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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Nobody: 8:15pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
You clearly mistake me for the nonentity you are. Have fun in your stupidity. 2 Likes |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 8:17pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 8:20pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Jeon(f): 8:21pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
We have been doing it on tinder, so why are trying to deny it here? NNEVERAGAINN: Like I said " There are still Women that can lick men's ass." You should follow them and stop getting mad over the ones that refused to acknowledge you. Don't come sharing calling ur shameless mother's names to a female because of her views. Nonsense, I did like ur father's contact. 6 Likes |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 8:22pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 8:23pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 8:24pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 8:28pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 8:30pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 8:31pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 8:32pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Ajsmart(m): 8:53pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by idomytin(m): 8:55pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Depressed soul you caused everything you are passing through now to yourself. Don't pass your anger and frustration to all Nigeria men. In your peak you thinks men are cheap right? Now you are getting it hot,at 55yrs your renting and bitterness continues hahahahaha. Evening news paper you think you are smart * shit * loser!! Persephone1: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Allisgud: 9:05pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever,this is the funny side, it's like u have small change,cos the dependable women believes that's how it is,they relieve ur konji and take care of ur home, while the husband provide |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 9:47pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
TheFinesseKid: Oh, looks like you've stopped crying now. I am sure it was a most cathartic experience for you. |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by tbarrister(m): 10:04pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Like who you help? Who wants to marry u 1 Like |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by NNEVERAGAINN: 10:34pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Jeon:I know you're a prostitute, no doubt. I just tease you about Tinder, you and your mother ain't ashamed for doing Olosho's job, what a shame. |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by prophetfire: 11:25pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:But Nigerian women are serpents na. That's why Nigeria men decided to be savage in dealing with the situation. When birds learn to fly without perching, men learn to shoot without missing. NO APOLOGIES GIVEN. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by myrates: 3:38am On Nov 12, 2023 |
Persephone1:Women like the writer make terrible knives. Na mumu una want as husbands nah wey una fit dey remote as una like. Rubbish! |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by holybabayo(m): 4:05am On Nov 12, 2023 |
Have you Don comparative analysis of men in different countries to know the differences Nigeria men have over other men from others countries? My dear, Nigeria has some of the best record in divorce. Travel |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 5:30am On Nov 12, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Jeon(f): 6:53am On Nov 12, 2023 |
I said I did like to fuvk your dad. Send me his number. NNEVERAGAINN:Just like your mum, she was the one that organized us into the business. 6 Likes |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by nairamaniac: 7:35am On Nov 12, 2023 |
Persephone1, To be honest and matured, you are almost 100% right in all you said here. I wonder why .my fellow mein here are taking your post personal and attacking you. After all, you delivered your message in the most polite and respectful way possible. You didn't insult or degrade men in your post. Your post showed you are sincerely not happy about women's experiences in the setting of marriage. Summarizing your post, what you mean is that "husbands in this part of the country deliberately put all energy into being in-charge, in-lead of their wives and family. Tha men see marriage as an institution of PROVIDING for their wives, rather than showing emotions and giving room for their wife's emotions. You added that the men don't give room for wife's choice of what is good for her. And men end up seeing her as his property. To be honest, you are 100% right with this. And I'm also almost 100% guilty of all you said here. There are reasons why we end up these way as husbands. First know that it's not really our faults. 1. Due to several relationships we had with girls during our dating-periods, we men were totally in control of direction the relationship swings to. Especially financial parts of it. This kept us(men in position to be superior in thinking and decisions. 2. During those dating periods, most of our women were more concerned with material things and financial securities. While we men were more keen on all other facets of how well the woman can assist to hold the family together. Now you wdnt expect the man to have full confidence iin such woman when they get married when it comes to delicate matters. He would rather discuss them with his P.A, and business partners. 3. Most men don't want to distract theie wives with other duties besides being occupied with domestic matters and taking care of the children. A man feels he wdnt want to add any extra-stress to her mental thought of children care. Once a woman starts giving birth here, the husband(even the ones that form hard-men) get sooo nervouse about things going wrong with their kids. Hence they psychologically channel all her emotions, her love from them(the husband) to their kids. The truth is that most of us do this because we really do want her to pay more attention to the kids. But their is an undertone of us having avenues to cheat outside the marriage. The truth is that the more men(even women) cheat, the Less-emotionally attached they are to their partners. They now start seeing their wives as a colleague that is handling a project rather than a partner they love with indept emotions. Lastly, the kind responses you have gotten here in this thread have indirectly given you yot answers about the Nigerian men mentality. See the way they are bashing you here. From the replies here you should know that "men see admittance as WEAKNESS". A man here in Nigeria sees admitting to a woman's worry is a sign of weakness. The mem here don want to seem like betrayers to their fellow men, hence their lack of admittance to what you said. Some here feel they would be called SIMPS, if they admit all you said here. Well please do try to bear with us, cause we are also this way due to our 1. experiences. 2. level of exposure, 3. Our played roles during courtship. 4. Mental Masculine superioty over women. 5. Dedication of more financial-investments into the marriage. 6. Emotional-deviation due to having more avenues to cheating outside the marriage. 7. Wanting to degrade our wives to the level of the children once she starts giving birth, perhaps to get her more focused on them, rather than being focused on us. 8. Inferiority complex of not wanting to seem like A Soft-husbane, a Weak-husband. Trust me, some stupid men in this country use their wives to uphold their Street-credibility. 9. Avoidance of see-finish by their wives. Hope you do know that some of us men have later been rewarded with see-finish after showing Soo much care and emotions. This is a fact. When a man goes out of his way to perform duties assigned to the woman, the day he doesn't do it, the woman would change it to quarrel. So do u expect such men to go out of their ways to do the nicest things next time. Well I'm different, i would do those things for my woman and be screaming "naaaa your work I dey do sooo o". "No come disturb be tomorrow make I do am oOoOO". We would laff over this while I perform those task and scream those words. However I have sent my message across, and the next door neighbours would bear me witness whenever the woman wants to make an issue. 10. Lastly, men are naturally Less-emotionally wired than woman. It takes conscious efforts for men to be more emotionally attached. As long as we are providing andakimg our women happy, we feel we have contributed our share of Care and Love. Solution to this is for you to Make your husband trust that "you wouldn't take him for granted even if he shows you a more emotional side". And see you more as a partner, rather than a subordinate". However please do accept that men are naturally more mentally stronger than women. Take care.... 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by nairamaniac: 7:43am On Nov 12, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113: You are a genius. I totally agree and understand. However, we should still try not to transfer the aggressions of experiences on our wives. Especially the once that have passed some fundermental tests. |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by nairamaniac: 7:48am On Nov 12, 2023 |
peter0071: Most Nigerian men are more caring to foreign women, than they are to Nigerian women. They behave better when with white chicks than they do to our local babes them. |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 9:09am On Nov 12, 2023 |
TheFinesseKid: Oh, it begins again. Okay. |
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 10:34am On Nov 12, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 10:35am On Nov 12, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 10:46am On Nov 12, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 11:03am On Nov 12, 2023 |
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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by realG101(m): 11:12am On Nov 12, 2023 |
Goodlady: Let me tell you something today, and I hope this will change your life for good. The moment you want to be taken care of in a relationship as if you're a child, especially if you actually lack the means to take care of yourself, then be ready to be treated like a child in the relationship. Be ready to have your feelings and emotions relegated to the side while your primary purpose will become obedience. You know how as a child, parents could tell you to sit there, eat this, don't go out and even tell you when to go to bed, that is what you happen when you expect a man to cater to your personal needs. As someone earlier said, you ladies can't eat your cake and have it |
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