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Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

You are saying one sided super story

bigpicture001:
u don't get it...this is a norm in a childless marriage...or a brand new marriage...u see the wife complain

1. about husband not coming back home on time

2. not taking her out with him

3. hanging out too much with friends

4. not eating much at home

5. not talking much to her at home

6. always on chat

7. talking to other ladies nd sh is jealous

8. being so lonely

9. not doing enough in bed..

its Normal..as OP, its a new marriage or a childless one

but when sh is busy with a baby and job, trying to balance both...sh wo t even remember u again...u wi b the one begging for her attention

She can be busy with the baby and still be toxic. She can stress you with nagging and you don't have any choice but pity her

Antoeni:
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eazzzy1:
It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

This is a bad & terrible advice

eazzzy1:
It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

Not that easy, bro. It's like being accused of what you didn't do. It'd hurt you and might push you into doing it.

This is a statement that reeks of ignorance

No trained therapist in the world would make such a callous statement.

People with low self esteem are rarely worth the trouble to marry whether male or female.

Nothing you do will ever satisfy them.

Because they are prisoners of their own negative imagination they will keep on conjuring up scenarios in their head that have NOTHING to do with reality.

They will keep saying and doing things that will eventually lead to the realisation of their expectations.

This is because your life moves in the direction of your dominant thought. If every day you are focused on thoughts of your partner cheating from Sunup to sundown, you will engage in behaviours that will create the very conditions that torment you.

That's what is termed a self fulfilling prophecy.

The woman needs the help of a therapist who has significant experience in dealing with low self esteem bases issues.

eazzzy1:
It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

Just look within you. Ask your self what you are doing that is fueling her insecurities. Then make necessary adjustments. Better communication, reassuring her of your love always and being super plain and straight forward could just do the majic

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

You know she was like that before you married her na.

By the way, why can't you talk to your female clients in your wife's presence? I thought you guys have become one after the wedding?..smh.

You know what you are doing, that made her become suspicious of your movement.
Women are dangerous investigators, If the mean am for you...She has ran undercover CID on you..

Go and clear yourself, for peace to reign.
Make It a sought of nobody owns a particular phone between you two.

And, you can take her along to the gym.

Sorry bro.

That's the worse thing that can happen to anyone.
If you are not tough enough, it can wear you out, depression or high blood pressure sets in and if not properly managed, death.

I am in the same shoes as you and finally decided to leave for my mental and physical health.

That's how they are wired and it may not get better.

v2:
Sorry bro.

That's the worse thing that can happen to anyone.
If you are not tough enough, it can wear you out, depression or high blood pressure sets in and if not properly managed, death.

I am in the same shoes as you and finally decided to leave for my mental and physical health.

That's how they are wired and it may not get better.

What happened with yours?

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

This story is not adding up.
Your wife suspects your every call all of a sudden?
What changed?
Do you hide things from her?
How us your communication together?
Is she also hiding things from you?

Youay nit have committed the actual physical cheating but I suspect you're wmotionally cheating on her.

VULCAN:
This is a statement that reeks of ignorance

No trained therapist in the world would make such a callous statement.

People with low self esteem are rarely worth the trouble to marry whether male or female.

Nothing you do will ever satisfy them.

Because they are prisoners of their own negative imagination they will keep on conjuring up scenarios in their head that have NOTHING to do with reality.

They will keep saying and doing things that will eventually lead to the realisation of their expectations.

This is because your life moves in the direction of your dominant thought. If every day you are focused on thoughts of your partner cheating from Sunup to sundown, you will engage in behaviours that will create the very conditions that torment you.

That's what is termed a self fulfilling prophecy.

The woman needs the help of a therapist who has significant experience in dealing with low self esteem bases issues.

God bless you so much for this post

Pimine:
The only response that makes sense!

His response doesn't make any sense at all

elmagnifico411:
U want him to take her everywhere so she can embarrass him at the slightest chance she gets, abi? Some people are not ready to change ni matter what u do. That's how a friend took his wife for a gathering and she embarrassed him Infront of a female colleague. Who does that? Being married now means u won't talk a female again in this life?. Unsecured fellas should get a hold of themeselves and deal with the issues themselves. If u accuse me continuously of what I know nothing about, the only way to combat u and be free is to kuku so that which you've been accusing me of.. so when u talk ill let u know u pushed me out with your never ending complains. If marriage go end, make he end. Insecured fellas should get a life abeg.

God bless you so much for this post

SPAMBOX7:
9 times out of 10 when a woman is overly insecure is because she also has too many skeletons in her cupboard. Na evil people dey dey fear evil pass. Cos they always think someone is going to do to them what they have been doing.

You are 100% correct

VICTOR4LYF:
His response doesn't make any sense at all

OK sir!

Wakatumbit:
What happened with yours?

Endless suspicion. Same with everything you described and it even ended with me having another wife and children that I am not aware of.

I started receiving a behavior of a man with two wives in my house.

The toxicity became out of this world.
And when you mix toxicity with extreme religiousness, spiritual suspicious creeped into the mix

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

So when u were dating her u didn't know she was insecure? or u saw it bt didn't care now u are complaining?

people are insecure for many reasons it could be because of her past relationships or something that she was told or indoctrinated into or from experiences of her friends or even her personality.

Find out the reason for her insecurity then tackle it from there.

Fahvvy:
If this was a girlfriend boyfriend matter, I would immediately advice you to du.mp her sorry a.ss ...

I mean, why should I be stressed out because you're unwilling to deal with your insecurities when I can find someone much more mature and secure ...

Alas! This isn't relationship, it's marriage, so it gets a bit dicey ...

I believe you should have a heart to heart conversation with her and help her deal with her insecurities, try to win her trust in certain regards - it should help with that ...

Na your wife, you no fit troway am ...
So you better try and get to the bottom of this before it ruins your marriage ...

Last I recall, divorcing isn't illegal..

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

This is what you get when you engage yourself with non-virgins.

THEY REMEMBER EVERYTHING THEY USED TO DO, ALL THEIR GAMES ETC, AND THEY IMAGINE THAT YOU'RE DOING THE SAME THING.

I'M SURE NO BE U DISVIRGIN HER AND U DON'T EVEN KNOW HER TRUE BODYCOUNT...

eazzzy1:
It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

A sensible man will only do this with a woman of value.
A woman who's absolutely committed and loyal.
Most of this girls in marriage were once oloshos sleeping with various guys, double dating and playing games before marriage.
THEY IMAGINE THEIR SPOUSE TO BE DOING THE SAME THING THEY USE TO DO...
In marriage, they expect their unfortunate husband to be loyal and committed to them alone. This is nonsense.

A GIRL YOU DIDN'T MEET AS A VIRGIN DOES NOT DESERVE ABSOLUTE FIDELITY FROM YOU.
IF SHE'S DATED MULTIPLE GUYS AND EVEN MARRIED MEN BEFORE MARRIAGE, SHE DOESN'T NOT DESERVE TO HAVE AND ENJOY HER OWN HUSBAND TO HERSELF ALONE.

Antoeni:
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Guys What do you think

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