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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 6:08pm On Nov 23, 2023
Ginaz:


Don't be stupid. The person I had an argument with said she will poison my cat cos she doesn't like cats. so I should sit and watch while she yells and threaten my pet? I had to stand up for myself and defend my poor innocent cat who is being prejudiced for a being a cat.
The lady was saying i sent my cat to harm her. imagine the nonsense. while we were exchanging words my friend came to pacify the lady while ignoring me.

same lady she has even badmouthed to me to avoid in the neighbourhood o.

you all find it very quick to criticise someone without caring to know how they feel.
Dont worry you can call me stupid na.
Because i have also been leaching on you. If you have a pet like cat and you notice people ignorantly believe cat are trained by witches then make sure your cat is confined within your apartment and not disturbing others.
Get your neighbor threat recorded and let her know you have evidence you want to harm your pet in case anything later happens to the cat.
Honestly speaking you must be an arrogant and terrible person

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by torqque7(m): 6:13pm On Nov 23, 2023
Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

Can you imagine the rubbish someone typed?no she born kids for you to be sending on errands na because of your tachere 200 naira that you dash them you now feel entitled to them been at your beck and call?I blame the poor woman for trying to keep a relationship with an opportunist and arrogant fellow.

Dem no born you well say you go send my kids on errands for you shey you want make ogun kill you?The woman even respects you and was been nice trying to even contact you after blocking her based on her alpha and Omega wey you be na,rubbish. You think the world revolves around your entitled ass? Entitlement ontop person children? You dey craze,what if the child goes missing or kidnapped?you think say na all this rubbish you are saying here? You better thank your God nothing happened to those kids when you sent them other wise na you for dey beg now and not feeling all arrogant and entitled.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:13pm On Nov 23, 2023
frog12:
how many children do you have? why can't you send your children on errands? grin grin


I have lots of important things to achieve in my life before I start birthing kids. it's not due to lack of men but I want a quality life for my children so they won't suffer.

I have to grown mentally, emotionally ,financially and spiritually to the stage that is nnecessary before motherhood will take place in my life.

Sorry say I nor be baby mama! e pain you?

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:14pm On Nov 23, 2023
1Sharon:
I hate this african habit of sending your own or other people's kids on errands.

We shouldn't send our own kids on errands?

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by frog12: 6:14pm On Nov 23, 2023
AH. this na FAKE story grin

we ask serious question and see the reply.


Ginaz:


I have lots of important things to achieve in my life before I start birthing kids. it's not due to lack of men but I want a quality life for my children so they won't suffer.

I have to grown mentally, emotionally ,financially and spiritually to the stage that is nnecessary before motherhood will take place in my life.

Sorry say I nor be baby mama! e pain you?
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:15pm On Nov 23, 2023
tollyboy5:

Dont worry you can call me stupid na.
Because i have also been leaching on you. If you have a pet like cat and you notice people ignorantly believe cat are trained by witches then make sure your cat is confined within your apartment and not disturbing others.
Get your neighbor threat recorded and let her know you have evidence you want to harm your pet in case anything later happen to the
Honestly speaking you must be an arrogant and terrible person

hahjahhaha you came all out to show me hatred so I don't need your approval to be arrogant or terrible cos nothing will make me good in your blind eyes. so I may as well show you the terrible side you desperately wished to see.
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by IjebuWarrior: 6:16pm On Nov 23, 2023
OP, You're MADDD! 🤬🤬🤬

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 6:16pm On Nov 23, 2023
SAMBARRY:
Nawa o.so to help person Na problem?

Na Una go still abuse am if she no she'll say she's pompous, selfish and wicked.she no fit help.omo nothing wey human being for do wey go satisfy anybody.tuehh
Stop twisting the narrative.
Calling a mother to send her child to you because you helped the family is not an altruistic behavior but an egoistic act.
That particular act is even an insult to the other family, send the children on errand only when they're with you, how is that hard for you to understand?

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:17pm On Nov 23, 2023
frog12:
AH. this na FAKE story grin

we ask serious question and see the reply.



E pain am! lol.

now it's a fake story cos I wished not to give birth withour being prepared for motherhood?

your hatred go kill you las las

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:18pm On Nov 23, 2023
frog12:
AH. this na FAKE story grin

we ask serious question and see the reply.


tongue
E pain am! lol.

now it's a fake story cos I wished not to give birth withour being prepared for motherhood?

your hatred go kill you las las
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 6:20pm On Nov 23, 2023
Ginaz:


hahjahhaha you came all out to show me hatred so I don't need your approval to be arrogant or terrible cos nothing will make me good in your blind eyes. so I may as well show you the terrible side you desperately wished to see.
I'm not showing you hatred. You just want people to see things from your view and you can see its not going the way you expected shows your friend reaction was not really bad.
Send children errand when they're around you but calling her mother to send her daughter to you is too much. If you don't agree all the best for you.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by frog12: 6:20pm On Nov 23, 2023
now you are insulting people. did you insult your friend like this?


Ginaz:

tongue
E pain am! lol.

now it's a fake story cos I wished not to give birth withour being prepared for motherhood?

your hatred go kill you las las

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:20pm On Nov 23, 2023
[quote author=torqque7 post=127128640]

Can you imagine the rubbish someone typed?no she born kids for you to be sending on errands na because of your tachere 200 naira that you dash them you now feel entitled to them been at your beck and call?I blame the poor woman for trying to keep a relationship with an opportunist and arrogant fellow.

Dem no born you well say you go send my kids on errands for you shey you want make ogun kill you?The woman even respects you and was been nice trying to even contact you after blocking her based on her alpha and Omega wey you be na,rubbish. You think the world revolves around your entitled ass? Entitlement ontop person children? You dey craze,what if the child goes missing or kidnapped?you think say na all this rubbish you are saying here? You better thank your God nothing happened to those kids when you sent them other wise na you for dey beg now and not feeling all arrogant and entitled.

how many people's children have you allow into your house to cook for them. have you allowed anyone's children access to your kitchen daily? have you allowed 5kids in your house daily? if no you're an hypocrite 🚫
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by torqque7(m): 6:22pm On Nov 23, 2023
yoniehuin:
They are not your kids, why do you think you are entitled to send someone's kid on errand just because you are friends with the mother or because you feed them

The mother was right, her kids are not your errand children

If you had a kid and people send them on errand as they feel like, will you be happy.

Dont you think if any thing happen to those kids on errands, do you think the mum will be happy with you, she will blame you forever

Don't mind her..see her even opening dirty mouth to try to justify her bad and arrogant behaviour. She is lucky she met a calm person that she can take advantage of because she give am dead phone or helped her small before.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 7upnigeria: 6:23pm On Nov 23, 2023
Ginaz:


how many children that are not related to you have you helped or fed in your life?

come and carry 5 children in your house, cook for them. then go out to buy ingredients that you will use in cooking their meals. wash the plates after they are done eating, sweep and arrange the house they disorganized. don't let them touch or do anything then come and give a review after months.

hypocrite 🚫


Apparently you have that 'use them as long as they're benefiting from you' mentality. I will not argue with you because it's a mentality of people who have low IQ, it's either you're UNEDUCATED or an OBIDIENT. Otedola donated N1 million each to 750 students of Augustine University who he didnt know, it was just to ease their burden and make life meaningful for them. Many people adopt children who are not theirs and give them meaningful lives. Come to the UK and see how millionaires donate heavily to orphanages just to share love and their wealth. You're seated in one corner of the world thinking everyone has a poverty decorated brain like you.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:24pm On Nov 23, 2023
IjebuWarrior:
OP, You're MADDD! 🤬🤬🤬

na you dey madd. your madness just dey start. hypocrite wey no fit allow him neighbor children stay him for house and cook for them for even 2days dey want still talk.
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 6:24pm On Nov 23, 2023
1Sharon:
I hate this african habit of sending your own or other people's kids on errands.
OMGosh! I so hate it ehn! undecided
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:27pm On Nov 23, 2023
7upnigeria:


Apparently you have that 'use them as long as they're benefiting from you' mentality. I will not argue with you because it's a mentality of people who have low IQ, it's either you're UNEDUCATED or an OBIDIENT. Otedola donated N1 million each to 750 students of Augustine University who he didnt know, it was just to ease their burden and make life meaningful for them. Many people adopt children who are not theirs and give them meaningful lives. Come to the UK and see how millionaires donate heavily to orphanages just to share love and their wealth. You're seated in one corner of the world thinking everyone has a poverty decorated brain like you.

we are not talking about otedola or other millionaires. what have you done to help the community as a whole? talk about yourself and stop debating like a confused human being. it's easier to criticise than give solutions to people's problems.

what have you done to help ?
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:28pm On Nov 23, 2023
Olumaeme:



I swear.
Till date, they are not on talking terms. I still see the husband wear my clothes my wife gave him. It's over 3 years.

Poor people? Fear them


See them, birds of a feather

You want a married woman to stay with your wife at the hospital when she has her own family to cater to, why can't you arrange where your daughter will stay till your wife is well so you can stay with her at the hospital? Why feel she has to be the one to do it on your behalf because you help her family? Did you ask permission from her husband? Or you feel they are at your mercy because you also clothe them? What if all her excuses are genuine? Such entitlement, smh, see the way you're even very condescending of people's life situation because you're above them, na only poor people get bad character?

Ko da, this life ehn, so many people lack conscience and genuine human sympathy.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 6:30pm On Nov 23, 2023
Fountainofyouth:


We shouldn't send our own kids on errands?

Yes! Have you seen the stories of Little girls being raped while being sent on errands?
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:30pm On Nov 23, 2023
torqque7:


Don't mind her..see her even opening dirty mouth to try to justify her bad and arrogant behaviour. She is lucky she met a calm person that she can take advantage of because she give am dead phone or helped her small before.

Your dirty mouth don ever help anybody for this life? go and carry 5kids in your house, cook for them, allow them access to your kitchen, prepare their meals, wash the plates and sweep the house for straight 3 months. dont allow them to touch anything chores for you o.

then come out to give a Å•eview.
Hypocrite 🚫 . I'm sure you will and can never do that.
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:33pm On Nov 23, 2023
1Sharon:


Yes! Have you seen the stories of Little girls being raped while being sent on errands?

Yes I have, Have you also seen stories of little girls being raped while being in their own house?

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 6:33pm On Nov 23, 2023
Olumaeme:
I usually keep my distance from poor people, maybe I know them or not. They have a very bad mentality. They want to milk you dry but will never want to also support you. I remember one family my wife used to literally feed, even though I have told her to leave them in their poverty but she's won't listen. One day, my wife was sick, and she declined coming to assist stay with her in the hospital so I can stay with my daughter she declined giving lots of foolish excuses.
Oboy, come on!! this your tale no get sense! So, you wanted her to leave her own marriage and children to come to cater to your own marriage just like that, all because you used to help them with their needs? Na wa ooo!!! undecided

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by boxypane(m): 6:38pm On Nov 23, 2023
Ginaz:


which errands am I sending them apart from getting me tomatoes or milk or fish within the street as the distance is just 2minutes away.

they come to my house by themselves and sometimes I'd drive them away before they would leave. I never let them go home hungry , whatever I eat, they eat too.

I don't send them to go to the market for me or use as slaves.
Baba you are arrogant sir. Just tomatoes and stuff! You know how much you go pay for UK to send one on errand.
Basics bro, the world is a dark place, I'm sure she's protecting her daughter, not necessarily trying to have a bad thought towards you. Come down from your high horse,
You owe her an apology.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by BananaPeel(m): 6:40pm On Nov 23, 2023
Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

Not allowing her female child come is the best decision. When you are married and have a daughter you will understand. Take her calls and move on like nothing happens but you must create certain boundaries.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:42pm On Nov 23, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Oboy, come on!! this your tale no get sense! So, you wanted her to leave her own marriage and children to come to cater to your own marriage just like that, all because you used to help them with their needs? Na wa ooo!!! undecided

You sef see am

I saw that comment and I'm like wow shocked

And Op was quick to approve as per na same mentality dey get, very quick to degrade poor people smh,

This life ehn, na wa.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 6:42pm On Nov 23, 2023
tollyboy5:

Stop twisting the narrative.
Calling a mother to send her child to you because you helped the family is not an altruistic behavior but an egoistic act.
That particular act is even an insult to the other family, send the children on errand only when they're with you, how is that hard for you to understand?
now let me put it in plain terms, nothing in this world is free.if she know say it's an insult for them to send her pikin, make she tell her pikin say make their leg no Comot for their house.nobody gives without expecting in return except you're a parasite or leech.its this mentality of collecting free stuffs without being useful that makes ritualist dey use free money dey lure Una type of people with this school of thought

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:42pm On Nov 23, 2023
Fountainofyouth:



See them, birds of a feather

You want a married woman to stay with your wife at the hospital when she has her own family to cater to, why can't you arrange where your daughter will stay till your wife is well so you can stay with her at the hospital? Why feel she has to be the one to do it on your behalf because you help her family? Did you ask permission from her husband? Or you feel they are at your mercy because you also clothe them? What if all her excuses are genuine? Such entitlement, smh, see the way you're even very condescending of people's life situation because you're above them, na only poor people get bad character?

Ko da, this life ehn, so many people lack conscience and genuine human sympathy.


it is you that lack conscience and human sympathy. you're the reason why some people help from a distance. someone who has been assisting you from her human compassion is sick to the extent she landed in the hospital, you can't render back that same compassion in her sick bed. her sickness didn't move you, the confusion of the husband not knowing where to put his child while he goes to work didn't move you.

you're asking him if he knew she would take permission from her husband. yet the sick woman has gone without her husband permission to care and feed them.

you're terrible. you lack compassion. you feel as long as the giver has given, the giver has no right towards having some compassion given in return. The bible said iron sharpen iron. The sick wife is very entitled even in her low point.

you're a terrible person and you will soon experience what the sick wife has experienced too.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 6:42pm On Nov 23, 2023
Fountainofyouth:


Yes I have, Have you also seen stories of little girls being raped while being in their own house?

Yes. I don't care. Its lazy parents that do that. Do it yourself and keep your child safe.
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by funkemary(f): 6:44pm On Nov 23, 2023
There is nothing you can do that can please human being. Even if you come with purest intention, open your heart and give it out they will still find faults in you. This is how good people ended up turning bad with criticism here and there.

Majority are saying it's bad for op to send those kids on errands whether far or near. Now a days if you correct a child the parent will fight you to the core. I believe this was how it started. If you cannot allow your ward run simple errands now don't you think that someday that child will refuse your errands as a parent?

Growing up we've run so many errands that if you don't want to go your parent will even force you to. YORUBA SAYS "igba ojú ni wò omo" in one way or the other you cannot train your child alone.

Thankfully you have settled with her. I will advise that you be careful so she won't stab your back one day. Meanwhile, please keep being good.

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by tollyboy5(m): 6:46pm On Nov 23, 2023
SAMBARRY:
now let me put it in plain terms, nothing in this world is free.if she know say it's an insult for them to send her pikin, make she tell her pikin say make their leg no Comot for their house.nobody gives without expecting in return except you're a parasite or leech.its this mentality of collecting free stuffs without being useful that makes ritualist dey use free money dey lure Una type of people with this school of thought
You're just an ignorant fellow if you have comprehension problem. EOD

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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Gerrard59(m): 6:46pm On Nov 23, 2023
Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

hip?

This is where the problem started. You don't help irresponsible people, especially those with plenty of children they cannot afford to take proper care of. My mom has done the same as you did, but I warned her not and when everything backfired, I told her "but I told you?" People who have plenty of children they cannot afford to take care of are irresponsible, and as a responsible person, you should never be responsible for their irresponsibility.

Stay away from that woman and her household. Anything happens to the children, and she will hold you accountable. By then, it would have become too late.

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