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crisubanijunior:
if you like take my advice, if u like dont. u see that male friends u call bestie? they will only end up destroying your relationship. weda u like it or not, it is all shades of wrong to keep male friends while in a relationship. i am not saying you shouldnt talk to male folks because u are in a relationship. but u see that thing u people call bestie? it is just a timebomb waiting for a trigger. as a matter of fact, no serious minded lady would even think of such. let me even ask u, how will you feel getting to know that your supposed boyfriend has a female bestie? just ponder on it. i dont even want to comment about the part of you not warming the food and how a friend took you out. i can boldly respond to this because i have been on this phase. a young lady i loved so much ended what seemed rosy to us all because of this Bestie syndrome. today, she is trying to find her way back, but unfortunately, she still reasons and behaves like a teen. no insults meant, but for u to even bring this up, you are a teenager and not fit for a relationship. the day u move out of the bestie syndrone, thats when ur pathway to a successful relationship starts.

Do u care for a bottle of Budweiser? That's how a certain grl almost deceive me into accepting her maintain a relationship she referred to as bestie. I warned her and she promised to quit. Started marriage preparation only to discover that they r fucking mate and d other bestie was always d one contacting her for d other guy who's married with three kids. I called off d tm immediately and she's trying effortless to return. Today alone, she's given me 4 missed calls. I just missed a bullet.

pocohantas:
Your female friends are married to SIMPS. Their kids would be screaming your name in the background? As per Ben10 abi Coco Melon?

They should also be shouting the names of their husbands female besties na.

Did your mother have a male bestie that you were shouting his name in the presence of your father?

A very useless post to prove a nonexistent point. This is how women give nonsense besties like ___ mouth to talk nonsense.

Mtcheeew!

LOL ! all those things yu no see chop for small .. you just dey use old age munch am coco melon ko coco candy nii

my dear everything should not be viewed from the perception of "competition" you go just die quick

call the men simps or whatever but i know them you don't at all , i am talking of couples that were friends even before dating ... besides those calls are behind the men but they know those calls happen

Naa my mum today ! i just hope there is someone there to serve yu ice water in bed yu will be fine

chidiokay:
LOL ! all those things yu no see chop for small .. you just dey use old age munch am coco melon ko coco candy nii

my dear everything should not be viewed from the perception of "competition" you go just die quick

call the men simps or whatever but i know them you don't at all , i am talking of couples that were friends even before dating ... besides those calls are behind the men but they know those calls happen

Naa my mum today ! i just hope there is someone there to serve yu ice water in bed yu will be fine

Oga, I just asked you a simple question. So that I will know where you learned to do bestie with married women.

1) Their husbands are simps.
2) You know their husbands are simps.
3) They (your female bestie) know their husbands are simps.
4) Both of una (you and these women) have zero respect for the man. Because there are men they dare not try it with.

Goodnight o. Bestie to married women.

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

One sure thing I know is, No serious man will take a woman with a male bestie seriously.. Except on rare occasions.

Another woman to avoid is, the one with too many male friends..She has people ready to replace her man.
Just like the scenario you explained. Male friend taking you out when you have one you called your man..
When a woman is a always available for several men, she shouldn't be a personal person for any serious guy.

pocohantas:
Oga, I just asked you a simple question. So that I will know where you learned to do bestie with married women.

1) Their husbands are simps.
2) You know their husbands are simps.
3) They (your female bestie) know their husbands are simps.
4) Both of una (you and these women) have zero respect for the man. Because there are men they dare not try it with.

Goodnight o. Bestie to married women.

if not that i know your thought towards me are of evil and ban nii .. i for say you are jelux

boya ko ni horrific nite tew

chidiokay:
LOL ! all those things yu no see chop for small .. you just dey use old age munch am coco melon ko coco candy nii

You're very dull sha, that's why you didn't understand the reference.

Cocomelon isn't even food.

Go outside and touch the grass for once.

Cocomelon is an American YouTube channel owned by the British company Moonbug Entertainment and maintained by the American company Treasure Studio. Cocomelon specializes in 3D animation videos of both traditional nursery rhymes and their own original children's songs.

Double0h7:
Two adults and not one of you could afford to buy bread and eggs for breakfast? I think you both have bigger problems than boyfriend girlfriend issues. Neither of you have any business being in a relationship if you can’t meet your most basic needs. If you get pregnant now what would you do? You better go back to your parents house and get your life in order instead of chasing little boys up and down.

You said something here, some people concern na fvck fvck only

U did everything wrong woman!
And I love what he did to U, he even do it in a polite way by allowing Ur so called bestie to take u out...rubbish!
how U go leave food make E spoil for this Tinubu regime because say U are angry?
Anyway I don't blame all these new generation and indomie girls everywhere that ain't wife materials.
May God help us! 🙏

Is it wrong for a male to keep multiple girls as friends when in a relationship!!!

The following conversation took place between me and a woman I was considering for a serious relationship, just 4 hours ago:

Me: I'm uncomfortable with women having male friends, especially you.

Her: If you don't like my choice of friends, then good luck.

This interaction made me reassess my intentions towards her. While I had initially hoped to pursue a meaningful relationship, her response indicated she wasn't willing to let go of her male friends.

This shift in perspective led me to accept her with her male friends, but it also changed my initial intentions. A serious man wouldn't typically pursue a woman who maintains close relationships with other men, unless he's a simp.

Na only me know my intention for her naw

Double0h7:
Two adults and not one of you could afford to buy bread and eggs for breakfast? I think you both have bigger problems than boyfriend girlfriend issues. Neither of you have any business being in a relationship if you can’t meet your most basic needs. If you get pregnant now what would you do? You better go back to your parents house and get your life in order instead of chasing little boys up and down.

EOD!

DND069:
Only if women really understand men, then you wouldn't argue with him on this.

There is this little fantasy men create whenever they meet women who will nurture/mother their kids. It is this fantasy that sustains how a man treats his woman[care, provision, protection, and guidance]. In order for this little fantasy not to be dismantled, he sets boundaries.

If the woman follows his rules, he wifes her up. On the other end, the moment a man meets a woman and he doesn't create the fantasy of the above mentioned, then he has only created a sexual fantasy.

In which, he doesn't set boundaries. He only wants to pipe and go. He wouldn't care if you have millions of bestie or not. He wouldn't care about your lifestyle nor your pasts. He would even encourage you to do nasty things: smoke, drugs and the likes. But in the end he doesn't need you, he only wants you at the moment.

Summary, when a man set boundaries, he wants a long term; when he doesn't set boundaries, he wants short term fun.

A very simple breakdown of basic evolutionary practices of male species all over the world and across the animal kingdom.

Thislifee:
You guy is a simp for condoning you answering a male call in his presence and going to a bestie or even having a bestie at all! If it's me, I would Bleep your pussy to my satisfaction and dump you because you belong to the street! Street dog. We all know that besties are the main lover that you sex and just deceiving your guy. Girl like you required to be poured Concentrated H2S04 or HCL acid! When am with you and you answer a male call that's not business related,I would beat the hell out of you!

This is the second time you have threatened to pour a girl acid just because of envy. The other time, it was in medical school, now this. You really have a problem o. Weren't you the same person who had financial difficulties and had to meet a NYSC friend who promised you a job if you were from the same LGA as him?

Honestly, I fear and sympathise with the non-blood-related women in your life. Any small thing, acid And to think you pursuing a PhD degree!

You yourself are you male?

We, men, have told you countless times that, given the right circumstances, we would knack you unapologetically. All it takes for the right mood to be set, and the guarantee that no long-term relationship would ensue. That's all. Even if you attempt to shift us from the friend zone, we put ourselves back there and will cling to it like our lives depend on it. As long as a steady supply of coochie is provided, we are good to go and happy in our friend zone.

Note that most men have this impulse but don't act on it. Out of 10 of your male friends, 8 will shift your pants in the right circumstances. Of the remaining two, one no rate you at all....the last one is just strong-willed. No be say to knack no dey him mind.

You might think you've put him in the friend zone, but on the flip side, he has put you in the Knackzone. Why don't ladies ever listen?

As the hypocrite that I am, I con get bestie, femaie bestie....

ExudeLoveToAll:
Even through sanctions you don't even have money to feed yourself, you must call your male besties to come help you.

Call them and tell them your boyfriend broke up with you and that you and that you need sex to clear your head and see their responses.

Thier responses will tell you why your boyfriend wouldn't buy any of those rubbish ideas of having male besties. Females mainly want male besties for doing boyfriend duties when they are not actually dating those male friends. Whenever the relationship breaks there is always a male besties that will take over the duties of the boyfriend, is like having a pool of people willing to date you after you brake up with your partner.

exactly, they keep them as backup plan

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

You are not a wise person. It will soon dawn on you

Even for school we get unserious students

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

You did nothing wrong dear... The guy saw you as a potential wife material, someone he wants to spend the rest of his life with but you are soooo not it, at least not yet.

Kudos to him for not being a Simp..

Makes no sense. It is wrong…!

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

I once had a female bestie and she took me way serious compare to her guy. The guy kept complaining until he broke up with her. She learnt the hard way because we are no longer close meanwhile the guy was very serious with her then. If you don't adjust yourself, you will lose any potential suitor in the name of keeping male friends or bestie.

Kilometres:
You will end up having sex with him.

It has happened to me.

My girl has this guy as friend and any time I tease her with him she would say never even in her dreams.

You know what? When dey started having sex, I didn't know... but later found out from her phone and she confessed it.

She said I was the reason... that each time I make her angry she would cry to the guy's arm.

I could have sworn by anything that my girl can never have something to do with that guy... even if she was going to cheat, I could swear it would be with some other guy not that her bestie

They're like that generally, very hypocritical.
My wife, during our dating phase had so many male friends, uncountable. Guess what? Only one out of her numerous male friends didn't ask her out.

Gerrard59:
This is the second time you have threatened to pour a girl acid just because of envy. The other time, it was in medical school, now this. You really have a problem o. Weren't you the same person who had financial difficulties and had to meet a NYSC friend who promised you a job if you were from the same LGA as him?

Honestly, I fear and sympathise with the non-blood-related women in your life. Any small thing, acid And to think you pursuing a PhD degree!

I didn't have enough money then to buy slot of lecturer as a lecturer in college of medicine in the so university I wanted after my school mate couldn't help me with employment through his father that was a VC. But I practice as a doctor but I want to be a professor of medicine one day.

u just dodged a very big missile bro. I just wish and hope most girls grow up and learn. but unfortunately they will not bro.

buiquiey:
A good question.. Will you allow your boyfriend or husband also keep female freinds? You have the answers already in your heart, then if it suits you then fire down..

Simple jare

You reason like me bro

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

Sorry to ask how old are you now

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

look at this rubbish? What friendship join a man and a woman. If that guy as you called him begin to have female so called friends, how will you feel?

advanceDNA:
See madam...no gree for anybody this year...

Why will u want to be considerate or compromise ur own enjoyment because of anybody's feelings ??

...why will a guy thats dating not want you to be with other guys.??
..does he think those guys want you?? How can those guys be sexually attracted to you??..they are just ordinary men and they respect ur boyfriend..

Enjoy urself abeg ... Don't let anybody stress you.....

see advice. I know your types.
What stop her from making her guy her friend, what friendship join a man and a woman.
It can never happen with me, I will just let you go.
Go and continue your friendship let me get a serious girl that knows what she wants.
That practice of man friend or woman friend can never happen with me.

Gracelander:
I just had to ask this question because it's been causing issues between me and my guy. He doesn't seem comfortable at all with me having male friends and he throws tantrums each time I visit my bestie. He even tells me to my face that he doesn't trust me, so he scrutinize every move I make.

Each time I answer calls from male friends with him around it leads to him nagging about how much I don't respect him and it's not as if I talk dirty or tell them that I love them, just friendly conversations. We had a slight issue last night cos I came over to see him and stay for a week before leaving, I didnt warm the food out of anger and it got spoilt this morning. When I told him about the food he told me that it was supposed to be our breakfast so that means no food this morning.

I had to chat one of my friends and he agreed to take me out, I dressed up and left the house and he sent me a message not to return to his house. Did I do something wrong?

If he does the same thing, will you like it?

uba1991:
see advice. I know your types.
What stop her from making her guy her friend, what friendship join a man and a woman.
It can never happen with me, I will just let you go.
Go and continue your friendship let me get a serious girl that knows what she wants.
That practice of man friend or woman friend can never happen with me.

Lol...What is paining u here naa..why are u taking paracetamol over another woman's headache...when a woman thinks shes smart and wants to eat her cake and keep it.....let her shoot her self in the leg naa

So u expect me to be advising an adult not to do what what will make her lose in the end
... Noooo....that era don pass.... We are in the era of go and kill urself by urself

Prettychild:
If he does the same thing, will you like it?

You don't ask women that kinda question...
Women are not wired to br logical over their emotions

advanceDNA:
Lol...What is paining u here naa..why are u taking paracetamol over another woman's headache...when a woman thinks shes smart and wants to eat her cake and keep it.....let her shoot her self in the leg naa

So u expect me to be advising an adult not to do what what will make her lose in the end
... Noooo....that era don pass.... We are in the era of go and kill urself by urself

sorry for misunderstanding you