Slimmos:
serious i do think u are.. cuz d way u dont lyk any thread dat has to do witj God

Depends on the thread. For now...all I would say is that if it tends towards man worship....it gets my dislike!

Truly I am not an atheist. The world shows too much order for me to think it came by chance.

I think the best way to prove that ur assertion is right is to wait till the baby is born and DNA test carried out on d baby dude, so until then u gotta take it cool man..

Are you sure you are not writing my story?this is surprising.

iseleiyanu:



D pregnancy is jst new and d sex with her ex is new, She jst came to my place ystdy and wen I ask her to swear dats wen she start confessing . y will I cook story?

my man it dosen't work tha way, why didn't you quit earlier when you said u where aware that she sleeps with her ex,then you would have proven your innocence and honesty.,and this girl is saying you are responsible,my man you enter into this girl frequently and once you enter into the body of a woman,you are no more innocent..who do you want to dump that girl for? If it is your own sister how would you feel? Man fasten up things and marry that girl, that's how a woman is, once you start enjoying her body be ready for the consequences..i tell you again if you dump that girl,you will suffer it thoroughly for many years..try it and see..

If you have your doubts, wait until after her delivery....don't let her cajole you to marry her

btw, you said her mum has always been good to you in "KIND"
pls can you illuminate me on that ..... or have you been sleeping with her mom too?

Answer these three questions first.

1. Do you have sex with her?

2. Is her mother fully aware of the nature of your relationship?

3. Who did your fiancee say is responsible for the pregnancy? 4 are u sure since u ave been dating her for 2years nw u avent seeany bad behaviour toward u 5 are u sure she doesnt ave another boyfriend exept frm you

iseleiyanu:
I need your advice, I have been going out with a girl for over 3yrs, d 2families knew each other well. my Mom do visit a parents. But she is pregnant now bt obviously not for me because she have been seeing her ex boyfriend regular because they stay in d same town.
within me I'm no more interested and I don't know how to tell her mom because she had been so nice to me both in kind and generosity. Right now I'm so confused, she has always be cheating on me, in which she will confess . But now I'm so fed up.
pls I need ur advice how do I take d mater up

my guy if no u did not have sex with her,u better quit her and forget about generosity before she will kill u one day moreover she didn't luv u for first place so be wise?

bushdoc9919:


Then it is most likely you are....better man up and take responsibility.

Or tell her parents....get a meeting on....to confront her to tell the truth.

p.s-do you have any evidence she has been seeing her ex? Just because they live in the same town does not mean that they are still seeing each other.

it nt just about d ex........men in general ....wen we dont love or like our g anymore.we end up making silly excuses dat doesnt make sense at all just to send dem packing
and am 100% sure u are d one cheating
or am i lyin@op

iseleiyanu:


Yes I had sex with her.
yes her family and mine are aware of d relationship, Even we are planning introduction at Jan ending
She is claiming I'm responsible

bros wait until the child is born...then go for DNA test...it may b ur child thoughh

iseleiyanu:
I need your advice, I have been going out with a girl for over 3yrs, d 2families knew each other well. my Mom do visit a parents. But she is pregnant now bt obviously not for me because she have been seeing her ex boyfriend regular because they stay in d same town.
within me I'm no more interested and I don't know how to tell her mom because she had been so nice to me both in kind and generosity. Right now I'm so confused, she has always be cheating on me, in which she will confess . But now I'm so fed up.
pls I need ur advice how do I take d mater up

Nice guys finish last. May I ask you what you have been waiting for since 3yrs or were u still doubting the luv?

iseleiyanu:


Yes I had sex with her.
yes her family and mine are aware of d relationship, Even we are planning introduction at Jan ending
She is claiming I'm responsible

ogbeni you had sex with her and youre here talkin naisense you better go and do h.i.v sorry d.n.a test and know your stand mr impregnater and denial

iseleiyanu:


She confess she had sex with her ex when I ask her to swear if I'm responsible

...within the space of your relationship or before?

Young man, let truth be told, you're only disappointed in yourself that your sexual escapade with her before marriage is exposed.

Do not buck pass. Do not instill fear in the girl either, causing her to say what is not.

For short, CALM DOWN FOR 3 MONTHS...

Put all plans on hold and after giving birth do a paternity test to ascertain the father of the child since you're claiming it's not yours and she's saying otherwise. That being said I don't see a success in the marriage whatever the outcome of the test may be, there is already distrust in the relationship and I don't think anything good will come out of it. If the baby is yours take full responsibility and just move on, if the baby isn't yours, all the better, just count your losses and move on.

Even if you are responsible for the pregnancy, DON'T get married to her. EOD!!!

saintneo:
You had sex with her; consequently, the possibility of you being the father is not zero unless you are impotent - which I doubt of course.

A woman that cheats in a relationship will definitely cheat in marriage. You caught her cheating yet you are still there - you really sound like a püssy-dude - sorry for my choice of words.

Declare your reservations to the family, if the baby ends up being yours (dna proof) then claim the baby and pay child support but don't marry that girl. You will have an unhappy home if you do.

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My brother you nor fear for fear.

So OP dude, you have a serial cheat as a girl friend.

And you even sleep with such a girl raw. Are you so mugulicious? Or her mum's generosity tied you down. You didn't want to appear as an ingrate after carting away so much goodies over the years. I hope you have already claimed this festive season hampers

Maybe you're cheating too. Perhaps raw too.

OP, you have a real problem. Just hope you're not baby's dad, DNA things, in which case you're safe.

First of all, your gf doesn't respect you. Maybe she doesn't believe you love her. You're just with her for the goodies.

Reportedly, 50% of firstborn kids don't belong to supposed dad. Your case shows just how it happens. ONLY that most guys never know their adorable gf has other boyfriends. You're lucky to know.

Her mum/parents will either try to entice you if they are loaded or intimidate you.

Enticing can be offering to bankroll the wedding and give you a lump sum to begin life with. Like N5m. I know a "goody-loving" guy like you might accept.
Or they might threaten to deal with you severely if you "use" their daughter and dump. They won't believe your cheating story, not after she's now preggy.

So remain calm and just ask for DNA test.

NOTE: DNA result can be "influenced". Don't sit at home and expect your gf to go do it and bring. So ensure it's a reputable lab and be actively involved.

Bonne Chance!

walahi you are bokoharam
HIV?
The Girl go Enter Coma straigth!!!!

But seriously your advise though harsh, is a sure Fire!!!
It can expose the truth!!!!

krall:
Don't worry tell her you have HIV and see wghat will happen.

IdiAmin1:
BRos, I understand your situation. I will tell you a bitter truth, just draw close. Firstly, your intended marriage, if you go ahead with it, will be to please both parents and not the "marriager and the marriagee" lol. On a serious note, be a man and decide on what you want. A girl that cheats on you to this level isn't your wife. Such marriage will definitely hit the rock and your parents will someday be tired of settling your differences. Now listen bro, a man doesn't need permission from anyone before he takes a critical decision such as this. Go out there and search for your God-reserved wife. After the food and dance on a wedding reception, only the couple taste the bitter taste of marriage and neither the parents nor the drunk guests. However, my submission is subject to review until I hear you are not the "impregnanter" of the belle

U are so right frnd but... On d other hand, the OP should accept paternity @least til d child is born n den go for a dna test. Its 50:50. The baby might b his u know

Of course you can only if the fetus developing wasn't fertalized by you but if you did and want to dump ?may Allah dump you too

I just don't know the kind if men we have these days ..a woman you want to marry is seeing somebody and got her pregnant and your here asking me weather to leave her or not


Possible just go do the needful

Send her away if the pregnancy is not yours

iseleiyanu:
I need your advice, I have been going out with a girl for over 3yrs, d 2families knew each other well. my Mom do visit a parents. But she is pregnant now bt obviously not for me because she have been seeing her ex boyfriend regular because they stay in d same town.
within me I'm no more interested and I don't know how to tell her mom because she had been so nice to me both in kind and generosity. Right now I'm so confused, she has always be cheating on me, in which she will confess . But now I'm so fed up.
pls I need ur advice how do I take d mater up

postpone d marriage till d child is born then go for a dna test. Explain ur reasons to her mother and assure her that if d child is urs, u will go ahead wit d marriage. But u are simply amazing oh. U knew she has been cheating and u still call her ur fiancee. Is she that good in bed?

bushdoc9919:


Then it is most likely you are....better man up and take responsibility.

Or tell her parents....get a meeting on....to confront her to tell the truth.

p.s-do you have any evidence she has been seeing her ex? Just because they live in the same town does not mean that they are still seeing each other.

Oboy, me n my ex dey f*ck steady. Leav dat tin, d girl stil dey run tin wit her ex abeg

thorpido:
Get her to own up on who is responsible for the pregnancy.Also get her to inform her parents.
I hope you know you could be responsible for the pregnancy so don't make hasty decisions yet.

Exactly my thought. He could responsible for the pregnancy. Maybe the lady only had a "one nice time" wit her EX. You know ladies and their 1st love magnet.

I feel ur plight @op. But you really need to involve ur parents to be sure d pregnancy belongs to u or not. Any mistake now can ruin you.

All the best!

Happy New Year nairalanders.

Bros are u dumping her bcs she is cheating on u or u hv see another angel? How can a responsible guy be dating a cheat? Think before u act my brother. She might be better dan dat angel u are seeing out there. We should not run away frm our responsibities. There is reward for everything we do in dis life.

Samsonklin:

Oboy, me n my ex dey f*ck steady. Leav dat tin, d girl stil dey run tin wit her ex abeg

Eh...but in this case...there is a possibility that the child might be his own....especially as him and the babe dey still have their fun....irrespective of ex.

Ah know some people go consider me prude....but most of the time e beta one suppose wait until you don do the marriage rites....whether trado, church or court....before una dey carry babe go bed...because all this ''Na my pikin,no na him pikin''....I no get time or energy for that o!

iseleiyanu:


Yes I had sex with her.
yes her family and mine are aware of d relationship, Even we are planning introduction at Jan ending
She is claiming I'm responsible

Very simple! Put the introduction on hold till she gives birth. Then conduct a paternity test.

Many people will say a lot of things to dissuade you from doing this but please, put down your feet. They'll say things like what if the child is yours, how would the relationship continue? Won't it result in bitterness?

Bros, those are all sentiments! You're the man around here and although you have your own faults, do what you have to!

iseleiyanu:


Yes I had sex with her.
yes her family and mine are aware of d relationship, Even we are planning introduction at Jan ending
She is claiming I'm responsible

gbege. d claiming 'am responsible' part is serios o. well since u sed u had sex wit ha. d pregnancy might b or may not b urs. well may God help u. buh. let me ask. when last dd u ppl hav sex? pls do answer cos i wana give u an advice dat may help to ascertain if u truly responsible

neoapocalypse:
Put all plans on hold and after given birth do a paternity test to ascertain the father of the child since you're claiming it's not yours and she's saying otherwise. That being said I don't see a success in the marriage whatever the outcome of the test may be, there is already distrust in the relationship and I don't think anything good will come out of it. If the baby is yours take full responsibility and just move on, if the baby isn't yours, all the better, just count your losses and move on.

Paternity test can only be done after the baby clocks 3yrs. That's a real long time. This same issue happened to TerryG and afta fathering the girl for 3 yrs, test showed that he was not the real father.

@OP, you already decided to marry dis lady since u fixed ur intro for January, but becos u found sum discrepancy on d side of ur lady, to which she confessed, u immediately changed ur mind. Take time to really think about this. "Did u really love her or you lost it before dis pregnancy issue?

The girl was having se.x with her ex. Why didnt she go back to her ex fully. Ladies and fish brains

The matter is simple: did u sleep with her recently or are u responsible? If yes, just take responsibility. If no,let eleeru gbee erueehh..that is let the owner take responsibility. When was the last time u slept with her? When u know that she sleeps around,why didn't you quit @ that point?
How will u refer to such a lady as your fiancee,somebody that sleep around?
Do not go and father someone's child oo
Leave that matter of the two families closeness,mum and family members..

I want to tell u that someone that is cheating while dating,will continue the cheating in marriage.

To resolve this issue,time factor is very critical,take for instance,I am dating a lady and I have not had any intimate relationship with her in the last 3months and she came crying that she is one month pregnant,it means that she is only informing me to wish her way well in her future marriage. She is on her own oo

If that doesn't help,just do DNA and let the truth be revealed.
I want to state here that even twins say boy and boy mostly unidentical sometimes are from different fathers.Yes twins,you heard me well,if you argue,just check this out on goggle. Many fathers either knowingly or unknowingly to them have fathered someone's else child. It is a bitter truth.
It is often said that it is only the mother that know the true father of the child. Guy becareful and thread with caution. All the best.

What evidence do have to show that she is truly cheating on you.

iwriterng:
Fiancee means somebody you're engaged to. It means you're about to get married.

How on earth would you marry somebody that is cheating on you and not carrying your baby? You better start thinking with your brain and not your sexual organ.

i wonder o... E be like say dem swear 4 d guy. How u go marry some1 wey don get belle 4 anoda man, abi u are not sure wether na u or no be u get am. Op, think about yourself, your future 1st, 4get sentiments.

IdiAmin1:
BRos, I understand your situation. I will tell you a bitter truth, just draw close. Firstly, your intended marriage, if you go ahead with it, will be to please both parents and not the "marriager and the marriagee" lol. On a serious note, be a man and decide on what you want. A girl that cheats on you to this level isn't your wife. Such marriage will definitely hit the rock and your parents will someday be tired of settling your differences. Now listen bro, a man doesn't need permission from anyone before he takes a critical decision such as this. Go out there and search for your God-reserved wife. After the food and dance on a wedding reception, only the couple taste the bitter taste of marriage and neither the parents nor the drunk guests. However, my submission is subject to review until I hear you are not the "impregnanter" of the belle

Chisox! you wan kill person wit lafter here!