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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by marvellous2222: 5:31pm On Dec 30, 2023
egobetter4me:
I know a lot of you will blame me after reading this and even want to curse me, but this is my sad story and I just want to put it out there for people to learn. Don't ever let your parents decide your partner for you. Even if you have to run away, do it.

I recently got married to an ugly, short, black, smelly, village girl. At first my uncle took me to see her, then we spoke and she came visiting. All these happened in the village.

When I went back to the city, I told my mom I wasn't interested in her any more, but she insisted I must marry her. My mom would always take my joy by telling me about the girl anytime she sees me happy. There was no breathing space. We live together and I pay the rent. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her. She once sold her wrappers/materials and jewelleries, to send me money for school fees.

Anytime she tries to talk to me about the girl, I will beg her and let her understand that young people like to marry who they truly love. I don't want her, I don't love her and I don't think I will ever will.
After all said and done, she still insisted, so I called my elder bro to come talk to her. He came in from another state and spoke with my mom for hours. She did as if she would allow me marry my choice, just for my brother to go. Immediately my brother left, she started again.

My mom has BP. She stopped using her medication and was ailing. she threatened that if she dies, that I killed her. I thought to myself, that if she truly dies, I might live with the regrets for the rest of my life. I really tried but I was defeated. I succumbed. But before marrying the girl, I spoke to her(the girl) that I don't love her and that I'm marrying her against my wish, but I guess she was desperate. She said I shouldn't worry, that the love would grow in the marriage.

We got married. She lives with me and my mom. Even my neighbours were disappointed in me, when they saw her. Church members and friends were all disappointed. I can't start narrating to them how I got here.

We are over a year gone now and she still irritates me. I so much hate to look at her. We've had sex only about 5 times or so and I have to get high to do this. I only kissed her once(at the alter and I cringed)

I cry everyday.....both at home and while hustling. I never envisaged my life to be like this. I had hoped to meet a beautiful, clean and well mannered graduate from the city. Someone I would truly love and she would love me too. I'd hoped that I would meet her, approach her and we start as friends, then lovers, then I would propose and all. I never planned for it to be like this.

I am so sad with my life. Right now, I'm thinking of applying for masters abroad and probably use the means to Japa and never come back again.

My life is so miserable!

Learn from me. Don't ever let your parents blackmail you into marrying someone you don't love. Pls don't. Just run away for months or few years and they will leave you alone.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Jackiedemie(m): 5:32pm On Dec 30, 2023
Sorry,
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by btaliat(m): 5:32pm On Dec 30, 2023
So you marry her because you don't want you mummy to die. What if she dies now that you have married her? You should have asked your mum her intentions on why she was insisting on you marrying her and even asked her if she was forced on your daddy.

I am not a disrespectful person but seriously I don't really respect age, I respect what they have to offer.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by UptownVibes(m): 5:33pm On Dec 30, 2023
Clean her up. E don happen, e don happen.. Buy her good clothes,teach her how to bath properly (good hygiene) Employ private teacher for her,if she no sabi read and write.. The things you like in those city girls that she lacks,put the things for her body.. She go soon get belle,since u are already sleeping with her.. So you don dey,you don dey..

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Iceberg3: 5:33pm On Dec 30, 2023
Ahmed0336:
You made few mistakes.

1. You should have hide all your finances from your mother and make things look as if you're struggling and can't afford to marry at the moment.
2. If I were you I won't touch her. What if she gets pregnant
3. This study route is what you should have use to japa before your mum made you to marry her.

Now that she's your wife, I'd advise you stop sleeping with her in other not to get her pregnant cos once there's a child in the picture, things will be more difficult for than already is
But now,they are already married,won't a husband sleep with his wife again?


Op,the deed is done already, nothing you can do now apart from doing your best to teach and clean up your wife in every way. Build her up,register her in adult education and stuff. Love her. Things will work out

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Iceberg3: 5:35pm On Dec 30, 2023
Nebes:
You better clean that girl up and start loving her. There's no going back since you were not strong enough to resist the marriage. Package her into your taste now that your mother is still alive.
Wisdom.
May God increase and bless you and people like you

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by WhereMyLoud: 5:36pm On Dec 30, 2023
Liess..!!! Post picture make we see with our eyes. Abi Nairalanders una just wan dey sympathize and give advice without proof?.. make we see the girl bros. 👀👀👀
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Sccarrr: 5:36pm On Dec 30, 2023
@Ballistic4 life story 😂😂
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by sammirano: 5:37pm On Dec 30, 2023
You are lucky, those graduate girls will kill you before 50, let me tell you, all women are beautiful, see yourself like a creator, recreate the type of woman you want in this one and even you will envy her.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by dkidd: 5:37pm On Dec 30, 2023
egobetter4me:


Yes, I accept all the blame.
Then live with it

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by TheFarmer1: 5:37pm On Dec 30, 2023
The mistake has already been made. You have to live with it. As a married person myself, what you need to do is to brush your wife up. Yes! Turn her into the kind of woman you'd love to be with. Buy her clothes. Jewelry. If her educational background isn't up to par, register her to get good education. You can actually turn her into your dream woman. You can't leave her and run away abroad. What would that make you? A deadbeat husband. For how long will you run? You better man up and love your wife. You made the vows didn't you? You have to live with it!

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by GeneralOjukwu: 5:38pm On Dec 30, 2023
Laughed a bit reading this 🤣

I believe a lot of you come here to catch cruise.

Your mum cares less about your happiness. That's selfish to me.

I trust myself. I put myself first. Don't give a ratass about how it makes anyone else feels.

Who would endure the unhappy marriage now for you ?

I encourage you to eat her smelly pussy.... this will force you to make her improve her personal hygiene grin

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by WhereMyLoud: 5:39pm On Dec 30, 2023
Liess..!!! Post picture make we see with our eyes. Abi Nairalanders una just wan dey sympathize and give advice without proof?.. make we see the girl bros. 👀👀
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Cornerstone2018: 5:39pm On Dec 30, 2023
Clean her up to your taste, after all nobody is perfect, you can even marry a fine educated girl with not too good attitude. Maybe shez just your destined wife. Take time to study her, I'm sure your mum saw something in her. Not all that glitter is gold.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by alfajohn: 5:39pm On Dec 30, 2023
Stories that touch.
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by phorget(m): 5:40pm On Dec 30, 2023
Nebes:
You better clean that girl up and start loving her. There's no going back since you were not strong enough to resist the marriage. Package her into your taste now that your mother is still alive.


Dem say person short;shey make OP add wood for the girl leg make she for tall?🤷‍♂️

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Patented: 5:42pm On Dec 30, 2023
egobetter4me:
I know a lot of you will blame me after reading this and even want to curse me, but this is my sad story and I just want to put it out there for people to learn. Don't ever let your parents decide your partner for you. Even if you have to run away, do it.

I recently got married to an ugly, short, black, smelly, village girl. At first my uncle took me to see her, then we spoke and she came visiting. All these happened in the village.

When I went back to the city, I told my mom I wasn't interested in her any more, but she insisted I must marry her. My mom would always take my joy by telling me about the girl anytime she sees me happy. There was no breathing space. We live together and I pay the rent. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her. She once sold her wrappers/materials and jewelleries, to send me money for school fees.

Anytime she tries to talk to me about the girl, I will beg her and let her understand that young people like to marry who they truly love. I don't want her, I don't love her and I don't think I will ever will.
After all said and done, she still insisted, so I called my elder bro to come talk to her. He came in from another state and spoke with my mom for hours. She did as if she would allow me marry my choice, just for my brother to go. Immediately my brother left, she started again.

My mom has BP. She stopped using her medication and was ailing. she threatened that if she dies, that I killed her. I thought to myself, that if she truly dies, I might live with the regrets for the rest of my life. I really tried but I was defeated. I succumbed. But before marrying the girl, I spoke to her(the girl) that I don't love her and that I'm marrying her against my wish, but I guess she was desperate. She said I shouldn't worry, that the love would grow in the marriage.

We got married. She lives with me and my mom. Even my neighbours were disappointed in me, when they saw her. Church members and friends were all disappointed. I can't start narrating to them how I got here.

We are over a year gone now and she still irritates me. I so much hate to look at her. We've had sex only about 5 times or so and I have to get high to do this. I only kissed her once(at the alter and I cringed)

I cry everyday.....both at home and while hustling. I never envisaged my life to be like this. I had hoped to meet a beautiful, clean and well mannered graduate from the city. Someone I would truly love and she would love me too. I'd hoped that I would meet her, approach her and we start as friends, then lovers, then I would propose and all. I never planned for it to be like this.

I am so sad with my life. Right now, I'm thinking of applying for masters abroad and probably use the means to Japa and never come back again.

My life is so miserable!

Learn from me. Don't ever let your parents blackmail you into marrying someone you don't love. Pls don't. Just run away for months or few years and they will leave you alone.


Pele
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by 22just: 5:44pm On Dec 30, 2023
Turquoiseee:

So you like her p*ssy but not HER! Na wa o. so it’s not smelling to you. Well since you can f**k her, you can also love her

Did you read the post at all abi the story no clear

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Lexjully: 5:44pm On Dec 30, 2023
Worst mistake is to marry who you don't love. Oga just jejelly japa o. Best option...if you have the means o.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by dkidd: 5:44pm On Dec 30, 2023
Iceberg3:

But now,they are already married,won't a husband sleep with his wife again?


Op,the deed is done already, nothing you can do now apart from doing your best to teach and clean up your wife in every way. Build her up,register her in adult education and stuff. Love her. Things will work out
You people are only looking at the physical aspect. What about the emotional? Does she even love him or just using him as a means to an end? Obviously he doesn't love her and according to him she's just the desperate kind for wtv reasons. This arrangement os doomed to be loveless and soon she will start cheating on the op as he's been denying her her rights in the bedroom because he can't bring himself to naturally want her body talk more love her. He's better off without her and no amount of packaging will make the equation balanced because there's no love lost here.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by ukaface(f): 5:44pm On Dec 30, 2023
E come be like film

Look for something about her that you love, you can’t hate everything about her na. There must be something catchy.

Omo
And you don go talk for alter say na for better or worse, in sickness or in health till death do you part … Ndo

TU.sh her up na, she Dey irritate you but no irritate you to fvck, you Dey use highness as excuse 🤣🤣🤣Dey play
Is she that bad, no one is ugly. Wetin your mama see about her in the first place?

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Chibuzoripob: 5:45pm On Dec 30, 2023
sad she's smelly like DEAD 🐀 undecided? Ugly(u can't wait to born ugly,demoni look like pikin grin. Armpit and pusi stink embarassed embarassed lipsrsealed.With all diz,U still drill tye village borehole angry. U are a CASE sad.
Why released ur yoghurt into her pusi undecided? I can visualise u in ☁️ 🌤 🌥 90 while thrusting IN and OUT grin.She sweet u then and nah now E dey PAIN U undecided? U are a CASE

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by ttmax09(m): 5:45pm On Dec 30, 2023
egobetter4me:


You should read the post very well
Pls stop replying to every one that quotes you, only a few are sane here. I feel your pain, just go ahead with your plan and flee.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Chioma1989: 5:46pm On Dec 30, 2023
So sad! See how you described the innocent girl. She may not even be the way you described her but you chose those descriptions to fit your narrative. A mother cannot be that insensitive to arrange that kind of a girl for her son. Those "tushed" and classic girls you are yearning for may not even find you attractive or you may not fit into their lifestyle. Please, come close to your wife and cherish her. Raise her to your so called standards. She may even outshine you later in life. Value and cherish her and tell her she means so much to you and watch how she will double her love and do everything to impress you. I feel for her, seriously. It is always depressing being in love with someone that doesn't love you or just tolerating you. I guess she must be from a poor background and marrying you is her first time of being to the city. This kind of girl will later turn out to be your backbone.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Pootle: 5:46pm On Dec 30, 2023
post her picture lets check out something cool
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by DLegacy1(m): 5:47pm On Dec 30, 2023
grin grin grin grin grin

People dey mad shaa
Chispa:
kill her.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Lance008(m): 5:48pm On Dec 30, 2023
Divorce her before u kill her
Other men go need her
Let her go for her class mak u both live in peace

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by obinna58(m): 5:49pm On Dec 30, 2023
Your mother only wants whats best for you, let’s see a picture of the girl first

Is she loyal?

Why I’m I feeling like you don’t know the value of what you have until it’s gone

See as you’re describing olosho qualities as your choice of marriage

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Jeon(f): 5:49pm On Dec 30, 2023
grin
This is why I laugh out loud whenever Men said "looks doesn't matter, it's all about character"


Looks matters, if you like call me shallow, IDC.

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Chachamiliano: 5:51pm On Dec 30, 2023
Have you married her in:

1. Church
2. Court
3. Tradition?

With this answer, I will know what to say
Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by obinna58(m): 5:51pm On Dec 30, 2023
Jeon:
grin
This is why I laugh out loud whenever Men said "looks doesn't matter, it's all about character"

Character is more important than looks

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Re: My Mom Has Made Me Miserable! She Denied Me Happiness by Coolsat(m): 5:51pm On Dec 30, 2023
Chioma1989:
So sad! See how you described the innocent girl. She may not even be the way you described her but you chose those descriptions to fit your narrative. A mother cannot be that insensitive to arrange that kind of a girl for her son. Those "tushed" and classic girls you are yearning for may not even find you attractive or you may not fit into their lifestyle. Please, come close to your wife and cherish her. Raise her to your so called standards. She may even outshine you later in life. Value and cherish her and tell her she means so much to you and watch how she will double her love and do everything to impress you. I feel for her, seriously. It is always depressing being in love with someone that doesn't love you or just tolerating you. I guess she must be from a poor background and marrying you is her first time of being to the city. This kind of girl will later turn out to be your backbone.
She doesn't love him but just want marriage as a means to an end

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