pretydiva:
Zero pressure✌️

zero pressure abi bad character and the inability to communicate socially as an introvert.

concho:


You go explain tire !!!

I was waiting for the part where you would say that he is now the current MD or owner of a multinational

Your father started suffering from 19 and still suffering bro


He will soon get a third wife to elongate the chain in your tale


You and your siblings who look same age as him are his evidence of success right ?

Or the kids from his second wife running around him ??

Are they his evidence ??

I pity who go take this advise .
I hope you married at 15 ? Since your dad’s approach is the best

Now, this right here is a sign of brain fault! Did you skip the part where I said "Life doesn't come with a manual?". Where did I say early child bearing is the best? Perhaps the humiliation that your whole family suffered from STERLING BANK tampered with your cerebral capacity. Shey your brain dey shake ni?

That your own father finally had you at 49 after 'hustling' to attain his imaginary "millionaire status" doesn't mean everyone's father will tow the same line. What the fvck is wrong with you products of incestuous relationships self? Must you always combat everyone to their opinion?

Raising a child can be challenging but it's not 'suffering'. A harebrained creature like you with a congenital inability to reason properly wouldn't understand that. Whether you get married early in life or you did it late, it's your choice. And the last time I checked, there's no conventional age for child bearing or parenting. Why must you dimw1ts always hyperventilate on other people's mention? Can't you take your frustration elsewhere?

Forgive my manners as this is the most civil way that I can reply you. Next time, there'll be no holds barred. Stay away from my mentions, I get hot temper.

Chingyyy878:
People in their 30s with no kids and single, do you worry about being old parents ?

I sure say most of una dey panic but una go deny

😂

ufotty2001:
Am 38yrs. I have 2 houses in different locations, with a plot somewhere else. I have built my business that gives me returns of atleast a million naira monthly. I have no wife, no child and am searching.

Then for u it's either stringent family expectations or u're looking for perfect miss right.

VinnyBaba:


It is Actually, The cost of Maintaining a Home.😒

Rent
Electricity bills.
GOTV
Gas
Diaper
School fees.
Etc.😟

Young Men should be very Financially Ready before going into Marriage,
because in Africa, All Responsibility is for the Man.

Woman own na to Born pickin and Nurture.

I'll always advice men to marry a woman that can also bring something to the table.

Make her learn a skill that'll fetch her money if she doesn't have one.

If she has a good certificate then she can get a job, if no job, then she should have a business.

No woman should stay at home idle, after maternity leave, go back to work.

Nigeria of now needs both husband and wife to work, if not the man alone will die o.

Minimum money one person in a household can consume in a month is more than 50k.

delpee:


Please be careful. 10m isn't a fantastic sum now if you're going to UK, Canada for instance. The cost of processing your visa, travelling expenses and the need to have sufficient funds for maintenance for some months will eat all that up....that's if it's enough.

They're also experiencing high inflation and getting good jobs there is not so easy. Accommodation cost (where available) is quite huge. 5-10m is sufficient to start something here depending on your preferences. I thought the POS business is lucrative. Probably, you need to learn proper management skills and add some other business lines to your portfolio.

You are smart, how come you are still single?

Elzazzi:


Bro calm down na. I supported your response to the guy you replied.
That's why I said i didn't bother to reply him becos it doesn't makes sense. Look at the monikers again

Lol

I didn’t even check the username. Sorry boss

iammolise:


Then for u it's either stringent family expectations or u're looking for perfect miss right.

this mentality of I must be rich before I get married is wrong

concho:
Lol

I didn’t even check the username. Sorry boss

I understand boss.

barrydee:
This OP is not wise at all.
Africa needs to grow beyond this mindset. Having a wife and kids is not an achievement but a fulfillment which by the way, different people have their own definition of fulfillment.

If you are a man in your 30s living in a difficult country like Nigeria, i advise you chase the bread to better your life & your future. If you stumble on a good woman while at it, you can marry her but if you allow societal pressure to make you marry one of these damaged, unproductive, & useless slay queens who are liabilities as a wife, sorry na your name.

You can still get married in your late 30s or early 40s and live a fulfilled life & by the time you are in your 60s, your kids would be in their eaely 20s keeping you company, running erands for you and making you happy while you relax and groom them to takeover your business/empire aince you utilized your youthful era to make some good investments.

Unlike those niggas who got married in their 20s using all their energy as youths just to fend, suffer and provide for the family. By the time they hit 60, no major investments, their kids have all abandoned them to begin their own lives/families making them feel lonely and abandoned. Only few lucky ones get regular visits, care and gifts from their kids at this point.
That's if their wives don't turn their kids against them.

The thread ends officially after this comment!
I don't care to read anything others are writing or typing after this!!!

I'm out!!!!!

ravensckar:
Now, this right here is a sign of brain fault! Did you skip the part where I said "Life doesn't come with a manual?".

That your own father finally had you at 49 after 'hustling' to attain his imaginary "millionaire status" doesn't mean everyone's father will tow the same line. What the fvck is wrong with you product of an incestuous relationships gan self? Must you combat everyone to their opinion?

Raising a child can be challenging but it's not 'suffering'. A harebrained creature like you with a congenital inability to reason properly wouldn't understand what the word 'OBLIGATION' means. Whether you got married early in life or you did it late, it's your choice. And the last time I checked, there's no conventional age for child bearing or parenting. Why must you dimw1ts always combat other people to their opinions?

Forgive my manners as this is the most civil way that I can reply you. Next time, there'll be no holds barred. Stay away from my mentions, I get hot temper o.

Omo , I pity your papa

Started giving birth at 19 and still giving birth till today

You people should contribute and get him a third wife .

Has spent 90% of his lifetime on top a woman

toujurs:
tbh, and this is what has happened in most marriages today. That's why you hear about a lot of break up.

Some men think, because they now have money. It could buy a woman love and respect. Unknown to the man that, after 3 years of squandering his money. That money won't freak her anymore. Because she is now used to the lifestyle.

Nigerian men, tolerate too many nonsense, from Nigerian women.

@bolded. Too many weak men are being groomed today. That's why many men are raising kids that isn't theirs all because they married whoores

concho:


Omo , I pity your papa

Started giving birth at 19 and still giving birth till today

You people should contribute and get him a third wife .

Has spent 90% of his lifetime on top a woman

Lolz. Person wey dem suppose pity self dey pity person.

You're pitying a man who has successfully raised his kids to enviable heights whereas na your mama STERLING BANK dey drag like TIGER GENERATOR because of debt. What irony!

I'm 100% sure that your mother cannot have a child like me and still be borrowing from STERLING BANK. Talk less of being dragged to the Police Station like person wey thief phone.

I see why you're attacking people who married early because it's now obvious that you're of no use to your own mother. Hence, you don't believe in having children. Such a piece of sh1t! Meanwhile, shey your mama don pay STERLING BANK the debt? Or you need nairalanders to organize a GO FUNDME to that effect?

At least, my papa no dey owe anybody shishi. He's in his house enjoying his life. Can you say the same about your mother?


Quote me again and I'll send you to depression with my reply. Sho lo stvpid ni?

ravensckar:
You're very wrong but you just didn't realize it. The first rule of life is that; life doesn't come with a PAST QUESTION, MANUAL or INSTRUCTION BOOKLET. Na trial & error everybody dey do.

My point- both early and late marriages have their advantages and disadvantages. Anyone that works for you, practice it. Life is a foreign language afterall, everyone mispronounces it.

Said it all 👍
Life no get head or tail so live it as it comes at you. Good or bad. Under pressure or with no pressure. Just be positive through it all

obaidan:

So what is wrong with it. Let's focus of on how people raise their kids, not when they have/had those kids. It is really desirable to have your kid as early as 23 in fact. But the reality of life is different for every individual, there are people that got married at 22, 23, 24 and they are 40 now still expecting their first child. No template for life, do as e pay u

Soooooo true!!!!!

NonsenseRubbish:

Said it all 👍
Life no get head or tail so live it as it comes at you. Good or bad. Pressured or with no pressure. Just be positive through it all

It's unadulterated f00lishness that makes people think there's any conventional rule to life. That early marriage works for A doesn't mean that it will work for B.

I hate it when people come online and try to force their opinions on others or rather combat others to their opinion. That to me is the first sign of BRAIN FAULT. My dad had his first child at 19, I had mine at 30. Does that mean he's right and I'm wrong? Absolutely not! We both lived in different times and fought different battles. Make all these ARMCHAIR CRITICS wey no dey wan hear marriage matter rest abeg.

toujurs:
zero pressure abi bad character and the inability to communicate socially as an introvert.

Ok

Holluwhakemmy, don't view this thread to avoid heartache

I married and had my kids in my mid 20's.

If I have to do it again, I will marry after 40 and have only one kid. Period.

A man in his 50s without kids has already come to terms with that and just enjoying his life. He has seen friends with 3, 4, 5 kids who died before clocking 50 and he has seen men in their 70s abandoned by kids they labored hard for. Whatever life throws at you, deal with it with happiness and stay on your lane. No one comes out of here alive. You miss nothing!

faceland:
One thing is fact.
A man in his 50 that doesn't have kids would feel something is missing (even though it is hype).

Samfloxin:
Many of them are feeling bad but the cost of marrying a woman now is very high

Actually is not cost of marrying but the cost of running family.

ravensckar:
Lolz. Person wey dem suppose pity self dey pity person.

You're pitying a man who has successfully raised his kids to enviable heights whereas na you STERLING BANK drag like TIGER GENERATOR because of debt. What irony!

You should definiteky check-in to the nearest psychiatric facility because it's obvious you have a brain fault. How far? Shey your brother don pay STERLING BANK the debt he borrowed on behalf of your mother? Or you need nairalanders to organize a GO FUNDME to that effect?

At least, my papa no dey owe anybody shishi. He's in his house enjoying his life. Can you say the same about your mother in whose name her children have become criminals?

I don’t even need to go through your profile to reply you .

Banks are drawing me like tiger generator and not my father and it has got nothing to do with marrying late or early .

It’s what we see on the road to success

My point still remains that a man that started giving birth 40 years ago and still giving birth till today is part of the problem we have in this country .

He would blame your uncle who gave birth to only 3 kids for not helping to raise his excesses .

Lastly , if your father had hope in the kids from your mum whom he chased away when she entered menopause , he won’t have any need to deceive another woman into his m*serable life

You will be shocked when he would get a third wife . Lazy men and sex are like 5 and 6

ufotty2001:
Am 38yrs. I have 2 houses in different locations, with a plot somewhere else. I have built my business that gives me returns of atleast a million naira monthly. I have no wife, no child and am searching.

You have really tried

Elegantspiker:
When I say we still have centuries to be civilised, these are the kind of thoughts I mean. Imaging someone from an advanced country asking this kind of question.

In advanced countries, many are single sad and unhappy in their old age, with regrets.

This oyinbo concept of civilization is headed to doom, destruction and ruin.
Note: Oyinbo concept, not the Kemetic African( Egyptian) concept.

Paramount01:



But they said " wife do open ways" how true is the statement

Yes, when people noticed you're married, they intend to support you. In my place of work, my salary was increased bcus I got married. You will be respected... And held in high esteem

iammolise:
SINGLE at 30 in Nigeria is as a result of many factors:
For men; MONEY, finding miss right, parents stringent expectations.

For women; RICH HUSBAND Syndrome, finding Mr right, parents stringent expectations.

As for me... I was depressed Ass4ck when i was approaching 30 in 2021, but now i just want to do me and live in peace without headache abeg. Untill I can cough out 2mill for marriage Biko make I eat well first

Men in their 30s are looking for money and comfort

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barrydee:
This OP is not wise at all.
Africa needs to grow [left][/left]beyond this mindset. Having a wife and kids is not an achievement but a fulfillment which by the way, different people have their own definition of fulfillment.

If you are a man in your 30s living in a difficult country like Nigeria, i advise you chase the bread to better your life & your future. If you stumble on a good woman while at it, you can marry her but if you allow societal pressure to make you marry one of these damaged, unproductive, & useless slay queens who are liabilities as a wife, sorry na your name.

You can still get married in your late 30s or early 40s and live a fulfilled life & by the time you are in your 60s, your kids would be in their eaely 20s keeping you company, running erands for you and making you happy while you relax and groom them to takeover your business/empire aince you utilized your youthful era to make some good investments.

Unlike those niggas who got married in their 20s using all their energy as youths just to fend, suffer and provide for the family. By the time they hit 60, no major investments, their kids have all abandoned them to begin their own lives/families making them feel lonely and abandoned. Only few lucky ones get regular visits, care and gifts from their kids at this point.
That's if their wives don't turn their kids against them.

succinctly put! Kudos for this submission.

I'm very allergic to poverty & this current crop of nigerian girls.

Why would any 30 year old man in Nigeria take on a wife who is a liability & then have kids, more mouths to feed. Most men are chasing money at 30 plus years in this country. Who has time to be taking on dependents for most likely fake love smh.
Marriage is for the woman.

A few don’t want kids at all

Chingyyy878:


Imagine having your first kid when you are almost 45

So what??