TheFinesseKid:
🤣🤣🤣 I should say the same of you. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Your buckets aren't enough. We need more. While you're at it, please lend madam persephone some. She seems to be in dire need of it.

Perfecto! Shed more of those salty tears 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣.

Magnoliaa:


Perfecto! Shed more of those salty tears 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣 🪣.

😁😁🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 cracking me up

We have been doing it on tinder, so why are trying to deny it here?

NNEVERAGAINN:
So was that enough to lie that I sent you an email request, to make people look like I'm chasing you? Besides, I sent you a request on Tinder. I lost your contact because my phone were stolen. Log on to your Tinder so we can talk more!

Like I said " There are still Women that can lick men's ass." You should follow them and stop getting mad over the ones that refused to acknowledge you. Don't come sharing calling ur shameless mother's names to a female because of her views.



Nonsense, I did like ur father's contact.

TheFinesseKid:
😁😁🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 cracking me up

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Magnoliaa:



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KKKKK 5K... use àm hold side. 😂😂😂😂😂

TheFinesseKid:
KKKKK 5Ks.. use àm hold side. 😂😂😂😂😂

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Magnoliaa:



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TheFinesseKid:
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Magnoliaa:


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💩 💩 💩 💩 💩. 🤣🤣

TheFinesseKid:
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Magnoliaa:


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Try men from Cotonou, Zimbabwe and Mali😆😂

Depressed soul you caused everything you are passing through now to yourself. Don't pass your anger and frustration to all Nigeria men.
In your peak you thinks men are cheap right? Now you are getting it hot,at 55yrs your renting and bitterness continues hahahahaha. Evening news paper you think you are smart * shit * loser!!

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever,this is the funny side, it's like u have small change,cos the dependable women believes that's how it is,they relieve ur konji and take care of ur home, while the husband provide

TheFinesseKid:
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Oh, looks like you've stopped crying now. I am sure it was a most cathartic experience for you.

Like who you help? Who wants to marry u

Jeon:
We have been doing it on tinder, so why are trying to deny it here?



Like I said " There are still Women that can lick men's ass." You should follow them and stop getting mad over the ones that refused to acknowledge you. Don't come sharing calling ur shameless mother's names to a female because of her views.



Nonsense, I did like ur father's contact.

I know you're a prostitute, no doubt. I just tease you about Tinder, you and your mother ain't ashamed for doing Olosho's job, what a shame.

Persephone1:
Example 1

They can't keep healthy intelligent conversations

But Nigerian women are serpents na. That's why Nigeria men decided to be savage in dealing with the situation.
When birds learn to fly without perching, men learn to shoot without missing.
NO APOLOGIES GIVEN.

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

Women like the writer make terrible knives. Na mumu una want as husbands nah wey una fit dey remote as una like. Rubbish!

Have you Don comparative analysis of men in different countries to know the differences Nigeria men have over other men from others countries? My dear, Nigeria has some of the best record in divorce.

Travel

Magnoliaa:


Oh, looks like you've stopped crying now. I am sure it was a most cathartic experience for you.

Did you run out of buckets? Little Gurl🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am quite certain I featured in your dreams nightmares.

I said I did like to fuvk your dad. Send me his number.

NNEVERAGAINN:
I know you're a prostitute, no doubt. I just tease you about Tinder, you and your mother ain't ashamed for doing Olosho's job, what a shame.

Just like your mum, she was the one that organized us into the business.

Persephone1,
To be honest and matured, you are almost 100% right in all you said here.



I wonder why .my fellow mein here are taking your post personal and attacking you.

After all, you delivered your message in the most polite and respectful way possible.

You didn't insult or degrade men in your post.
Your post showed you are sincerely not happy about women's experiences in the setting of marriage.

Summarizing your post, what you mean is that "husbands in this part of the country deliberately put all energy into being in-charge, in-lead of their wives and family.

Tha men see marriage as an institution of PROVIDING for their wives, rather than showing emotions and giving room for their wife's emotions.

You added that the men don't give room for wife's choice of what is good for her.
And men end up seeing her as his property.


To be honest, you are 100% right with this.

And I'm also almost 100% guilty of all you said here.

There are reasons why we end up these way as husbands.

First know that it's not really our faults.

1. Due to several relationships we had with girls during our dating-periods, we men were totally in control of direction the relationship swings to. Especially financial parts of it.
This kept us(men in position to be superior in thinking and decisions.

2. During those dating periods, most of our women were more concerned with material things and financial securities.
While we men were more keen on all other facets of how well the woman can assist to hold the family together.
Now you wdnt expect the man to have full confidence iin such woman when they get married when it comes to delicate matters.
He would rather discuss them with his P.A, and business partners.

3. Most men don't want to distract theie wives with other duties besides being occupied with domestic matters and taking care of the children.
A man feels he wdnt want to add any extra-stress to her mental thought of children care.
Once a woman starts giving birth here, the husband(even the ones that form hard-men) get sooo nervouse about things going wrong with their kids. Hence they psychologically channel all her emotions, her love from them(the husband) to their kids. The truth is that most of us do this because we really do want her to pay more attention to the kids. But their is an undertone of us having avenues to cheat outside the marriage.


The truth is that the more men(even women) cheat, the Less-emotionally attached they are to their partners. They now start seeing their wives as a colleague that is handling a project rather than a partner they love with indept emotions.


Lastly, the kind responses you have gotten here in this thread have indirectly given you yot answers about the Nigerian men mentality.


See the way they are bashing you here.

From the replies here you should know that "men see admittance as WEAKNESS".

A man here in Nigeria sees admitting to a woman's worry is a sign of weakness.

The mem here don want to seem like betrayers to their fellow men, hence their lack of admittance to what you said.


Some here feel they would be called SIMPS, if they admit all you said here.

Well please do try to bear with us, cause we are also this way due to our
1. experiences.
2. level of exposure,
3. Our played roles during courtship.
4. Mental Masculine superioty over women.
5. Dedication of more financial-investments into the marriage.
6. Emotional-deviation due to having more avenues to cheating outside the marriage.
7. Wanting to degrade our wives to the level of the children once she starts giving birth, perhaps to get her more focused on them, rather than being focused on us.

8. Inferiority complex of not wanting to seem like A Soft-husbane, a Weak-husband. Trust me, some stupid men in this country use their wives to uphold their Street-credibility.

9. Avoidance of see-finish by their wives. Hope you do know that some of us men have later been rewarded with see-finish after showing Soo much care and emotions.
This is a fact. When a man goes out of his way to perform duties assigned to the woman, the day he doesn't do it, the woman would change it to quarrel. So do u expect such men to go out of their ways to do the nicest things next time.
Well I'm different, i would do those things for my woman and be screaming "naaaa your work I dey do sooo o". "No come disturb be tomorrow make I do am oOoOO".
We would laff over this while I perform those task and scream those words. However I have sent my message across, and the next door neighbours would bear me witness whenever the woman wants to make an issue.

10. Lastly, men are naturally Less-emotionally wired than woman.
It takes conscious efforts for men to be more emotionally attached. As long as we are providing andakimg our women happy, we feel we have contributed our share of Care and Love.


Solution to this is for you to Make your husband trust that "you wouldn't take him for granted even if he shows you a more emotional side". And see you more as a partner, rather than a subordinate".

However please do accept that men are naturally more mentally stronger than women.
Take care....

yrhuhfy113:


wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.


I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.

SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.

THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....


Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.

Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.

Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever.

ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.

You are a genius. I totally agree and understand. However, we should still try not to transfer the aggressions of experiences on our wives. Especially the once that have passed some fundermental tests.

peter0071:
Nations and other countries are running for Nigerian men... and you are saying these about the Nigerian men?? anyway, this is your opinion which i will respect....
enjoy your opinion... Cotonou men dey available sha. Make i link you?

Most Nigerian men are more caring to foreign women, than they are to Nigerian women.

They behave better when with white chicks than they do to our local babes them.

TheFinesseKid:
Did you run out of buckets? Little Gurl🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am quite certain I featured in your dreams nightmares.

Oh, it begins again. Okay.

Magnoliaa:


Oh, it begins again. Okay.

you Neva see anything. Lmao. I hope you're able to concentrate on today's service? 🤣

TheFinesseKid:
you Neva see anything. Lmao. I hope you're able to concentrate on today's service? 🤣

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Magnoliaa:


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TheFinesseKid:
💩 💩 💩 💩

That one belongs here 🚽. When you're done, make sure to dip your face in the bowl to get all the business out.

Goodlady:
To butress the op, Nigerian men lacked empathy. Empathy ll place them in the position of not questioning a lady that they are dating or married about finances, gifts, sex etc.
They don't realise that relationship is responsibility. They ll say what your father can't give you, you dey ask from me.
Why you come toast me (woo)?
As I come gree, am I not entitled to your resources?
They also lacked empathy of hurting their wives or female partners deliberately with cheating. They don't put themselves in women's shoe that how ll I feel if she's the one cheating?
Abeg make I no tok talk in order not to be misquoted. 😂 😂 😂😂😂😂😂💕💕😘😘😘😘😂
The violence is needed for cleansing of the minds of the reprobate dirty boys here that can't feed themselves but talk anyhow here against females.

Let me tell you something today, and I hope this will change your life for good.

The moment you want to be taken care of in a relationship as if you're a child, especially if you actually lack the means to take care of yourself, then be ready to be treated like a child in the relationship.

Be ready to have your feelings and emotions relegated to the side while your primary purpose will become obedience.

You know how as a child, parents could tell you to sit there, eat this, don't go out and even tell you when to go to bed, that is what you happen when you expect a man to cater to your personal needs.

As someone earlier said, you ladies can't eat your cake and have it