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Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by SIXFEETUNDER: 4:27am On Feb 24 |
You're soft on her. Show her who's boss and lay down the law. A good spanking never hurt anyone
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Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by smat101(m): 4:47am On Feb 24 |
Mrperfecto:She is your daughter, I will advice that any decision you're taking should be based on Love. Do it because you genuinely love her and want her to become a better person in future.I'll further recommend one of the best boarding secondary here in Nigeria CHOKMAH int Academy, Why I am recommending this school is because it doesn't only inculcate Academy excellence but also imparts the child behavior positively. I can help you make inquiries on admission process for free. All the best Sir. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Elzazzi: 6:11am On Feb 24 |
Zupay: Choi Wahala lol |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Zupay: 6:48am On Feb 24 |
zumbigbo: Na yarn abi, send the pikin go rural school, make we how social workers go allow you live comfortably, e sure me die say dem go first suspend you from work, begin interrogating your wife and other children, pray make ur wife no go fold and tell dem say she no agree with you take una pikin go village but you insisted, u and dat your wife and other children no go live inside the same house again because social workers go tag you a danger to your family.....u think say na 9ja u dey? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by GboyegaD(m): 7:00am On Feb 24 |
Kaido: Are you a parent? 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Zupay: 7:07am On Feb 24 |
Ishilove: That is why the OP is in a fix. If he sends the daughter back to Nigeria, e go explain tire to the authorities and they must do video call with the girl where she is in Nigeria and interview her and we know she would say anything to find herself back in that Country and when she returns, she will longer live with her family anymore and OP knows he is at risk of losing his other children. My wife works in social care and always says UK govt agencies usually raises eyebrow when a female teenager leaves the UK on holiday and don't return. 2 possibilities usually come to their mind, it is either the girl has been married off or taken to be circumcised and the schools drill these into the heads of their children, emails and phone numbers they can use if they find themselves taken out of the UK and left behind in their home country against their wish. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by okerekingsley90: 7:26am On Feb 24 |
Houseontherock1: Beet advise so far!!! bros OP SEE ADVISE HERE 2 Likes |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by okerekingsley90: 7:28am On Feb 24 |
[quote author=Zupay post=128617744] That is why the OP is in a fix. If he sends the daughter back to Nigeria, e go explain tire to the authorities and they must do video call with the girl where she is in Nigeria and interview her and we know she would say anything to find herself back in that Country and when she returns, she will longer live with her family anymore and OP knows he is at risk of losing his other children. My wife works in social care and always says UK govt agencies usually raises eyebrow when a female teenager leaves the UK on holiday and don't return. 2 possibilities usually come to their mind, it is either the girl has been married off or taken to be circumcised and the schools drill these into the heads of their children, emails and phone numbers they can use if they find themselves taken out of the UK and left behind in their home country against their wish. I have learnt something here I would never send my children to schools abroad at an early age they must be grown at least done with sec sch before they go 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by okerekingsley90: 7:32am On Feb 24 |
SIXFEETUNDER: Oga think before you comment. OP isn't in Nigeria. That's why his hands are tied 7 Likes |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Psady(m): 8:13am On Feb 24 |
gaby:please let's leave out that part of pikin wey wan dey controllable,if the foundation of upbringing is bad the result is waywardness. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Cassandraloius: 8:49am On Feb 24 |
phorget: This will work 💯 |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Psady(m): 8:53am On Feb 24 |
Op! Sit her down and talk to her, she's Ur daughter for God's sake, dare not bring her to this country ,bringing her here know u lost a daughter,so many of her kind are here I can tell u they get worse ,destroyed themselves with the use of drugs . Get a therapist or counsellor that can unravel her inner mind.She needs love and care most,your job may not allow u that but the little time u got try bond with her and the rest of your kids. Your case can't be so worse, there are milion of families facing same , so deal with URS. Let her stepmother allow her space space till u able to calm the situation,u will need to put her as a priority project,dont let this get over heads ,time will heal situation quicker of we apply the right decisions . I MUST SAY AGAIN, DON'T SEND HER HOME. 4 Likes |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by DonXavi(m): 9:13am On Feb 24 |
Mrperfecto:Deceive her that you are going for a visit to Nigeria, may be for a wedding or any other function and once you arrive naija, you let her know that she won't be going back with you for now. This is what I did to my son and brought him from Spain to Africa. He was 14 then and was becoming a problem to us and everybody, but we strategized a means, telling he'll be coming to Africa for a wedding, we only let him know he wasn't going back to Spain after 2 weeks of his arrival. Right now, he is in boarding school in Owerri, and the information I get about him from my people he stays with whenever he is on vacation, is that his behavior has changed a lot. 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by henrimoto(m): 9:28am On Feb 24 |
brain54:Leave the OP to do what he has in mind to do. If the said Girl was to be your child, you can do it your way. ...Them dey tell you say, Pikin dey spoil, wan put him papa for trouble...you dey talk your own. ...which kind girl Pikin be that ? ...wey school go close around 3-4 pm, na 6 - 7 pm she go dey come back house. See, Them say " When bird learn to fly without perching on a tree branch, the hunter too will learn how to shoot without missing" ..@OP, do that which you have in mind to do. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by henrimoto(m): 9:32am On Feb 24 |
DonXavi:...@ Donxavi, are you from Ebonyi State ? |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by descarado: 9:42am On Feb 24 |
Very bad dad from your write up. She is behaving bad She comes home late She don't listen to my wife She will be a bad influence. She said my wife is not her mother. This young girl is telling you something but you have refused to listen. See how easy it is for you to want her send to Nigeria so you can breath fresh air. As she is not a product of your union. Send the girl to her mum or her mum's family. There is a reason court always give custody of kids like that to mum cos mum will always treat them better than dad. If you had been showing love to that girl including your wife, she will not be avoiding home. You don't even make out time for her yet you are the reason she is in your house. Her only connection. Shame on you. Did I read you might be tempted to beat her up. So easy to straf without condom but the responsibility that comes with it, we don't want to be part of it. Be a dad to your little girl and stop being a coward. Let your girl see you as her friend and confidant, somebody she can mess around with, come to with school problem. Somebody she can cry to and look up to with love. Not a monster cos that's what you and the rest of the family are to her. And oh, rough handling brings out more rebellion and negativity. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by DonXavi(m): 9:49am On Feb 24 |
henrimoto:I am not from Ebonyi State, but my wife is. Why did you ask? 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by lebron7(m): 9:59am On Feb 24 |
Mrperfecto:You know, when I read the headline I was getting mad at you already, but after reading it, I understand the pain you are going through. Your ex wife and present wife... are they Nigerians? I think you should send her back to Nigeria, but NOT to a boarding school. If your mom is available it would be a good option. She needs someone to be very present in her life and unfortunately you can't be right now. Wish you good luck and take it easy. Peace 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by henrimoto(m): 10:30am On Feb 24 |
DonXavi:I have heard a similar story like this... Same from Spain, ... A son too but it's from a third party I heard of it. You know anyone from Edda? Sorry for too many questions. 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by AbuTwins: 10:52am On Feb 24 |
You'll soon become a grandparent! |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by BarrElChapo(m): 10:53am On Feb 24 |
Mrperfecto: Send her back to Nigeria, you'd be saving her life. Boarding house sef she might be spoilt. Let her go to a day school, where whomever she'll live with can watch her closely and punish her if need be. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by tctrills: 10:54am On Feb 24 |
Kaido:Let's stop blaming UK for bad parenting. There are many good kids in UK and the US. If you are thinking of sending your kid to another person to train, you have failed. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by sacajawea: 10:54am On Feb 24 |
Almost Everybody that has commented so far and said rubbish! Smh |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by xexofe1741(m): 10:54am On Feb 24 |
No one will take care of your biological child better than you. Let her be under your watchful eyes and try to understand the reason for her actions. Keep talking to her with love! 4 Likes |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by MichaelSokoto(m): 10:55am On Feb 24 |
OP, u sabi land pikin better obara Chineke hottt sllapp? I think u should practice on dat skill fes! |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by lapintoz: 10:55am On Feb 24 |
My advice is to send her back to Nigeria till she finishes secondary school. Look for a good missionary secondary school with strong disciplinary ethics. She will change. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Emman08: 10:55am On Feb 24 |
Give her small grace to know the reality of what she'll face in Nigeria. If she refuses to adjust, boarding school immediately. Military school in fact. Air force Girls Military School, Jos straight! She must learn discipline 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by gaskiyamagana: 10:56am On Feb 24 |
Mrperfecto:Do that quick, quick. Let her come and receive Tinublation treatments, she will come back to her sense. 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by JuanDeDios: 10:56am On Feb 24 |
immortalcrown:Important question. I'd like to know if the girl was born in Nigeria or over there before I can proffer a solution. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by money121(m): 10:57am On Feb 24 |
Otilor |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by RadiantGlow: 10:57am On Feb 24 |
Where is Christ in all these? If Christ was in that home, this wouldn't have happened. The whole family needs Christ (not religion, please). "Train up a child in the way he should go..." Let her watch this: https://www.divinerevelations.info/documents/7_jovenes/english_7_jovenes_hell.htm 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by flokii: 10:58am On Feb 24 |
What usually gives abroad dwellers the impression that sending a terrible child back to Nigeria will automatically make them better?.. are you guys subtly admitting that the Nigerian system still has some good sides or what? 2 Likes |
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