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Theunbothered:
A lot of people who fall under the category of "single mothers" usually have something seriously wrong with them.

Either they are not loyal or they are just looking for a sucker to take care of their children.

most single mothers are caused by Men

Tallesty1:
The reason she is a single mother is irrelevant as far as I am concerned. Single mothers are great, don't get me wrong. Some of them are victims of men's heartlessness, others made careless mistakes, while some are just victims of one thing or another, but neither of these is any of my business. I can't date a single mom, talk more of marrying one.

I don't have the energy to prove that I am a better man. I don't have the emotional strength to withstand their manipulation. I don't have the finances to raise another man's child.

Some of these women with no valid source of income will fight for custody of the child just so they can use it to source funds. "I am a single mother please help me"

If her ex-partner is an issue, that is a problem for me because I will need to prove that I am better before she can be committed. If she was the problem in the relationship, then she is still a problem. Forget how nicely she treats you; being nice to you and being a nice person are not the same.

She will love the child from the previous relationship more than the ones she will have with you.

I just can't deal.

If I end up a single dad, then I want women to avoid me. I personally will avoid them until I have raised my kids into adulthood because a second wife will mistreat them once she starts having her own kids. She will turn the girl into her slave, and the boy will suffer and get killed if she has her way.

Because you're so certain you haven't made a woman somewhere a single mother.

The amount of conjecture about single mothers in your post is the Hallmark of not only the stereotypical but the dishonest posts we frequently see from boys still sucking at the teats of single women.

Some people posting here were denied the experience of having a father due to the unrealistic tales of single women. Because single men don't exist. Because all men weren't born of single mothers.

Men and their fantasy "standards". For every post that you can't deal with imaginary things single women do, there's a man marrying a single woman.

Angelfrost:
Currently, a lot of Nigerian men fear Marriage... Period!

na broke men abeg. If you get money you'd find a good woman. There are good and bad women. Likewise there are good and bad Men

So what will happen if I deflowered my own wife and get marry to her ?
Fairly used materials might not be compared to new branded one ...

UnfairLife7:
na broke men abeg. If you get money you'd find a good woman. There are good and bad women. Likewise there are good and bad Men

Preach.

They're using their socioeconomic backgrounds to denigrate anything they can about women. They can't even differentiate between their experience which is one in a billion, and the actual statistics devoid of their sentiment.

Styluss:
They have a child or two already, they have a lower value in the love market. They pretend to love you till you get hooked. They dont get annoyed to what a regular chick will get mad at you for.

Because you are so sincere. Because you have no ulterior motives or prejudices yourself. With this mindset, it's no surprise single mothers with two or more children will continue to dribble your "love" around the place.

UnfairLife7:
most single mothers are caused by Men

Unless every single mother is a victim of rape she shares the responsibility of bringing a child into the world.

Emaprince:
Trash 🗑

Only a man that feels worthless without any option will settle for a woman that will still get humped easily by her baby daddy, and possibly leave with her kids in the future after the mumu man have used his resources to train her kids.

Only a man that feels literally worthless!!

Lol

You confidently wrote trash calling someone's else comment trash. You're in no way better than those men marrying single mothers. The single girl you'd eventually get married to might have done several abortion.

Boldideas:
Some men are cursed, so falling into such traps is inevitable. Unless she is a widow, I mean a widow that her husband died natural death, not a widow that used frustration to kill her husband.

Common sagged boobs which is a result of abortions is a turn off for me how much more a lady that is with a kid[b]. If she was that good, no man in his right senses leaves a good woman. [/b]And no man in his right senses stays with a lady that says 10,000 words when you're not done talking.

Mother of one of whatever title they behold, stay completely away unless she is a widow whose husband died a natural death.

Women should please avoid Men like you with your mumu mentality. So the domestic violence some of these women go through in marriage are caused by same women while men are angel right? I am a man so i know how irresponsible some men are.

Only a sensible woman will be smart enough to leave a bad marriage even if she was foolish and got decieved at the initial stage

sylve11:
Mind sharing your experiences?

I have trailer load of practical experience, the type that would give u goose pimples, but I don't see this platform as a matured one for heart to heart discussion especially for a sensitive topic like this one..

If it becomes a must to date a single mother, ensure you don't loosen up to the extent of taking gift she present to you or eat meals cooked by her, whenever u visit, ensure you buy everything you enjoy around her.

They whip sentiment in a bid to manipulate you. You can never please them and they will always rub it on your face that you are just a father figure..

All the pains caused by their supposed ex.. would be avenged on you. They are fast at painting fake emotions to dominate you.

The children are your when it is time to Mae you render help and assistance, but it is hers when it is time to take the glory.

You are never captured in the history of her survival or that of the children, she wants the entire world to call her a strong woman while you labour in vein nurturing the same kids she constantly and logically teach to disrespect you. The kids adhere strictly and listen to only their mum even in your presence when u see things going wrong.

Single mothers don't really want you no matter how different you may think she is, she only need you to give her helpless kids impression of fatherly love they might lack in their upbringing. She was hurt by someone but she willl constantly bleed on you..

My sincere advice, no matter how sweet a single mother seems to you, she's just a time bomb. A close evil and sweet poison you can't build your future with..

My little piece..

Tosinville:
God can’t direct you to marry rubbish that can later end you while you still have a lot of single girls all around town to choose one from. Leave single mothers to their spouses to continue from where they stop

single girls with several body count and abortions? Most of you guys don't know anything.

Tallesty1:
If your woman is above 25 and you follow her home and she introduces someone who is below 10 as their last born, she is lying.

Na she born am

trash

Stop bringing bear parlour discuss to nairaland abeg🤣

Tosinville:
Well maybe you are not really good looking, so you don’t really have much choice

Lol

Be good looking with empty pockets you hear 🤣

seunlayi:
In my view and experience dealing with them, many single mum are actually wonderful women, filled with real life experience unlike those single ladies still practicing zeeworld. Although, those that has refused to learn from their past experience are more. As a matter of fact, I know about many that have remarried and are doing their best to keep their new home running well.... Anytime something is about to go wrong, they are very conscious and not ready to go back to separation.
I see nothing wrong in marring a single mum if you can careful study her past, I mean you should not believe her story until you investigate what actually happened to her.

Best of luck to all signed mum that are still searching

exactly

I actually see nothing wrong marrying single women.

TrainPark:
Emotional blackmail is the same or even worse than zamfara banditry plus IPOB evil!.

It is not fear. It is sense.

You have responsibility of her baggage without the authority over them, mostly, bustards!!

or even OPC devils

they dribble simpps!

BRATISLAVA:
Because you are so sincere. Because you have no ulterior motives or prejudices yourself. With this mindset, it's no surprise single mothers with two or more children will continue to dribble your "love" around the place.

lonelygem:
I have trailer load of practical experience, the type that would give u goose pimples, but I don't see this platform as a matured one for heart to heart discussion especially for a sensitive topic like this one..

If it becomes a must to date a single mother, ensure you don't loosen up to the extent of taking gift she present to you or eat meals cooked by her, whenever u visit, ensure you buy everything you enjoy around her.

They whip sentiment in a bid to manipulate you. You can never please them and they will always rub it on your face that you are just a father figure..

All the pains caused by their supposed ex.. would be avenged on you. They are fast at painting fake emotions to dominate you.

The children are your when it is time to Mae you render help and assistance, but it is hers when it is time to take the glory.

You are never captured in the history of her survival or that of the children, she wants the entire world to call her a strong woman while you labour in vein nurturing the same kids she constantly and logically teach to disrespect you. The kids adhere strictly and listen to only their mum even in your presence when u see things going wrong.

Single mothers don't really want you no matter how different you may think she is, she only need you to give her helpless kids impression of fatherly love they might lack in their upbringing. She was hurt by someone but she willl constantly bleed on you..

My sincere advice, no matter how sweet a single mother seems to you, she's just a time bomb. A close evil and sweet poison you can't build your future with..

My little piece..

i know men who married single mothers and they live happily. Your experience is not a yardstick or norms to everyone. I can marry a single mother if i find her worthy of a wife. I can aswell marry a single lady if i find her worthy of a woman.

True love Never dies people just stop showing it due to circumstances. Most single mothers are already truly in love with someone else, they only left the person because the person did not want them or the guy did not treat them well that does not mean they no longer love the guy. 90% of the time women dont want to have a child with who they hate or who they feel nothing for. So 80% of the time a single mother is only with you because her first choice and sometimes many other choices of guys failed her so basically you are just an option or a play thin not the one she really loves.

UnfairLife7:
exactly

I actually see nothing wrong marrying single women.

Yes, bro

Trust me..........It's NOT easy marrying a single mother!

You have to be "emotionally and spiritually strong" to marry a single mother!

Everybody has different experiencing in life, but for me, a good responsible career single mother of one and NOT more than one child can be considered!

Mine as described up there is a Blessing because GOD used her to multiply my blessings!

Don't go and deceive yourself, single mom in the city are devils..
I'm typing this from the city and stop typing what you don't know claiming to be smart.

sylve11:
Having stayed in most riverine terrains, I believe you. The single mothers there are extremely terrible, far different from the ones in the cities.

UnfairLife7:
exactly

I actually see nothing wrong marrying single women.

is your wife a single mom or not?

izonborn098:
Don't go and deceive yourself, single mom in the city are devils..
I'm typing this from the city and stop typing what you don't know claiming to be smart.

You nor go dey tell person wey don travel a lot and learn sey him nor smart.

I nor dey chop oil garri as breakfast. I hope you understand.

Fahvvy:
It's the way the society demeans a man's choice that irritates me, yikes!!! ...

OP...
The reason why most men don't want to marry a single mother is not because of any St.upid "fear", it's because of CHOICE!!!! ...

Most men don't want single mothers, PERIOD!!!!! ...

Y'all need to start accepting men's choice(s) in women and stop trying to demean men for having and exercising it ...


Personally, single mothers are a no go area for me, and my son's relationship wise ...

I don't care how she became a single mother, that's IRRELEVANT!!! ...

But as long as there's a well cultured 18 - 24year old virgin out there, I'd rather be castrated than marry a single mother AND THAT'S MY CHOICE!! ...

Your thinking is myopic or rather because u are not married yet or probably becos u haven't seen a woman you like love and cherish bco6even if she is a single mother u won't still hesitate to do everything to marry her 😊.

You see that word LOVE it will blindfold your eyes

If you like eat oil, i'll tell you the truth when you lie because there's nothing about women you want to tell me that i don't know..

sylve11:
You nor go dey tell person wey don travel a lot and learn sey him nor smart.

I nor dey chop oil garri as breakfast. I hope you understand.

izonborn098:
is your wife a single mom or not?

I'm still single but i can marry a single mother

I want you to marry a single mom because i believe you're one of those guys who want to learn the hard way..

UnfairLife7:
I'm still single but i can marry a single mother

UnfairLife7:
Lol

You confidently wrote trash calling someone's else comment trash. You're in no way better than those men marrying single mothers. The single girl you'd eventually get married to might have done several abortion.

Captain save a skirt.

Your types are easily burnt by the women you think you are saving.

Keep mumuing.

izonborn098:
I want you to marry a single mom because i believe you're one of those guys who want to learn the hard way..

Exactly. The knight in shinning amor.

Na their type dey try to impress women and end up getting burned.

He will learn lessons one day

izonborn098:
I want you to marry a single mom because i believe you're one of those guys who want to learn the hard way..

Lol

Your little experience is not everyone's experience neither is it the standard.

izonborn098:
If you like eat oil, i'll tell you the truth when you lie because there's nothing about women you want to tell me that i don't know..

😆

Noah

ijaw towns wey I don stay nor be 20.

Because people nor dey pour their life experience here, nor mean sey you sabi things about women and life pass them.

But since you know about women pass every other person here, it means they must have dealt with you terribly. Sorry, man.

Tayorshd87:
Your thinking is myopic or rather because u are not married yet or probably becos u haven't seen a woman you like love and cherish bco6even if she is a single mother u won't still hesitate to do everything to marry her 😊.

You see that word LOVE it will blindfold your eyes

Hahahhaha ..
Lol ...
Wetin musa no go see for gate ...

Lemme get this...
So because I've made a choice not to take single mothers seriously (relationship wise), it therefore means I'm myopic? ...
Lol ...

Sir if at this stage of your life, you've not come to the understanding that people have PREFERENCES when it comes to choosing a mate, then I can BOLDLY SAY that you're the one who is INDEED myopic ...

Not every woman is good enough to enter a relationship with ...

Now if you feel that single mothers are your spec, then by all means knock yourself out, it's your choice! I respect that ...

However, you need to be mature enough to respect the choices of other people when it pertains to their life ...

Enjoy your evening ...