confronting your husband on the matter cannot stop him but will make him to be smarter in his approach to hangout matters.
The only condition that is reasonable for a woman to go for divorce is if the husband always beat her/ domestic violence or if he always collect money from her without paying back. Such attitude can lead to the woman's death directly or indirectly. So the woman can run for her dear life.SHALOM.

Kobojunkie:
Again, If you were to find out your wife has been cheating on you with your next door neighbor, are you telling us that you will hold your peace as long as she is a doing what she is supposed to do as a mother to your kids? Would you also forego confronting her because you know it won't stop her and consider yourself lucky to know say na only Victor for next door she dey boing?

Or are you trying to get us to believe that you could never do what you have advised OP to do here?

emanobis:
■ For those of you shouting divorce up and down...plz dnt spread your nonsense mentality to everyone.
Reading carefully will make u understand this is a woman dt wants to save her home and her husband, and looking closely, divorce isn't yet an option to her.
She seeks way to discuss with her husband without causing a fight...she wants to discuss with her husband, and not cause a fight.
Please psychologists and therapists in the house, guide her please. She still wants her home and her husband, not all these home breakers looking for others to robe into their misery life

countryman13:

Am sure ds👆 solve d problem of how to confront him!

Kobojunkie:
You haven't answered the question so how can we know if it solves it?

Again, If you were to find out your wife has been cheating on you with your next door neighbor, are you telling us that you will hold your peace as long as she is a doing what she is supposed to do as a mother to your kids? Would you also forego confronting her because you know it won't stop her and consider yourself lucky to know say na only Victor for next door she dey boing?

Or are you trying to get us to believe that you could never do what you have advised OP to do here?

dkidd:


Example if me and u are arguing and u even ur my girl do u know u can run to anywhere and claim rape. Maybe devil want come punish me we had consensual sex I'm done for.

2. People (men) are always ready to give u favours and u really don't have to do much to get that. Just fine small and be accommodating. Na u go tire for simps waiting to please u daily. From internet and cable subs to lunch and dinner etc

3. By general societal standarts men have to be the ones to initiate contact if there is interest and must accept rejection graciously so most women get to pick and chose, and most men don’t. All u have to do is just sit pretty and expect the world 🌎

4. Public Confrontations: Women are more often seen as the defendant in male vs. female confrontations. Men are usually seen as the aggressor. So a woman can yell at you but the second you raise your voice as a man, someone will come in and ease you off of the woman. She’s always right, until everything is cleared up.

5. Sexual Harassment: Cases of sexual harassment against men are taken far less seriously than it is for women. It is also socially acceptable for women to feel men’s arms and chests, but if we so much as brush a boob then that’s a lawsuit and defamation... Even here some stupid simps will make fun out of any guy who cries out being assaulted by a girl and say he's a liar.

6. Female Privilege: Males are always seen as a potential threat whereas women are not. For men, just walking down the street we make people tense. The police stop us for just looking good or driving neat cars but u don't hear of police stopping a lady and asking her to open her phones or being suspect for fraud or any of those vices even though they (women) still play the games. That said, women have more freedom to roam without getting shot or harassed by the police. Unlike us we might go out and never return back home because of one trigger loving police.

I can go on and on but ponder upon those.

countryman13:
■ U aren't truly looking for a way to confront d man coz it seems U are channeling Ur energy solely on my post. OYO!

Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.

labake1:



That's little compared to what men are benefiting in the society . Thank God for education, women are knowing how to speak up to say what they want.

Kobojunkie:
You mean you would not confront your wife at all if she was cheating on you? You will simply continue being the dutiful husband to her that you have always been and let sleeping dogs lie or should I say let your wife continue to lay with your neigbhor?

countryman13:
■ Now i know your type! My wife i know is not a cheat! Even if she does,my problem n now that you are contemplating of confronting Ur man, Ur problem!

extremelygolden:


Nope. Make it Jonnie Runner, cos Usian Bolt will be learning from me. Compare my run to the speed of light.

Jovialjune1:

Lmao 🤣 you just made me remember that movie 🎬

omobolarinwa1:


They kept telling to divorce your husband lol madam.if you do no be we men wey de street be diz lol I pity you make loneliness no finish you in years to come... there's nothing new under the sun my dear you have to take things easily gather more evidence confront him and ifnhe felt remorse and apologise kindly find a way to accept his apology ..

Like one musician sang.. Oko won Lode ooo
Meaning Husband is scares this day.

Kindly grab your piece and move on.

omobolarinwa1:
■ They kept telling to divorce your husband lol madam.if you do no be we men wey de street be diz lol I pity you make loneliness no finish you in years to come... there's nothing new under the sun my dear you have to take things easily gather more evidence confront him and ifnhe felt remorse and apologise kindly find a way to accept his apology ..
Like one musician sang.. Oko won Lode ooo Meaning Husband is scares this day. Kindly grab your piece and move on.

dkidd:

Really? Tell me about it then because I don't think we benefit even up to women

Kobojunkie:
And your type is of the kind who can never practice what they preach?

Kobojunkie:
She wants to save her family from her husband who decided to break it of his own accord. So her fight to save is against her own husband who decided it is best broken for the sake of his dick. it takes two to make a marriage work so in order to save the marriage, OP and her husband who is the problem need to come to the same table and agree to be on the same page in terms of the marriage. Sadly, this this where it becomes hard to save a marriage after adultery has occured in the marriage as more times out of not, the cheater continues his cheating ways leaving the other partner to go on in the marriage relationship alone. Letting OP know that the situation isn't hopeless and divorce is an option in the case that she finds she is in the marriage with her own self, isn't a bad idea at all. No one person suppose carry marriage for head.

emanobis:
■ Your assumption, no factual evidence to all your point
■ All I can sense is trying to push your unwarranted motive and idea upon another lady
■ The man cheated yes, but never asked for divorce or even abused or molested his wife, you guys should please stop breaking homes please. Divorce isn't the solution she is asking for...she is asking for the better way to talk with the husband...period

Kobojunkie:
If you were to find out that your wife were cheating on you, would you also do everything you have asked OP to do here? Will you also not consider divorcing her since the okay condition you believe is good for divorce is if she beats you or something along those lines? Will you equally refuse to confront your wife because you know and accept that confronting her will not cause her to change her ways?