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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Mikelangelo: 2:29pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Mindlog:The most reasonable response so far. God bless you for this. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Spanishmilf(m): 2:31pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
his blood brother and some peeps here are saying he owes you nothing asin blood brother?? you both grew up together that means y'all can starve your sister or brother to death mehn smh 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by tete7000(m): 2:31pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Gajagojo: Did he tell him to go away? Could he have come and stayed in his house without his consent? Your answer lies in your response to those questions. I doubt many of you here are born within a functional family or have an idea what a functional family ought to look like. 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 2:32pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
tete7000: You talk like the product of a functional family 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Spanishmilf(m): 2:32pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:You are extremely dumh and stupid and the 150 people who liked this are dumb aswell imagine saying my own blood sister owes me nothing it's very obvious you grew up on the street or you family is not an happy home 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by mariahAngel(f): 2:34pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
No offense, but isn't this a nairaland recycled storyline? Seems familiar to me though. Hmm! Openfortruth: |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 2:37pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Spanishmilf:Many Nigerians grow up on the street Many families in Nigeria are not happy homes It is not because they are bad people That is how Nigeria happens to them Those from happy hopes or growing up in Mansions are not better people That is no basis for insults or condescension Nigeria is a very hard place. When times are good people can be generous and when times are hard mothers sell their babies If you have a good life be grateful and humble you are not better or more deserving than those that don't 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Makamatic: 2:44pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
God I am grateful 🙏 if not I will be a great fool too bad I am f**ing faithful ( corizo) 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by GodWrites: 2:46pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Mindlog: I remember when my younger brother came to Lagos to stay with me. He was totally my responsibility. Even though he was working and earning some pennies, I still fed him 3 square meals every day. This is what my father could not even do when he was in the village. From childhood to adulthood I shouldered him. His school fees was me. The clothes he wore were mine, plus the ones I bought for him. I was practically his mother and father. All I did for him was all from the goodness of my heart. By right I owe him nothing. Unfortunately, not everyone is this compassionate. The parents are the ones who should be sending him monthly stipends especially since he doesn't have a job. But I understand that the parents are very poor hence, they can't. This is why I am an antinatalist. Poor people should stop breeding children they cannot take care of. In this present economy, having another mouth to feed is not easy, especially when you are still hustling to make something out of your life. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by daytona008: 2:47pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Omo! Life really no balance! Truly, OP, you may not like to hear it but your older brother is NOT responsible for you! All things being equal, in an average home in Nigeria, an older brother is 2 years older. If he is your immediate, he would be just 2 years ahead of you. You came out of the same womb, have the same parent. What makes you think he had/has better opportunities/advantage over you? If he does, it is because he was intentional about it. This idea of “Older brother/sister or first born” has made so many people LAZY (I am not saying you are). Waiting for the older sibling to do all the hustling and make life easy for others, pushing them into stress, high BP and depression. Why can’t all of you share the burden? On the flip side, we are Africans and family means a lot to us. We try so much to make our family better. Your older bro helping you shouldn’t be an entitlement. Reading your story breaks my heart because I am currently trying to support my younger brother and he is not taking his life seriously. Spending money on gambling, alcohol and women. Recently stopped sending him funds. But then, as his older bro, I still have fears of him doing something illegal, because I know deep down, there is no way I will watch him rot in prison. So OP, just talk to your bro respectfully until you are stable. I wish you guys the best. Also ask your brother what he is going through. He may be starving low key too. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by LivingSage: 2:51pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Is that how you do in your own family? And to say you're Yoruba is even an insult. We're not this wicked. I would rather go hungry than to starve even a very close associate not to talk ofy blood. Wickedness is what you lots see as sophistication in this age MS247: 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 2:58pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
GodWrites: People always mix things up First you start by telling us your biography That is not relevant You were in a position to feed your brother 3square meals This person that is cooking noodles and washing pot does he sound like he is eating 3 square meals You are right on your final point about making babies But the personal comparison is unclear What is your point That you have "Goodness of heart" the only test of goodness of heart comes when you are poor and cannot feed yourself Then when you can go hungry for another person to eat we can talk of goodness of heart |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by henrimoto(m): 2:59pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth:...Take your mind off you big brother from this moment, start thinking on how to make little-little money to feed while you are learning that phone repair. Your Tommorow is bigger and brighter than what ever you are going through today. Don't quit the phone repair work. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by nairanaira12: 3:00pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: Where will he find 50 naira ugwu in today's Nigeria? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by zionstaar75: 3:01pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth:u shouldn't be eating more than once a day when living with someone,,you have entitlement mentality |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Pzpropertylimit(m): 3:03pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
This is heart breaking. We are 8 we lost our parents. They are under my care and I am happy providing for them . Where is this lovelessness comes from now 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 God will make a way for u. Don't be going to the apprenticeship everyday. Pause like twice a week to enter sites and find something doing . He doesn't want to be part of ur history for good but God will shock him . Sorry bro. I feel ur pain 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Dexy4yah(m): 3:05pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:All the things you said here is trash. Mtcheewww 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by ThiefnubuBandit(f): 3:05pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Omuuvwie: Are you from Uvwie in Delta State? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by jojothaiv(m): 3:06pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
OMO, the comments for frontpage just dey muzz me maybe some of dem no read wetin di OP write abi dem just want write 'nobody owe you anything' just to impress the imaginary fans. Na why people dey wicked be this o, once dem pick and dem reason say nobody send their papa not even their own blood, na to comot conscience do wetin dey your mind remain. Lest I forget, anything self made is ambiguous, someway, somehow you had people or system that see you through. OP, I pray you find the needed help. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Squirrel1(m): 3:06pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
vincenteger:allow all this unreasonable people on nairaland. Dem go just open mouth wahhh... How can someone be stingy to his little brother n people still see it as ok. That's nonsense 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by EvangelistChuks(m): 3:08pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Don’t hide the garri;rather use it to show him what that is expected of him.Also there is a friend that sticketh much more closer than a brother.Look for Him to help you and He will;His Name is Jesus Christ. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 3:09pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Pzpropertylimit:Lovelessness comes from poverty So spare us the holier than thou crap You can only feed 8 people if you have the means If you don't will you kill yourself? Stop making it sound like you are some kind of Angel If you haven't walked in someone else's shoes don't judge them 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by ThiefnubuBandit(f): 3:10pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: Wicked soul. You are not fit to share advice online. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by onuman: 3:18pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:You will pay for your sins. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by RomanGreen: 3:18pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: This is wrong as much as you trying to wake him to reality of not feeling entitled, I get it but definitely not to the point of starving him. I lost my Father early I'm life and my elder brother who is the first child played a key role in the success of all my siblings simply because he looked out for me until I found my fit and supported him too to stabilize and I'm also currently sponsoring my two younger ones in higher institution, my immediate younger brother too has graduated courtesy of me and my elder brother's support. My point is, a little kindness trickles down and have ripple effects especially within the confines of a nuclear family. I can boldly tell you that love l, care and compassion exists amongst us and we look out for one another simply because my elder brother choose to be responsible and this today has impacted positively on all of us. As much as we all hate entitlement mentality, there should be a limit to this sort of wickedness coz that's what I call it. If tomorrow this young guy survives the odds and become rich and God forbid his elder brother has issues and this young guy refuses to help, will you maintain the same energy of "oh he didn't bring him into the world" let's show a little compassion, people are going through hell abeg 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Acidosis(m): 3:19pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Nazgul: 3:20pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
GO0DHardDick:True. Because his elder brother could be struggling. Phone repair business isn't as profitable as it used to be. Also there could be serious rivalry between them. Children from struggling homes tend to hate each other than children from financially buyouant homes. There's this Everyman to himself attitude they display towards one another. About not keeping foodstuffs at home, most single guys eat outside. I'm guilty of that myself. It's just these Tinubu's administration that has forced me to start cooking at home. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by EruditeSupport: 3:23pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Gajagojo:No matter how hard things may be. As long as a brother has little, he must share. This brother of his isn't lazy. He's learning a trade and still planning admissions. That's the stage the guy is right now in his life. His elder brother is supposed to offer support. We're all in a family for support. A family is useless without it. That elder brother in this picture is callous. If you're not ready to support your brother why did you allow him to leave the village to stay with you? Did he actually tell you he wasn't feeding in the village? Why starve your younger brother? That's very callous of him. He didn't even sit the guy down to tell him what he's capable of contributing and what he wouldn't be contributing. Just pure wickedness of watching him starve without any brotherly kindness. I can't even to do that to a total stranger. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by ChemicalReaction(f): 3:23pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Mindlog:You made the only sane comment in the first page and this part you boldened made me emotional. That his brother may even have a girlfriend he's fending for somewhere over his blood brother. I wonder what people call family these days if sacrificing and sharing with one's younger sibling before they stand on their feet is termed "entitlement". 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 3:25pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
EruditeSupport: You are preaching Talk is very cheap Reality is very different for most Nigerians in the trenches I hate hypocrisy Pretending as if it is not this Nigeria we all know Why did he allow him leave the village you ask? Where did you read that the brother invited him? He is sharing his house with him That is not callous He should be grateful for that What if he does not accommodate him? Is that unheard of? |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by EruditeSupport: 3:27pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
erniok: I love the bolded. I don't think being in a foreign country influences such viewpoints. My thought is that he comes from a dysfunctional family and thinks such settings as his are normal. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by ChemicalReaction(f): 3:28pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: You go too wicked sha... And person wey get you as sibling no get anybody. 3 Likes |
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