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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by highchief1: 10:55pm On Nov 25, 2023
psucc:
Na by force to use baby food? Why not use the Akamu (yellow or regular), grind crayfish to blend. Then the mother will breastfeed the child well to supplement for the rest needed vitamins.

what u just typed is not ur portion amen.
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Allisgud: 10:56pm On Nov 25, 2023
Wetin happen to the days of feeding our children with ogi bahbah grin

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Nobody: 10:59pm On Nov 25, 2023
Looks like a comedy skit! But don't marry because of pressure from anyone!

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Vinnie2000(m): 10:59pm On Nov 25, 2023
lexy2014:


you shouldn't have helped her. not sure she asked u to. since she has the brains to write the topic, does she not have the brains to answer the questios?

what are those "personal luxuries" u are referring to?

when u say "security" what do you mean?

you really didnt answer my question because I dont see any mention of what it will take financially to be able to achieve all of the above that u mentioned. can you pls shed light on that?

Ogbeni, The Answer is Straight forward!๐Ÿ˜

When A Guy is ABLE to Foot all his Bills without Complaints or Depending on anyone,
Then he is READY for marriage.๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿ™‚

Not a Guy who owes his Landlord Rent, can't buy news clothes, eats BREAD and FANTA, can't buy TV in his Apartment, etc
Now thinking of going to Pay his GF's dowry and hoping Marriage will bring blessings. undecided undecided

That's a Terrible Gamble some Young married Guys made and they are SUFFERING dearly for it! embarassed embarassed sad

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 11:03pm On Nov 25, 2023
psucc:
Na by force to use baby food? Why not use the Akamu (yellow or regular), grind crayfish to blend. Then the mother will breastfeed the child well to supplement for the rest needed vitamins.
And if it turns out the baby has some sort of allergy to shrimp/crayfish, what then? Serious suffering? undecided
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by RonuThings(m): 11:05pm On Nov 25, 2023
๐Ÿ˜Ž

Ladies, go and put pressure on your boyfriends to give you money for me, because i need to buy Iphone 15 before December ๐Ÿค”

Very urgent ๐Ÿ˜

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Benwallt(m): 11:07pm On Nov 25, 2023
Baby dey chop eba and draw soup this days
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by justking(m): 11:11pm On Nov 25, 2023
God help him

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by vickydevoka(m): 11:13pm On Nov 25, 2023
ExudeLoveToAll:
Does one person make up marriage?

If you think all the Hollywood paradise in your head will come to pass think twice.

Marriage is not about the man it's about two people coming together to work , work in bold letters in order to create the next smallest unit of the society to ensure societal sustainability.

If you still think marriage is about men, you may be shocked to remain in that delays mindset decades to come. What stops you from planning for marriage just as men plan? You are looking for some body's son to come sweep your feet... grin
In Nigeria is like that o. Unless na woman way don old you marry. She go gree do 50 50. My guy way marry 34 year old lady. Na she de cibtribute pass. Na en de beg her make en be de man
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by vickydevoka(m): 11:15pm On Nov 25, 2023
Kobojunkie:
And if it turns out the baby has some sort of allergy to shrimp/crayfish, what then? Serious suffering? undecided
People de born for idp camp even for prison

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 11:16pm On Nov 25, 2023
vickydevoka:
People de born for idp camp even for prison
People, even babies, dey die for all those places too from one food-related problem or another. undecided
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by vickydevoka(m): 11:16pm On Nov 25, 2023
VeeVeeMyLuv:
Ehen

In the olden days, during the times of our fore fathers, precolonial eras,

I mean the times of our great, great, great grand fathers, when there was nothing like cerelac, all these modern baby foods, feeding Bottle, e.t.c,

How exactly were infants fed? What were babies fed?

Please someone should research and furnish us with answers
Person don de fear . Chai

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by NaijaGoBetter2: 11:21pm On Nov 25, 2023
Na so my body de hot here

Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by AdaOwerri1(f): 11:27pm On Nov 25, 2023
RonuThings:
๐Ÿ˜Ž

Ladies, go and put pressure on your boyfriends to give you money for me, because i need to buy Iphone 15 before December ๐Ÿค”

Very urgent ๐Ÿ˜
Gold digger grin
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by lexy2014: 11:29pm On Nov 25, 2023
Vinnie2000:


Ogbeni, The Answer is Straight forward!๐Ÿ˜

When A Guy is ABLE to Foot all his Bills without Complaints or Depending on anyone,
Then he is READY for marriage.๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿ™‚

Not a Guy who owes his Landlord Rent, can't buy news clothes, eats BREAD and FANTA, can't buy TV in his Apartment, etc
Now thinking of going to Pay his GF's dowry and hoping Marriage will bring blessings. undecided undecided

That's a Terrible Gamble some Young married Guys made and they are SUFFERING dearly for it! embarassed embarassed sad

That isn't what I asked you.

1. what are those "personal luxuries" u are referring to?

2. when u say "security" what do you mean?

3. you really didnt answer my question because I dont see any mention of what it will take financially to be able to achieve all of the above that u mentioned. can you pls shed light on that?

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Antichristus: 11:33pm On Nov 25, 2023
Akamu, wheat and oatmeal, soya milk, kunu, etc., no dey Naija anymore? Na by force to go supermarket? grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by lexy2014: 11:33pm On Nov 25, 2023
Kobojunkie:
People, even babies, dey die for all those places too from one food-related problem or another. undecided

What are these "food-related problems" and how many people and babies actually die from them in prisons and IDP camps?

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by ozo13(m): 11:35pm On Nov 25, 2023
Jewessgratitud3:


Where him for go? The place wey dem go package industrial powder milk inside komkom give am say na baby food?
Everywhere na the same
grin cheesy cheesy
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 11:37pm On Nov 25, 2023
Antichristus:
Akamu, wheat and oatmeal, soya milk, kunu, etc., no dey Naija anymore? Na by force to go supermarket? grin grin grin grin grin
So na only carbohydrate a baby need abi? undecided
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by olaztek(m): 11:41pm On Nov 25, 2023
The kind of pressure society put on single guys sometimes is unbearable.

People will look down on you, deny you opportunities, call you gay/impotent/irresponsible, constantly frustrate you, question you in every family gathering, sideline you, cut half the benefits apportioned for you just because you are not a family man.

May God favour all naija single men. Amin.
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 11:45pm On Nov 25, 2023
olaztek:
โ–  The kind of pressure society put on single guys sometimes is unbearable. People will look down on you, deny you opportunities, call you gay/impotent/irresponsible, constantly frustrate you, question you in every family gathering, sideline you, cut half the benefits apportioned for you just because you are not a family man.
May God favour all naija single men. Amin.
Unbearable my arse! Common sense should always kick in before one makes every decision in life. undecided
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by fcbelle72(f): 11:52pm On Nov 25, 2023
Bliss62:
Is the wife allergic to working?! Or even if she is on merternity leave she doesn't have any savings or income not even business

Is wrong for a man to ask his wife to contribute money for baby, but when they call head of the family the man will jump out angry grin

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Talismann: 12:08am On Nov 26, 2023
Jewessgratitud3:


So you plan for your children to go through what you went through?
Times have changed and the children we are birthng these days are different from us.

During my own time my dad bought us NAN and it was the big size like the size of big bournvita of old because we are twins. My Mom said he used to buy it every week then at 1.50k. this one no be say Dem tell me, I saw one of the tins of NAN baby food being used for keeping Needles, thread and buttons after I was grown. Me I will give my baby the best o. I no drink pap, why should my baby take pap?

some people marry from nothing, and have peaceful ,long lasting marriages; whatever works for you. There's no rule book to these things.

btw, after all the NAN you drank, see how you turned out. a NAN-entity, self-opinionated, delusional, selfish and bereft of common sense so what makes you feel your opinion counts in a case of a child fed pap or something else. SMH

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by NuhuAjang71(m): 12:08am On Nov 26, 2023
Is his wife sick or what? Can't she breastfeed the baby?

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Pharaohny: 12:23am On Nov 26, 2023
No reason am , you shaa do doggy
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 12:30am On Nov 26, 2023
NuhuAjang71:
Is his wife sick or what? Can't she breastfeed the baby?
Babies require more than just breastmilk after just the first month alone. undecided
Breastmilk is the ideal food for infants. It is safe, clean and contains antibodies which help protect against many common childhood illnesses. Breastmilk provides all the energy and nutrients that the infant needs for the first months of life, and it continues to provide up to half or more of a childโ€™s nutritional needs during the second half of the first year, and up to one third during the second year of life.
Women can only produce so much breastmilk to meet the baby's needs. undecided
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Karleb(m): 12:35am On Nov 26, 2023
We should tell this to women more.
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by efficiencie(m): 12:37am On Nov 26, 2023
Jewessgratitud3:
A man has planned to run away from his wife and baby after he was seen pricing baby food and diaper and started sweating inside AC after he discovered the prices.

He called his family members right away blaming them for forcing him to marry, that now he's the one facing the heat and none of them is here to help him out.

Now check out the phone the man is using, not up to 4k. Check out his shirt and trousers.. is that the person you think can afford that kind of food? I'm not trying to degrade him. I'm just trying to say, make sure you can comfortably cater for yourself and one more person before going into marriage. This is exactly what the so many men who abandoned their family passed through before deciding to take to their heels.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. let's stop making it look scary and undesirable with our myopic approach. Do it when the time is right not for public commendation or validation cos when you start facing the heat, non of those people cheering you on will come and help you like the man rightly said.

It is this kind of thinking that will keep many many women single forever. More and more men are beginning to realize that women are only useful for making babies and hence if you must marry you must be financially buoyant enough to finance catering for yourself, a woman and a baby. Marriage is not just for populating a society. Marriage is primarily for providing support. If a woman is not willing to be an agent of progress in your life then marrying her will be the greatest, most foolish, mistake you can ever make. Stop marrying curses. Marry blessings. There are many curses walking around with round firm boobs and thick juicy butts with slim waste and nice oval face with full lips.

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by sandygechy(f): 12:58am On Nov 26, 2023
Whereโ€™s the manโ€™s savings He didnโ€™t know heโ€™ll buy baby food when he was sleeping with her unprotected.
Bliss62:
Is the wife allergic to working?! Or even if she is on merternity leave she doesn't have any savings or income not even business

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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Gajagojo: 1:07am On Nov 26, 2023
Jewessgratitud3:
A man has planned to run away from his wife and baby after he was seen pricing baby food and diaper and started sweating inside AC after he discovered the prices.

He called his family members right away blaming them for forcing him to marry, that now he's the one facing the heat and none of them is here to help him out.

Now check out the phone the man is using, not up to 4k. Check out his shirt and trousers.. is that the person you think can afford that kind of food? I'm not trying to degrade him. I'm just trying to say, make sure you can comfortably cater for yourself and one more person before going into marriage. This is exactly what the so many men who abandoned their family passed through before deciding to take to their heels.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. let's stop making it look scary and undesirable with our myopic approach. Do it when the time is right not for public commendation or validation cos when you start facing the heat, non of those people cheering you on will come and help you like the man rightly said.

What kind of phone did your grandfather and great grandfather use?
Did they use diapers and baby food?

If they reasoned like you

You won't be here today

Do not overestimate the importance of your or any other person's existence
The only reason you are given life is to continue that life whether in poverty or By any means necessary

You are ,just a pop up in the grand scheme of things
You are born you make babies you die and are forgotten.
No.individual person matters that much

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