tpiah11:


God forbid bad thing.

I generally dont even contribute to this type of thread because i know miscreants and sociopaths will be the majority here.

but sometimes you have to do such or else craze will be accepted as normal.

aisha2:


Again I was not talking to you. Thank you for pointing out my " gross stupidity "

aisha2:


" you have nothing to live for then you have everything to die for" That was the opening please explain

Redoil:
Women with their bad mouth causing problems and confusion in the life of men since the days of adam and eve.

tpiah11:



you are really saying nothing (or else typing without sense, because every single thing you claimed here, is commonly applicable to all immigrants, regardless of field of work.


would you turn up your nose at $80,000?


are you from a rich family? If yes, why are you hustling overseas?

which job is not depressing at some point? It all depends on the type of interaction or work dynamics which goes there.

as per your last point, overseas is credit based economy, unlike nigeria which is cash based economy ie cash and carry, which has its pros but also leads to higher rates of insecurity, armed robbery, corruption, fraud, and other social ills.

Surely you are aware of all these? But in your rush to exonerate murderers, you just had to type your two cents?

anyway, lord have mercy.

Nonso23:

We aren't designed to be innately lazy

coogar:


i'll look it up, bro.....
i have run out of TV series to watch. any known actor there? adewale agbaje? john boyega?

abbey621:


I have to disagree with you, is it not in Nigeria where we see several cases of Women hiring assassins to kill their husband, is it not the same Nigeria where women patronize witchcraft just to control their husband or preserve their marriage? The cases pointed out by the OP is far and few, it represents a minority when we look at the number of married Nigerian couples living abroad. Individual personality matters a lot in these cases, a combination of a weak/violent man mixed with a stress filled situation.

Nonso23:

We aren't designed to be innately lazy

ladygogo:



Yes na. These women will continue to show them pepper.There is a cab driver here that left his dutiful Jamaican wife(which was suprising to me because you know how jamo women are) to go marry some runs girl in Naija. While studying Nursing she was planning how she was going to leave her husband with her friend, not knowing the said friend was screwing her husband. Of course, the friend told her husband about her plans, and her husband hooked her down with pregnancy. She now has three kids, devastated, screws younger men, and are now going through a divorce.

Like I always tell my Sister, it serves both parties right.

carefreewannabe:


I never said, I did it for him and I never said I should be compensated for giving him a child.

I should be compensated for giving up on my career since somebody has to. And since he is not ready to make this sacrifice, he has to make another one. Fair enough.
He hasn't given up on anything and therefore the divorce does not affect him. I have given up on my career and will have to start all over, possibly not having the chance to catch up again.

andromida:


But why did the men marry such women? and if the women are so evil why not divorce them?

Seeing as a woman can break a man he should do his due diligence to marry a woman who is good for him and become the kind of man who can command respect from his wife so that the children can learn how to respect themselves and others.

manny4life:


You miss the whole point of his post, he is not exonerating murders but simply stating why most women are the cause of their own demise. Just because you make 80k as a nurse (which isn't really accurate) doesn't mean you should disrespect your husband. That man hustled his way, filed papers for you that cost thousands, did a whole lot for you, the least you can do is respect him even if he drives taxi and you're Mrs. Alakija

soulglo:



YAWN. You have actually said nothing

pickabeau1:



OK

Why should you be compensated for giving up your career for your own child......

Why count the cost for yourself if u indeed see d kid as an extension of yourself

If you take a career break now to surf in aspen
Will you demand someone take d tab for all the sacrifices u made while not working...






Except u see it as his..

aisha2:


Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

Nonso23:


I am very disjointed as usual.

mutter:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man, perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years! Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are = 0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations. That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family, neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the dollars.

mutter:


The men married them because when before they got out they acted all humble or probably even where, but then their eyes opened.
I see some when they come newly "sir, daddy" and after a few months, "useless man".

How does a man become the kind of man that commands respect? Every human being commands respect. In accordance with our tradition every man commands respect from every woman and men have a different status in society. Did the woman not take a vow to submit to him or better for worse?
When you do the wine carrying why do you go down on your knees? Is that just a show, a body movement. It is a promise to the man made before your family and his that you would submit to the man and go down for him. The man does not have to command his respect it is your duty as his wife.

Divorcing them would mean loosing everything, even custody of the kid`s. That is how it functions. The man would loose everything he built up. He not only looses it but looses it to someone he built up who turned around to destroy him.

coogar:


that doesn't mean i cannot point out your gross stüpidity. if you want to talk to yourself, there are various sanatoriums in your city.

mutter:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man, perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years! Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are = 0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations. That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family, neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the dollars.

aisha2:


Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

coogar:


she's still the same - we still talk regularly and as soon as i can afford the list her parents sent to me, i am heading off to ituku to complete the marriage rites.

chidinma's perseverance wows me. any women that can stay steadfastly by me all these years in the midst of back-breaking temptations deserve my engagement ring. i don't want chidinma to join witchcraft cos i dumped her.



i will surprise you.
i am sending you a personal invite for the trado-wedding. some of us are too honest to ditch our childhood girlfriends.

anyanwustanley11:
someone advice help a guy depressed tirés oh

tpiah11:


he made a lot of assumptions which he was trying to present as fact.

It is not nigerian culture (although i cant speak for all cultures) to murder wives in the manner you people are discussing. These wives are people's children too, if your own wife or girlfriend did not murder you for your many shortcomings, then it is not acceptable for you to justify cold blooded murder.

Unless you are one of the many who engage in these things back in nigeria, most under the excuse of rituals.

carefreewannabe:


Because it is OUR, not mine, not his, OUR child / children. We share the happiness and we divide the work and sacrifice.