Do you think religious differences is a big factor in marriage?

Personally, I tend to lean towards atheism and I may end up with a devout Christian. What's the possibility of having a smooth marriage without issues relating to religion?

I also do not want my children to be religiously brainwashed. In this part of the world, its really hard to find a female atheist.

I can cope with this, but the problem is if my future wife would be able to cope too.

I was having a conversation with a girl the other day and she said that one of the things she looks out for in a guy is being a strong Christian.

She advised I look for a Caucasian but I'm not buying into the Caucasian stuff because I'm not cut out for that and the chances are remote. And then, she let me know that if I should go for a Christian, her pastor might be an obstacle to us getting married.

Currently, I'm flowing well with this Christian girl and would love to settle down with her.

Those who have faced this challenge should contribute to the discourse. Those who are of a different religions with their spouse should tell us how they manage to cope.

i am muslim and my wife is a christian, we re leaving in peace and hormony she goes to her while i go to my mosques the only issued we always have is about the children, but we never fought over the issued, we always talks about the matter, very soon we will come to conclusion. i love my wife she love me as well

The problem with the relegion folks is the moment you tell them you don't believe in their religions they immediately tag u a devil, bad man or criminal. My man the rate at which our people are brainwashed they now think without their religion your marriage, business or life will not prosper and it is will bad. This people don't know that success don't have anything to do with religion rather it is hard work and connection..
I think there are women who are ready to marry if you don't force your atheism on them 100%, but as for me i don't like any woman who behave as if all her life and success depend on the church.

You’re part of a very small minority so it will be hard for you to find your match. If you said you’re not religious then that would give you better odds than you don’t believe in God. You’ve really shrunk your dating pool so good luck.

idady2njsd:
i am muslim and my wife is a christian, we re leaving in peace and hormony she goes to her while i go to my mosques the only issued we always have is about the children, but we never fought over the issued, we always talks about the matter, very soon we will come to conclusion. i love my wife she love me as well

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I will speak to you from an Islamic point of view... generally speaking, there are many genuine reasons why Islam frowns on such marriages... unless she converted to your religion, then Islam frowns at marrying an unbeliever in the Deen... and it's quite a good reason as well...

supposedly you died before her, all your kids will revert back to her religion, and in the sight of your Lord, this is a grave misconduct , all this i love you, she loves you won't save you... when you're choosing a partner, you're not only choosing for yourself, but for your kids and their future...

even if God spare your life, your kids might end up confused and might later revert back to her own religion, and this might break your heart..children mostly generally incline themselves to what their women follows, this is why you should be very careful who you choose to be your wife.. you might not be the one who takes the Deen seriously, but if you fear for your own future and theirs, you would fear for the outcome... that's if you're truly God fearing or you fear His wrath.. but if you're one of those claiming woke muslims, then I have nothing to say to you... and since your wife is not inclined towards your religion, do you know the outcome and consequences when it comes to willing or sharing property when you're no longer on this earth?

you're one of the men who thinks emotionally, you're not the first person to fall in love and won't be the last.... some of the ones greater than your love ended in divorce, so have you thought of this possibility and the effects it will have on your kids?? or na still I love you, she love me too?? now you seems blinded by love, all this will seem like nonsense to you, but e go soon clear for your eyes...

from your story, it seems you guys still have issues on which religion your kids should themselves adapt to, this is just the beginning of the problem, that love go soon clear for your eyes when you're asked to account for that decision you took years back... maybe not in this life, but in the next...

even if you're a idol worshipper, find another idol worshipper to marry or someone who's ready to convert to what you believe in... when it comes to marriage, leave emotions out of it and think logically before you dive in... love is not what sustain marriages... the risks is much greater than the illusions of enjoyment in it... find someone who aligns with your interests and beliefs for your own peace of mind and for the future of your kids...

apart from religion, marry someone who aligns with your interests and dreams... even if it's the person occupation... if you know your wife is an actress, then you should know all the things involved in being an actress, don't come out crying when she starts kissing random people on screen and eventually cheat on you and make you father another man's kids... religion is not the only thing that should be taken seriously, there are many other things as well, marriage is not a joke... it's better to be single than dive into marriage while leaving your brain behind... love won't save you when problem arrives... love is just the emotion to attract people to each other, not the emotion needed for a successful relationship, and the thing is that most people can't differentiate between love and lust, and that will be the cause of their downfall...

talented321:
The problem with the relegion folks is the moment you tell them you don't believe in their religions they immediately tag u a devil, bad man or criminal. My man the rate at which our people are brainwashed they now think without their religion your marriage, business or life will not prosper and it is will bad. This people don't know that success don't have anything to do with religion rather it is hard work and connection..
I think there are women who are ready to marry if you don't force your atheism on them 100%, but as for me i don't like any woman who behave as if all her life and success depend on the church.

@ bolded, sure you're right... religion is just a factor, just like politics... people can be brainwashed by anything, this is why you see some members would be asked to do the unthinkable by their leaders and you would see them do it... this is dogmatism and manipulation... it's not religion that permits this, religion even want you to think for yourself but the issue is, most religion followers don't and they don't even make researches, they expect their leaders to do the thinking for them, and that my friend is what we call dogmatism... sure religion is not what makes someone prospers, in fact, it's in the holy books that prosperity doesn't have to do with that... Religion is not only meant for that... If there was no religion, most people will have no fear of consequences... they will delve into evil works without batting an eyelid... everywhere will scatter...

God can have complete hatred for a person and still blesses him, it doesn't change anything with Him... even Satan does things for people... this is why I laugh at people who claim blessings or riches online when they don't know the source... the only thing God doesn't give to the ordinary folk is faith... and this faith has nothing to do with dogmatism, God doesn't want you to be foolish and not think for yourself... being religious is different from dogmatism, dogmatism is believing your pastor is much greater than your husband or anything your pastor or imam says is the truth and final... dogmatism is what makes some members use their life savings for their pastor while still living in penury.. dogmatism is when you believe your pastor or imam is the next thing to God... dogmatism is saying that God wants you to oppress those who don't share in your beliefs, dogmatism is what led to extremism, and this in turn led to terrorism...

the op is likely an atheist, the best thing for him is to find an atheist as well or someone who doesn't take religion seriously to avoid issues in the future especially when kids are involved.... being religious and not wanting to marry someone from other religion is not dogmatism... it's a very good reason... if I'm a Bhuddist, I would marry a Bhuddist as well and I won't be offended when my partner eat meats...

op, for your peace of mind, find someone who shares in your beliefs and purpose.. but if you don't mind, you can move on, but don't come crying for help when the feelings fade...

Starzzy:

Unfortunately you can't be accepted by a devoted Christian as an atheist you have to either get someone like or get a not so devoted Christian. You can't be an atheist and marry a religious person you guys are enemies you are the protagonist in the whole religion saga, its people like you that Religion warns people about.

Reminderz:

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I will speak to you from an Islamic point of view... generally speaking, there are many genuine reasons why Islam frowns on such marriages... unless she converted to your religion, then Islam frowns at marrying an unbeliever in the Deen... and it's quite a good reason as well...

supposedly you died before her, all your kids will revert back to her religion, and in the sight of your Lord, this is a grave misconduct , all this i love you, she loves you won't save you... when you're choosing a partner, you're not only choosing for yourself, but for your kids and their future...

even if God spare your life, your kids might end up confused and might later revert back to her own religion, and this might break your heart..children mostly generally incline themselves to what their women follows, this is why you should be very careful who you choose to be your wife.. you might not be the one who takes the Deen seriously, but if you fear for your own future and theirs, you would fear for the outcome... that's if you're truly God fearing or you fear His wrath.. but if you're one of those claiming woke muslims, then I have nothing to say to you... and since your wife is not inclined towards your religion, do you know the outcome and consequences when it comes to willing or sharing property when you're no longer on this earth?

you're one of the men who thinks emotionally, you're not the first person to fall in love and won't be the last.... some of the ones greater than your love ended in divorce, so have you thought of this possibility and the effects it will have on your kids?? or na still I love you, she love me too?? now you seems blinded by love, all this will seem like nonsense to you, but e go soon clear for your eyes...

from your story, it seems you guys still have issues on which religion your kids should themselves adapt to, this is just the beginning of the problem, that love go soon clear for your eyes when you're asked to account for that decision you took years back... maybe not in this life, but in the next...

even if you're a idol worshipper, find another idol worshipper to marry or someone who's ready to convert to what you believe in... when it comes to marriage, leave emotions out of it and think logically before you dive in... love is not what sustain marriages... the risks is much greater than the illusions of enjoyment in it... find someone who aligns with your interests and beliefs for your own peace of mind and for the future of your kids...

apart from religion, marry someone who aligns with your interests and dreams... even if it's the person occupation... if you know your wife is an actress, then you should all the things involved in being an actress, don't come out crying when she starts kissing random people on screen and eventually cheat on you and make you father another man's kids... religion is not the only thing that should be taken seriously, there are many other things as well, marriage is not a joke... it's better to be single than dive into marriage while leaving your brain behind... love won't save you when problem arrives... love is just the emotion to attract people to each other, not the emotion needed for a successful relationship, and the thing is that most people can't differentiate between love and lust, and that will be the cause of their downfall...

Great mind…

Fanatic, go and sit down. If Almighty Allah desires everyone to be of one religion, He would have made it so. If He also desires that people of different religions should not mix, He would also have made it so.
You fanatics are so passionate about your religion and not about your creator. You serve your religion and not your creator. If you were not born in the part of the country you were born in, you won't be in the religion you profess currently, and like others, you are only passionately reinforcing what you came to meet. You didn't think for yourself. Do you think a muslim and a christian can get to meet and want to get married if Allah did not allow it to happen? Do you think anything hapens coincidentally in this world? Anything that happens is Allah's will, it may not make sense to you as a mere human, and it doesn't have to. You just say "Allahu Allam" and move on.

Reminderz:

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I will speak to you from an Islamic point of view... generally speaking, there are many genuine reasons why Islam frowns on such marriages... unless she converted to your religion, then Islam frowns at marrying an unbeliever in the Deen... and it's quite a good reason as well...

supposedly you died before her, all your kids will revert back to her religion, and in the sight of your Lord, this is a grave misconduct , all this i love you, she loves you won't save you... when you're choosing a partner, you're not only choosing for yourself, but for your kids and their future...

even if God spare your life, your kids might end up confused and might later revert back to her own religion, and this might break your heart..children mostly generally incline themselves to what their women follows, this is why you should be very careful who you choose to be your wife.. you might not be the one who takes the Deen seriously, but if you fear for your own future and theirs, you would fear for the outcome... that's if you're truly God fearing or you fear His wrath.. but if you're one of those claiming woke muslims, then I have nothing to say to you... and since your wife is not inclined towards your religion, do you know the outcome and consequences when it comes to willing or sharing property when you're no longer on this earth?

you're one of the men who thinks emotionally, you're not the first person to fall in love and won't be the last.... some of the ones greater than your love ended in divorce, so have you thought of this possibility and the effects it will have on your kids?? or na still I love you, she love me too?? now you seems blinded by love, all this will seem like nonsense to you, but e go soon clear for your eyes...

from your story, it seems you guys still have issues on which religion your kids should themselves adapt to, this is just the beginning of the problem, that love go soon clear for your eyes when you're asked to account for that decision you took years back... maybe not in this life, but in the next...

even if you're a idol worshipper, find another idol worshipper to marry or someone who's ready to convert to what you believe in... when it comes to marriage, leave emotions out of it and think logically before you dive in... love is not what sustain marriages... the risks is much greater than the illusions of enjoyment in it... find someone who aligns with your interests and beliefs for your own peace of mind and for the future of your kids...

apart from religion, marry someone who aligns with your interests and dreams... even if it's the person occupation... if you know your wife is an actress, then you should all the things involved in being an actress, don't come out crying when she starts kissing random people on screen and eventually cheat on you and make you father another man's kids... religion is not the only thing that should be taken seriously, there are many other things as well, marriage is not a joke... it's better to be single than dive into marriage while leaving your brain behind... love won't save you when problem arrives... love is just the emotion to attract people to each other, not the emotion needed for a successful relationship, and the thing is that most people can't differentiate between love and lust, and that will be the cause of their downfall...

Starzzy:
Do you think religious differences is a big factor in marriage? Personally, I tend to lean towards atheism and I may end up with a devout Christian. What's the possibility of having a smooth marriage without issues relating to religion? I also do not want my children to be religiously brainwashed. In this part of the world, its really hard to find a female atheist. I can cope with this, but the problem is if my future wife would be able to cope too. I was having a conversation with a girl the other day and she said that one of the things she looks out for in a guy is being a strong Christian. She advised I look for a Caucasian but I'm not buying into the Caucasian stuff because I'm not cut out for that and the chances are remote. And then, she let me know that if I should go for a Christian, her pastor might be an obstacle to us getting married. Currently, I'm flowing well with this Christian girl and would love to settle down with her.

Those who have faced this challenge should contribute to the discourse. Those who are of a different religions with their spouse should tell us how they manage to cope.

You should look for your type , look for who understand you, look for people that's sick in the head like you , it will be stupid of you to marry someone that's brainwashed as you said

wonder233:
Fanatic, go and sit down. If Almighty Allah desires everyone to be of one religion, He would have made it so. If He also desires that people of different religions should not mix, He would also have made it so.
You fanatics are so passionate about your religion and not about your creator. You serve your religion and not your creator. If you were not born in the part of the country you were born in, you won't be in the religion you profess currently, and like others, you are only passionately reinforcing what you came to meet.
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can you explain further because I don't understand what you wrote...

talented321:
The problem with the relegion folks is the moment you tell them you don't believe in their religions they immediately tag u a devil, bad man or criminal. My man the rate at which our people are brainwashed they now think without their religion your marriage, business or life will not prosper and it is will bad. This people don't know that success don't have anything to do with religion rather it is hard work and connection..
I think there are women who are ready to marry if you don't force your atheism on them 100%, but as for me i don't like any woman who behave as if all her life and success depend on the church.

You should advice him to marry someone like him not brainwashed people as you guy believe? It will be foolish of him or you to marry a brainwashed person

You can't understand kid. Just like most Nigerians, you were fed with religious divisions from birth. Light and darkness, believers and unbelievers, them vs us, Christians vs Muslims. That's all you know religion to be. You don't know Allah.

Reminderz:

can you explain further because I don't understand what you wrote...

law

Ji

God is not religion.
Some people can't marry from other religions not because they want their spouse to change, but because they want their children to practice their religion.
3 generations ago, some of our forbearers practiced African traditional religion and would have sworn / prayer to their deity that their generation continue that path, yet here we all are.
You can't predict what religion your next few generations will practice if they practise any at all.

May God deliver her type from your type
Amen

Why not marry a fellow atheist There are many atheists or agnostic babes in Nigeria or of Nigerian descent. They are mostly online sha

Everybody with wetin dey do am

I am in the same situation with you bro ..
I am non-religious, my partner is strong christain
My standpoint is simple, for the relationship to work, she must have an open mind, always embrace logic...be open to new school of thought and be rational in analysing stuffs...
This doesn't mean she will abandon her faith but she will expunge fantiscism and illogical thinking when it comes to religion...
Its not easy but with time, your partner will be less religious if she maintains an open mind..

Mutual understanding plays a bigger role.

idady2njsd:
i am muslim and my wife is a christian, we re leaving in peace and hormony she goes to her while i go to my mosques the only issued we always have is about the children, but we never fought over the issued, we always talks about the matter, very soon we will come to conclusion. i love my wife she love me as well

Don't mind those fanatics harping on unbeliever and deen stuffs. That's religous tolerance and why your family is happy and united. God is one.

We get this kain mixture in our family. See, religous fanstism is what's destroying Africa today and not the religion itself. Religious belief sharpens and guides our way of life, regardless of your faith. We are all created by God not man. God created us first as human beings before we realised what religion should we embrace or practice. He showers rains on Christians, Muslims, even traditionalists who believe in God but feel there are different ways through which they can communicate to God, which Christianity has abolished and Islam, to an extent.

Let me share a brief story here. My maternal great-grand father was an ifa worshipper. One day, he called grandpa and other children in the neighbourhood to check their what yoruba would call akosejaye, meaning what they'd become in life. He was consulting ifa on their behalf one after the other. When it got to grandpa's turn, ifa said he'd become a Christian leader( adari onigbagbo) as ifa saw him with a bell in his hand. Same ifa said he would lead his people to Christianity. I'd probably have become an imam or an Islamic scholar today but I chose Christianity

When the bible says don't commit adultery, it's for our sake. If you do and contract hiv, it doesn't concern God. When it says don't steal and you're caught and killed or they amputate your limb or you end up in jail, does that concern God? Religion teaches morals. Atheism is the worst thing any human being could indulge in. Its a risky adventure.

Over here, nah the last thing wey people dey observe..

Religion

Get behind that Girl.. Satan

idady2njsd:
i am muslim and my wife is a christian, we re leaving in peace and hormony she goes to her while i go to my mosques the only issued we always have is about the children, but we never fought over the issued, we always talks about the matter, very soon we will come to conclusion. i love my wife she love me as well

Any Muslim who marries a Christian woman should know that in Islam you cannot compel her to change her religion. In fact, you're to facilitate her in the practise of her religion ( e.g dropping her off at church). If you know you're not ready to give her her rights to practise her religion better marry within your faith so that you don't put yourself in the awkward position of having to account in the hereafter for denying your wife her rights.
I think the best approach is for those contemplating inter- religious marriage ro agree before hand how they're to live together. There should be a prenuptial contract setting out each person's rights and obligations, including how they handle their children in matters of faith. This way, they each know what they're going into. It's foolish to walk blindly into a marriage thinking that the issues arising on account of religious differences will fizzle out. They will not, as long as either side is maintaining a rigid position. When Babatunde Fahola was facing criticism by certain Christians to his governorship candidacy because they wanted a Christian to be governor, he had to announce publicly, as evidence of his broadmindness, that he and his father were the only Muslims in his family and that he and his Christian wife agreed that their children would be Christians until 18 when they would be free to decide for themselves. Some muslims may regard this as an outrageous sellout, but the fact is the arrangement guaranteed religious peace in their marriage. That's the point.

Reminderz:

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I will speak to you from an Islamic point of view... generally speaking, there are many genuine reasons why Islam frowns on such marriages... unless she converted to your religion, then Islam frowns at marrying an unbeliever in the Deen... and it's quite a good reason as well...

supposedly you died before her, all your kids will revert back to her religion, and in the sight of your Lord, this is a grave misconduct , all this i love you, she loves you won't save you... when you're choosing a partner, you're not only choosing for yourself, but for your kids and their future...

even if God spare your life, your kids might end up confused and might later revert back to her own religion, and this might break your heart..children mostly generally incline themselves to what their women follows, this is why you should be very careful who you choose to be your wife.. you might not be the one who takes the Deen seriously, but if you fear for your own future and theirs, you would fear for the outcome... that's if you're truly God fearing or you fear His wrath.. but if you're one of those claiming woke muslims, then I have nothing to say to you... and since your wife is not inclined towards your religion, do you know the outcome and consequences when it comes to willing or sharing property when you're no longer on this earth?

you're one of the men who thinks emotionally, you're not the first person to fall in love and won't be the last.... some of the ones greater than your love ended in divorce, so have you thought of this possibility and the effects it will have on your kids?? or na still I love you, she love me too?? now you seems blinded by love, all this will seem like nonsense to you, but e go soon clear for your eyes...

from your story, it seems you guys still have issues on which religion your kids should themselves adapt to, this is just the beginning of the problem, that love go soon clear for your eyes when you're asked to account for that decision you took years back... maybe not in this life, but in the next...

even if you're a idol worshipper, find another idol worshipper to marry or someone who's ready to convert to what you believe in... when it comes to marriage, leave emotions out of it and think logically before you dive in... love is not what sustain marriages... the risks is much greater than the illusions of enjoyment in it... find someone who aligns with your interests and beliefs for your own peace of mind and for the future of your kids...

apart from religion, marry someone who aligns with your interests and dreams... even if it's the person occupation... if you know your wife is an actress, then you should all the things involved in being an actress, don't come out crying when she starts kissing random people on screen and eventually cheat on you and make you father another man's kids... religion is not the only thing that should be taken seriously, there are many other things as well, marriage is not a joke... it's better to be single than dive into marriage while leaving your brain behind... love won't save you when problem arrives... love is just the emotion to attract people to each other, not the emotion needed for a successful relationship, and the thing is that most people can't differentiate between love and lust, and that will be the cause of their downfall...

Baba u don leave Islamic section com join us for here so oo!

u see say life no balance shey?
Abi u swear any oath here b4 commenting?

Dont let anyone deceive u....religious difference is a big factor especially when the children come into play....

All those love go fade for una eyes....na reality go remain especially if either one of the couple leans towards being devoted. This is surely a grave issue....

Even if u succeed is ur early phase, research has shown that ppl tend to be more religious as they grow into the geriatric phase of their lives...so it's an issue one will tend to deal with throughout their lifetime...

But una own get as Im be sha! Atheist and Christianity....maybe he go work sha...

But some things I know in marriage are d following:

Marry the person who understands that couple have different role to play....someone with similar financial ideology.....similar sex drive.....similar religious beleive...

Some say religion is a scam.
Religious leaders use peoples head to make money for themselves.

wonder233:
Fanatic, go and sit down. If Almighty Allah desires everyone to be of one religion, He would have made it so. If He also desires that people of different religions should not mix, He would also have made it so.
You fanatics are so passionate about your religion and not about your creator. You serve your religion and not your creator. If you were not born in the part of the country you were born in, you won't be in the religion you profess currently, and like others, you are only passionately reinforcing what you came to meet. You didn't think for yourself. Do you think a muslim and a christian can get to meet and want to get married if Allah did not allow it to happen? Do you think anything hapens coincidentally in this world? Anything that happens is Allah's will, it may not make sense to you as a mere human, and it doesn't have to. You just say "Allahu Allam" and move on.

What a relief that will still have deep, introspective and intelligent people around here. God made both Muslims, Christians and Traditional worshipers. We are first humans before we are either Christians, Muslims or any other religions. For me, it is humanity over every other considerations. In this part of the world, our humanity is dead. Here in Nigeria, we hate and kill ourselves in the name of religions and ethnicity, and we claim we are a believer in God. We are hypocrite and we are proud of it. Shame