cococandy:
How coincidental. This was the sermon in church today.

By the way I dey suspect my pastor. That guy is a low key feminist

Same thing in my Church but it was David, Nabal and Abigail. The whole story was how David saw a good woman and grabbed her fast😁

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Fountainofyouth:



😂😂😂 You broke the table 🤣🤣🤣

Moutainofyouth !! can't be your ghost must have being your spirit

This court marriage sef… I can never do it… it’s nonsense for me. Thumbs down

Is she or her parents richer than you?

Gggggg

iamtardey:
This court marriage sef… I can never do it… it’s nonsense for me. Thumbs down

Why is it nonsense to you?

Ololade4:



Reasonable answer so far..

According to what I have observed so far with her, your input seems to be accurate with the whole thing..

You do not need any advise

You just want validation

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

they are advicing u now and ur saying single mother no be disease

Kontinue

Why are you bothered with why she doesn't want court. Head wey go suffer, nothing u can do about it... e must suffer. .. na so correct woman hard u to find?
The gurl is lucky, you are really a blessing to her, if you know what i really mean

Kobojunkiee:
Why is it nonsense to you?

it is what it is to me. Everyone in it always end up having problem after them no fit take an again… few people just manage manage manage am till death because…. Haha I don’t just like that shit

modernWays:
You are hopelessly battling with a serious low self esteem. Imagine a woman you will house, feed, take care of all her other needs and sometimes that of her family dictating to you?

Are you not suppose to be happy she don't want court marriage sef?

Except the lady is the one feeding his ass.

stacyadams:



they are advicing u now and ur saying single mother no be disease

Kontinue

You just leave am....small sweet sex wey dem give am, guy man no wan coordinate again

TemplarLandry:
Do you intend to be in a marriage that isn't legally binding?

If you want to apply for a family visa in the future, which proof are you going to present?

Tell her if she's not interested in registry, you're no longer interested in marrying her. This type of a woman will give you problems in the future.

Here is the real problem and u have to tell the poster. How did he find himself planning marriage with a woman who doesn't want to be legally attached to him....op are you sure you are not a rich handicapped, or a wealthy impotent man

Don't you know that she would eventually go back to her baby daddy? Hope u don straff her well.. If so, wave goodbye to her and don't look back... One one leg oga...

talented321:
Anything court marriage'' i no dey....
Is she having any contact with her ex? Many single moms are bleeped by their baby dads, do your findings well. There is something she is not telling you bro...
But you are a simp...

Haba now ! Why call him a SIMPle man? He is only asking for advice !

1Sharon:
Because she's 32 and a single mother of one, you'd expect her to throw herself at you jump at the opportunity to get married.

You're not used to getting this kind of reaction, hence you're perplexed.

You avoided the very essence of the thread. Why is she refusing a court marriage?

Imagine having to pay bride price for an AFTER 1.

And still creating threads because she’s dictating to a contrary plan of yours..

Your level of low self esteem must be the most terrible any man could have.

Ahmed0336:
No vex o, between the both of you, who get money/ assets pass?

With his story, is obviously the girl. And that was why he is fine marrying her as a single mum and for her age.

pocohantas:
I love that girl.



I hope other ladies can read and learn. The reason some men claim they don't want marriage or they have more to lose is because women carry it for head. Always fighting tooth and nail for (registry) marriage. So they sit back and allow you do all the work while acting like they did you a favour marrying you. Have you ever considered the fact that you would be the one needing to escape from an evil man in record time? Breaking head over a man's property even at the expense of your life.

This OP claims it favours women more but he is restless because he met a woman who has mastered her emotions. He wishes she were chasing him upandan for a legal wedding and flying to catch ring. He is bothered because he doesn't hold all the ACES.

Isn't this the kinda arrangement they claim to want online? #TEAMBABYMAMA? Why is OP worried and why the responses from his fellow men above?

Men want this marriage as much as you do if not more. If they hated marriage so much, they wouldn't be open to polygamy or rushing to marry another wife after a divorce or death of the first wife. No man keeps two (polygamy), even four of what he doesn't benefit from. They benefit heavily from marriage. In fact, after tasting marriage, they find it hard to stay alone again. Unlike women who would rather enjoy companionship without commitment.

Stop fighting these men over registry. Tell him you don't want. Let him be the one to create thread and beg you to sign those lines. Stop begging them to see the usefulness in marriage. Stop answering stupid NL questions like "what can you offer a man?" He has the option of remaining single or marrying a fellow man or new yam.

You are the prize.
If he isn't giving you same energy, disembark.

Kai! It's definitely true women will reason like kids at some points in their life. Everything is a game to you folks, it appears.

So the OP who didn't marry at 23, but waited till 35 is what you describe as "desperate for marriage"?

To educate you a bit (if your ego will allow), it's moral and religious reasons that motivates men to want to consider legalizing their sexual encounters with a woman. What exactly will they stand to benefit in a marraige except the fulfillment of knowing they have met the moral expectations of family/society? Children? When he can simply have a babymama, save for the fact he will be perceived as immoral.

Again, what will a man be desperate for marraige for? To take up his wife's last name?

TemplarLandry:
Do you intend to be in a marriage that isn't legally binding?

If you want to apply for a family visa in the future, which proof are you going to present?

Tell her if she's not interested in registry, you're no longer interested in marrying her. This type of a woman will give you problems in the future.

You don’t need court wedding for family visa.

talented321:
Anything court marriage'' i no dey....
Is she having any contact with her ex? Many single moms are bleeped by their baby dads, do your findings well. There is something she is not telling you bro...
But you are a simp...

I can confidently say you're not more than 25years old.

But if you're beyond 25, you are a product of a very polarised polygamous family.

I am ready to bet money on these two assertions if you prove me wrong with evidence.

I'd giving him the expo...

Olu1000:

Haba now ! Why call him a SIMPle man? He is only asking for advice !

Ololade4 Women are usually the ones more excited about weddings and formalizing their union , but reverse is the case in this scenario.
I saw your comment about your wife being the one who wants it the most , but it's not looking like it at all

What's the real story of the father of the 8 year old boy, is he alive ? or did he travel for greener pasture ?
She might still be nursing the idea of the two of them coming back together, so she doesn't want to be legally tied to you. All the same ... goodluck in whatever decision you take . Them no dey advise wan way dey in love

1Sharon:
Because she's 32 and a single mother of one, you'd expect her to throw herself at you jump at the opportunity to get married.

You're not used to getting this kind of reaction, hence you're perplexed.

Did you read the part where he mentioned "she changed her mind". Knowing how there's the overwhelming tendency that she wants to "keep her options open" with a new man or a previous man in her life, this is enough a red flag?

Luckysbab:



Kai! It's definitely true women will reason like kids at some points in their life. Everything is a game to you folks, it appears.

So the OP who didn't marry at 23, but waited till 35 is what you describe as "desperate for marriage"?

To educate you a bit (if your ego will allow), it's moral and religious reasons that motivates men to want to consider legalizing their sexual encounters with a woman. What exactly will they stand to benefit in a marraige except the fulfillment of knowing they have met the moral expectations of family/society? Children? When he can simply have a babymama, save for the fact he will be perceived as immoral.

Again, what will a man be desperate for marraige for? To take up his wife's last name?

You wasted your time quoting that girl. She's a toxic child who's still under the guardianship of parents. Nairalanders who know her never bother glorifying her with mentions.

Op e be say she get assets and money pass you, dats why she no want u to tie her down

You should grateful bro

Okay...

BoldBrainz:


I can confidently say you're not more than 25years old.

But if you're beyond 25, you are a product of a very polarised polygamous family.

I am ready to bet money on these two assertions if you prove me wrong with evidence.

How una dey take marry single mothers sef? e nor dey do una somehow for body ni? 🤮

BoldBrainz:


You wasted your time quoting that girl. She's a toxic child who's still under the guardianship of parents. Nairalanders who know her never bother glorifying her with mentions.

Aren't many of them child-like anyways, young or old?

Sometimes, you just have to wonder aloud at the level of naivety , for lack of a better description.