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Magnoliaa:
Almost 6 comments in and no one has said anything meaningful.

Okay.

They’ve said money and sex. Aren’t they meaningful?

Newborn27:
It's been long I saw you on here man!

Hope you're doing great?

We miss your educating posts...u and explorers.

🙂

Uyi2017:
You remind me of the teachings of Myles Munroe

I've read a couple of his work before.

But normally, that is what a boy should be taught by his father as he grows up to become a man.

kkins25:
I remember my neighbor back in Naija; the community council was about to sell a nearby land and were re-measuring lands in the area, including ours and my neighbor. Let's call her mama Gloria. Mama Gloria, is a widow with two daughters.

when the community folks came, every house hold men had come out to defend their land, except, of course, mama Gloria. She came out to defend herself, but, she was a woman amongst men. At the end of the day, they took a little portion of Mama Gloria's land, claiming that she had built into the land next to her.

Later that evening, I heard Mama Gloria tending to her backyard farm speaking to herself, mostly grumbling. The words that made ingrained that day into my head was "it's because I don't have husband."

If you live in a society where traditions of old are still clinged to and you're a woman, a man will be your greatest asset. LIke most other women, mama Gloria was employed and was able to single-handedly raise her two daughters through school and even higher education. She was also a farmer, who managed several plots of land worth of farm produce. She was not an average woman, even then, as aggressive as she had become, in the presence of aggressive men, she was still shut down.

Ladies in the city have no clue what women in the rural areas go through, and therefore cannot fathom why women desperately want to cling to their fvcking abusive husbands. It's either that or homelessness and shame.

In today's society, Nigerian society, where women earn 77% less than men, men still hold all the bargaining power. So, what do men bring to the table is a ridiculous question to ask you man, knowing he's most likey way more richer than you.

I think we make the mistake of using western society's data to analyse our situation which is a gross misrepresentation of relationship dynamics.

Perfecto.

Uyi2017:
Let's put money aside, what else is your guy bring into your relationship?

How old are you not to know that whoever brought money brought almost everything.

Money answereth everything

That alone is all a woman needs. Money defines a man to women .Know this and know peace .

good strong, long girth dickson

Persephone1:
Epistle on top small question...

Shaking my head

Don't b too lazy to read.

He answered d question realistically.

CaveAdullam:
I know OP belongs to the camp of "it goes both ways. It's vice-versa. What's good for the goose is also good for the gander".
You all think that inter-sexual dynamics are words and synonyms. Anyway, your topic even proved it wrong.

Back in the hunter-gatherer's days exchange wasn't based on fiat. Here was how women benefitted from men and even up till today.

Being married or in a relationship:

1. Brings the woman respect from all and sundry. It separates her from the girls and puts her in the league of women regardless of her age.

2. Placed the woman on the same level as the man. A peasant girl can become a queen because of her marriage to a king.

3. Extends the hands of the man to her immediate and extended family. For protection and provision. Strongmen are a sought-after species of humans.

4. Protects the woman from danger and predators. That's why women don't like weak men. Because women are weak and need a stronger force - masculinity to protect them.

5. To help her do difficult work. Men can do all women's jobs. But not vice-versa.
So, if by chance she comes across difficult work, her husband or spouse is there to help her.

6. Family name. Women don't bear their husband's name for nothing. A name associated with status is an identity that sets her apart when she steps outside.

7. She can decide to be nothing. But having a man will grant most of her desires. You've heard of "stay-at-home mum or full-time housewife, right?"

8. Reproduction is expedient for both. However, a man can cater for a woman and her child. And not vice-versa, else, chaos in the family.

Even in the absence of money, the man ought to defend them. Thereby extending the lineage of the woman.

9. Men bear the burden of proof. There is hope that a man can become a recognizable force, and he must work hard because it's expedient for him.

It's not to prove society right, but that a man feels worthless when he is at the bottom of life - lacks power, authority, and resources.

Nobody expects anything tangible from women. Only let her be gentle, kind, and feminine. Unfortunately, these are characteristics of nice guys who are tortured by women and men.
Being with the man will compel him to do and become better, which benefits her too.
10. The presence of a man in a woman's life proves her feminine power. The woman who isn't able to "tame" a man is a woman who will suffer shame ridicule, and bullying.
Summarily: a woman can't be strong enough for herself. The man is her stronghold and defense.
Thanks.

You're Good!

CaveAdullam:
4. Protects the woman from danger and predators. That's why women don't like weak men. Because women are weak and need a stronger force - masculinity to protect them.

who is a weak man in this 21st century?

Prick

Men brings security . How insecure will a home be without a man.

God is the head , how insecure are humans without God




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ogawisdom:
How old are you not to know that whoever brought money brought almost everything.

Money answereth everything

Thank God you said, 'almost'.

But if you understand the dynamics of human nature, you will indeed comprehend the somewhat effectiveness of money in some relationships

YoshihideSuga:
Are you that rich?

Please gist us, what was it like seeing many girls leave you when you were broke compared to now.

Thanks.

You don't need to be rich, just fins way come us,UK or Canada. It's ok. If you w
Send 100 pounds two times to her she go kopu

Uyi2017:
Let's put money aside, what else is your guy bring into your relationship?

money is almost everything

Uyi2017:
My eyes have seen and my ears have heard

Who is this one deceiving. Madam go back and remove that (m) on your moniker. this your the best way to disguise and spill trash? lol.

At least men dey bring money. Wetin dey other gender dey bring aside toto and unnecessary headaches.

I’m seeing.

They are always making arguments against points that no one is making. I tire.

Magnoliaa:
Like imagine. 🤣

Iru oro katikati wo niyen na?


"Despite what feminism says, a vibrator cannot replace a man."

Which feminist scholar, in what feminist book was it written that vibrators can, and should replace men? Which feminist 'thought leader' actively encourages women to dump men for vibrators --as a feminist act?


Abi cococandy, you're not seeing what I'm seeing? Come and help me o.

These people will create arguments out of their asses and start debunking it, and go away claiming "they've totally floored those feminists" lmaooo.

SPAMBOX7:
Who is this one deceiving. Madam go back and remove that (m) on your moniker. this your the best way to disguise and spill trash? lol.

Clap for ya sef

cococandy:
I’m seeing.

They are always making arguments against points that no one is making. I tire.

Like, it's so tiring.