So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

Noooo, imagine it was your sister or mum, imagine she got raped

She deserve it for dealing with a low bum
Dustie like you.

Hopefully she is young and she will learn because some of them have no self worth and self love left in them.

Just imagine this fucker…y.

You have done Well sir, please Kindly accept the New title called NONSIMP Man of the year

eddynaira125:
You have done Well sir, please Kindly accept the New title called NONSIMP Man of the year

Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

The only selfish person I see here is you...

It's a good thing you seem to realize your mistake.

Make apology and more importantly amend your way!

That's really bad of you... You shouldn't have allow your emotions to control you... Imagine if she was shot or got.kidnapped... will you now goes to her grave to seek for forgiveness.... You need to go and apologize to her and let her know you have realized your mistake and it won't happen again

You are mentally unstable.

brain54:
The only selfish person I see here is you...

Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

AyobamiOluwole:


Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

You can work on your anger...

AndrewTate:
You are mentally unstable.

Thank you but pls tell me how pls. And also consider that I did this out of frustration from a trade loss and anger.
Share me your perspective,I'll really appreciate.

nifemi25:
That's really bad of you... You shouldn't have allow your emotions to control you... Imagine if she was shot or got.kidnapped... will you now goes to her grave to seek for forgiveness.... You need to go and apologize to her and let her know you have realized your mistake and it won't happen again

Thank you very much. This is why I like Nairaland. Honest opinions is what you get here. I must admit I felt very foolish after doing that. Now I see it that I've lost her for life. And that she will have the impression that I don't value her life or her for sending her outside at that time. Damn. I have done many bad things out of anger. I really regret this.

So much gaslighting in the comments above me

She knew what she was coming for and she came for that purpose, only to chicken out at the last minute. It’s normal as a human to feel frustrated and believe you’ve been played on. Sending her out to create space for another female who is more than willing is fair if you ask me.
I mean she says that’s not what she’s here for

So telling her someone who is here for that is around and won’t be comfortable seeing her, anyone would understand that logic.

Now to the part of throwing her out with no money, take to mind you’ve been generous to her in the past. Most girls go around with the so called “vex money” and I’m guessing that’s what she fell back on, otherwise she would have given in to your requests for a simple cuddling and all would have been well.

Don’t allow any vaginarian manipulate you for any reason, all you asked for was a cuddle. That girl is having her brains banged out on a daily by a guy who is not doing even half of what you’ve done for her and that’s the irony of life.

My peace I leave you

AyobamiOluwole:


Thank you but pls tell me how pls. And also consider that I did this out of frustration from a trade loss and anger.
Share me your perspective,I'll really appreciate.

Her body for you to just chose to “cuddle” with is crazy…. Your spending on her was never pre-agreed to be one with strings attached so keep it that way. You want to “cuddle” with her cos you’re sad about your business? and not because you’re both in an intimate relationship. What is a woman to you?
If you can’t continue what you’ve started without keeping your hands off her then end it all or formally propose love to her and be in a proper relationship. Women are valuable humans too!! Geeeeeezzzz
Having to explain this is crazy sad!!!

You are wrong and it doesn't speak well of you. Based on how you define she is just someone you assist with one thing or the other, no intimacy or whatever connection attached you now call her one day to cuddle and probably lay with her. Haba would you have succumb to it if it was to be you

Not all persons are cool with friends with benefits kind of thing. I'm glad your conscious took a better part. Please apologize for sending her out that late in the night

Look I understand your situation. It's only a trader that will understand what u went thru.
I lost serious money yesterday on forex trading, if not that I have built a high level of inner strength to contain loss I would have done same u did or more.
She wasn't considerate you told her about your loss and need and she just came to leech on you. Don't apologize she is a very selfish person.
Had u injured or harmed yourself as a result of frustration and pain what would be her response.

AndrewTate:
Her body for you to just chose to “cuddle” with is crazy…. Your spending on her was never pre-agreed to be one with strings attached so keep it that way. You want to “cuddle” with her cos you’re sad about your business? and not because you’re both in an intimate relationship. What is a woman to you?
If you can’t continue what you’ve started without keeping your hands off her then end it all or formally propose love to her and be in a proper relationship. Women are valuable humans too!! Geeeeeezzzz
Having to explain this is crazy sad!!!

You are right. I only felt it was not too much to ask for.

AyobamiOluwole:


You are right. I only felt it was not too much to ask for.

well it is! And more disgustingly DISRESPECTFUL to you as a responsible man and to her as a woman.

funkemary:
You are wrong and it doesn't speak well of you. Based on how you define she is just someone you assist with one thing or the other, no intimacy or whatever connection attached you now call her one day to cuddle and probably lay with her. Haba would you have succumb to it if it was to be you

Not all persons are cool with friends with benefits kind of thing. I'm glad your conscious took a better part. Please apologize for sending her out that late in the night

You are right. I was just frustrated that I felt it wasn't much to ask for. I felt she was just so selfish to even care for me. She knew I wasn't happy and I all I need was just a little comfort. I lost about $1,500. I was very sad the whole of that day. I wish you may understand me.

The part I sent her out is the part I just don't get why I did it. I really regret it.

AyobamiOluwole:


Thank you very much. This is why I like Nairaland. Honest opinions is what you get here. I must admit I felt very foolish after doing that. Now I see it that I've lost her for life. And that she will have the impression that I don't value her life or her for sending her outside at that time. Damn. I have done many bad things out of anger. I really regret this.

Don't mind all those peeps nailing you. In the public every body just want to condemn you no body really cares about you.

Should I tell you what my wife did for me?
She noticed my mood.
Came and hugged me and told me don't worry you will win another day.
Made food and gave me
When the child was disturbing my eating time she called them off
Served me chilled drink
And faced the fan to my side.
After some minutes I felt better and energized.

That girl has lost a good friend
A Friend in need is a Friend indeed.
You needed her then and she didn't show up for you.

hopeforcharles:
Look I understand your situation. It's only a trader that will understand what u went thru.
I lost serious money yesterday on forex trading, if not that I have built a high level of inner strength to contain loss I would have done same u did or more.
She wasn't considerate you told her about your loss and need and she just came to leech on you. Don't apologize she is a very selfish person.
Had u injured or harmed yourself as a result of frustration and pain what would be her response.

Great you understand me. I'm talking about $1500, that's about #2.1million. Yes I was mad and frustrated but why should I send her out that time of the night. This is my regret.

With the exception of Noah's comment, every other comment above is trash ...

You told her exactly why you wanted her, she agreed and she came ...

If she's chickening out at the last minute, then she should leave for someone else to come in and fulfil that need - simple! ...

The only issue I see here is you not kicking her outta your crib sooner! ...

Once she started her nonsense, you would've sent her parking - but alas! It's better late than never ...

hopeforcharles:

Don't mind all those peeps nailing you. In the public every body just want to condemn you no body really cares about you.

Should I tell you what my wife did for me?
She noticed my mood.
Came and hugged me and told me don't worry you will win another day.
Made food and gave me
When the child was disturbing my eating time she called them off
Served me chilled drink
And faced the fan to my side.
After some minutes I felt better and energized.

That girl has lost a good friend
A Friend in need is a Friend indeed.
You needed her then and she didn't show up for you.

He needs her? So her body is what she should just give up to any “friend” who needs it for comfort?
If your “wife” told you she used to give her body up for cuddling to her “good friends in need” before you married I doubt you’ll be proud of that.

hopeforcharles:

Don't mind all those peeps nailing you. In the public every body just want to condemn you no body really cares about you.

Should I tell you what my wife did for me?
She noticed my mood.
Came and hugged me and told me don't worry you will win another day.
Made food and gave me
When the child was disturbing my eating time she called them off
Served me chilled drink
And faced the fan to my side.
After some minutes I felt better and energized.

That girl has lost a good friend
A Friend in need is a Friend indeed.
You needed her then and she didn't show up for you.

Wow. This is how I saw it to be honest. It wasn't a difficult thing I asked. In that moment I only needed someone to comfort me. A cuddle was the only thing I could think of. How could she not see it that way? And my anger was so bad I acted foolishly. 😔

NoahHadNoArk:
So much gaslighting in the comments above me

She knew what she was coming for and she came for that purpose, only to chicken out at the last minute. It’s normal as a human to feel frustrated and believe you’ve been played on. Sending her out to create space for another female who is more than willing is fair if you ask me.
I mean she says that’s not what she’s here for

So telling her someone who is here for that is around and won’t be comfortable seeing her her, anyone would understand that logic.

Now to the part of throwing her out with no money, take to mind you’ve been generous to her in the past. Most girls go around with the so called “vex money” and I’m guessing that’s what she fell back on, otherwise she would have given in to your requests for a simple cuddling and all would have been well.

Don’t allow any vaginarian manipulate you for any reason, all you asked for was a cuddle. That girl is having her brains banged out on a daily by a guy who is not doing even half of what you’ve done for her and that’s the irony of life.

My peace I leave you

Thanks, I wish I can like this comment a million times.

AndrewTate:
Her body for you to just chose to “cuddle” with is crazy…. Your spending on her was never pre-agreed to be one with strings attached so keep it that way. You want to “cuddle” with her cos you’re sad about your business? and not because you’re both in an intimate relationship. What is a woman to you?
If you can’t continue what you’ve started without keeping your hands off her then end it all or formally propose love to her and be in a proper relationship. Women are valuable humans too!! Geeeeeezzzz
Having to explain this is crazy sad!!!

Thanks for your honest opinion. But Bro, you're forgetting she told me she is coming to my place for something like that. Why not see from that perspective too.

I really bleeped up sending her out at that time of the night. But I felt that was the only way to teach her a lesson. 😔

AyobamiOluwole:


Great you understand me. I'm talking about $1500, that's about #2.1million. Yes I was mad and frustrated but why should I send her out that time of the night. This is my regret.

Because her been there would increase your hurt and at that time you need a healing touch which she is not ready to give u. Do u know people do kill themselves because of losses like this? What if what it takes to keep them alive or make them have hope is cuddling and she was in the position to do that what would you think would have happened?

And stop been guilty tripped by those Lilly selfish people up there acting all holier-than-thou I am sure they will do more even worst.
I have lost thousands of usd on crypto and forex I understand what you went thru.
Just make sure u cut your losses in time because I was hoping it will come back to my entry and it never did.
So stop crying over spilled milk and man up

This is petty and funny.

Fahvvy:
With the exception of Noah's comment, every other comment above is trash ...

You told her exactly why you wanted her, she agreed and she came ...

If she's chickening out at the last minute, then she should leave for someone else to come in and fulfil that need - simple! ...

The only issue I see here is you not kicking her outta your crib sooner! ...

Once she started her nonsense, you would've sent her parking - but alas! It's better late than never ...

The mistakes of this generation are plenty… one of them is young men not having the right knowledge about women.
Women are not as decisive as men, they are softer and more “child like” no matter how hard they try to portray themselves as. I’m sure from the moment he said that to her deep down she was troubled cos she didn’t want to do that but now she can hardly say no cos she has put herself in that situation by ignoring her gut feeling which has probably told her it was a bad idea to keep receiving things from a man she wasn’t in any form of intimate relationship with. Some girls would be able to fight through and struggle with their conscience and allow him have his way then feel damned deep within there after and keep devaluing themselves leading to other acts of self destruction after that. But she couldn’t do it.
The thought process of men is very different from that of women. Women need a lot more guidance from care. As for men, the universe wouldn’t even cut you a slack before you face the consequences instantly and there’s only betterment as a result. But for women the damage is mostly permanent.

Treat women with more care and love today lads! She’s someone’s little girl 📌

hopeforcharles:

Because her been there would increase your hurt and at that time you need a healing touch which she is not ready to give u. Do u know people do kill themselves because of losses like this? What if what it takes to keep them alive or make them have hope is cuddling and she was in the position to do that what would you think would have happened?

And stop been guilty tripped by those Lilly selfish people up there acting all holier-than-thou I am sure they will do more even worst.
I have lost thousands of usd on crypto and forex I understand what you went thru.
Just make sure u cut your losses in time because I was hoping it will come back to my entry and it never did.
So stop crying over spilled milk and man up

Thank you very much..

AndrewTate:
The mistakes of this generation are plenty… one of them is young men not having the right knowledge about women.
Women are not as decisive as men, they are softer and more “child like” no matter how hard they try to portray themselves as. I’m sure from the moment he said that to her deep down she was troubled cos she didn’t want to do that but now she can hardly say no cos she has put herself in that situation by ignoring her gut feeling which has probably told her it was a bad idea to keep receiving things from a man she wasn’t in any form of intimate relationship with. Some girls would be able to fight through and struggle with their conscience and allow him have his way then feel damned deep within there after and keep devaluing themselves leading to other acts of self destruction after that. But she couldn’t do it.
The thought process of men is very different from that of women. Women need a lot more guidance from care. As for men, the universe wouldn’t even cut you a slack before you face the consequences instantly and there’s only betterment as a result. But for women the damage is mostly permanent.

Treat women with more care and love today lads! She’s someone’s little girl 📌

AyobamiOluwole this is your answer to your last mention of me.

AndrewTate:
The mistakes of this generation are plenty… one of them is young men not having the right knowledge about women.
Women are not as decisive as men, they are softer and more “child like” no matter how hard they try to portray themselves as. I’m sure from the moment he said that to her deep down she was troubled cos she didn’t want to do that but now she can hardly say no cos she has put herself in that situation by ignoring her gut feeling which has probably told her it was a bad idea to keep receiving things from a man she wasn’t in any form of intimate relationship with. Some girls would be able to fight through and struggle with their conscience and allow him have his way then feel damned deep within there after and keep devaluing themselves leading to other acts of self destruction after that. But she couldn’t do it.
The thought process of men is very different from that of women. Women need a lot more guidance from care. As for men, the universe wouldn’t even cut you a slack before you face the consequences instantly and there’s only betterment as a result. But for women the damage is mostly permanent.

Treat women with more care and love today lads! She’s someone’s little girl 📌

But she came to my place for that reason Bro. Pls get that part. She came to my house for that reason.


I get what you are saying to be true. But how could she do something like to me when she knew she was coming for a cuddle.

If you tell me I did wrong sending her out, I will agree without any doubt. But you see the issue of "she didn't want to do" is just infuriating cos to me I felt like I was been played. I felt she just came for the comfort of it and just being unnecessarily selfish.