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Complexities Of Relationships by BreezyRita(f): 12:00am On Sep 29, 2014
About 90% of single ladies would wish that the relationship they get into is SERIOUS.
While. about 90% of guys are not yet ready for marriage, hence wouldn't entertain the thought of engaging in SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS. .......

.For a man to get ready for marriage, he must be convinced within himself (Without external influence) that IT IS TIME TO SETTLE DOWN. By then,

* He must have had a steady income

* He must have had a good arrangement for his own apartment. To Mention A Few.

Now, since most young men are not ready for marriage (For diverse reasons), this still does not stop them from going into relationships. Now, with the mind-set of NOT BEING READY FOR MARRIAGE, these guys can only 'sincerely' sustain AN ORDINARY RELATIoNSHIP. But most ladies see ORDINARY RELATIONSHIP as a waste of their time. Infact,If a lady discovers that her relationship is ORDINARY and leading to no-where,She would most likely quit. Unless, she decides to stay put

*for the MONEY.*for the mind-blowing INTIMACY.

*for the guy's beauty or prestige

*to cover for her loneliness.

*to solve miscellaneous needs. Etc Most ladies that become overly materialistic in their relationships do so on realizing that the relationship was actually leading to no-where. Hence, they decide to suck the guy dry. A deed that a lady that is convinced of her VERY SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP would rarely do. It is because of these above facts that SOME guys pretend to have plans for their girlfriends, when truly in their heart of hearts, they are actually on AN ORDINARY RELATIONSHIP with their girls.

*This is why heartbreaks would not Stop.

*This is why some "very sincere guys" that know these facts avoid SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS (Or as they say, Avoid Commitments) so as not to hurt ladies.

*This is why most single guys go for RUNS GIRLS, as against lying to ladies about their true feelings and plans for them.

One may ask: How Then Can A Lady Know If Her Guy Is Serious or Not.

ANSWER:- You may never know unless it becomes obvious to you. Some guys don't like going for RUNS GIRLS...*And still, they re always in need of sex partners...*And still, they tend to feel lonely without an EXCLUSIVE girlfriend. THESE TYPE OF GUYS WOULD SPEND, SACRIFICE, PRETEND AND LIE PERFECTLY TO HAVE A WOMAN OF THEIR CHOICE.

Some ladies know this, hence, they have imbibed the tactic of DENYING THEIR MAN, SEX TILL MARRIAGE as a way to protect themselves from these kinda guys. The disadvantage of this policy however, is that the THE GENUINE GUYS THAT WOULD REALLY WANT TO MARRY YOU WOULD STILL WANT SEX.and a 'No' from you to them would suggest to them that there may be something about your sexlife that you re hiding... Hence, you risk losing them.

In the end,Loneliness would take over the scene. If you re a lady and you have a guy working things with you seriously towards walking down the aisle,Then Lucky Are You. The same applies to the guys too. Relationships are just too complex.It is a necessary dilemma that we must all pass through..........

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by naijaboiy: 12:16am On Sep 29, 2014
errrm...actually looking for a comment to make

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Nobody: 12:21am On Sep 29, 2014
So true nice facts infact does ladies that use the no sex till marriage line usually stay single and die single

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by BreezyRita(f): 1:13am On Sep 29, 2014
naijaboiy: errrm...actually looking for a comment to make
Or just booking space??

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Confussion2: 1:30am On Sep 29, 2014
I think u make sense small. grin grin
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by nefertiitii: 2:17am On Sep 29, 2014
Uhmmmmm
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by adonbilivit: 5:30am On Sep 29, 2014
not far from the truth but...
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Nobody: 6:53am On Sep 29, 2014
BreezyRita: About 90% of single ladies would wish that the relationship they get into is SERIOUS.
While. about 90% of guys are not yet ready for marriage, hence wouldn't entertain the thought of engaging in SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS. .......

.For a man to get ready for marriage, he must be convinced within himself (Without external influence) that IT IS TIME TO SETTLE DOWN. By then,
* He must have had a steady income
* He must have had a good arrangement for his own apartment. To Mention A Few.
Now, since most young men are not ready for marriage (For diverse reasons), this still does not stop them from going into relationships. Now, with the mind-set of NOT BEING READY FOR MARRIAGE, these guys can only 'sincerely' sustain AN ORDINARY RELATIoNSHIP. But most ladies see ORDINARY RELATIONSHIP as a waste of their time. Infact,If a lady discovers that her relationship is ORDINARY and leading to no-where,She would most likely quit. Unless, she decides to stay put
*for the MONEY.*for the mind-blowing INTIMACY.
*for the guy's beauty or prestige
*to cover for her loneliness.
*to solve miscellaneous needs. EtcMost ladies that become overly materialistic in their relationships do so on realizing that the relationship was actually leading to no-where. Hence, they decide to suck the guy dry. A deed that a lady that is convinced of her VERY SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP would rarely do. It is because of these above facts that SOME guys pretend to have plans for their girlfriends, when truly in their heart of hearts, they are actually on AN ORDINARY RELATIONSHIP with their girls.
*This is why heartbreaks would not Stop.
*This is why some "very sincere guys" that know these facts avoid SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS (Or as they say, Avoid Commitments) so as not to hurt ladies.
*This is why most single guys go for RUNS GIRLS, as against lying to ladies about their true feelings and plans for them.
One may ask: How Then Can A Lady Know If Her Guy Is Serious or Not. ANSWER:- You may never know unless it becomes obvious to you. Some guys don't like going for RUNS GIRLS...*And still, they re always in need of sex partners...*And still, they tend to feel lonely without an EXCLUSIVE girlfriend. THESE TYPE OF GUYS WOULD SPEND, SACRIFICE, PRETEND AND LIE PERFECTLY TO HAVE A WOMAN OF THEIR CHOICE. Some ladies know this, hence, they have imbibed the tactic of DENYING THEIR MAN, SEX TILL MARRIAGE as a way to protect themselves from these kinda guys. The disadvantage of this policy however, is that the THE GENUINE GUYS THAT WOULD REALLY WANT TO MARRY YOU WOULD STILL WANT SEX.and a 'No' from you to them would suggest to them that there may be something about your sexlife that you re hiding... Hence, you risk losing them. In the end,Loneliness would take over the scene. If you re a lady and you have a guy working things with you seriously towards walking down the aisle,Then Lucky Are You. The same applies to the guys too. Relationships are just too complex.It is a necessary dilemma that we must all pass through..........

As jumbled as your writing seems to me, there's still excellent sense in it. In fact, you summed up the complete dynamics of Nigerian relationships in those words above. That's a very good job!

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by chimerase2: 6:57am On Sep 29, 2014
Nothing dey to comment undecided
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by naijaboiy: 7:15am On Sep 29, 2014
BreezyRita:
Or just booking space??
You've said everything...
Both the problem and the solution cheesy

So all I can say is good job cool

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by valmunich(m): 7:22am On Sep 29, 2014
This is good, sometimes I even get afraid of this marriage thingy, it's just like a life sentence
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Nobody: 1:43am On Oct 02, 2014
Relationship is very complicated especially when you have a gf that is desperate to make u believe that she's tough.

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Jarchi(m): 4:44am On Oct 02, 2014
naijaboiy: errrm...actually looking for a comment to make
So many wђes and wizard on nl,check the time while he spoke my mind
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by kingzjay(m): 4:51am On Oct 02, 2014
Ok
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Nobody: 4:52am On Oct 02, 2014
this is so far the best thread i have seen on romance section...op brain they work

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by InwehAkpevwe(m): 4:53am On Oct 02, 2014
True! I tink the prerequisite 4 relatnship is marturity on both parties...
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Nobody: 4:53am On Oct 02, 2014
Aint easy
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by odepacy: 4:53am On Oct 02, 2014
Wise talk grin
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by LordMecuzy(m): 4:55am On Oct 02, 2014
Nawa
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by CharlieMaria(m): 4:56am On Oct 02, 2014
Ol
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by born2boink(m): 4:56am On Oct 02, 2014
Mchew
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by peculiar3(m): 4:57am On Oct 02, 2014
...this post wldnt change anythinggrin, life goes on, hearts get broken and mended (patched), marriage happens so also does divorce cheesy̶̲̥̅̊, the idea is to enjoy the moment coz natin is constant...

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by fitzmayowa: 4:57am On Oct 02, 2014
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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by klem93(m): 4:57am On Oct 02, 2014
uhm... I beg you, if na you dey do my future partner take it easy with her ooo, even if she says harder dont mind her na "omode" dey do her #please

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Dizkova(m): 4:59am On Oct 02, 2014
The complexity or simplicity of a relationship is also rooted in the level of understanding between the parties.

Discover your formula

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Sunnycliff(m): 4:59am On Oct 02, 2014
So much relationship information!! Yet we still de follow our mind

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by artade: 5:01am On Oct 02, 2014
Relationships are indeed complex.
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Nobody: 5:03am On Oct 02, 2014
One of The signs A Lady is Heart Broken is that She becomes a "Relationship Expert"... May I mildly ask...
Op, Is that your situation

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by Dykecosby: 5:04am On Oct 02, 2014
Very true, But life is not fair!
#Teamnoheartbreaks
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by omozuat(m): 5:05am On Oct 02, 2014
Relatnship isuue is getiin too much here..
Re: Complexities Of Relationships by legendsilver(m): 5:05am On Oct 02, 2014
As for me o! I detest the "no marriage no sex rule"
The girl can take her virginity to PLUTO for all I care, nonsense.

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Re: Complexities Of Relationships by youngds: 5:13am On Oct 02, 2014
clueless

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